@treetop19 with a rowdy rambunctious 2 yo DS myself I am seething for you. I’m pretty sure we get judged a lot and sometimes he’s being over the top but a lot of times it’s just he has A LOT of energy and we’ve had to take him to a place not good for that bc other people don’t consider what it’s like for a toddler and don’t care about his naps/bedtime. It doesn’t help that my guy is big and could easily pass for 3 possibly 4 so I think people assume he’s misbehaving when he’s actually just acting age appropriate. I’ve learned that every kid is different and just because one kids sits still and quietly eats dinner at a restaurant does not mean that the parent of a kid who is throwing his food and crying bc his Mac n cheese is white not yellow is doing a bad job!
Me: 33 | DH: 34 Married: October, 19, 2015 EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17 EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20 EDD 11/24/23 (Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@treetop19 judgey lady deserves to fall into a pile of leggos. My MIL is famous for telling DS that he "needs to learn to just chill"...... he's 16 mo. Eff you lady.
@treetop19 Oh wow, I would have been offended. I really don't like it when people speak about others parenting. Makes me rage!
@varimama Your mom's reaction reminds me A LOT of my mom's reaction, too. She cried when she found out and immediately went and told her sisters about what was going on and how she was so hurt that I'd go and get pregnant at this time. So rude. She's way on board now, but it was brutal at the beginning. Took so much fun out of it for me.
@wolfcub2020 I'm sorry about your dad's attitude... I hope he comes around and is NICE.
@EmilyLove25 Ooh I am looking for a pregnancy journal so I'll check that one out!
@treetop19 welp that mom is in for a fun awakening when her daughter is a teenager. Boys are often rambunctious as toddlers, but are then easy teenagers. Perfectly behaved toddler girls often become just awful as teenagers. (I am a prime example of this. Sorry mom.) So good luck, mean mom! Buckle up for the teenage years. Karma is coming.
@treetop19 what a jerk!! Momshaming is the worst.
@varimama and @Malidocious and @stassischroeder and @wolfcub2020 I’m sorry. Parents are tough! When I was KU with DD, H told MIL I wasn’t feeling well and she said “she’s not pregnant, is she?!” Then later on after we told her she kept asking him if MY parents were excited for the baby. H said “yes, of course, aren’t you?” And she said “not really.”
She adores my daughter now, but that still kind of hurts.
@treetop19 I have a 9 yo DD and a 2 yo DS and he is a TOTALLY different child. I was just like that mom before having him because I thought it was normal to have a sweet mild tempered toddler who never got wild. So obviously those other kids were patented differently. LOL. Jokes on me! DS is an insane person. So just saying she probably meant no harm by her comments (as annoying as they are), just because she truly may never have been through that. Not that it’s ever ok to give someone parenting advice.
I went to take out the trash in our garage bc it smelled to high heaven (it’s where I put DH’s chicken/meat containers) and there were maggots in there! I almost puked. So disgusting. I don’t even eat meat. I don’t know why my husband has no sense of smell. He was like, “just tell me to take out the garbage. I don’t smell it, so you have to tell me.” The whole garage stank. How can you not smell it? Ugh. So freaking disgusting. I took it out, killed as many maggots as possible, and then febreezed the cr4p out of the trash can. Already nothing is appetizing ever but I don’t know when I will ever be able to think of food again.
So, one of my wonderful 🙄 coworkers was complaining today that she was nauseous and had a headache and started “joking” around that she was pregnant. When people started thinking she was telling the truth she preceded to say ugh I would hate to be pregnant now. Who wants to have a March or April baby that’s terrible. I almost through my stapler at her face. I’m not telling anyone at work for as long as possible lol
If only she knew all the awesome babies coming March 2020. 🥰
@silverhope She’s an idiot. According to her children can’t enjoy their birthdays because of the weather and that ideally people should aim to have their babies May thru September because there is so much more to enjoy during those months. 🙄
@stacey6689 I hate your co-worker. Most people don't get to aim/choose when their babies will be born. Spring is definitely not the worst time, in my mind. But for anyone who's trying to get pregnant, any time would probably be just fine.
@MrsVP614 this, exactly! Sure, some people are able to get pregnant exactly when they “plan” to, but so many of us know it’s not always that straightforward, and the babies come on their own timing!
Thanks everyone for the solidarity about my situation.. I feel much better now that I did yesterday about the whole thing.
@miss.sally, I completely agree. My DD and DS are completely different children, too. I do think that's where she was coming from, since she only has a mild-mannered DD, she doesn't get what it's like to raise a child who isn't so mild-mannered.
@stacey6689, your coworker sounds like an idiot. first of all, who jokes about being pregnant? in my experience, only an attention hungry person would do that. (boy is she going to be jealous when you announce, and start getting some of that attention.) on some level, maybe she suspects you are pregnant and is trying to down your spring baby in advance? and second of all, how would she know that having a march or april baby would be terrible? (not all kids love having summer birthdays.. I have a June birthday, and honestly, I was sad that I never got to celebrate during the school year like other kids.) having a baby at any time is a blessing (and often we can't plan around our 'ideal' time frame anyway, like people mentioned). Personally, the timing of my September baby was hardest on me. being at your biggest during the hottest time of the year (June, July, and August) is absolutely miserable... hello, swollen ankles. I'd much rather have a March baby.
@stacey6689 - I'll be honest, I am a bit nervous of going through the winter pregnant because I am clumsy/scared of falling, and also worried about driving in the ice/snow. It also has crossed my mind about having outdoor/indoor birthdays - but that's part of living in the NE. However, to say that it's a terrible time is just rude and obnoxious. Agreeing with @treetop19 - who jokes about being pregnant??
@lusineg I’m with you on being nervous for harsh winter pregnancy. I’m also clumsy as can be and we live in Pennsylvania where we get cold and frozen winters also! Driving will probably be a nope.
@MrsVP614 “Exploding like the shooting star Ronnie wished on...” wtf this story is so poorly written! And also absurd.
@stacey6689 she’s a jerk! March bdays are going to be cool. Spring break!
@MrsVP614@miss.sally@keeksie84 She gave all her energy to the first two names 😂.
Are any of you Hamilton fans? The last baby name is very “and Peggy” to me lol.
lol at "and peggy" @lemonlove86-- big Hamilton fan here!
This part, wowza Ronnie: "'One time I saw a shooting star and I wished for a baby brother, and I wished for like two sisters for my little sister because she always wanted a little sister, I knew this day was always going to come,' said Ronnie Giltz, the couple's son."
My parents watch our kids both Tuesday/Thursday, and my almost 4 year old daughter Wednesday as well (she goes to preschool here, so I need them to, since I work an hour away). Anyway, for the first time in forever they took a big vacation. They left Friday and get back a week from Monday. As an aside, DH travels for work Monday-Thursday most weeks. So DH was talking to his Mom about it--mostly about how I was trying to figure out what to do with DD on Wednesday. Honestly, I wasn't that stressed. Yes, I need to be at work that day, but my boss is my very close friend and also just a really understanding person. And I had a few friends I was thinking to ask... ANYWAY, MIL unexpectedly said she'd come to help. She's flying from Denver (we live in Ohio) and arrives tomorrow and is staying here until NEXT Saturday... I'm seriously so grateful and the pros outweigh the cons here. The kids love being around her, and I never get to see her... but guys, I am not sure she can handle both my kids at once alone... and I work an HOUR away. So if something happens, she's sort of stranded. I'm going to give her some neighbors' numbers and the police etc... but kind of worried it's going to cause me more stress than help M-Wednesday (I'm off Thursday). Tuesday is the only day she has them both.
Sorry that was so long. I could have kept it short: "MIL coming to watch the kids, 80% chance it'll be a nightmare"
@MrsVP614 that story is insane. How do you not know you are pregnant with triplets???!???!! You must gain like 60 lbs at least. And the kicks? I’m so confused.
@EmilyLove25 I hope everything goes smoothly! I always worry about everything ahead of time and usually things are never as bad as I think they will be. Good to be prepared with phone numbers for backup help though!
Re: Weekly Randoms w/o 8.12
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
EDD 3/8/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
@varimama Your mom's reaction reminds me A LOT of my mom's reaction, too. She cried when she found out and immediately went and told her sisters about what was going on and how she was so hurt that I'd go and get pregnant at this time. So rude. She's way on board now, but it was brutal at the beginning. Took so much fun out of it for me.
@wolfcub2020 I'm sorry about your dad's attitude... I hope he comes around and is NICE.
@EmilyLove25 Ooh I am looking for a pregnancy journal so I'll check that one out!
@stassischroeder Ugh, should-ers are annoying!!
@varimama and @Malidocious I’m so sorry about your mothers’ reactions. How hurtful.
*Edited for spelling
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
She adores my daughter now, but that still kind of hurts.
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
If only she knew all the awesome babies coming March 2020. 🥰
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
EDD: 3/19/20
https://www.wkyt.com/content/news/S-Dakota-woman-thought-she-had-kidney-stones-gave-birth-to-triplets-547426641.html
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
This part, wowza Ronnie: "'One time I saw a shooting star and I wished for a baby brother, and I wished for like two sisters for my little sister because she always wanted a little sister, I knew this day was always going to come,' said Ronnie Giltz, the couple's son."
Sorry that was so long. I could have kept it short: "MIL coming to watch the kids, 80% chance it'll be a nightmare"
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
@EmilyLove25 I hope everything goes smoothly! I always worry about everything ahead of time and usually things are never as bad as I think they will be. Good to be prepared with phone numbers for backup help though!
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20