@merle89 Those are so cute! With my first we were at a big family birthday dinner for my grandma and we gave her a mug that said “Only the best grandmas get promoted to Great Grandma” and she was just like oh that’s nice you think I’m a great grandma. It was funny to see how long it took someone at the table to figure it out.
Hi ladies, I have a question. My partner and I want to announce my pregnancy to his parents but his brother and girlfriend's baby just arrived 10 days ago. We have told my family but are waiting to tell his family just yet because we don't want to take the spot light from his brother and their new arrival. What amount of time, if any at all, is appropriate to wait to share our news with his side of the family in this situation? We want to share our news so badly but we also want to be sensitive to his brother and girlfriend.
@lulu780 I don’t know what your family dynamic is like, but in our families it would be totally fine to share. Maybe tell it by including the baby, like “We’re so excited to announce that Baby ABC is getting a Cousin March 2020!” or wear a shirt that says Cousin #X” on your belly.
@lulu780 I think you’re probably good to announce. It would be one thing if you did it like on the day of their baby’s birth, but two weeks later I don’t think you’ll be seen as taking attention away. I bet everyone will be thrilled for another baby!
The only people that know right now are my husband and my best friend. Im 5.5 weeks. My parents come to visit (from out of state) in a few weeks, I will tell them at that time. Ill be 10 weeks. I will more than likely tell my coach in a few weeks... just so he is aware. But, no one else will know including our siblings and his parents until 16 weeks and more than likely that will not be via social media.
@kantobean Thanks! That actually happened to me with my first. Maybe that's why I'm being overly cautious about it. I literally just finished getting stiched up when my then sister-in-law decided to announce her pregnancy in my delivery room lol... I can laugh about it now but I was so mad at the time.
@lulu780 - That's really considerate of you! Eeeek....awkward with your SIL. I ordered a "cousin crew" shirt from Carter's for my niece (2), it was $5 and will be our announcement to them.
Any teachers have a fun way to announce in the lounge? I want to do something clever with food (always!!) but I work at 3 schools so I don’t want it to break the bank!
@lulu780 haha, my BIL and SIL got married the day DD was born. It was totally avoidable since it was a shotgun wedding (their son was born a month later) and the only people there were my ILs, the bride’s parents, and the judge, and he proposed 6 months earlier. They literally could have gone any day but chose the week of my due date. Lol. It didn’t really bother me at the time, my ILs still came to the hospital after DD was born, but it annoyed me a year later at DD’s birthday when MIL was like “and today is BIL/SIL’s anniversary!!” Mmkay.
ETA: they’re divorced now, which is sad but best for both of them.
@lulu780 I think 2 weeks is a totally respectful amount of time to wait!
@rs0806 I'm a HUGE fan of punny teachers' lounge treats!! I wish I could think of other options, but only "bun in the oven" comes to mind (great minds think alike @silverhope). I'll circle back if I think of anything else.
We've been slowly telling people one at a time. For some reason, I'm not nearly as eager to do a big announcement as I was with our first. I'm considering waiting until Halloween and posting a picture of myself in my Ali Wong costume (I am so so so excited about this), but I don't know if I'll actually go through with that for the "official" announcement.
@rs0806 Bun in the oven is cute! I did something similar with my coworkers the first time around, and bought a bunch of donuts with a sign that said, "Eat Up, so mom isn't the only one with a belly!" But some of the men are dumb and didn't get it.
@keeksie84 Since this is our third, I'm not sure that we'll do any kind of formal announcement either. Once we have our first scan, if all looks OK, I think we'll just tell people individually as the opportunity arises. My mom has already accidentally told her mom lol.
I think I've decided that we will do something after NT scan/NIPT come back clear (fx!) verbally to friends and family - our parents still don't know and won't know until then. I was thinking about waiting until the anatomy scan for social media, because that is right at halloween for me & I'd feel much more comfortable **tw** bc of our loss.
This is our first so I’m really excited to tell people but also really cautious and nervous. I’m 6w+5d now and DH and I have yet to tell anyone.
We’re planning to tell my brother & SIL on Monday (will be 7w by then) and then DH’s parents and our closest friends after our first u/s (8 and a half weeks). Then the rest of our friends and fam after 12w.
I’m torn about telling my own parents because they are the WORST at keeping things secret/private. When my nephew was born, they posted his photo and baby announcement on Facebook before my brother and SIL were even out of the recovery room. Will probably wait until 12w to tell them but it seems unfair to DH to have his parents know a month before.
I don’t know yet how I feel about posting a big social media announcement but might post a full body pic on our anniv (Oct 6) and let people figure it out for themselves haha
I thought we were going to end up telling the ILs and my SIL and nieces over the the phone, but turns out we will all be together at the end of the month so we’ll get to tell them in person! Any fun ideas to tell them all? My ILs are already grandparents twice over with our nieces so don’t want to do any “you’re going to be grandparents” stuff. TIA!
After a positive first doctor's visit last week, we're so excited to finally start telling family and then close friends about our secret! I wanted to be able to tell my dad and step-mom first, since it will be the first grandchild on their side, and wanted to do so in person. We are going to visit them this weekend (they live about 2 1/2 hours from us) to celebrate my dad's birthday and I got this adorable card on Etsy, which I will give him with a copy of the sonogram the second we walk in the door! My mom passed away and I'm an only child, so I know that this will be a really special and emotional moment for him. We are planning to tell my husband's parents, who live more locally, next weekend on their wedding anniversary, also with a card and sonogram. After that we will slowly start to tell other family and close friends, waiting until after Labor Day, which lines up with the start of my 2nd tri, until it's out in the open (and probably won't do social media until post 20 weeks, if at all). Sorry the pics are so huge btw!
We told our boys last night and they are SO EXCITED. It was really sweet and cute and hilarious, watching them try to guess what the sonogram picture was. Lol. It’s all on video so I’m sure we will share that with family eventually. I’m mostly just glad to be able to explain to them why I’ve been a deadbeat mom lately. 😂
I'm at a loss for how to tell my family this time. Last time I did it when I was about 9 weeks because it happened to be when we visited them in CO for about a week. Just gave them the card and bottle of wine - I put our custom wine label over the existing. It was so funny because my dad did NOT get it until he opened the card. Like he thought he had to wait until April 2018 to drink the wine or something, and then when he opened the card he thought it was a joke
So, I've already told my sister because we are very close and I was the first person she told when she was expecting her babies. She was super excited! Pinterest board and all has been started for everything baby. I don't think we are going to post on social till way later if at all but I do want to let my immediate family and close friends know so we were thinking of taking some photos during our cruise in September and sharing them with our parents and close friends. I found this really cute shirt on etsy that I am going to wear to pretty much announce it! (Picture in Spoiler)
How are people planning on announcing at work? I work with about 12 people (more if you include our other location). It's a family business, and I am part of the family so about half the people know already because of that. Any easy, fun ways to tell the rest? My husband is the CEO, even people I don't work directly with likely work with DH.
@wabash15 but that would require me to bring up said noisy sex. Which means my brains would liquefy and pour out of my ears, and this would all be for naught
Although I wouldn't put it past my weird step-mom to bring it up.
We used this during a quick family photo shoot. We will, however, probably wait to post any announcement pics until the middle of September since that's when we'll tell my parents (we're taking a trip to visit them).
@jenEP I haven't told anyone at work yet and have no idea how I am going to break the news. There are about 12 of us in the department so I was thinking about doing something cute. My coworkers love sweets so I was thinking of bringing in something and writing a little message on the box.
@stassischroeder That announcement is so cute, but DS woke up at 5 (on the one random day I am taking off work), and I am wondering IF sleep really IS overrated? I'd pay $$$$ for 10 hours straight hahaha.
@stassischroeder Such a cute announcement! I need a letter board! Not necessarily for announcing the pregnancy, but just to have one in general. They're so cute and fun! I'm with @EmilyLove25, GIVE ME ALL THE SLEEPS.
@jenEP & @stacey6689 I wasn't really sure at first how I was going to tell my coworkers but since I ended up telling my boss a couple days ago (out of necessity), I might not do any sort of special thing to let the rest of the people know. I work for a Budget & Management office for my city, and my department is my boss, me, and one other girl. There are other departments, too, of course, but none that I see on a daily basis (probably only 20ish of us total). I figure people will find out when I start showing. No one has a filter or any sort of manners around this place, so I'm pretty sure they'll feel comfortable just blurting out questions like, "HEY ARE YOU PREGNANT?" even though that's typically frowned upon behavior.
For my announcement, I'm going to cross stitch a portrait of me, my boyfriend, and our fur-babies. I am a huge cross-stitch enthusiast and spend almost all of my free time creating and working on various custom cross-stitches. I have done a handful of cross-stitches of families, some with pregnant women, and I think it would be a cutesy way for my partner and I to announce. I also thought about doing a cross-stitch of my ultrasound, which are super neat to make. Maybe I'll do both and put them on a letter board next to a picture of the actual sonogram... not sure yet!
This is one I made of a pregnant friend's family, which was a gift to her on Christmas that year:
My mother-in-law has been staying with us for the whole summer. Since we couldn't really hide it, we told all the parents (mine live only 30 min away) a week after we got a positive hpt. My doctor won't see me until 12 weeks, so that's when we will tell extended family and friends (after confirming everything is progressing normally).
Re: Pregnancy Announcements
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*
EDD: 3/19/20
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
ETA: they’re divorced now, which is sad but best for both of them.
@rs0806 I'm a HUGE fan of punny teachers' lounge treats!! I wish I could think of other options, but only "bun in the oven" comes to mind (great minds think alike @silverhope). I'll circle back if I think of anything else.
We've been slowly telling people one at a time. For some reason, I'm not nearly as eager to do a big announcement as I was with our first. I'm considering waiting until Halloween and posting a picture of myself in my Ali Wong costume (I am so so so excited about this), but I don't know if I'll actually go through with that for the "official" announcement.
@keeksie84 Love that, LOVE Ali Wong!
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
DS2 10/2017
DS3 due 03/2020
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
This is our first so I’m really excited to tell people but also really cautious and nervous. I’m 6w+5d now and DH and I have yet to tell anyone.
We’re planning to tell my brother & SIL on Monday (will be 7w by then) and then DH’s parents and our closest friends after our first u/s (8 and a half weeks). Then the rest of our friends and fam after 12w.
I’m torn about telling my own parents because they are the WORST at keeping things secret/private. When my nephew was born, they posted his photo and baby announcement on Facebook before my brother and SIL were even out of the recovery room. Will probably wait until 12w to tell them but it seems unfair to DH to have his parents know a month before.
I don’t know yet how I feel about posting a big social media announcement but might post a full body pic on our anniv (Oct 6) and let people figure it out for themselves haha
Me: 31 | DH: 33
DS1: 12.23.13 | DS2: 05.06.16
BFP: 06.30.19 | EDD: 3.9.20
TTC3: 11.18
BFP: 02.05.19
CP: 03.07.19
*really traumatic recovery*
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
EDD: 3/19/20
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Although I wouldn't put it past my weird step-mom to bring it up.
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
@stassischroeder Super cute!
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
@jenEP & @stacey6689 I wasn't really sure at first how I was going to tell my coworkers but since I ended up telling my boss a couple days ago (out of necessity), I might not do any sort of special thing to let the rest of the people know. I work for a Budget & Management office for my city, and my department is my boss, me, and one other girl. There are other departments, too, of course, but none that I see on a daily basis (probably only 20ish of us total). I figure people will find out when I start showing. No one has a filter or any sort of manners around this place, so I'm pretty sure they'll feel comfortable just blurting out questions like, "HEY ARE YOU PREGNANT?" even though that's typically frowned upon behavior.
This is one I made of a pregnant friend's family, which was a gift to her on Christmas that year:
Here is a cross-stitch of an ultrasound:
Married: 8/22/15
BFP #1: 8/22/17 | DS: 4/20/18
BFP #2: 7/14/19 | EDD: 3/18/20
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
DD1 EDD 9/29/2015, Born 9/24/2015
DS1 EDD 1/3/2018, Born 12/26/2017
BFP #3 3/21/2019, EDD 11/29/2019, MMC/D&C 5/7/2019
BFP #4 6/28/2019, EDD 3/12/2020
EDD: 3/19/20