I can see newbies that haven’t put in much of an effort being excluded. But I am bummed to be excluded and to feel untrustworthy with this being my third BMB. Forming a PG is new to me because my other 2 went to Fb post baby so there was still months to be an active member and contribute.
I dont want to join a separate PG or Fb group just for the sake of joining one. I like the liveliness of a larger group and don’t want to be in one with say 12 people.
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
@telicious2 this is my 3rd too and the previous groups went to fb so this pg thing is new to me also. Hopefully a fb group is made later bc I am more likely to check fb anyways. Not that I have much time for social media having 2 littles already though haha
@telicious2 this is my 3rd too and the previous groups went to fb so this pg thing is new to me also. Hopefully a fb group is made later bc I am more likely to check fb anyways. Not that I have much time for social media having 2 littles already though haha
Yeah, I'm not on here as often as I would like with two little ones and we just moved but I check FB waayyyy more than I do this app. I'm not upset about not being in the PG because I hardly ever post on here but it definitely seems like it was a crappy PG process. I'm sorry there are so many frustrated people ☹️
@cupcakebugx3 can you elaborate on how you felt the process was crappy? There are probably some lurkers from other birth months that may want to learn from our mistakes.
I was bummed I didn’t make it into the private group. I know I didn’t post everyday or post details of my life, but I’m cautious as we are on public boards. It would have been nice to be more inclusive in the private board to see if those of us who posted semi frequently, but not enough to be a regular would open up more in a more private space. I guess I can see the other point too, that people don’t know a whole lot about me, so why would they want me included. I was thinking the private group would include more people and it would progress to a fb group for those who were regulars in the private group.
And and to elaborate more with my rambling two cents, I think it was a bigger blow to previous BMB users that weren’t able to be as regular or communicative. But were still active and offered support and advice when able to.
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
And and to elaborate more with my rambling two cents, I think it was a bigger blow to previous BMB users that weren’t able to be as regular or communicative. But were still active and offered support and advice when able to.
So, may I ask - if you were not able to be regular or communicative, how would you expect folks to want to open up to you in a PG? I’m genuinely curious because I’m really struggling to follow this logic but would like to understand.
@jenferlee82 Like sammygirl18 said, it would have been nice to have the PG as the get to know everyone better group. And if some users were let into the PG but remained more of a lurker (say after 2 weeks time) then maybe the mods would have the power to remove people for remaining inactive? Had I thought of this stipulation I would have brought it up when the criteria for the PG was being discussed. And I totally agree with lurkers from the start or those with barely any posting history being excluded from the PG.
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
The PG is simply a place for those who spoke up more often to be more open regarding their personal details, such as first names, SO names, etc. In no way is it different from the public group and the same matters are being discussed. The public group is obviously more than welcome to keep discussing things.
In order to weed through all of the random posts that seem unrelated, the PG is acting as a more structured soundboard. It isn't a popularity contest nor is it a way to exclude others. It also wasn't formed based on historical contributions on other boards.
Re: ** Oct19 Mummies Private Group Info **
I dont want to join a separate PG or Fb group just for the sake of joining one. I like the liveliness of a larger group and don’t want to be in one with say 12 people.
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
Edited because autocorrect
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
In order to weed through all of the random posts that seem unrelated, the PG is acting as a more structured soundboard. It isn't a popularity contest nor is it a way to exclude others. It also wasn't formed based on historical contributions on other boards.
Me 39 - DH 41
Married 8/26/07
TTGP #1 Jan '15 -
BFP 9/11/15 - DS born 5/31/16
TTGP #2 July '17 -
CP July '17
Blighted Ovum MC Dec '17
CP June '18
BFP 1/30/19 - EDD 10/13/19