@melanier26, did you try clicking the link in your PM? I think you need to join via your actual invitation, rather than request to join the group since it's set up as invite-only.
If that's not the issue, I'd just keep trying on different formats (desktop, mobile, app, different internet browsers). TB is so glitchy, sometimes you just have to find the one combo that works to get in!
@melanier26 if you are still having issues send me a PM to confirm. I can delete you and resubmit to get you a new link. Yours was 1 I was having trouble with due to the spam blocker.
Ok I’m having so many issues accepting my invite. I tried all the tricks but I’ll keep trying— when I click on “Join this group” it has me say why I want to join, then it just freezes. I’ll try on desktop but can’t right now because the only computer I have at work at the moment is facing everyone 😬
@m123mm it is live now so that the newly added members can vote as they accept their invitations.
@m123mm, to add to this: the second/final voting round may take a bit longer than the first round. There are more members to vote this time, and several people have experienced issues getting into the private group.
Try to have patience, but we will keep everyone updated here 😊
::stuck in the box:: thank you all for working on this!
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
Good luck to all of the October moms! I’ve enjoyed learning and connecting with you throughout these past 6 months. I’m not a super frequent commenter so if I don’t make it into the private group I wanted to say good luck!!
Speaking just for me, I'm not planning on abandoning the main group! For anyone who hasn't become familiar enough to get into this group, I don't think we are looking to leave you behind, we just also wanted a space to share more openly with those we're closer with. Besides, just because one private group was made now doesn't mean that another couldn't be made later! Keep posting and making connections!
Will someone keep us updated on when the voting comes to an end? I try to remember to check my inbox but get easily distracted.
@sweetteaandswingsmama, absolutely! We'll make an announcement here when the voting is finished and invites have been sent. We are close -- just have a few more members who need to cast their votes. Hopefully soon 😊
Will someone keep us updated on when the voting comes to an end? I try to remember to check my inbox but get easily distracted.
@sweetteaandswingsmama, absolutely! We'll make an announcement here when the voting is finished and invites have been sent. We are close -- just have a few more members who need to cast their votes. Hopefully soon 😊
Thank you! I keep checking my inbox too and then my app freezes and I have to close and restart it 😅
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
We get the invite by clicking on the little envelope icon, right? If so, it says no messages so I’m assuming I’m not in? 😬 just want to be sure I’m reading/checking that correctly
We get the invite by clicking on the little envelope icon, right? If so, it says no messages so I’m assuming I’m not in? 😬 just want to be sure I’m reading/checking that correctly
@jal88144, you are correct. Unfortunately you didn't receive quite enough love its for this private group.
ETA - as steminist said well above, keep posting and making connections! Just because this private group has been formed now doesn't mean others can't be created later.
Just curious- how come the ones accepting invites now aren’t able to vote on members that are pending 75% love tits? Or would the members pending not get to 75% even IF all the currently accepting members vote for them?
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
Just curious- how come the ones accepting invites now aren’t able to vote on members that are pending 75% love tits? Or would the members pending not get to 75% even IF all the currently accepting members vote for them?
The bolded. Even if the new members added yesterday all voted "yes," it would not cause anyone's votes to go from under 75% to over 75% of the overall group.
I can’t help but feel the FOMO right now. I’ll stick around for sure and hope that there will be regulars and others who will want to go straight to Fb group in a few months.
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
Wow! Pretty disappointed I'm not invited! I might not be on here every single day, but I have been on at least once or twice a week since I found out I was pregnant. You'd think that would be enough to be part of the private group. I might not have talked or commented on every single person's comments, but have definitely been active. Unfortunately, life is extremely busy right now and can't check in every single day like some do or haven't hand a chance to chat with 75% of the people on this board. Definitely didn't expect that.
Wow! Pretty disappointed I'm not invited! I might not be on here every single day, but I have been on at least once or twice a week since I found out I was pregnant. You'd think that would be enough to be part of the private group. I might not have talked or commented on every single person's comments, but have definitely been active. Unfortunately, life is extremely busy right now and can't check in every single day like some do or haven't hand a chance to chat with 75% of the people on this board. Definitely didn't expect that.
@alinic916, you were invited into the group yesterday and it shows that you accepted the invitation. If you are having issues accessing the group, you may reach out to one of the Admins for help.
what?!?! i didn't get any kind of notification. I'm so sorry for complaining then! I just saw @prpl11butterfly post this morning and didn't see any indication that I was in and was so disappointed. Thank you for clearing that up @galentine Going to figure it out now!
Hey all, I don't want to leave anyone hanging and searching for an invitation that may not exist. In the interest of clarity, I'll do a quick recap here.
The group members voted on everyone who posted their names in the roll call thread, and those who received "yes" votes from 75% of the group were admitted and sent PM invites yesterday. Only a few additional people received invites after the second round of voting. To my knowledge, the only posters who were extended invitations and have not accepted are @sweetteaandswingsmama and @perfectlove09.
Even if the new members all voted "yes" on those still below the threshold, it would not bump anyone above the 75% threshold. We will not be doing any further voting for entry into this private group at this time.
If you were not included in this particular private group, please don't take it personally. It just means that you may not have been active or interactive enough that the majority of members felt comfortable having you in a group where personal details will be shared. It does not have any bearing on being liked or valued. Everyone here has been of value to the group.
The public board will not be abandoned anytime soon, so rest assured you will still be able to post, commiserate with fellow October moms, and build friendships!
I’m now realizing why I hate these “mom groups”, it’s like high school all over again! Happy to navigate the rest of my experiences without all this online fake “love tit” relationships. See ya!
@jane101757 not it actually isn't. But here's the thing, like any friendship or relationship you get out of it what you give. Going to a private group is a big thing where sensitive information is going to be shared, information you don't want everyone to know. If there hasn't been an effort from someone to let us get to know them over the past 20+ I don't want to share that info. The fact that they have been getting to know us by lurking kind of creeps me out to be honest, which is why I for one am not comfortable just having everyone in private group setting. Many of us also have said we still plan to participate here but have somewhere to share more private info.
I’m now realizing why I hate these “mom groups”, it’s like high school all over again! Happy to navigate the rest of my experiences without all this online fake “love tit” relationships. See ya!
Don't be discouraged and stay on the regular board! I know it's hard not to feel excluded, I was surprised myself as I consider myself a pretty active poster. However, everyone has the the right to feel comfortable when sharing personal things online and I can respect that. Nobody should feel alone trying to navigate pregnancy and motherhood. There will still be non group people posting as well as some group people. You're not alone!
@kindbytealikat I can see that. The thing that got me was it being said that another private group can be started later. So it sounds like there's no chance of anyone else being added to the original group once some of those in that group get to know the rest of us that are interested in the private group better. Just my two cents.
@shesha15zap I am not in the PG but you are probably right. Maybe some in the PG will join a PG 2.0 or (what I hope) will go straight to private Fb group. I am not sure of the future dynamic of those in the PG joining up with us later on because both of my previous BMBs went to Fb post babies.
According to the icons under your sn (on my mobile) it looks like you have been around for a while. May I suggest you personalize your icon picture so you can stand out better especially if you would like to join a group later?
Me (32) DH (34) | | BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d) BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13 BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16 BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
I'd have no issue joining a second group, I made our 2nd group for my Jan 17 group actually. I hope this encourages rather than discourages more to come forward and be active. It's hard to get to know someone from their bump growing every week. Start a thread of something that interests you if the weekly ransoms is too much or you do check ins. It would be really great to see more mom's coming. But we're six, nearly seven months in. This isn't new. We all kinda knew this is how a private group would go, it's been discussed a few times. My July 15 group was super trusting and open, my Jan17 group was super closed and private. It's kinda just touch and go I spose. But I don't have intentions of leaving this main board, I would hope others don't abandon after this either. My other boards went dead after we moved to Facebook but since we're still on the bump, I will still check this too.
Wow! Pretty disappointed I'm not invited! I might not be on here every single day, but I have been on at least once or twice a week since I found out I was pregnant. You'd think that would be enough to be part of the private group. I might not have talked or commented on every single person's comments, but have definitely been active. Unfortunately, life is extremely busy right now and can't check in every single day like some do or haven't hand a chance to chat with 75% of the people on this board. Definitely didn't expect that.
This. I messaged @galentine yesterday, curious on why I haven’t received an invite. I also have been a regular poster on here. Recently, I’ve been a little MIA due to our move. But, I (being a previous bump user) was very excited to get back on the board once I found out I was pregnant again. I didn’t know that we had to have a popular “vote” I just assumed that being an active and regular poster, that I would receive an invite. I don’t want a pity party, but, I do feel butt hurt about not receiving an invite.
Wow! Pretty disappointed I'm not invited! I might not be on here every single day, but I have been on at least once or twice a week since I found out I was pregnant. You'd think that would be enough to be part of the private group. I might not have talked or commented on every single person's comments, but have definitely been active. Unfortunately, life is extremely busy right now and can't check in every single day like some do or haven't hand a chance to chat with 75% of the people on this board. Definitely didn't expect that.
This. I messaged @galentine yesterday, curious on why I haven’t received an invite. I also have been a regular poster on here. Recently, I’ve been a little MIA due to our move. But, I (being a previous bump user) was very excited to get back on the board once I found out I was pregnant again. I didn’t know that we had to have a popular “vote” I just assumed that being an active and regular poster, that I would receive an invite. I don’t want a pity party, but, I do feel butt hurt about not receiving an invite.
Let’s just make our own group haha! Im thinking there’s a lot of people who are a bit hurt by this as well
Wow! Pretty disappointed I'm not invited! I might not be on here every single day, but I have been on at least once or twice a week since I found out I was pregnant. You'd think that would be enough to be part of the private group. I might not have talked or commented on every single person's comments, but have definitely been active. Unfortunately, life is extremely busy right now and can't check in every single day like some do or haven't hand a chance to chat with 75% of the people on this board. Definitely didn't expect that.
This. I messaged @galentine yesterday, curious on why I haven’t received an invite. I also have been a regular poster on here. Recently, I’ve been a little MIA due to our move. But, I (being a previous bump user) was very excited to get back on the board once I found out I was pregnant again. I didn’t know that we had to have a popular “vote” I just assumed that being an active and regular poster, that I would receive an invite. I don’t want a pity party, but, I do feel butt hurt about not receiving an invite.
Let’s just make our own group haha! Im thinking there’s a lot of people who are a bit hurt by this as well
I agree! Let's make our own since the "cool" mom's think it's ok to exclude people.
Re: ** Oct19 Mummies Private Group Info **
If that's not the issue, I'd just keep trying on different formats (desktop, mobile, app, different internet browsers). TB is so glitchy, sometimes you just have to find the one combo that works to get in!
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
DD#1 December '12
DD#2 New Year's Baby '15
Married 07/09
ETA - as steminist said well above, keep posting and making connections! Just because this private group has been formed now doesn't mean others can't be created later.
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
I can’t help but feel the FOMO right now. I’ll stick around for sure and hope that there will be regulars and others who will want to go straight to Fb group in a few months.
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19
The group members voted on everyone who posted their names in the roll call thread, and those who received "yes" votes from 75% of the group were admitted and sent PM invites yesterday. Only a few additional people received invites after the second round of voting. To my knowledge, the only posters who were extended invitations and have not accepted are @sweetteaandswingsmama and @perfectlove09.
Even if the new members all voted "yes" on those still below the threshold, it would not bump anyone above the 75% threshold. We will not be doing any further voting for entry into this private group at this time.
If you were not included in this particular private group, please don't take it personally. It just means that you may not have been active or interactive enough that the majority of members felt comfortable having you in a group where personal details will be shared. It does not have any bearing on being liked or valued. Everyone here has been of value to the group.
The public board will not be abandoned anytime soon, so rest assured you will still be able to post, commiserate with fellow October moms, and build friendships!
HX
DSD: 17
DS: 4(Nov'14)
MMC:8/17
MMC: 1/18
BFP: 2/7/19 EDD:10/16/19
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According to the icons under your sn (on my mobile) it looks like you have been around for a while. May I suggest you personalize your icon picture so you can stand out better especially if you would like to join a group later?
Me (32) DH (34) | |
BFP #1 4/5/12 | Natural m/c on 4/18/12 (6w1d)
BFP #2 8/23/12 | DS born 5/3/13
BFP #3 12/6/15 | DD born 8/23/16
BFP #4 2/22/19 | EDD 10/28/19