Stolen from February’s BMB. We can always modify or update as we see fit.
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For the sake of board organization, here are some simple guidelines for posting threads:
DO:
-Introduce yourself in the "Introductions" thread
-Feel free to start one of the weekly posts listed below if you don't see it started yet
-Check to see if a thread has already been started on your topic or question so we can avoid too many threads of the same topic
-Post a thread that would apply to the entire community and doesn't fall into one of the categories for daily threads listed below (Ex: What to pack in your hospital bag, baby gear, etc.)
-Comment, share advice, and show support for your fellow bumpies; this is a two-way street, to get support, you must show it as well
DON'T:
-Ask the community if you are pregnant, it is against the Bump's Terms Of Use (TOU)
-Post pictures of your pregnancy test, this is also against TOU (there is a thread on the open 1st tri page for this)
-Post a thread that asks a question only applying to yourself unless you suspect you may be going through a MC
-Get bent out of shape if someone calls you out for not following these guidelines; if you expect to be part of a supportive board (which we are), you need to be able to take the time to learn the ins and outs of the board.
Here are some weekly/monthly ideas that may be good to start with. We can always add to best suit our boards needs, so please let me know if you have any other ideas!
MONDAY
- Weekly Randoms
- Meal Plan Monday
- Man Crush Monday (MCM)
- PGAL Check-In
- Due Date Week Groups:
- Group 1: March 1-8
- Group 2: March 9-16
- Group 3: March 17-24
- Group 4: March 25-31
TUESDAY
- TW Tuesday
- Plus-size Mom Check-In
- Ten Things Tuesday
WEDNESDAY
- HDBD (Hump Day, Bump Day)
- WTF Wednesday
- Woman Crush Wednesday (WCW)
- Wellness Wednesday
THURSDAY
- TTGP Grad Check-In
- Thankful Thursday
- Unpopular Opinion (UO)
FRIDAY
SATURDAY
SUNDAY
MONTHLY
- Symptoms Thread
- Appointments Thread
- FTM Check-In
- STM+ Check-In
- AMA Check-In
OTHER THREADS
- GTKY Threads
- High Risk
- Milestone Threads (specific appointments/weeks gestation, etc)
- Breastfeeding
- PGAIF (Pregnant After Infertility)
- Single Moms
- Moms of Multiples
Once we all get farther along, we will also have pinned threads for things like ultrasounds, sex announcements and birth announcements.
Important board organization notes on spotting/bleeding/losses
If you are spotting or bleeding & would like support, please post to the Spotting/Bleeding Support Thread (TW). This thread comes with a general trigger warning.
If you are a contributing member with a confirmed loss, please create a New Discussion titled something like “Confirmed Loss (TW)”. Threads like these come with a general trigger warning. Consider before posting: Will you feel like any replies/support during this time will help you get through what you are going through? Or will it feel like you are announcing your loss to a roomful of strangers? Most importantly, consider what’s best for YOU during this time, and proceed from there. Feel free to copy and paste the language below if it helps you during this difficult time to not have to write as much.
This is a post indicting a confirmed loss, and therefore please do not provide direct questions or lengthy replies during this difficult time. Use the "Love It" button to show your support, a quick “sorry for your loss,” or something similarly short and sweet. Please try to avoid tagging me in replies to this thread or anywhere else on this board moving forward.
Here is my loss story:
Your story portion can be as brief or as long as you would like or can be omitted entirely. Know that the board organizers have provided the above for your benefit. We felt it was important for anyone going through one to know it's okay to post a New Discussion and also important for anyone in that situation to have something easy to turn to in case they had to announce something so difficult.
I've copy/pasted this from previous boards, and it seems to be the way that they are all organized, but of course we should feel free to tweak for our needs! For example, some boards do weekly ticker changes while others do weekly due date check-ins (ex, DD 1st week of Mar.). If anyone has a suggestion for other threads, please feel free to comment a suggestion. PLEASE keep in mind that there will eventually be a lot of us on this board, and an organized board will be much easier for everyone to use. If we can all keep the one-off posts to a minimum the board won't be too cluttered to navigate, and hopefully we won't end up answering the same question 2,000 times.
Me: 33 | DH: 34
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17
DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20
DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Re: ***Read First Board Organization***
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: 7/21/12
BFP: 12/4/16 Due 8/8/17 -- Its a boy! Born 8/14/17
BFP: 5/19/19 and MC on 5/27/19
BFP: 6/24/19, MC on 7/24/19
BFP: 10/24, no heartbeat on 11/27, D&C 12/2
Officially diagnosed with Secondary infertility and recurrent miscarriage
IVF started Feb 2020
retrieval and PGT testing: 18 retrieved, 17 mature, 16 fertilized, 9 to blast, 8 PGT normal.
Transfer #1: June 14, 2020
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I don't see an ideal way to announce losses? I did see we have had at least two already, and they've been relayed different ways--one in PGAL alone and one in a separate thread. I think having a standard way to announce that is best for the board--being someone who has been on a BMB and suffered a loss, it's pretty devastating to be tagged into things by people who just don't know what you've gone through, and it's also hard to navigate the most appropriate way to tell the board if it's not in the board organization?
I think that giving people who have confirmed losses permission to post a new thread announcing the loss and providing a standard set of instructions they can copy/paste after their announcement, might be best? IDK if this should be edited into this post or be its own pinned post? I'm happy to work on those instructions if people agree this is a good idea.
Also, can we add Ten Things Tuesday to Tuesdays threads? Pleasssee? It's my fave.
Finally, has anyone started a spreadsheet for the Product Spotlights? Happy to modify an old one from my prev. BMB at some point soon. FTMs (like I will be!) can really benefit from that thread if it's super well organized. Again, IDK if this should be edited into this post or be its own post/pinned post, but I just want to make sure someone else isn't already on top of it before I start?
Username, EDD, age, location, FTM/STM +, etc.
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
I’m happy to add whatever you’d like with how to announce losses and definitely think losses deserve their own post! I’m not great with words so if you or someone else has a way to say that and/or a format for people to follow I can edit the post. Or if you feel it should be it’s own post that is totally ok too!
I don't personally have a spreadsheet for product spotlights so if you do that would be amazing! I can edit the post with a link if you want or you feel free to make your own post and we can ask the bump gods to sticky it!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
@MrsVP614 ...Do you want to do the general spreadsheet for the group & I'll do the PSS spreadsheet?
Married: 10.15.16
DS BD: 8.20.17
TTC #2 1.1.19
BFP #2 7.3.19
EDD #2 3.13.20
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
*Formerly LuND*
Me: 35 | DH: 37
TTC: 7/2016
Low AMH, mild MFI
BFP 7/29/17
EDD: 4/5/18
DS born 4/4/18
BFP #2 7/2/19
EDD 3/13/20
I will probably try to be the one that posts it weekly & let ppl know when I can't/need someone else to-- THAT BEING SAID, if anyone knows of or has any particular questions I should add about the products, LMK & I'll add them to the prompts? ALSO if there's anything missing, you can add a comment to the spreadsheet that indicates what it is and where you think it should go? Or just LMK here.
Bc I'll be a FTM, I am relying on all yall who are STM/+'s to make sure I make smart registry choices when it comes time for that haha, hence why I am so dedicated to this thread.
https://docs.google.com/spreadsheets/d/1viBwjSlUQHpyJ_zwpmhx2V9GxJqKK7iWvUfckfseAhM/edit?usp=sharing
ETA: @varimama You can/should add a link/super brief explanation to the original org. post however you see fit. I shouldn't draft that text bc I suck at brief.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
everyone else i can only edit for 2 more weeks so share your ideas!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
Important board organization notes on spotting/bleeding/losses
If you are spotting or bleeding & would like support, please post to the Spotting/Bleeding Support Thread (TW). This thread comes with a general trigger warning.
If you are a contributing member with a confirmed loss, please create a New Discussion titled something like “Confirmed Loss (TW)”. Threads like these come with a general trigger warning. Consider before posting: Will you feel like any replies/support during this time will help you get through what you are going through? Or will it feel like you are announcing your loss to a roomful of strangers? Most importantly, consider what’s best for YOU during this time, and proceed from there. Feel free to copy and paste the language below if it helps you during this difficult time to not have to write as much.
This is a post indicting a confirmed loss, and therefore please do not provide direct questions or lengthy replies during this difficult time. Use the "Love It" button to show your support, a quick “sorry for your loss,” or something similarly short and sweet. Please try to avoid tagging me in replies to this thread or anywhere else on this board moving forward.
Here is my loss story:
Your story portion can be as brief or as long as you would like or can be omitted entirely. Know that the board organizers have provided the above for your benefit. We felt it was important for anyone going through one to know it's okay to post a New Discussion and also important for anyone in that situation to have something easy to turn to in case they had to announce something so difficult.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
I'm really looking forward to the weekly product spotlights! The spreadsheet loving woman in me can't wait to discuss options/recommendations so I can make a price match spreadsheet. Oh, can we double check for w/o Jan 10/17 - are the seasons correct for those months? Or I may just be reading it wrong!
EDD: 3/19/20
@kagesstarshroom I hope you don’t mind I updated the seasons. I will say those ranges will widely depend on your individual baby. I have a huge child who despite being 2 is in 4-5T. He wore newborn for 1 week, 3 months for a few weeks and was in 6 months clothing before he was 2 months old 🤷🏻♀️ My friend has a girl of similar age and she’s still wearing 18 month clothes!
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
ETA: Also!!! STMs seem to have a weekly & FTMs a monthly check-in... they both say monthly above-- we could switch those to Saturday & make them weeklies rather than monthlies!?
I don't think I even noticed the weekly monthly difference for STM/FTMs ooops. I’d just feel bad starting a thread like that on a Saturday when I know a lot of people have restraints on the weekend that don’t allow them to bump. I could just combine Sat/Sun and have weekly questions that could be posted either day? Maybe we could have a weekend plans thread where people could talk about what they are doing for the weekend since those tend to be more exciting then weekly plans? Just trying to think of positive threads.
Married: October, 19, 2015
EDD 2/22/17 DS1 born on 3/2/17
EDD 3/8/20 DS2 born on 3/10/20
EDD 11/24/23
(Formerly Marriedhamstermom Feb ‘17)
EDD: 3/19/20