Just going to get the ball rolling!
I have a family drama question for y'all. I have SIL that has always disliked me or had very loud opinions of me. Why you ask? Honestly, I really don't know. I'm a peaceful, pleasant person, I've always tried to be friendly with her. When I first met my DH, she seemed like she hated me from the start. Anyway, I could go on about this all day, so let me get to my real question...
Last year, on a road trip with DH's family, SIL and her DH decided they wanted to tell everybody how much they hated them and what victims they were in a huge argument, one by one. It was AWFUL. Needless to say, DH and I spoke our sides of the situation to her and to my in-laws, and then chose to stay away from SIL's family essentially. I feel bad that my DD doesn't see her cousins, but I don't think that's a good enough reason to force a relationship with SIL and her husband. Does this seem like a selfish viewpoint from my little family's perspective, or is this what you would do? I just feel we've tried the old olive branch extending thing so many times at this point, I'm done with it. Me and DH thought we were in a good place when we went on that trip! I guess we personally were, but nobody else was
Side note: When I got back from that trip, which was one of the most emotionally and physically traumatizing experiences of my life to date (and I've had a grand mal seizure!), I found out I was pregnant. About a month and a half later, I found out I had a blighted ovum and had a miscarriage. I'm not pointing fingers, but I do think that physical and emotional trauma can cause some of these things to take place!
Thanks for reading, and I'd love your advice.