December 2019 Moms
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Weekly Randoms 6/10-6/16
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Just going to get the ball rolling!
I have a family drama question for y'all. I have SIL that has always disliked me or had very loud opinions of me. Why you ask? Honestly, I really don't know. I'm a peaceful, pleasant person, I've always tried to be friendly with her. When I first met my DH, she seemed like she hated me from the start. Anyway, I could go on about this all day, so let me get to my real question...
Last year, on a road trip with DH's family, SIL and her DH decided they wanted to tell everybody how much they hated them and what victims they were in a huge argument, one by one. It was AWFUL. Needless to say, DH and I spoke our sides of the situation to her and to my in-laws, and then chose to stay away from SIL's family essentially. I feel bad that my DD doesn't see her cousins, but I don't think that's a good enough reason to force a relationship with SIL and her husband. Does this seem like a selfish viewpoint from my little family's perspective, or is this what you would do? I just feel we've tried the old olive branch extending thing so many times at this point, I'm done with it. Me and DH thought we were in a good place when we went on that trip! I guess we personally were, but nobody else was
Side note: When I got back from that trip, which was one of the most emotionally and physically traumatizing experiences of my life to date (and I've had a grand mal seizure!), I found out I was pregnant. About a month and a half later, I found out I had a blighted ovum and had a miscarriage. I'm not pointing fingers, but I do think that physical and emotional trauma can cause some of these things to take place!
Thanks for reading, and I'd love your advice.
I have a family drama question for y'all. I have SIL that has always disliked me or had very loud opinions of me. Why you ask? Honestly, I really don't know. I'm a peaceful, pleasant person, I've always tried to be friendly with her. When I first met my DH, she seemed like she hated me from the start. Anyway, I could go on about this all day, so let me get to my real question...
Last year, on a road trip with DH's family, SIL and her DH decided they wanted to tell everybody how much they hated them and what victims they were in a huge argument, one by one. It was AWFUL. Needless to say, DH and I spoke our sides of the situation to her and to my in-laws, and then chose to stay away from SIL's family essentially. I feel bad that my DD doesn't see her cousins, but I don't think that's a good enough reason to force a relationship with SIL and her husband. Does this seem like a selfish viewpoint from my little family's perspective, or is this what you would do? I just feel we've tried the old olive branch extending thing so many times at this point, I'm done with it. Me and DH thought we were in a good place when we went on that trip! I guess we personally were, but nobody else was
Side note: When I got back from that trip, which was one of the most emotionally and physically traumatizing experiences of my life to date (and I've had a grand mal seizure!), I found out I was pregnant. About a month and a half later, I found out I had a blighted ovum and had a miscarriage. I'm not pointing fingers, but I do think that physical and emotional trauma can cause some of these things to take place!
Thanks for reading, and I'd love your advice.
Re: Weekly Randoms 6/10-6/16
Long story short, my house (which is for sale) was featured on the FB page For the Love of Old Houses... I knew there would be comments I wouldn't like, but I kind of went down a rabbit hole on my house post. Someone tell me to stop looking. A lady called our kitchen table pathetic... WHICH IT IS... ITS OUR CRAFT/KID TABLE. I may have got a little rude. Then she told someone "if you don't like it, simply move on" UMMM DON'T YOU THINK YOU SHOULD HAVE DONE THAT TO BEGIN WITH.
I may need to take a walk from my anger over here lol.
@klmcguire. OMG, it is so difficult to look at people commenting on your stuff, be it your personal things, business, whatever. It’s both addictive to look at and makes you feel like you’re loosing control! This is kind of generally true for social media overall. Just take what you need from those comments and then leave it alone for your sanity, especially right now while pregnant 😊. People get really chirpy and entitled on social media. Not cool, and honestly hurtful sometimes. That’s how they get their kicks- they’re weird! I experience it a lot with my parents business- reviews and emails straight to us can get really spiteful and mean. Usually if I reply, I give them my overly nice customer service and they shut up!! Haha 😆
said. I've got some pretty irritating family members that are not good people and I honestly try and avoid unless it is like something for my grandparents or important matter.
@klmcguire I swear people think that no one is going to read what they write on the internet, like any time I send a comment or tweet I'm like okay is this going to offend anyone? Yes? Then I don't write it. lol its pretty simple but some people are jus so closed-minded that they can't help it.
@klmcguire oh man, Internet comments. People are just nutty.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
I am not telling you to go stalk lol but if you want to, it was posted on June 11 around 8:03am
this isn’t a regular part of pregnancy testing.
DH: 37
DD: 03/17/17
DS: 12/06/19
@k_mama91 I may spend a little too much time between Hobby Lobby and Decor Steals. Also, the lady I was talking about deleted her comment... So there's that.
Also it wasn’t really a normal day, son and I only got home from being out of town at 7pm, so I basically unpacked, got him to bed and went to bed myself. And we were only out of town because my husband helped plan an overnight bachelor party for that weekend. And he had specifically told me that he had weird feelings about father’s day because of his relationship with his own dad. And w literally did nothing for mother’s day either, except that he did say it to me, so apparently I was supposed to say it to him to. Not just our son, but me specifically. I don’t know. I’m not sure where in all of that I was supposed to assume it was something that he cared about at all.
@CapricaAndrea that sucks. I wished dh a happy Father’s Day and we went on about normal activity. We don’t really celebrate that or mother’s day. It’s weird people dedicate a day to thank their parent/spouse for doing their job of raising their own child.
On another question, is anybody toying with switching jobs now? I’ve shared some background (work with my family, not paid well, stressful, not our passion) and I think both my husband and I are really ready to jump ship. Our plan would likely be to sell our current home, and purchase a condo or home in the area we want to return to (giving us a bit of savings to work with), and just start over down there. Honestly, finding jobs that pay what we make right now would not be hard at all, and we really want to have more independent jobs anyway, so this would really just be a stepping stone toward employment independence. Any stories or ideas to share?