I almost always immediately regret telling someone I'll do something for them. This FFFC brought to you by the fact I told someone I'd make stencils for cookies for a wedding. Now I have to get the silhouette out and find the materials I need. Ugh
Read all the sticky kid comments yesterday and nodded along in silence, later on yesterday, after dinner DH and I went out for ice cream and he complained about how “sticky” he was... who needs to worry about sticky kids when I already have a sticky husband?
So on the sticky topic. My kids rarely get juice or other treats but still end up sticky all the time. They eat a lot of granola bara and crackers in the car so my car is always disgusting. Their carseats are far worse than any of our strollers. After 6 years of parenting I purchased a car trash can and keep a small pack of wipes with it...best decision ever.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Lol @Allycat11 My husband saw this commercial recently of a Dad in a van with kids. Apparently, there was a built in vacuum cleaner and he got excited.
Eta: Another FFFC. At my last prenatal appointment, the Midwife looked at my belly and asked me if I'm sure there aren't two babies in there after she just found one heartbeat on doppler. She can see my medical chart. I pretended to be dumb and acted like I didn't understand her question.
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
FFMC... I have probably spent more time researching strategies for how to keep my MIL/others from "helping" too much after the baby gets here and how to keep people from touching my baby than on actually keeping an infant safe. I'm pretty paranoid and safety-conscious anyway, so I think I'll be obsessively researching those things during maternity leave anyway.
I plan to wear baby a lot. aAs for feeding, if BFing works out, I can’t decide if I’ll have my boobs put & hope people are uncomfortable & leave or if I’ll spend endless time feeding in private in the nursery to get away.
@jrm_14 The comments on that Owlet article are gold, especially farther down!
I realize I probably sound like a horrible/mean person trying to keep anyone from seeing my baby. That's not [completely] the case. I'm thrilled to have close family and friends around, we just live in small town and people don't understand etiquette when it comes to visiting. We probably have people drop in unannounced 1-2 times a week now, and I just assume that will pick up tremendously when the baby is here. I'm fine with visitors after we've been home for a couple of days, but I'm the type of person who needs notice for those type of things. I love hosting and entertaining if we know to expect you and I have time to be dressed/have the house "guest ready."
And who knows, maybe I won't freak out as much as I'm anticipating when people touch the baby's face and hands or kiss him, but imagining those scenarios now gives me anxiety. It also doesn't help that I know exactly what my face is going to look like when those things happen.
@oklahomak not horrible/mean at all... as a parent who has had a newborn (10 days old) go through a "hot baby work up" (spinal taps, blood collection, catheters, urine catherization, the works) and spending a week in the hospital where she didn't eat for 4 days because she was struggling just to breath... from funk that people have, I have no problem telling people to stay away, not touch...
*TW*
TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
@oklahomak@jrm_14 I just went and read the comments too. good times. The one person I'm most worried about is my mother, she doesn't listen, wears a gallon of perfume (we've already had the no perfume discussion-twice) and will, for sure, try to kiss baby's face. One the bright side/FFMC I have absolutely NO problem telling her my thoughts/feelings or telling her to leave, she'll say I'm mean...I won't/don't care.
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
@Avrilmai - With each post, I swear you are my secret long-lost twin. My mom is also going to be the most difficult, but I also do NOT hesitate to clearly express myself. And GOOD GOD - what is it with the flippin' perfume!?
FFMC - I don't like second-guessing myself when communicating (see above: very clear communicator without pretense) to ensure I'm not hurting "others feelings" when they're clearly being inconsiderate of mine (or my workload). I *just* got back from some time off, don't just pop in my office unannounced. Or send mysterious "hey" messages on the Company messenger system when I don't know you from Adam. And also, don't ask me to make exceptions so that I then have to keep track of your reasoning(s): if it ain't in the system, it ain't the truth. I'm about to be out for the better part of 3 months and it's inconsiderate to have me ask someone who will be filling in (in addition to all the crap he does) to keep track of your "one-off" bullshit. We JUST spent $3MM on (and 4 months implementing) this system, USE IT. #nofucksgiven
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
"Dont wear perfume or cologne. I want my baby to keep its baby smell and not smell like Avon."
"Husbands sisters/ sister in laws, in laws to the MOM are in the friend category- sorry, stay a freaking hour or LESS! My vagina was just exposed to a hospital room of doctors, I don’t want to sit around my house and entertain in laws and especially sister in laws that think their brother had a baby- he did not, his penis is fine. My vag hurts, please leave. Lol! Please find humor in this comment and not hate- but find truth!"
Also, I will smack anyone who tries to put their fingers in my baby's mouth. Just no.
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Haha @emqbee it's actually not that exciting. But I've been embarrassed all day. Basically, last week I was out in the field, inservicing crews on a new proceedure. Except Friday when I was in the hospital. Which is also the day I was supposed to book the car for this week.
So today, I show up at work, and get the keys and head out to continue seeing crews.
But it turns out someone else had booked the car. Since I hadn't. And apparently no one thought I was at work today, (I start a few hours before any manager) because of the drama on Friday. So this morning, the boss who went to get the car, saw it was gone and was.... rather unhappy. And concerned. Eventually they figured out I was the one who had taken it without permission....but too late for him to make his meeting on time.
So technically I stole the car....but it was a pregnancy brain mistake.
@suzycupcake My favorite was “His penis is fine.” 😹. And “Why is she shouting?” “She’s a great grandmother. She probably doesn’t know how to fix the caps lock on her computer.“
FFMC - I'm praying this damn Pepcid hurries up and works so I can sleep. I had sushi (tempura California roll) and two thimbles (?) of sake at dinner tonight and it's threatening to come up. No RAGRETS.
Note: it's not about reflux that's bothering me. I was finished with dinner by 6:15. It's that my digestion is now sooooo slow and the esophageal flap no longer works (thanks, relaxin!) that I really *should* eat a teeny, tiny meal - at most - for dinner unless I want to be miserable. The Pepcid is just to keep me from burping so that there isn't a threat of vomit as I try to lie down
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
@jrm_14 an Oreo chocolate cake haha. I tried writing on it with icing. It melted off. So it looks terrible 😂 He brought it back with a note that says "you're a terrible car thief" 😂
Re: FFFC 6/7
@avrilmai They didn’t send me that email! Off to find my thank you list.....
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Eta: Another FFFC. At my last prenatal appointment, the Midwife looked at my belly and asked me if I'm sure there aren't two babies in there after she just found one heartbeat on doppler. She can see my medical chart. I pretended to be dumb and acted like I didn't understand her question.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
aAs for feeding, if BFing works out, I can’t decide if I’ll have my boobs put & hope people are uncomfortable & leave or if I’ll spend endless time feeding in private in the nursery to get away.
I realize I probably sound like a horrible/mean person trying to keep anyone from seeing my baby. That's not [completely] the case. I'm thrilled to have close family and friends around, we just live in small town and people don't understand etiquette when it comes to visiting. We probably have people drop in unannounced 1-2 times a week now, and I just assume that will pick up tremendously when the baby is here. I'm fine with visitors after we've been home for a couple of days, but I'm the type of person who needs notice for those type of things. I love hosting and entertaining if we know to expect you and I have time to be dressed/have the house "guest ready."
And who knows, maybe I won't freak out as much as I'm anticipating when people touch the baby's face and hands or kiss him, but imagining those scenarios now gives me anxiety. It also doesn't help that I know exactly what my face is going to look like when those things happen.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
The one person I'm most worried about is my mother, she doesn't listen, wears a gallon of perfume (we've already had the no perfume discussion-twice) and will, for sure, try to kiss baby's face. One the bright side/FFMC I have absolutely NO problem telling her my thoughts/feelings or telling her to leave, she'll say I'm mean...I won't/don't care.
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
FFMC - I don't like second-guessing myself when communicating (see above: very clear communicator without pretense) to ensure I'm not hurting "others feelings" when they're clearly being inconsiderate of mine (or my workload). I *just* got back from some time off, don't just pop in my office unannounced. Or send mysterious "hey" messages on the Company messenger system when I don't know you from Adam. And also, don't ask me to make exceptions so that I then have to keep track of your reasoning(s): if it ain't in the system, it ain't the truth. I'm about to be out for the better part of 3 months and it's inconsiderate to have me ask someone who will be filling in (in addition to all the crap he does) to keep track of your "one-off" bullshit. We JUST spent $3MM on (and 4 months implementing) this system, USE IT. #nofucksgiven
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
"Dont wear perfume or cologne. I want my baby to keep its baby smell and not smell like Avon."
"Husbands sisters/ sister in laws, in laws to the MOM are in the friend category- sorry, stay a freaking hour or LESS! My vagina was just exposed to a hospital room of doctors, I don’t want to sit around my house and entertain in laws and especially sister in laws that think their brother had a baby- he did not, his penis is fine. My vag hurts, please leave. Lol! Please find humor in this comment and not hate- but find truth!"
Also, I will smack anyone who tries to put their fingers in my baby's mouth. Just no.
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
Basically, last week I was out in the field, inservicing crews on a new proceedure. Except Friday when I was in the hospital. Which is also the day I was supposed to book the car for this week.
So today, I show up at work, and get the keys and head out to continue seeing crews.
But it turns out someone else had booked the car. Since I hadn't.
And apparently no one thought I was at work today, (I start a few hours before any manager) because of the drama on Friday. So this morning, the boss who went to get the car, saw it was gone and was.... rather unhappy. And concerned.
Eventually they figured out I was the one who had taken it without permission....but too late for him to make his meeting on time.
So technically I stole the car....but it was a pregnancy brain mistake.
I bought him an apology cake for tomorrow 😂
@suzycupcake My favorite was “His penis is fine.” 😹. And “Why is she shouting?” “She’s a great grandmother. She probably doesn’t know how to fix the caps lock on her computer.“
Note: it's not about reflux that's bothering me. I was finished with dinner by 6:15. It's that my digestion is now sooooo slow and the esophageal flap no longer works (thanks, relaxin!) that I really *should* eat a teeny, tiny meal - at most - for dinner unless I want to be miserable. The Pepcid is just to keep me from burping so that there isn't a threat of vomit as I try to lie down
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
He brought it back with a note that says "you're a terrible car thief" 😂