I'd be ready to jump now, but also wouldn't mind waiting if that is the consensus. I would definitely want to be moved before posting my birth story and baby pictures (I wont post them here at all).
Of course, completely open to debate/other better suggestions, but I would personally like to see the following in a vetting process, especially if it ends up being a FB group instead of a PG on here:
Minimum [quality] post/reply contribution
Identifying photo of some kind - whether we all choose to have the same object in our photo, a photo of us with our ultrasound that shows our name, a photo that shows our face and us holding something with our username from here, etc.
A "vouch" from whoever the admin(s) end up being that they know us
I’m a yay and ready to go. I think the whole deciding factor and vetting will take time so an actual move likely wouldn’t even happen for a few weeks (probably like mid to end of June). Some people due at the beginning of August could be having babies as early as July!
I keep having stranger danger thoughts when people randomly pop up. 😂😅 but that might be my own issue.
I feel the same @sourlemon. I'm not posting a birth story/photos here and I liked that my last BMB made the move in the last month or so. I'd go now, but I'd also be willing to wait until maybe our last group of ladies hits 33/34 weeks so we are all closer to the end. We will most likely have had our first baby of the group by then though!
If we set up something now for those who are ready, we can keep it open for new members for quite a while...the challenge will be keeping up in 2 places so those who jump over still recognize people. If that makes sense.
So, if we jump, will people keep up on here for a while, or drop it completely?
I'll go whenever. I agree FB is easier to keep up with.
For those still anxious about privacy, I am not "friends" with anyone in M14, but my A17 group is far friendlier/active, and I've bonded with a lot of them. So really, all they will be able to see is anything on your profile that is public anyhow, unless you choose to friend them.
I probably won't participate here when we move. I also don't really think that anyone joining after this point should be allowed, maybe that is harsh, just seems odd to me. I'd rather have people who have been around since the beginning maybe not posting A TON, but participating regularly, than someone who just appears at this point and posts all the time.
Anyone feel strongly about spearheading the group?
If not, I can create the group and start a list based on this thread while I sit at the OB later during my glucose test, but before it gets too much farther, we need to choose a few admins. But if someone else feels strongly about it, speak up cuz I have no feelings that will be hurt lol.
I would be interested in a FB group, but totally understand if my participation doesn't meet the requirements. I check daily, but there are weeks where I don't participate. I don't think I started commenting until Feb, which I guess makes me a creepy lurker.
If I'm eligible, I'm ok with a move. However I don't have an ultrasound pic with my name on it. I paid for the CD of images from my AS, but we have no printed pictures. Though I'm capable of any of the other selection criteria lol
@aecm whew my disguise worked! I can start being creepy now 😂.
Ok my list has started. I'll keep building it over the next week or so to give everyone time to see this post and for admins to be decided on. I figured out I can create the group yet until someone is my "friend" on Facebook. So I'll just remain in list building mode for now.
Howdy ladies. So I have FB but I’m pretty wary of stranger danger, especially with kiddo info involved (I recently I unfriended a bunch of people and rarely actually post there anymore because of it). Are we totally opposed to a private bump group? If so I’m likely on board assuming what @peachy0709 said is true about privacy and it wasnt a free for all - I would be on the train of no one new from here on out and having a somewhat stringent vetting process (if you don’t participate here why would you over there and thus need access to more personal info and pictures?). What involved in being an admin (heeeeey heeeey @oklahomak thanks for the shoutout ❤️)
I'm still a bit of a stranger danger, though most of you are not strangers (the new folks kinda creep me out jumping in at this point...) I'm a bit on the fence about moving but would be game for a PG.
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TTC 1/2012 Diagnosed : unexplained infertility 6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015 TTC #3 5/2016 Restarted Fertility tx IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
Like many others, I am happy to move and will go with consensus, but support it being kind of a slow process and not jumping over immediately. I can't imagine this group without @mrosek91, and I'm betting there are others in her situation of being really hesitant about FB, and it just feels too early in the pregnancy to dismantle a pregnancy-based community that members like her helped to build (even if others may not be as rock-star participants as @mrosek91 haha)--because this space is for sure to die down once we move to FB.
Just as a personal note, I check in with my May 17 group on FB every single day and I love them and participate with them actively (though I'm not technically FB friends with any of them); but I didn't really participate super actively on our Bump group until my GD diagnosis, so basically around this time, and we stuck around TB for another couple of months. I had posted every so often throughout the pregnancy so I wasn't a total unknown, but I was more heavily involved in the Pregnant After IF board which was super active back then. So if May17 had moved around then I'm not sure it would have been appropriate for me to go with them and I would have missed out on building a really special community of parents.
So while I agree that it's late for a total rando to start showing up and posting, this could be a really productive time when people who are kind-of active, or were active earlier on and are drawn back as our pregnancies enter their final stretches, still have time to build relationships here. (Sidenote to the sidenote, the "what job do you do" thread got resurrected and I was looking through it and was amazed at how many early-active names have been no-shows for so long! I don't want to tag them in case something bad happened, but I'm guessing for the most part it's just life and routine getting in the way, but for many of them I'd still love to hear from them if we keep the doors open to this board for a little longer!)
I’m down for the jump to FB! As others have said, as long as we have some sort of process to weed out the randoms. My TB app has been glitchy lately so it’s been more of a pain to use than normal!
The biggest reason I’m pro FB vs PG is TB app is terrible and can be annoying to use/sometimes it logs me out and I can’t get back in for a bit. Also I mostly use my phone so it can suck sometimes on the app.
like @olivemomma and @wabash15 I'm in the stranger danger boat too.I like the idea of a PG here. (I posted this over in the UO thread today). I think it is a good start and is inclusive. With the PG there are still admins and there is a vetting process/invitation required
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
Hi! So I'm totally one of those weirdos that just randomly started showing up again (like two days ago). I would absolutely love to be a part of a FB group but totally, 100% get the stranger danger aspect. I haven't felt compelled to participate actively as I didn't feel as though I had much to contribute, but as we get nearer to babies being born I'm starting to feel like I want to participate more and more. For now I'll step away from this thread and let you ladies figure it all out, just wanted to poke my head in here and advocate for myself . I like @sourlemon's idea of keeping up the Bump for a while for us newbies to get to know everyone, but I do think that will be challenging to keep up in two places so IDK. Okay, stepping out now!
@sourlemon I think that’s good. I would be interested to see how it all unfolds and what everyone’s thoughts are as we get closer... it may help some who are on the fence decide one way or the other
@olivemomma - Thanks for that. Yes, I meant that it would be a private group so no one knows you're in the group besides the members and you can friend them or not. Does that make sense?
And let me just say, whoever is an admin, I fully support you being strict and "mean." Like, if you're not participating here now, I honestly am not going to feel comfortable sharing pictures of my NEWBORN with you.
Once a FB group starts (assuming I am approved) I would not really check in on TB anymore....maybe occasionally but not much at all. I don't love the idea of a private group on here because I find it much easier to be active on FB and TB app drives me crazy. If the majority wants a private group here I would consider it though.
11/2010 Diagnosed with PCOS
10/31/11 M/C at 9 weeks 1/12/13 DD was born 4/9/16 DS was born 9/17 CP 6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
@Allycat11 I’m also not a huge fan of the PG unless it’s just a “on the way to a fb group” step. I find fb much easier to use. And like @cato99 my June 17 FB group is still super active and we have daily check ins and it offers a ton of support. I also found the platform more user friendly when we were up for MOTN check in’s with our newborns and everything. So yeah I’d certainly start with a PG if that is what the majority wants, but as an end game I prefer FB.
I think I'd enjoy Facebook more (if I'm eligible- I didn't find the community until February, and didn't start posting until March). The Bump app is too glitchy on my phone. I literally can't log into the community groups from my phone, so I only get to check it on my desktop at work Monday-Friday.
You gies, I’m really excited because we are going to a baseball game on Saturday. It’s my plan to eat hot dogs, drink soda, and not give a sh%!
Besides that, I’m not sure stranger danger bothers me anymore with a private FB group heavily vetted and with strict invite rules. My current profile is not public and neither is my friends list so....
People think we become mothers when we give birth but the truth is we become mothers the moment we start calling our babies to us in our thoughts, dreams and prayers. Some paths are short and some are so long that you can easily forget where you were headed.
How I feel all of the time. My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI Back on Levothyroxine FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt, 1st Beta on 7dpt 93 2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule. Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017 New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
I'm also on the "TB app is super glitchy and frustrating" train. But also feel like @mrosek91 is an integral part of this community and want her around!
I'm team FB group because of how glitchy TB is. But like others, I'd join a PG if it was on the way to a FB group. My S13 fb group is still active and I have met several of the ladies in that group in real life. Same with my J15 group. Being able to names to faces makes it so much easier to really connect with people.
Re: The Big Question - Facebook
Of course, completely open to debate/other better suggestions, but I would personally like to see the following in a vetting process, especially if it ends up being a FB group instead of a PG on here:
I keep having stranger danger thoughts when people randomly pop up. 😂😅 but that might be my own issue.
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
(Bonus points to anyone who gets the reference.)
So, if we jump, will people keep up on here for a while, or drop it completely?
For those still anxious about privacy, I am not "friends" with anyone in M14, but my A17 group is far friendlier/active, and I've bonded with a lot of them. So really, all they will be able to see is anything on your profile that is public anyhow, unless you choose to friend them.
Also add me to the group peer-pressuring @mrosek91 to get a FB account 😂
I like the suggestions @oklahomak had regarding invite requirements.
Not sure if I would keep checking / participating on this board once we made the jump. Just being honest.
I’m with @oklahomak that I’d probably still lurk on her occasionally once we make the move
If not, I can create the group and start a list based on this thread while I sit at the OB later during my glucose test, but before it gets too much farther, we need to choose a few admins. But if someone else feels strongly about it, speak up cuz I have no feelings that will be hurt lol.
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However I don't have an ultrasound pic with my name on it. I paid for the CD of images from my AS, but we have no printed pictures. Though I'm capable of any of the other selection criteria lol
Ok my list has started. I'll keep building it over the next week or so to give everyone time to see this post and for admins to be decided on. I figured out I can create the group yet until someone is my "friend" on Facebook. So I'll just remain in list building mode for now.
Diagnosed : unexplained infertility
6 rounds of IUI and a MC 2/2014, rainbow twins 4/2015
TTC #3 5/2016
Restarted Fertility tx
IUI 2 rounds, baby girl 12/17
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
Just as a personal note, I check in with my May 17 group on FB every single day and I love them and participate with them actively (though I'm not technically FB friends with any of them); but I didn't really participate super actively on our Bump group until my GD diagnosis, so basically around this time, and we stuck around TB for another couple of months. I had posted every so often throughout the pregnancy so I wasn't a total unknown, but I was more heavily involved in the Pregnant After IF board which was super active back then. So if May17 had moved around then I'm not sure it would have been appropriate for me to go with them and I would have missed out on building a really special community of parents.
So while I agree that it's late for a total rando to start showing up and posting, this could be a really productive time when people who are kind-of active, or were active earlier on and are drawn back as our pregnancies enter their final stretches, still have time to build relationships here. (Sidenote to the sidenote, the "what job do you do" thread got resurrected and I was looking through it and was amazed at how many early-active names have been no-shows for so long! I don't want to tag them in case something bad happened, but I'm guessing for the most part it's just life and routine getting in the way, but for many of them I'd still love to hear from them if we keep the doors open to this board for a little longer!)
But i am fine with either!
*Live, Love, Laugh, Learn*
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
And let me just say, whoever is an admin, I fully support you being strict and "mean." Like, if you're not participating here now, I honestly am not going to feel comfortable sharing pictures of my NEWBORN with you.
1/12/13 DD was born
4/9/16 DS was born
9/17 CP
6/23/18 BFP EDD 3/4/19
Besides that, I’m not sure stranger danger bothers me anymore with a private FB group heavily vetted and with strict invite rules. My current profile is not public and neither is my friends list so....
My 7 Year Journey ***Tw in spoiler***
IVF #1 - September 2018; Follistim, Menopur, Cetrotide & Lupron/HCG combo trigger; PGS; ICSI
Back on Levothyroxine
FET #1 - October 2018; cancelled, all PGS aneuploid
FET #1 - November 30th, transferred anyway
Wondfo BFP 5dp5dt, CB Digi 6dpt,
1st Beta on 7dpt 93
2nd Beta on 10dpt 510!
TTC #1 since 2011. Tried for 5 years before we knew there was a one year rule.
Diag w/MS 2016; w/PCOS & IF 2017
New RE 2018; PCOS diagnosis taken away, IF due to ovary adhesions, but prev. RE insists PCOS IF
IUI
IUI #1 July 2017 w/100mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #2 October 2017 w/50mg Clo+trigger; BFN; benched w/big cysts
IUI #3 February 2018 w/5mg Femara+trigger; low P
BFP February; mc March; Subclinical hypothyroid started Levothyroxine
IUI #4 March 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Medicated cycle & TI April 2018 w/7.5mg Femara+trigger; BFN
Tried several cycles on our own; all BFN
But also feel like @mrosek91 is an integral part of this community and want her around!