Hi all! We've been doing great work sharing and reviewing products for general baby-prep and the newborn stage! A little further along we will turn our focus to products for the later baby stage (teething; essentials for the coming winter and summer), but for now in the wake of Mother's Day this past weekend let's have a three-part Product Spotlight Mom-Series, focusing first on labor/birth, then the postpartum period, and finally on nursing clothing and bras.
First off, Labor and Birth! Specifically: Hospital Bag Essentials!
As with many other topics, I know we've discussed this before, but it's super useful to have one source where we can check back for quick reminders of products and recommendations, so I'd like to invite all STMs to share again what they packed in their hospital bags! Was there one website source with a good checklist that you could recommend? Also of interest would be: what did you wish you HAD packed, and what did you pack but did not end up using? And if you did not have a hospital birth nor a hospital bag, please share what products and accessories helped you out during your labor and birth!
1) What did you need to have during labor? Did you bring your own labor accessories like a birthing ball or other position-enabling accessories? Your own pillow? I know some mamas want to have specific outfits during labor (instead of screaming naked into the world) too! Did you have a playlist, and what platform/audio product did you use for that? Distraction options for those who had some downtime at the hospital before serious, active labor?
2) How about things to pack for after baby came? Outfits for mama? Outfits for baby? Grooming and hygiene products for mom (brush, toothbrush, shampoo, face wash, etc)? Did you bring a full suite of Sephora products and an extensive wardrobe or did you chill in hospital gowns the whole time? Slippers or shoes? Any particular post-partum care item (sneak peek for next week) like pads or nipple cream or did you rely on what the hospital provided? Did you pack anything to help kickstart nursing, like your nursing pillow or personal pump?
3) Are you an absolute saint who also packed along things for people other than you and baby? Items for partner/dad? Items for older kids? Cookies or gifts for nurses?
Please share!
Prior and Upcoming Product Spotlights
Re: Product Spotlight: Hospital Bag Essentials
that being said, there are definitely some nice to have items at the hospital with you. Remember basically anything you take with the intention of using it during labor may not come back looking as it did going in so don’t take anything you can’t replace or are truly in love with.
1. Pillow, hospital pillows aren’t the best. However, get a pillow protector and don’t take your nice and matching pillow case - throw on an old one before going. And don’t use a white case so it doesn’t get confused with a hospital pillow by the staff!
2. Hair brush, hair ties, headband, basically anything to keep your hair up and out of your face
3. Shower essentials (a nice travel size shampoo and conditioner, loofa and body wash, towel, and flip flops for the shower). They will get blood on them so take shoes that won’t stain.
4. Robe, socks, slippers, and 1-2 sets of comfortable and loose clothing for post delivery. Maternity clothing is fine as your belly will probably look how it does now when the baby comes out.
5. Breastfeeding pillow (even if you don’t plan to BF it’s still good for support in cradling the baby while feeding).
6. Basic makeup, hairdryer, toothbrush/paste etc if you want to feel human again after your shower
7. Music, phone, iPad, charger, etc. Basically entertainment for your couple of days there and a means to capture those easily moments.
8. Ear plugs, this may sound weird but hospitals are not all that quiet during the night. You will hear your baby (or your partner will) if they are in the room with you but tuning out the extra hospital noise is nice
9. Favorite snacks/drinks for post delivery
10. Going home outfit for baby
11. Lanolin lotion if you are going to BF (although I think most places will have this for you)
12. Car seat (okay the one essential - you can’t take the baby home without it).
Things you will not need:
1. Diapers and baby essentials - the hospital will have all of that there
2. Pads and underwear - use the mesh panties and the glorious ice packs and baby size pads they give you. Ask for more to take home
Helpful tips
1. Shower before you go in! Whether you have a scheduled birth or you have contractions that aren’t quite to the ‘I need to leave for the hospital stage yet’ get a shower in! Nothing like birthing a baby to make you feel disgusting!
2. Eat before you go, as once you are admitted there no food until after baby comes - which may be forever and possibly not until they move you to the recovery wing which can be an extra couple of hours on top of everything else. And after putting your body through the marathon of birth you need the energy
3. Have the car seat installed and bag packed a good few weeks before your due date. Make sure your partner or someone else knows where the bag is at if it’s not in your car so they can grab it in case you don’t go to the hospital from your house.
4. STM Have a good plan in place on what to do with your older kiddos a good month before your due date. And possibly a back up plan to that as well.
I'm one of those weird people who was totally fine with the hospital pillows, and the gown provided. The gown is a little revealing, so I had a nursing wrap thingy for when visitors came, I can't find a link now, I'll go home and check the company, but it's basically a flowy sweater, but with extra long front panels, so that you can fit the baby inside it. I love it, used it for both my boys, and will for this baby.
In terms of supplies, pads, soap, lanolin, etc. I used everything the hospital provided.
Here is the one thing that I regret not packing - scissors. After DS#1 I was so out of it, I didn't care about anything. But after DS#2 I made an usually fast recovery (the nurses all commented on how they couldn't believe how active I was.) I had let myself go down there the last few weeks, because I couldn't reach. Then once DS#2 showed up, all of a sudden I felt *tmi* uncomfortably gross and overgrown, it felt like blood was collecting there, and I hated it. I kept asking my mom and DH to bring the scissors from home, and they kept forgetting. The first thing I did when I got home was groom.
The things I really did use - a going home outfit (don't rely on the one you are coming in, my water broke all over mine), a going home outfit for baby, a car seat, a phone charger.
I did use my neck pillow that I sleep with every night. I spent most of my time in either comfy maternity yoga pants or sleep shorts and a nursing tank with a zip up over it when visitors came.
Contact lenses, glasses, tooth brush, facial cleanser
I never put makeup on
I did bring and use my boppy
My husband and I both ate some of the snacks we brought
This time I will bring my breast pump, but only because I have tiny nipples and I now know that the hospital does not have my correct flange size in the event that my daughter has trouble latching
I did wear flip flops walking around the room.
Going home outfit for baby and any swaddles or outfits for a photo
Something to wear home for yourself
Change of clothes for hubby
Nipple cream
I honestly can't think of anything else I'd pack this time.
Snacks. Toiletry bag....1st PP shower was magnificent and it felt nice to get back to "normal"
I was fine with hospital bedding and pillows. I liked having my own lounge clothes after though.
**slippers** or flip flops or something easy and quick to put on your feet.
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-Shower supplies
-Light make up (helped me feel more human)
-Chapstick!!!! Hospital air is so dry and I used this a ton during labor and recovery both times
-Hair brush, hair ties, toothbrush and paste
-Large bath sheet from home (total unpopular opinion but I despise hospital towels and having a huge towel to wrap up in felt amazing after showering)
-Clothes that are comfortable and nursing friendly, I changed as soon as I was able to after delivery
-Phone charger
-Snacks. DD was born at 1:41 a.m. and acess to food was minimal at that point so it was nice to have some items on hand.
-Going home outfit for baby
-Car seat
I definitely did not need:
-Baby supplies like diapers and wipes. We used what they had.
-Pads, underwear, etc... The hospital provided everything I needed to help with recovery
-Boppy pillow. While I love this at home I was easily able to surround myself with pillows for comfortable nursing
-Breast pump/breastfeeding supplies. The hospital provided them when necessary with DD. Did not need them at all with DS.
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I saw they have cute labor and delivery gowns so I might get myself that as a push present.
And I’ll have a few options for baby going home on it since DS2 barely fit into his lol
Ill bring my pillow and snacks.
Another thing to prep for in addition to child care is animal care. In our case we have horses, mules, dogs, cat and chickens that will need caring for while we are at the hospital. My parents live on our property so they will be caring for them during our time away from home.
Confession 2: I’m pretty low maintenance when it comes to makeup / grooming / etc.
What I used during labor and delivery:
-A hair tie
-My cell phone and a charging cable
-DH used his big fancy camera for immediately-after-delivery pictures
What I used during recovery:
-Nursing pillow (Boppy)
-I THINK I had a pillow from home, and I think maybe DH did too. He may also have brought a blanket from home. Hospital provided at least one sheet for him though.
-Basic toiletries (razor, comb, hairbrush, contacts & glasses)...can’t remember if I had my own hair dryer but I don’t think so...I vaguely remember being bummed the hospital only had combo shampoo/conditioner so I’ll probably bring my own this time.
-Going home outfit for me (nursing sports bra, nursing top, maternity yoga pants) and a going home outfit for the kid
-Car seat
*L&D used regular hospital gowns, but the recovery unit had these super soft and comfy cotton gowns that I wish I could have taken home! They also gave me the special hospital socks with the grippy things on the bottom.
@chillycanadian - I don’t know if you’ve heard this, but ppl at home kept telling me to bring my own toilet paper. Apparently the hospitals there only stock the rough single-ply variety and it’s not what you want to use after delivery. The fact that I had a c-section and my hospital was like delivering at a 4-star hotel made it kind of a moot point for me, but thought I would pass the local tip along.
And to address labor accessories (whether at home pre-hospital or for people who can bring their own), I want to recommend the big bouncy labor ball. It was very nice for my back and belly during contractions. Also baths! I was ready to leave for the hospital when I did, but the one thing I regretted leaving behind at home was my bath! They did have a bathtub in my birthing room but I was too out of it during my long weird labor to use it.
Also be sure to have a contraction-timing app beforehand! It looks like The Bump app now has a contraction timer so that may work. The one I have is very simple, it's called "Full Term."
@olivemomma I've heard of using squirt bottles! But how do you dry after if not TP? Drip dry for an hour? (I've always wondered about that with bidets lol)
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When you tour your hospital, be sure to sit on the sleeping space they have for your significant other. By the third kid, DH brought a cot to sleep on. We also bring our own pillows.
I bring my own toiletries because I have super sensitive skin and am really sensitive to scent
I bring clothes for post delivery as well because I just prefer to wear my.own clothes. I shower as soon as possible. Literally no shower will make you feel better than the first shower post delivery. It's like you go in as one person and you come back out a mom (or mom of two, three, etc.)
And I bring my own towels, usually black. Hospital towels get bleached and washed and dried at such high temps that they are not soft, whatsoever.
I also bring clothes for baby. The only thing our hospital provides, clothes wise, for baby is a white shirt and blankets. So I always bring some onesies, a going home outfit, and clothes for the photoshoot because our hospital has optional professional photography.
DH always brings a hoodie and sweatpants. I like things cold. And if I just pushed out s baby you bet your sweet ass that room is gonna be in the 60's afterward.
If you even think you might use a pacifier I'd bring one. When my sons were born the hospital provided them. But when we had DD the hospital had become "baby friendly" and no longer provided them to babies that weren't preemie. I don't breastfeed. So over never had a reason to refuse a binkie. Luckily DS2 was 2 at the time and still used a binkie so I randomly had one in the pocket of the pants I wore to the hospital haha
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As for pads the first week or so I used the ones provided by the hospital. And for DS#1 I used Depends for a little while after that, then I used Kotex, (which is what I use for my period). With DS#2 I went right to Kotex.
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I’ve said this before, but if a c-section is a possibility do not plan to wear pants home. Luckily we are having summer babies, so lose dresses are a good option.
I always wore regular workout/lounge pants home (3 vaginal deliveries.) I have one September baby and 2 January babies. The January babies i probably wore a jacket home. And DS1 I think I wore my most comfortable broken in shirt home.
As far as pads go I used U by Kotex. But they recently changed them so I started using a brand called L. that I found at Target, but I don't think they would be good for post partum bleeding.
Has anyone actually made padsicles? I ran it by my mom and she thought they sounded wonderful, but I don't know anyone who has actually used them. I can't decide if they sound refreshing or kind of gross.
As for padsicles, I did not make my own, but used the ones provided by the hospital while I was there, and they were great, but really only necessary (at least for me) that first day or two.
So I Imagine post delivery you wouldn't want anything Less than overnight. With wings. But it's different so I really can't say for sure. Though getting a pack of super absorbancy might be a good idea too, since eventually things have to get lighter. And overnight are more expensive.
My regular periods are heavy enough that I've always had to use tampon with a pad. (And had tried the diva cup for 6 months prior to this pregnancy. It didn't work for my heavy days, unless I was home to change it every 90 min.Even with a pad back up.
but it was great for overnight with a pad back up. But obviously those aren't options post delivery lol.)
I still have 2 pairs of unused mesh undies from the hospital. So I plan to use those for the first bit. And hopefully acquire some more after delivery haha
My point: take alllll the stuff they give you at the hospital. Then ask for more. This especially applies to pads and mesh panties.