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Weekly Bitchfest 4/22/19
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I can't wait for someone else to start this thread.
I'm f---ing done with my mother in law. We held Passover at our house on Friday night. DD is 2.5 y.o. she sat through over an hour of the Seder. I was incredibly proud of her. When she got up to play in the living room she asked my permission and I said fine. I also was okay with her eating in there. It's my house. My mother in law came in at least five times to tell DD to come back to the table. I told her each time that DD is fine and I will stay with her.
I'm petty. I decided to announce at dinner that I have a job interview in another state and that my husband is very excited to be a stay at home dad if I get it. While that is true, it is a long shot and I only did it to upset her.
I'm f---ing done with my mother in law. We held Passover at our house on Friday night. DD is 2.5 y.o. she sat through over an hour of the Seder. I was incredibly proud of her. When she got up to play in the living room she asked my permission and I said fine. I also was okay with her eating in there. It's my house. My mother in law came in at least five times to tell DD to come back to the table. I told her each time that DD is fine and I will stay with her.
I'm petty. I decided to announce at dinner that I have a job interview in another state and that my husband is very excited to be a stay at home dad if I get it. While that is true, it is a long shot and I only did it to upset her.
Re: Weekly Bitchfest 4/22/19
Mine for this week (so far): Why is it that some maternity brands only think people size 10-12 and under should be allowed to have cute maternity clothes? Especially since some people that ARE that size or smaller are probably bigger than that during pregnancy. Between that and bridal/vanity sizing, it's like brands want you to feel fat(ter than you are) the two times of your life you're most self-conscious about it...
We are having an ongoing battle because she takes issues with my parenting. My FIL was a pediatrician who retired in 1991. Because she was married to a pediatrician, she thinks she knows everything about children. DD is in OT because she is falling constantly and is displaying signs of anxiety. My MIL asked for my daughter's pediatricians number to call her and tell her why OT is inappropriate.
Also, if pediatrics and medicine hasn't advanced since 1991, that means my DH can just skip his annual CME requirement, right (kidding, obvi)? JFC that's almost 30 years of advancements and changes.
@greeneyedgirl12 ok, the 30 years since 1991 made me feel so old!!!! Then I did the math and I feel worse. I am fully with you on the only smaller/average sized women get to have cute pregnancy bumps and beautiful wedding dresses. The smallest size I have been as an adult is a size 13 and that was after a 4 month long stomach issue where I lost 40lbs because I could not eat. I have started every pregnancy at a size 16 or bigger. Not that I even have stores near me this time around, but the hahahaha maternity section at my local walmart is a joke. If I want a T-shirt (they have 1 in 2 different colors) I'm good. If I want bottoms of any kind I am shit out of luck because even their "plus sizes" don't actually fit. Besides being plus sized I'm tall, so ordering online is not really an option - you don't get free shipping and returns when you live in Alaska, and it is too expensive to order stuff and hope.
I believe we are now spending our 1st wedding anniversary weekend moving my SIL out of my MIL's house..MIL passed away two months ago, SIL has been living there trying to sort through her stuff (she hasn't done shit) and now needs to be out by end of May. With my husband working weekends, and the weekends he is home is spent on home projects prepping for baby, it leaves our anniversary the only weekend we can go help her. She drives me insane, she is 50 something years old, she needs to get her shit together. So over it.
Long post, because typing it out will help me vent haha.
Apparently it is family drama bitch week, because that is what mine is about too. A few weeks ago I had asked my mom about shower, not anticipating her to throw it, but she had mentioned my aunt said she would. I told her I just needed to get some dates in because our weekends were starting to fill up with some other stuff. She went on this long rant about how grandmothers to be do not throw showers and that she wouldn't throw one. Ok whatever. My sister said she would throw my shower, is super excited to do it and I'm very thankful. Today I messaged my mom and with the guest list not wanting to miss anyone. My parents are divorced and I had invited my dad's mom, she wasn't allowed to be invited to anything when we got married. She was treated so poorly by my mom at out our wedding I doubt she'd even come, just wanted to extend the invite. So after seeing that my mom said to take, her, her friends, and her family off the list and then said that she would throw her own shower and I could come or not. I got really upset, thanks hormones haha, and cried at work, then had to explain why to my boss/office mate which was embarrassing. And now I'm just upset, I had explained it would be unlikely my grandmother would even come and she still had to be mean and petty. Even if she does come, you can't just suck it up for a couple hours, you're not the one having the baby, I am. Also, don't know who would attend a baby shower if the mother of the baby isn't even there. And I know that some moms don't get showers at all, so I'm cognizant of that, I just didn't realize it would be so crazy with my mom.
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There is a black hole in my kitchen and I have lost 1/2 of a 5lb bag of whole bean Black Beard's Coffee
My second pissing the shit out of me moment is I work in NYC and no one is offering me a seat on the subway and lately the new thing which is even more annoying to me is when I open the door to walk into Port all the people leaving Port pretend I am their pregnant doorman and stream by blocking me from entering and forcing me to hold the door for them. In the past I would curse them out in my head cause too many crazies out there, but yesterday as each of them walked by I gave them a 'go fuck yourself I'm pregnant' as loud as possible
For my BIL, they went to the hospital and waited while his girlfriend was in labor for like 17 hours. Why? They told us that she was in labor and asked when we were going to get there to wait with them. I was like, WHY? Tell them to call me when they are ready for us to come and visit. Found out he was knocking on the door while she was pushing asking what was taking so long....... ARE YOU F-ING KIDDING ME? Umm... no wonder the girl (now ex) doesn't like you.
I got a little snippy on Easter because my MIL was telling me all the things I'm going to "have to do next year." Like the Easter bunny and what not... I'm like yeah, she'll be 8-9 months old. She won't care. We (my hubs and I) will decide what traditions we will have for OUR family. You had your time with your kids, now leave me be. She still gets me and my husband, BIL, and all the grandkids an Easter basket every year. I take the candy home and throw it away every year. I don't want it. And I don't think my kid needs TWO. It will ruin the magic.
My bitchfest is work... I’m an MRI tech, and I work at an outpatient clinic. We have a total of 3 techs, one for MRI, one for CT, and one for XR. We had one of our techs ask for Monday off a few weeks ago. Totally cool, we’re down to 2 techs. We can handle it. I walked in yesterday only to find out my other coworker called in “sick” and my boss didn’t realize that the 2nd person was already scheduled off. So guess who had to do 11+ MRI’s and 2 walk in XR’s (they turned away many more because I was busy with other exams)... I did it all by myself, at 29 weeks pregnant. No one got my patients, no one changed my table over. I had no lunch break and didn’t get the 2 15 min breaks that we are supposed to get throughout the day. At the end of the day, one of the front desk ladies assumed it would be okay to overload me with some XR’s before asking if it was okay when I was getting ready to go get my last MRI. I broke down and cried. I couldn’t do it. I was in so much pain, SPD pain, SI pain, headache from not eating... on top of it, my OB called to tell me I failed the GD test and now I have to do the 3hr on Thursday. Daycare called, said DD had a horrible rash on her private’s and we needed to come get her. Seriously, horrible day overall. I send my boss an email today about it saying that I was overwhelmed and that I need help and to please try not to do this again, especially while I’m pregnant. He basically said, eff you, the scheduled looked fine to me. No apology for being the only tech. No, here, let’s buy you lunch because you’re all alone. I just felt soooo unappreciated and it made me want to not come in today. As it was, I shed a few tears at the beginning of the day. I’m not sure if it’s because I didn’t want to be here, fear of it happening again, PTSD... I dunno, but I’m so angry that my boss doesn’t support me.
My bitch this week, and usually I try to avoid bitching, is also about my mother in law. I agree it could be a lot worse, but she’s requested that my husband build something for her at her house for Mother’s Day (some kind of enclosure for her trash bins). Her and FIL have been divorced for almost 20 years now so he’s the only “male figure” she has to do those kinds of projects. DH has been working 6 days a week lately so that leaves no day to do it other than Mother’s Day, because he’s golfing the Sunday before. It’s not a small project so it’ll take him the majority of the day..... which will leave me alone on Mother’s Day with DS. I’m slightly annoyed because I feel like she still doesn’t see me as a mom and she thinks she takes precedent on this holiday. I hardly see DH as it is and was really looking forward to having our family together for a “mom-centered” holiday. Ugh. I have half a mind to request she watch DS while DH is doing the construction so I have a little free time to myself.... but I don’t even know if it’s worth getting mad over the potential rejection of that idea.
But seriously. If you want to go grab a coffee or ice cream, let me know and you can let off some steam!
Conclusive to this week’s bitchfest: MILs REALLY suck.
@hakele I may have to take you up on that!
And maybe I’m being the selfish one now, but I really really don’t want to spend my day making weird small talk with her while DH is outside 😂
all good solutions to the problem though, but I’d rather just take DS out and spend the day alone if that’s my best option
Ive definitely muttered under my breath “yeah... you should definitely cut off the pregnant lady. Go ahead!”
Also. I had the best MIL. She was quirky but helpful and kind and understood boundaries. I really miss her... it’s my mom that drives me crazy. She’s a mess.
Also? My parents seem totally underwhelmed about this baby. It didn’t bother me before but it does now.
Also, tell him you want Mother’s Day. That you understand it can’t be the actual day (assuming he won’t push the day of work out), but then your present is the NEXT Sunday, whatever you want. You deserve to be pampered!!
@mamahmh2 I hope something maybe changes so you get the Mother's Day you deserve with your whole family!
thank you all ladies! I appreciate your kind words and helpful suggestions. It’ll all work out and Mother’s Day can wait for me if it has to. 😊
But I took advantage of the early wakeup to do more labor intensive look with my makeup - takes 20 minutes instead of 5 - and felt super cute most of the day. Took a pic, posted it, and of course my MIL had to post "you don't need makeup you're beautiful without it". 😡 Never said I needed it, I like it. And I have yet to meet the person that when told they don't need makeup actually feels better about themselves, me I end u feeling angry or guilty at being vain and enjoying makeup. I told her to stop telling me "you don't need makeup " all she is doing is making me feel bad. I haven't read her response yet.
@quinniebear They are ridiculous. Sorry you have to deal with that!