You guys weren’t kidding about the TDAP vaccine being painful 😭 I got it yesterday and my arm is in rough shape today. It feels like it should be all black and blue. The word “sore” feels woefully inadequate.
@msimi I feel your pain (literally)! I got mine yesterday and it was so sore I couldn't sleep on my left side. It hurts to even put lotion on that arm @indulgentgypsy Ugh, I hate when people say that. The guy I dated before DH used to visibly groan when I wore makeup and say, "You don't need that." I don't understand how people assume that a woman who wears makeup is dissatisfied with her natural appearance or that telling her she doesn't "need" makeup is somehow boosting her self-confidence. You clearly spent a lot of effort on your makeup today, and for someone to imply you shouldn't have done that is like saying a work of art you created was a waste of time.
I just wanna pop my hubby upside the head sometimes. He asked me earlier today what I wanted to do for dinner before our class at the hospital tonight. I said what I specifically wanted. And his response was, "Oh no, I don't want Noodles & Co." Well, why the F did you ask me then? You NEVER want what I do.
Also, I am having the hardest time with patience. Pregnancy has made me the most impatient person ever. I just cannot handle people being stupid. Stop being dumb. Stop beating a dead horse. Use your f-ing brains! Pay attention to the people around you. Ugh. I just can't. It is making me so cross all the time.
@hakele you=me. For the entire history of our relationship, DH has shot down what I want for dinner. Exact same thing as your DH. He'll say he doesn't care, but nix all of my suggestions. Thankfully, that hasn't been a problem since we left Omaha. Hard to be picky when there are only a handful of places to eat.
Also the same on impatience. I am constantly telling myself I dont have time for this bullshit. Wasting my time makes me VERY pissy these days.
Hahaha! I’m in the mood for a hubby gripe, too! Mine has never understood the meal planning process, as in, even the basics like...how much groceries it takes per week to keep food on the table (now I know the gravity of that expression!). So, last time I went to the grocery store, he told me I was overdoing it, pushing myself, and didn’t need to go shopping (pregnancy energy concerns). I felt fine, by the way, and actually needed to get out and walk. He insisted. Like I was a crazy grocery addict...
So, after years of trying to explain the need for groceries, and planning meals, I lost my shit, in a series of texts while shopping. Last straw!! Never question me again, and if you want to be helpful, shut up and meet me at the car when I get home! WHO in the world grocery shops more than they have to?? He met me at the car and helped put things away, most of them where they belong. Good enough. That had better be a closed case!
When you're in your third trimester, you didn't sleep well last night because you had a vivid dream about giving birth and it amps your anxiety. You're tired and need a nap, but your hubby wants to go fishing after getting off work at one. Even though he's going to the mountains two weekends this month to fish. You're trying to put on a brave face and hold it together and not get upset. Then he has the audacity to say pregnancy is just a bunch of excuses...yeeahh, wrong thing to say to me right now😫 Sitting here crying while my two year old naps and my four year old watches a movie and my husband is fishing. Just want to be done already!!
@kingdommom Some men just don't realize that their selfishness and habits prove to us women that we are strong and we can do it without them. When we finally have that realization it's too late for them to fix it too. Nothing aggravates me more than a man with zero sympathy or understanding to the major life change having children can do to us too. It's an adjustment and we are hormonal. Your excessive friend trips (don't need to disappear) but need to be considerate of what I'm going through and him still being an active member of the family.
I give all of us permission to bop our husbands upside the head at least once this weekend! Seriously, just when they say the dumb thing, just bop 'em one.... or maybe kick them in the bladder... because then they can know what it is like a little more.
For the record, I did go off on my hubby last night. That if he asks what I want, then he should assume that we'll be doing just that. K, thanks, bye.
Kick ‘em in the bladder!! 😂 That woke me up from my near-nap state! I’ve made such efforts to not think men are mentally permanent teenagers... but damn it... I’ll definitely be raising this boy to have domestic skills and understand the menstrual cycle and how women are doing everything a man can...”backwards and in heels!” Gender roles just don’t change in a couple of generations...after hundreds of thousands of years... Hubs is way more “evolved” than his dad, and he’s conscientious...but I need like another 5 generations of gender role evolution right now!
Not sure if this fits better here or in the name thread but one of DH's good friends from high school's wife just had a baby and they used the name we both liked best for baby girl (Blake). We hadn't 100% decided on it, but now we have to nix it so it's back to the drawing board. Ugh. I'm feeling SO impatient and am sick of thinking about names. For all my GOT people, we keep joking "a girl has no name."
I just got home from a two week work trip to find that someone cleaned (either MIL or someone she hired). So many things in our bedroom have been moved around... Things have been stacked up in my closet. I can’t bend really well these days and I’m about to cry just thinking about the extra effort to put things back where I want and had them, getting the baby’s things back out of my closet where I can reach them again, and see what got squashed on the bottom. Probably all my canvas are damaged... I’m so exhausted and I don’t need this extra work. I don’t understand how this was “helping” and I’m not feeling thankful. I’d rather have come home to dust.
I can’t even get the lamp on my nightstand plugged back in because my baby bump won’t allow me to reach behind the headboard. I can’t deal with this tonight.... I'm just going to sulk in the dark
@msimi Sounds like this girl needs to be named Arya... ha. But if you like the name why not keep it? Why not a variation? Blakely? It’s your child, and you shouldn’t have to change what you like because someone else “took” your top name.
I had a friend who knowingly named their son the same as mine, which although not super unusual is quite uncommon enough to make me side-eye their decision for a long time. I later found out that it was a family name for them and all was forgiven.
My husband is installing a new sliding patio door tomorrow, he invited his cousin and his best friend to come help. Which is fine. But now I find out that they are both bringing all their kids ..5 in total ranging from 2 - 7yrs. I know the best friend assumes I’ll be babysitting. I told my husband no way in hell. So he told him that I’m not watching his kids that he is responsible for them ( it’s happened to me before, hence my irritation) plus now we are feeding all these people. My husband and I are homebodies and don’t go out much. We keep to ourselves so a house full of people already sounds annoying to me. I’m trying to find errands to run so that I don’t have to be home.
@jenniferjoy37 😂. I think we would have considered still naming it if we were 100% set on it but since we had been going back and forth it just feels like we should pick another name. @Cbeanz I know! They had no idea we’d been thinking about that name so no foul on their part but it makes me want to pick a name so we can go ahead and let everyone know.
@keebler6elf Oh my god, I’m so sorry! I would freak out if my things had been rearranged like that- and especially without someone asking first!! And some of your things got squished? I would be seeing red! And you can’t reach things? Ahhhh! And what sucks worse is that it was done with good intentions, so you’ll come off as ungrateful if you say it sucked instead of helped. I don’t know how I would handle it diplomatically- since if you don’t say you don’t want that kind of “help”, it could happen again. Maybe have your hubs do all the rearranging for you, especially the moves you can’t exert yourself to do...and he’ll understand the pain in the ass that was created...and can help prevent your MIL from doing it again...what a crappy surprise! I feel your pain! Good luck with it!
@jennm0724 I can’t believe the fact that you already have kids means it’s cool to just pile on more, and feed everyone, and in the third tri!!! Super clueless!!
@msimi@mamanbebe@cbeanz I agree. I feel bad because our boy name, James, is a name my step-cousin (stepdad's niece) used, but it's a SUPER common name, AND a family name for my DH over multiple generations. If it was a more uncommon name and/or not a family name, I'd probably try to switch it, but I don't feel like she can be that mad given how common it is and the family factor...
Re: Weekly Bitchfest 4/22/19
@indulgentgypsy Ugh, I hate when people say that. The guy I dated before DH used to visibly groan when I wore makeup and say, "You don't need that." I don't understand how people assume that a woman who wears makeup is dissatisfied with her natural appearance or that telling her she doesn't "need" makeup is somehow boosting her self-confidence. You clearly spent a lot of effort on your makeup today, and for someone to imply you shouldn't have done that is like saying a work of art you created was a waste of time.
He asked me earlier today what I wanted to do for dinner before our class at the hospital tonight. I said what I specifically wanted. And his response was, "Oh no, I don't want Noodles & Co."
Well, why the F did you ask me then? You NEVER want what I do.
Also, I am having the hardest time with patience. Pregnancy has made me the most impatient person ever. I just cannot handle people being stupid. Stop being dumb. Stop beating a dead horse. Use your f-ing brains! Pay attention to the people around you. Ugh. I just can't. It is making me so cross all the time.
Also the same on impatience. I am constantly telling myself I dont have time for this bullshit. Wasting my time makes me VERY pissy these days.
Mine has never understood the meal planning process, as in, even the basics like...how much groceries it takes per week to keep food on the table (now I know the gravity of that expression!).
So, last time I went to the grocery store, he told me I was overdoing it, pushing myself, and didn’t need to go shopping (pregnancy energy concerns). I felt fine, by the way, and actually needed to get out and walk. He insisted. Like I was a crazy grocery addict...
So, after years of trying to explain the need for groceries, and planning meals, I lost my shit, in a series of texts while shopping. Last straw!! Never question me again, and if you want to be helpful, shut up and meet me at the car when I get home! WHO in the world grocery shops more than they have to??
He met me at the car and helped put things away, most of them where they belong. Good enough. That had better be a closed case!
I just want this God Awful stretching feeling to end, but there’s at least 7 more weeks of it. Gah, it sucks so much.
Some men just don't realize that their selfishness and habits prove to us women that we are strong and we can do it without them. When we finally have that realization it's too late for them to fix it too. Nothing aggravates me more than a man with zero sympathy or understanding to the major life change having children can do to us too. It's an adjustment and we are hormonal. Your excessive friend trips (don't need to disappear) but need to be considerate of what I'm going through and him still being an active member of the family.
Seriously, just when they say the dumb thing, just bop 'em one.... or maybe kick them in the bladder... because then they can know what it is like a little more.
For the record, I did go off on my hubby last night. That if he asks what I want, then he should assume that we'll be doing just that. K, thanks, bye.
I’ve made such efforts to not think men are mentally permanent teenagers... but damn it...
I’ll definitely be raising this boy to have domestic skills and understand the menstrual cycle and how women are doing everything a man can...”backwards and in heels!”
Gender roles just don’t change in a couple of generations...after hundreds of thousands of years...
Hubs is way more “evolved” than his dad, and he’s conscientious...but I need like another 5 generations of gender role evolution right now!
I can’t even get the lamp on my nightstand plugged back in because my baby bump won’t allow me to reach behind the headboard. I can’t deal with this tonight.... I'm just going to sulk in the dark
@Cbeanz I know! They had no idea we’d been thinking about that name so no foul on their part but it makes me want to pick a name so we can go ahead and let everyone know.
Oh my god, I’m so sorry! I would freak out if my things had been rearranged like that- and especially without someone asking first!! And some of your things got squished? I would be seeing red! And you can’t reach things? Ahhhh!
And what sucks worse is that it was done with good intentions, so you’ll come off as ungrateful if you say it sucked instead of helped.
I don’t know how I would handle it diplomatically- since if you don’t say you don’t want that kind of “help”, it could happen again. Maybe have your hubs do all the rearranging for you, especially the moves you can’t exert yourself to do...and he’ll understand the pain in the ass that was created...and can help prevent your MIL from doing it again...what a crappy surprise! I feel your pain! Good luck with it!
@jennm0724
I can’t believe the fact that you already have kids means it’s cool to just pile on more, and feed everyone, and in the third tri!!! Super clueless!!