This thread is a safe place for those who are pregnant after a loss. (PGAL). If you have suffered a loss please feel free to answer the questions below and keep things going throughout the week as a continuing conversation.
If you haven’t suffered a loss, please refrain from answering the questions, but know we welcome anyone who wants to come in and support the PGAL ladies and their milestones with encouragement or love tits! Thank you!
1. How many weeks are you?
2. Previous loss(es)?
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
4. Any appointment updates?
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up?
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation?
Re: April PGAL
2. Previous loss(es)? 15 week loss due to a large SCH.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally I'm better that week. Physically, my nausea has increased some.
4. Any appointment updates? I had an US yesterday and I only have 1 SCH instead of 2. It is 1cm×1.8cm. So still kinda big but I'm hoping another week of bedrest will be enough to heal it.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? I was told today that I have to get my US in my OB's office or in the radiology department. I was going to another OB office in the building. Apparently my OB wasn't getting my scans and the other OB was. I have no clue how much an US in radiology will cost. So I'm a little annoyed.
6. Any milestones coming up? 15 weeks is my only milestone.
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation? I would love to go to Europe. I will likely wait until my kids are much older so they can come with me or completely grown so I wouldn't feel as bad leaving them.
2. Previous loss(es)? 20 week loss due to pprom (water broke)
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Physically ok, still exhausted and had a headache that has finally gone away after 3 days (I miss Advil). Emotionally, ughhh, just need to have this baby in my arms
4. Any appointment updates? got my NIPT results back, everything looks good, decided to wait to find out gender
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
6. Any milestones coming up? have my first tri screening next week, so excited to make sure baby looks good and to see the growth, last pregnancy I remember being so shocked at how much the baby looked like an actual baby at that point, and less of a blob. I should have a cerclage placed shortly after this appt, so kind of anxious about that.
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation? I'd love to have a private hut in the middle of the water, like fiji or something, a crazy exotic vacation, I will probably never be able to take!
@emeraldcity1214 hopefully your scans dont cost too much. My cousin took his young firstborn to Europe but now they have 3 and don't have plans to return. The one who got to go probably won't even remember it.
@ShadysLady I've always said I don't want to find out the gender and my friends get so frustrated. I might change my mind when I actually approach a time to find out but right now I think it would be nice.
2. Previous loss(es)? 25 weeks cord accident, and 6 weeks
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? My physical symptoms have really let up, thank God. The nausea was overwhelming. Still not feeling very emotionally connected to this pregnancy yet. My husband definitely is and it’s kind of awkward. He’s brainstorming names and figuring out how to arrange bedrooms and Im just not there.
4. Any appointment updates? Ultrasound coming up a week from today
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation? I’d really like to book a one way ticket to Asia and just hop around without a plan for a couple months.
@katyl90 Im not a beach person because I can’t deal with the crowds. That’s not a vacation to me. Not crowded would be wonderful though!
1. How many weeks are you? 8w4d
2. Previous loss(es)? 5w
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally, I'm doing much better after hearing a strong heartbeat at my first appointment. Physically, the nausea and fatigue is hitting hard this week.
4. Any appointment updates? We had a great first appointment! They didn't do any blood work this time around, so I'm anxious to have that done in about 3 weeks to ensure everything is fine there.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave- my pup has started hanging out with his head on my belly whenever he can which is just about the sweetest thing I can imagine!
6. Any milestones coming up? I'm letting my in laws and siblings know this weekend at Easter lunch so that's rather exciting!
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation? My dream vacation would probably be going back to Germany but maybe for Oktoberfest this time!
I do truly wish I had known more about my little angel baby. I feel like it's harder to work through the grief when the person your mourning doesn't have a name/identity.
10+2
2. Previous loss(es)?
1 loss (7 weeks) prior to having my son. Two chemical pregnancies this year while we were TTC.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Physically the symptoms vary day to day. Lots of nausea and breast tenderness. Low symptom days scare me, so I prefer the nausea. Been getting some discomfort from uterine expanding and that gets me nervous too.
4. Any appointment updates?
Had my initial ultrasound last week. All good, strong heartbeat. It was reassuring.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
Not today, just "Hi! I am new here"
6. Any milestones coming up?
Nuchal Translucency and NIPT in two weeks.
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation?
Oh gosh, any vacation really. We haven't been on a vacation in so long! I think if we could go anywhere I would pick New Zealand. It looks beautiful and I would love to see a different sky full of different stars.
AFM......I have another follow up US today. I tried to find the HB on my doppler last night but couldn't. I'm not too worried because that's happened before and then I found it the next day. It would have just been great to have that reassurance. I think I need to buy some more gel for my doppler because I'm almost out and that may be what the problem is. My doppler is more reassuring than US because last time I had a great US and then a few days later the baby was gone. I think I will be anxious until I have gone a few weeks after my SCH has healed.
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I'm trying not to be discouraged but it's hard. I was really hoping they would be healed by now and I could just relax.
The HB was strong beating away at 171.
Congratulations on the strong heartbeat! I'm comforted by the knowledge that our babies are getting bigger every day, so a 1 cm SCH keeps getting smaller in comparison. I'm so frustrated for you, though! I was hoping the modified bed rest would clear them up. You're in my thoughts and prayers.
I told the nurse that I'm not going to go out of the office for another US. I'm going to suck it up and go back in that room. I already bawled my eyes out in front of everyone after my first US. I was even shaking in the one I had today because I was just so nervous and scared. I seriously think I may have PTSD or something. My doctor mentioned it awhile back when she offered to find me a new doctor. I'm suppose to be starting counseling sessions next week. So I'm hoping that will help me process everything.
8w 3d
2. Previous loss(es)?
7w- spontaneous miscarriage and a chemical pregnancy
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically?
Physically just a little tired and absolutely starving allllll the time. Boob soreness comes and goes and today it's minimal. Emotionally I'm just a little anxious since I really don't have too many symptoms and the ones I do have come and go.
4. Any appointment updates?
I had my first ultrasound on 4/12 at 7w3d and the baby was measuring 7w2d with a heartbeat of 132. It was sooo great to see that little flicker on the screen. I also had my intake appointment with my Obgyn office where they did all sorts of blood work.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions?
I know it's crazy to wish for, but I just wish I had more symptoms so that I could "feel" pregnant. The first 2 miscarriages have kind of robbed me of the overall excitement, but I'm trying to stay positive.
6. Any milestones coming up?
I have my first appointment with my OB next wednesday 4/24 and I have another ultrasound that morning.
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation?
My dream vacation would be to take an exorbitant time off of work (like 6 months) and travel all over the world with my husband.
1. How many weeks are you? 8week and 1 day
2. Previous loss(es)? 4 early losses in the last year, 1 failed IVF cycle that retrieved 2 PGS abnormal embryos.
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally, I’m a mess! I have major anxiety about this pregnancy but I’m trying desperately to enjoy this. Physically, I’m a bit worried, I’ve had some spotting (not for about a week now) and my symptoms have definitely lessened since last week. I’m on endometrium, so I’m assuming the spotting is from that. As for symptoms, I know they can ebb and flow, but with my son I was pretty consistently sick until 14 weeks.
4. Any appointment updates? We graduated from my RE’s office this week! We were gearing up to start another IVF cycle and had started estrogen priming when we got this positive test, so the clinic offered to monitor me for the first several weeks. We had betas that doubled in 72 hours, which was emotionally tough, but the fifth one I had drawn more than doubled (and on my birthday, so that was nice!). We had a 6 week ultrasound and saw a heartbeat of 106. Our 7w 5d ultrasound showed a 65% gain and a heartbeat of 165, which was a huge relief! So m, this week we signed our release papers and we go to my OB for an intake appt in two weeks, but won’t see my midwife until 13 weeks 😬😬😬. I’m hoping to get an ultrasound at the end of 11 weeks, but they won’t schedule that until the intake appointment.
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? Has anyone had very strong a symptoms (sore boobs, nausea) hang around for 2 weeks then almost disappear? I’m trying to remember how I felt with my son (he’s 2.5), but I don’t remember feeling a break in the nausea until the second trimester.
6. Any milestones coming up? I’m considering every day a milestone!
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation? I’ve already been, but I want to go back to Kauai! It was the happiest place with the most deliciously fresh food. The only thing keeping me is the long plane ride from the east coast, and the nonexistent vacation fund!
2. Previous loss(es)? July 18 (9w, didn't know until 11week Us)
3. How are you feeling? Emotionally and physically? Emotionally (I've wanted to punch my husband in the face for no good reason, because he said something encouraging and I took it sarcastically)...Physically, I haven't had any morning sickness for the last 10 weeks, but week 11 I started feeling Nausea.
4. Any appointment updates? 22 April CVS (very anxious)
5. Rants/Raves/Questions? None, just practice doing the posting...although..i just found out what a rainbow baby is..today.
6. Any milestones coming up? CVS.
7. GTKY? What is your dream vacation?
I’m feeling better now that I’m sick again 🥴 This has definitely been my worst week sickness wise, but very reassuring. I’m looking forward to my intake appointment at my ob office this week so we can start to get this show on the road!
@rogro118 I totally understand about feeling reassured by sickness! I'm still really sick too, but I think I'd be a lot more worried if I felt better.
I'm feeling a little less anxious, now that I'm nearly 11 weeks, although some days are worse than others. My second ultrasound is only a week away now, so I'm happy that I'll have some definite information soon. My first was at barely six weeks, so, although it was (mostly) positive, there's been a lot of time for me to worry that something has gone wrong. On a positive note, I finally bought something for the baby this week (a new diaper bag! I got a backpack for my first, and quickly discovered that I do not like wearing a backpack everywhere anymore). Buying something was a really big step for me, since last time, the first things I bought were some maternity clothes that got here a few days after I miscarried. I tend to prepare for the worst, but I think I am finally ready to let myself think that this will work out.
I don’t know if I had a nightmare or what but I woke up in the middle of the night in a panic about placenta accreta. I am not feeling confident at all about VBAC and I just wish there was clear cut answers. I’m trying to just put it out of my mind for now but PGAL brain just makes me focus so intently on risks of every little thing.
@drama_llama I hope you have a good scan Thursday!
My doppler was delivered the other day, I got the Sonoline B. I haven’t been able to find the heartbeat yet, but I’m only 10 weeks tomorrow so I’m going to try again this weekend 🤞🏻🤞🏻. I have my intake appointment on Friday, it is with just a nurse and they ask a million questions, do a urine test, and basic bloodwork. They’ll also schedule my NT scan which I’m looking forward to. I’m so excited to get going with appointments, and moving forward with this pregnancy so I can start worrying less. I feel guilty for wishing the time away, but this constant worry is so hard! Is anyone else feeling this way?