Re: racism. I read "small great things" by jodi picoult and i really appreciated the new perspective (edit: new to me)
TTGP history (*TW*):
Started TTC Oct 2015 BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016 Re-started TTC Aug 2016 Started IF testing Nov 2016 Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017 BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
I really try not to be a "my way or the highway" person. I live in a purple (red) state and that has actually been really good for me. I grew up in such a liberal bubble that I didn't even realize I was a my way or highway person, I just didn't realize that there were people that truly believed different. But being friends with more moderate/conservative people have taught me how to have intelligent discourse. However, I will draw the line at actual human rights issues and denying people human decency. That to me is a non-starter. FDR used to be one of my favorite presidents, but living through Trump's separation of families and locking children up policies has been a huge eye opening. A politician can do a million great things, but locking people up just because of where they're from/descended from/believe in is a non-starter and I can never support a politician who supports that policy or friends with someone who either supports it or is able to overlook it.
Me 31 DH 34 TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15 NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
While my mom is from New England (my parents divorced when I was young, my dad's from the Pittsburgh area), I grew up military and absolutely surrounded by Republicans. Because of that, I had a really hard time - while growing up - discussing politics with my family because they were so hard-core Left and 99% of the time I was surrounded by people whose opinions were similar to my parents (both military) and the ones I began to develop. A few of my views always had me as a Centrist, though I always voted Republican at every election. With the changes over the last few years, though, I've become a bit more Left because those few issues that put me in the Center have become major focuses and I just can't "vote with my wallet" like I have in the past.
I really enjoy discourse with anyone, no matter how similar or dissimilar our views because it allows me to question my own thoughts and do more, recent research ... which usually either further solidifies my original thoughts or can sway me towards the other side (and I have changed "sides" on several issues). I don't mind differences of opinions, as long as there is respect on both sides and they are backed with some sort of fact-based information and not just feelings. I feel a lot of things, but it doesn't mean that I'm right about them. When people base things in emotions, that's when feelings get hurt and discussions become arguments and people start attacking the person, not the thought. That's where I draw the line (and people get cut out of my life).
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
I think I need to edit my original UO because after giving it more thought, I think it's more that I can deal with the people who are conspiracy theorist. I have a lot of friends with different opinions, but it's when they get into this territory of false flags or the government poisoning us that I just cannot. But I imagine that's not really a UO??? I hope.....
*SNIP* That being said, who says G-d didn't create/design things to be like that? The bible says the world was created in 6 days. But if G-d is all powerful, why do we think his days have to be 24 hours? Maybe each of his days was 10 million years?
I know I'm late on this, but @chillycanadian I had a catholic priest tell me almost exactly that and it was the first time I'd ever heard anyone in organized religion discuss evolution is such a way. it was refreshing to hear.
TTC#1 10/2016 TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each. BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021 planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks, some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
On the political stuff - I hate "my way or the highway" people. I feel like pretty much everything can have a pretty decent compromise. It may not be ideal for what each side wants, but most things can have a decent compromise. It's just that so many people don't WANT to compromise
I really try to be open minded on politics because I think it’s more important now than ever that we try to find common ground across the aisle. I must admit, I don’t know if I’m always the best and I struggle with sometimes feeling people don’t really know why they support or believe in certain policies. With so many possible sources of bad information out there I think as a society we need to educate ourselves on gathering good and credible information (vaccine safety is a great example I think most all of us can agree on that so many have fallen down the rabbit hole on) while continuing to have open dialogue. I don’t think most issues we battle over today have 1 right solution and I actually think the involvement of those with differing opinions is the best way to find answers that will serve the greatest good for the greatest number of people. The current administration scares the living daylights out of me but I equally fear an extreme far left uprising that I think is a very possible consequence after the last couple of years. Extremism on either end can’t be what is best for the hundreds of millions in our country and I sincerely hope we can find the center in the upcoming years.
I'm dying to put this somewhere because it is just driving me insane. To each their own, but - UO warning - why in the f@ck are people wanting labor and/or immediately-post-delivery pics?
I get trying to get some pics with the newborn as soon as possible, but OMG. A mom in my local Mom's FB group was asking which of the two major hospitals in the area were "photographer friendly." I just feel SO much can change SO quickly during the labor process that having that extra in-the-way-body is a potential life hazard for you and baby - how are these pics worth *that* much? Ok, UO over. I had to get it out. XO
**History in Spoiler**
Me-35, DH-36 - TTC since 08/10 Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium) FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil) ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day) FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok) FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used) FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Re: UO Thursday!
BFP #1 June 2016: EDD 16 March 2017, MC July 2016
Re-started TTC Aug 2016
Started IF testing Nov 2016
Spontaneous BFP #2 January 2017: Rainbow Baby Boy September 2017
BFP #3 November 2018: Baby #2 expected August 2019
TTC #1 5/13 BFP #3 5/2/14 DD born 1/19/15
NTNP #2 8/17 BFP 12/13/18 ED 8/21/19
While my mom is from New England (my parents divorced when I was young, my dad's from the Pittsburgh area), I grew up military and absolutely surrounded by Republicans. Because of that, I had a really hard time - while growing up - discussing politics with my family because they were so hard-core Left and 99% of the time I was surrounded by people whose opinions were similar to my parents (both military) and the ones I began to develop. A few of my views always had me as a Centrist, though I always voted Republican at every election. With the changes over the last few years, though, I've become a bit more Left because those few issues that put me in the Center have become major focuses and I just can't "vote with my wallet" like I have in the past.
I really enjoy discourse with anyone, no matter how similar or dissimilar our views because it allows me to question my own thoughts and do more, recent research ... which usually either further solidifies my original thoughts or can sway me towards the other side (and I have changed "sides" on several issues). I don't mind differences of opinions, as long as there is respect on both sides and they are backed with some sort of fact-based information and not just feelings. I feel a lot of things, but it doesn't mean that I'm right about them. When people base things in emotions, that's when feelings get hurt and discussions become arguments and people start attacking the person, not the thought. That's where I draw the line (and people get cut out of my life).
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)
TTC#1 10/2016
TTC/IF:included medicated cycles, IUIs and 2 rounds of IVF with 1 embryo each.
BFP finally in 12/2018
TTC#2 06/2021
planning FET
"Some days are diamonds, some days are rocks,
some doors are open, some roads are blocked"
The current administration scares the living daylights out of me but I equally fear an extreme far left uprising that I think is a very possible consequence after the last couple of years. Extremism on either end can’t be what is best for the hundreds of millions in our country and I sincerely hope we can find the center in the upcoming years.
I get trying to get some pics with the newborn as soon as possible, but OMG. A mom in my local Mom's FB group was asking which of the two major hospitals in the area were "photographer friendly." I just feel SO much can change SO quickly during the labor process that having that extra in-the-way-body is a potential life hazard for you and baby - how are these pics worth *that* much? Ok, UO over. I had to get it out. XO
Me - anovulatory, non-Insulin PCOS, DH - low end of "normal" sperm count
IUI#1 - 02/15 - Cancelled due to scrubbed sperm count <1MM
IVF#1 - 08/15 - 13x5-day blastocysts (ranging from AA-BB, most are 5 or 6), not PGS, on ice
FET#1 - 10/15 - 1 emb - BFP (DD 07/16) (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#2 - 07/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#3 - 08/17 - 1 emb - BFN (estrace + PIO sesame oil + prometrium)
FET#4 - 10/17 - 2 emb - BFN (changed to estrace + prometrium because of allergic reaction to PIO sesame oil)
ERA Testing - 12/17 - window moved (-1 day)
FET#5 - 03/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
Karyotype Testing - 04/18 - Negative (we're ok)
FET#6 - 06/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#7 - 10/18 - 2 emb - BFN (estrace + prometrium, ERA-timing used)
FET#8 - 11/18 - 2 emb - BFP; looks like one baby is going to make it, DD is due 8/16 (though likely to be 8/9)