I hope it is okay that I move over here, because I'm not really sure where else is safe to share what is going on with my situation. While TTC is def still on the table, we don't know when because this is all so insane and hard and emotionally draining - so even though this is TTCAL, I hope this is okay for me to come here if I will be benched for a little. I'll also re-intro at TTGP.
I'm scheduled for my D&E on Wednesday after we found out that we are experiencing hydrops fetalis. We are still waiting to see if our NIPT will give us any answers immediately, otherwise we will be doing a DNA microarray post-op. I will be one day shy of 15 wks at my D&E. I feel lost on what to expect with this procedure, how my body will change/go back to pre-pregnancy, and emotionally how/when/if we will be ready to TTC any time soon. I'm so sorry for the losses everyone has experienced here. I now understand, and I am here for you all as well.
**tw**
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
Re: **TW** Intro
In my experience, you'll bounce back physically much faster than you will emotionally. Losing a baby changes you. I had a harder time emotionally with my D&C (as opposed to medicated losses) because I was just not pregnant all of a sudden and my body/hormones had to catch up. Expect your emotions to be all over the place for a while - just from the hormones. You will still be emotional after your body regulates, but, at least for me, it's more intense than in the weeks immediately following the loss.
You'll have some bleeding after the procedure, which can last for days or weeks. Personally, I'd give it at least two cycles before TTC so your uterus has some time to heal and your lining has time to thicken, but that's just me. Others start earlier.
What's important is that you do whatever you need to in order to get through it. Be gentle to yourself. Cry a lot. Acceptance comes faster if you allow yourself to grieve (in my experience, anyway).
If you have any specific questions or need to chat/vent/rant, feel free to PM me.
I feel like the hardest thing I'll go through in the near future is the changes to my breasts, and the potential for lactation. I'm up 2 sizes already. That will be really hard, yet I am desperate to get back in to my pre-pregnancy tops because I hate being reminded every day that I don't fit in to my old clothes for a reason.
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
your loss and echo what everyone else is saying. The procedure is definitely the easiest part. Emotionally, it will take awhile. Sending lots of hugs your way.
DS born 6/2017, became a heart angel 8/2018
CP 3/2019
At the time, I didn't think I'd be able to TTC again, I just didn't know if I could deal with it emotionally. A couple of months past D&E, it's what keeps me going now because it gives me some hope and something positive to focus on. My body healed fasted than my emotional state, but it happens little by little. As always, PM me if you have any questions about the procedure, etc.
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20
ETA: googled... So it looks like only one of you has to carry it? That's scary and FX so hard that it's not genetic in your case.
married 11.1.14
ttc #1 since 5.18
bfp 12.22.18 letrozole + progesterone
d&e due to trisomy 13/hydrops at 15wks
bfp 7.21.19 letrozole + IUI
little girl A born 3.26.20