@blueberrymomma, seriously! I stand up and have to pause a second as it is to make sure I'm not gonna pee my pants. When he drops, I probably won't have any control anymore .
I need to clean and organize and am so glad that today has much less scheduled than yesterday so it’s a possibility. Yesterday I came home from all our errands and appointments to a house that was neither clean nor organized and it was overwhelming. Side note, I think this need to have things clean and organized is my manifestation of nesting.
@lyse01, that's what I should be doing today as well, but not sure how much will get done, haha. DH has worked late every day this week so he hasn't done any share of the cleaning and I'm so tired of it taking all day to just get back to being tidy .
Cocoa for breakfast sounds amazing, I may steal your idea... it dropped temperature here again so my house is freezing. Come on, warmer weather, I'm ready whenever you are....
@kangstadt mostly I just want a clean sink and clean laundry and beds that are made. But in the past hour DD woke up whining about snot clogging her nose and general discomfort so I’ve been having all the toddler cuddles and gymnastic nursing, but none of the cocoa!
I built the changing table last night. So progress! I think tonight I’ll get out the cloth diapers and see what kind of condition they’re in, and this weekend I’ll make a target run for some baskets for the changing table and butt paste and stuff.
But one of our toilets broke yesterday and when my husband went to replace it he found that the non-standard, weird, flange under it is cracked. He couldn’t even find a version of the flange we have on the internet... so we have to have a plumber out AGAIN (3rd time in the last 3 weeks, for those of you counting). So that sucks. I love our house, but man, owning a house built in 1955 comes with a lot of non-standard, old-ass plumbing issues. Ideally we’d just replumb the entire damn house at once, but who has that kind of money?
@professormama Ugh! You are having the worst luck with plumbing issues! We lived in a 1920's Craftsman bungalow a few years ago and it was adorable, but had the worst issues with plumbing and basically everything else. We even woke up one morning to find the dining room ceiling had fallen down due to an unknown A/C leak. I still love older homes though Even more so now that I live in the burbs where every house looks like the same ugly Florida stucco.
I'm losing my mind today going back and forth with my company's benefits department. They are trying to tell me that I will have to pay back my summer benefits if I don't return to teach next even though I will not be out on medical leave. I don't understand how that is legal considering I am contracted to work the school year and entitled to the summer benefits as part of my contract. I could totally understand if I was out on unpaid leave and using the benefits, but these are normal summer benefits. My medical leave concludes on the last contracted day of school. There should be no reason to pay these benefits back
Well good news on the plumbing, sort of.... The plumber said he has only ever seen one other flange like ours in his entire career, and that replacing it could be a fire-hazard to the wood sub-flooring, and would be VERY expensive. So, instead he actually told my husband how to jury-rig a fix (thank the Lord my husband had high school summer jobs in construction and is very handy). So no plumber after all, and hopefully we have a working toilet by the time I get home from work today.
@cabearit HR departments do NOT always know what they're talking about. That doesn't sound right or legal to me... If I were you, I'd get copies of all documents myself, demand that they provide you the policy in writing. Ask them to show you - in writing - where it says that you have to repay benefits if you don't return, but your medical leave is through the end of the semester, etc. Then, remember, if absolutely necessary it usually costs about $100 to get a lawyer to draft a letter saying that they're violating the terms of a contract and that you will pursue legal action. You may not want to actually follow through with pursuing legal action, but notifying the department that you may do so can sometimes get them to change their tune if they are, in fact, not in compliance with the terms of your contract.
Had my doc appointment (and swab) yesterday. She mentioned the cervical checks won't be necessary until I'm in labour but she said if we're getting close to my due date and nothing is happening it might be worth a check and membrane sweep. And something she called a cervix stretch which sounds like the worst thing on the planet.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@mermaidca hell yes I had delicious tacos yesterday, and ate an obscene amount of queso. We didn't even open gifts at the restaurant (there weren't many anyway), so it really just felt like a lunch out with my husbands coworkers. Fine with me!
+1 to @lyse01, but for me it's been that way for the past several months. I moved across the country a couple months ago and got a new OB, and I'm definitely having withdrawal because I loved my California OB. My new OB is trigger-happy on medical interventions, specifically episiotomies and C-sections, and I'm not sure what to do about it yet except hope that she doesn't actually attend the birth. Also, I'm in a new house and still sleeping on a mattress on the floor. I'm exhausted by the thought of researching and finding a new care provider. At least I've got a phone call scheduled with my former OB to find out if I'm overreacting.
@kosmo86 I haven't been a regular on here in months, so doubtful I'd be accepted anyway, but I won't move to FB either. I'm going to try to hang out on TB more often, though. You ladies are cool.
@loveanddatadriven I agree, the ladies on here are awesome. I was too nervous to post on TB for DD but this group has been so supportive and welcoming that I love reading their posts all the time. I was so sad yesterday when I realized most people are switching to FB, which I don't have.
I packed my hospital bag and the baby bag today. Mainly because we’re going out of town for the weekend (just 2.5-3hours away to the other side of the state). I know if I don’t pack it something will happen but if I do everything will be fine Also I think I gained 10lbs this week because all I’ve been eating is carbs and sugar. Nothing sounds good and my reflux is limiting what I can tolerate. I’m pretty sure it has all gone to my thighs too. I think the healthiest thing I eat is my apple with almond butter at lunch
@blueberrymomma All I eat these days are carbs and sugar too. And I am craving citrus juices, which is bad news for my heartburn and indigestion
I started bawling last night when H told me that he really wants to start eating healthier dinners. I'll admit, there's been a lot of pasta and mexican food in our menus as of late, but I don't have a ton of time to prepare dinner and all I want is noodles and tacos! I sobbed, "I can't drink anymore, I can't do anything fun.. All I have is food and now you're trying to take that away from me!" lol. It was a definite pregnancy moment. He quickly apologized, but I'm probably going to start cooking him a little something separate each night. While my weight game is right where it should be, his is not
@cabearit yeah, DH asked for me to stop buying bread and pasta yesterday and I snapped at him that just because it was there he didn’t need to eat it. I def need to get back into cooking low-carb meals for both of us - my weight is also on track but just having things in the house is sabotaging his goals.
Happy international women’s day, to a bunch of awesome mamas!
@blueberrymomma and @cabearit my husband is the cook in our home and I basically don’t eat the healthy portions of the meals he cooks anymore. He usually makes something like a roast chicken, roasted veggies, then a side of frozen rolls or popnfresh biscuits - all I eat is the bread. Then after my kid is asleep I binge on cereal and milk or ice cream. He doesn’t even try to get me to eat healthy food, and he just stocks up on junk for me at the store. Lol
@lyse01 my husband knows he is not allowed to discuss his weight or ANYTHING we are eating in the house. If he wants to cut back, thats fine BUT he will not discuss it with me
Me: 32 DH: 31
TTC #2 since January 2018
Baby #1 DD Born 8/25/2016 BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
I hope this doesn't sound harsh, as I don't know the set up/responsibilities in other people's homes, but if my DH wants to eat healthier, he will cook it his damn self! But we both work full-time - he actually works from home while I am gone about 11 hours a day, so he does not expect me to cook him dinner. Sometimes I do, sometimes he does. But if he ever told me what to cook, I'd probably punch him in the nuts lol.
Also, my eating is all over place. It's not good, I'll just say that.
I was going to say something similar @rennie1108! If I'm the one cooking, you'll eat it and you'll like it. The same way that I would never say something to H if he made the meal that day. I'd just be thankful it was taken care of. We have had conversations about eating better in general and meal planning so we don't end up ordering in or relying on easy options like pasta so often. But that's usually me bringing it up because I'm the one who cooks. Don't like what I'm cooking? Kick rocks.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@rennie1108@mermaidca SAHM here who enjoys cooking and cooking well (also baking). We eat better in terms of taste and nutrition if I’m the one cooking. My priority is healthy grazing options for breakfast/lunch/snacks and healthy prepped dinner. I’m all for discussing preferred recipes/meals and what should be available or avoided, but if I feel like making brownies for myself because I’m pregnant and then have to run to an appt before they can cool and be put away, don’t complain about their presence. There was cut up fruit and leftover soup in the fridge too.
I'm spoiling for a fight today. I got home from my doctor's apt to find a city violation because we set a broken toilet (the one we removed Wednesday night) in front of our garage until we could get large garbage. I was fully planning on getting rid of the thing ASAP until an hour ago. Now I'm seriously thinking that we should turn it in to some yard art and plant flowers in it in our front garden, just to spite whatever asshole neighbor decided to report us! They also cited our BROOM for being out front. We don't even have an HOA, it's the F*ing city! Soooo ridiculous. I think I'll go to the garden store today
@professormama stick a little sign in that toilet bowl flower pot telling them off. I’ll have to work on the wording, but something to the effect of “if you’re going to fuck me over, you could’ve at least bought me flowers”
@professormama Are you serious?? That is so ridiculous. We've had our snow shovel on our front patio this whole winter. WTF is wrong with having a broom out? I'd be so annoyed.
@professormama neighbours are the worst sometimes!!! For a while in our community everyone was called bylaw on each other for things like parking on the street without moving it for too long, having your camper on your drive way too long (you're technically only allowed to have it parked on your drive for 24 hours). We're all neighbours and we all live here, can we not give each other a break!?!? I could understand if you had constant garbage piles on your lawn but come on.
Me: 31 H: 36 L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
My H doesn't get home until 7:30-8:00 every night and we're pretty good at eating dinner together as a family, so it's either I cook for all three of us or we wait an additional half hour to an hour while he cooks for himself. I told him that I'm totally open to cooking a protein and veggie for him every night, but don't complain if DS and I are eating Fettuccine Alfredo because I don't complain when you're sitting on the couch Friday night with a delicious IPA.
I would give anything for carbs and sugar. This GD diet sucks. On the other hand, DH is dieting on his own, so we’ve just decided to cook separately for the most part for the rest of the pregnancy. It makes us easier. Though sometimes our diets coincide just fine.
@professormama that is totally ridiculous. I’d be super ticked.
@professormama Oh yeah, that is NOT cool. Who has that much time on their hands that they could be bothered to call and report something that is clearly temporary and not harming anyone?
Update: So it doesn't seem to be the neighbors, at least this time? I called the inspector - apparently our first violation was having out rotten wood back in February, which we had called the city to remove and they failed to do - it was 100% their mistake and we actually had to call multiple times, and they screwed it up so many times that eventually random people just took the wood and the city never came. So the wood is long since gone, but when the guy came back to look for the wood, he noticed the toilet and the f*ing broom. He also complained that my husband's dove belt (basically a fanny pack) was hanging out front. It's sooooo petty. I got him to agree to wait to re-inspect until Friday, that way we have time to deal with the toilet. He actually wanted us to move it INSIDE THE HOUSE! I was like - ummm no. We aren't putting a broken toilet inside our house for a week while we wait on garbage pickup, with a 4 year old running around. Small towns are the worst sometimes. It's like having an HOA only enforced by the g*dd*am city.
@professormama Neighbrhood busybodies are the worst, that’s ridiculous
I’ve found meal planning to be much more exhausting while pregnant and it causes a chain reaction.
If I don’t plan, we tend to not go to the grocery store on the weekend so I’m carrying stuff home as-needed during the week, which I don’t want to do because pregnant. DH is smart enough to not say much if dinner ends up being fried eggs or bean stew.
But I baked a cake roll for myself (er....us) yesterday so apparently I can’t predict or monitor my own energy either.
@professormama sounds like that inspector is either a serious minimalist or a Munk who changed life course. His expectations are rediculous.
On dinner: My husband used to make dinner more often, but now that I'm home more, I do. We share plenty but he gets stressed if he cooks more frequently, plus it's very meaningful to him when I make dinner without his help (which means more affection for me). So I typically ask him "What do you want for dinner tonight?" on a daily or semi-weekly basis. Breakfast and lunch are our own meals and dinners are typically shared. He's gotten offended lately if I have a separate dinner without him. It works very well for us and reflects the dynamic of his home growing up.
@mighty_montgomery Cooking dinner stress me out as well. I think DH is starting to pick up on it, so he's better more proactive (a little bit) about at least initiating dinner. It definitely stems from the fact that he is done with work and already at home and I have an hour commute and get home well after he is finished up (usually). Still, we definitely don't have a perfect system! I wish he cooked more. Once I go back to work I'm only working Monday-Thursday so I think the compromise I'm going to try and make with him is for him to start dinner on the days I work and then I will put together our Friday and weekend meals.
@mighty_montgomery first, you know how to make beignets? I'm extremely impressed. Second, OMG that sounds amazing.
I just ate a disgusting amount of pizza, then finished it off with some Ben and Jerry's. I also submitted an article manuscript today. Ridiculous city ordinance aside, I'm a happy girl this evening.
dinner: we have been doing pretty good eating a GD diet together, although DH will sometimes come sit next to me and eat an entire package of Graham crackers, which makes me sad.
toilet: I would also have so much fun coming up with phrases to put on the toilet. Maybe Cities/neighbors are like trips to the toilet, we all have to deal with them and sometimes they really stink.
facebook: I opted out of the Facebook merge because I only have an account for fb marketplace and havent even accepted any real life friends on there. Generally fb causes me icky FOMO feelings and I don't need that with a new baby. Plus I'm super excited to get to experience seeing people who I vaguely know and having them ask "whose baby is that?" Because I didn't spam the whole world about my pregnancy. Not that I'm judging people who like to share that way, I just personally have found that it leads to unhealthy feelings for me.
I'll definitely still be checking in here. Maybe we can combine our weekly groups, seems like participation is already down except for the few remaining folks. I wish the bump app was better so people didn't have to move on to fb.
Oh well!
Current view: (legs elevated to help swelling cankles go down.. yoga ball on couch... Excuse my need for a pedicure!)
@kayceebaby1 I try to keep off Facebook for the most part as well. I have an account but post every rarely. And I limit myself to looking at Facebook pretty much just once a day briefly to check if I have any messages. I think it’s healthier and happier for me too.
@mighty_montgomery not exactly like what you’re describing. But I definitely have found that baby is sometimes kicking me in the stomach, or something, in a way that gives me a stomach ache now and then.
Still nesting hard over here. Went through medicine cabinet today and finished setting up the changing table with diapers and wipes and everything! Cloth diapers are in the wash, and I pulled out old bottles and pumping supplies and hand washed those as well. It feels so good to be getting prepared.
I wish I had the energy to nest. I haven’t even had the energy to call and make an appointment to get our apartment cleaned and I definitely need to do that before baby gets here.
Re: Randoms 3/4
let’s start with cocoa for breakfast
Cocoa for breakfast sounds amazing, I may steal your idea... it dropped temperature here again so my house is freezing. Come on, warmer weather, I'm ready whenever you are....
But one of our toilets broke yesterday and when my husband went to replace it he found that the non-standard, weird, flange under it is cracked. He couldn’t even find a version of the flange we have on the internet... so we have to have a plumber out AGAIN (3rd time in the last 3 weeks, for those of you counting). So that sucks. I love our house, but man, owning a house built in 1955 comes with a lot of non-standard, old-ass plumbing issues. Ideally we’d just replumb the entire damn house at once, but who has that kind of money?
I'm losing my mind today going back and forth with my company's benefits department. They are trying to tell me that I will have to pay back my summer benefits if I don't return to teach next even though I will not be out on medical leave. I don't understand how that is legal considering I am contracted to work the school year and entitled to the summer benefits as part of my contract. I could totally understand if I was out on unpaid leave and using the benefits, but these are normal summer benefits. My medical leave concludes on the last contracted day of school. There should be no reason to pay these benefits back
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
@cabearit HR departments do NOT always know what they're talking about. That doesn't sound right or legal to me... If I were you, I'd get copies of all documents myself, demand that they provide you the policy in writing. Ask them to show you - in writing - where it says that you have to repay benefits if you don't return, but your medical leave is through the end of the semester, etc. Then, remember, if absolutely necessary it usually costs about $100 to get a lawyer to draft a letter saying that they're violating the terms of a contract and that you will pursue legal action. You may not want to actually follow through with pursuing legal action, but notifying the department that you may do so can sometimes get them to change their tune if they are, in fact, not in compliance with the terms of your contract.
Did you get your tacos @professormama??
Had my doc appointment (and swab) yesterday. She mentioned the cervical checks won't be necessary until I'm in labour but she said if we're getting close to my due date and nothing is happening it might be worth a check and membrane sweep. And something she called a cervix stretch which sounds like the worst thing on the planet.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
@kosmo86 I haven't been a regular on here in months, so doubtful I'd be accepted anyway, but I won't move to FB either. I'm going to try to hang out on TB more often, though. You ladies are cool.
I packed my hospital bag and the baby bag today. Mainly because we’re going out of town for the weekend (just 2.5-3hours away to the other side of the state). I know if I don’t pack it something will happen but if I do everything will be fine
Also I think I gained 10lbs this week because all I’ve been eating is carbs and sugar. Nothing sounds good and my reflux is limiting what I can tolerate. I’m pretty sure it has all gone to my thighs too. I think the healthiest thing I eat is my apple with almond butter at lunch
I started bawling last night when H told me that he really wants to start eating healthier dinners. I'll admit, there's been a lot of pasta and mexican food in our menus as of late, but I don't have a ton of time to prepare dinner and all I want is noodles and tacos! I sobbed, "I can't drink anymore, I can't do anything fun.. All I have is food and now you're trying to take that away from me!" lol. It was a definite pregnancy moment. He quickly apologized, but I'm probably going to start cooking him a little something separate each night. While my weight game is right where it should be, his is not
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
@blueberrymomma and @cabearit my husband is the cook in our home and I basically don’t eat the healthy portions of the meals he cooks anymore. He usually makes something like a roast chicken, roasted veggies, then a side of frozen rolls or popnfresh biscuits - all I eat is the bread. Then after my kid is asleep I binge on cereal and milk or ice cream. He doesn’t even try to get me to eat healthy food, and he just stocks up on junk for me at the store. Lol
BFP: 8/11/18 Due: 4/26/18
Also, my eating is all over place. It's not good, I'll just say that.
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
H: 36
L & N twin girls: 3yo. Born at 30 weeks. 2 month NICU stay
BFP Aug 2018: EDD April 2019
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
@professormama that is totally ridiculous. I’d be super ticked.
BFP: 1/26/20 | EDD: 9/20/20
I’ve found meal planning to be much more exhausting while pregnant and it causes a chain reaction.
If I don’t plan, we tend to not go to the grocery store on the weekend so I’m carrying stuff home as-needed during the week, which I don’t want to do because pregnant. DH is smart enough to not say much if dinner ends up being fried eggs or bean stew.
But I baked a cake roll for myself (er....us) yesterday so apparently I can’t predict or monitor my own energy either.
On dinner: My husband used to make dinner more often, but now that I'm home more, I do. We share plenty but he gets stressed if he cooks more frequently, plus it's very meaningful to him when I make dinner without his help (which means more affection for me). So I typically ask him "What do you want for dinner tonight?" on a daily or semi-weekly basis. Breakfast and lunch are our own meals and dinners are typically shared. He's gotten offended lately if I have a separate dinner without him.
It works very well for us and reflects the dynamic of his home growing up.
Oh, yes. This is going to happen again. 😻
I just ate a disgusting amount of pizza, then finished it off with some Ben and Jerry's. I also submitted an article manuscript today. Ridiculous city ordinance aside, I'm a happy girl this evening.
toilet: I would also have so much fun coming up with phrases to put on the toilet. Maybe Cities/neighbors are like trips to the toilet, we all have to deal with them and sometimes they really stink.
facebook: I opted out of the Facebook merge because I only have an account for fb marketplace and havent even accepted any real life friends on there. Generally fb causes me icky FOMO feelings and I don't need that with a new baby. Plus I'm super excited to get to experience seeing people who I vaguely know and having them ask "whose baby is that?" Because I didn't spam the whole world about my pregnancy. Not that I'm judging people who like to share that way, I just personally have found that it leads to unhealthy feelings for me.
I'll definitely still be checking in here. Maybe we can combine our weekly groups, seems like participation is already down except for the few remaining folks. I wish the bump app was better so people didn't have to move on to fb.
Oh well!
Current view: (legs elevated to help swelling cankles go down.. yoga ball on couch... Excuse my need for a pedicure!)
@professormama congrats on the article
@kayceebaby1 way to know yourself and make healthy choices when it comes to fb. I agree it’s a good idea to combine check ins.
@mighty_montgomery not exactly like what you’re describing. But I definitely have found that baby is sometimes kicking me in the stomach, or something, in a way that gives me a stomach ache now and then.
Still nesting hard over here. Went through medicine cabinet today and finished setting up the changing table with diapers and wipes and everything! Cloth diapers are in the wash, and I pulled out old bottles and pumping supplies and hand washed those as well. It feels so good to be getting prepared.