I also don't get why anyone would try to skip the glucose tolerance test. Yes the drink isn't that great but I have a hard time believing you haven't drank worse at a bar or party. Put on your big girl panties, chug that shit, and get it over with. The risks far outweigh the discomfort.
ETA- I've had to do the 1hr 7 times and the 3hr 5 times so far doing both at least once more. I get it. It's no fun and it does make me feel sort of hangoverish afterwards. Still worth it.
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First, second & even third birthday parties are completely pointless and a waste of money. We had a first birthday party for my first born and quickly decided— never again. Until they have friends & can express that they WANT a party, why have one? They don’t even usually enjoy it and are completely exhausted by it. We now take them out and make their day special doing things we know they’ll love. If family wants to see them for their birthday, they meet us at a splash pad or park.
@nopegoat people can skip the glucose test? I had no idea... I wouldn't and I it wasn't even as bad as people hyped it up to be. Also on the topic of baby girl clothes, or any baby/toddler clothes, I cannot stand shirts with sayings like "Trouble Maker" or "Mini Mommy" or any of that BS. I have one shirt for my son with a goose on it that says "Silly Goose" and that's about as far as i'll get!
@canuckmomma people try to all the time mostly because "I don't have a history/family history" "I'm not overweight" or "I eat healthy and exercise". What most people don't realize is that doesn't really matter. GD is all about hormones there's literally nothing you can do to prevent it only things to help manage it.
Most OB's make them take it any way, give them an alternate carb/sugar source to do the test with, or have them check sugar levels through out pregnancy instead.
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I absolutely hate all the brand name baby and kid shit. HATE IT!!!! I bought nothing with a brand or character stuff for my boys, won't buy it for my girl. Let kids be kids, don't force them to love Disney or Sesame street or whatever. Yes I love those things, but I'm a grown up.
And yeah, no princess, or little mama stuff for my girl either. Glitter, yes. I love glitter, but other than that I will limit frills, and ruffles, and bow.
@indulgentgypsy yes!! Kids grow way too fast for expensive name brand crap. I think the only thing we've splurged on are nice carhartt jackets. Which have been passed down and reused for 4 kids so far.
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@nopegoat definitely! If someone else wants to spend their money on the fancy stuff, fine (if they want to gift it or hand it down to me woo hoo) otherwise I'm all for cheap and basic for kids that will destroy and grow out of any way.
@nopegoat I don't know WHY people would opt out, or even that they could! I had weight loss surgery so I physically cannot hold that much liquid in my stomach and drink it within the allotted 5 minutes BUT I take it so seriously that it was one of the first things I brought up. My OB ordered me a blood sugar testing machine that I'll use at 16-18 weeks and again later on.
+1 to no birthday parties until the KID wants one. It always seems like a ploy to get attention for mom and dad anyway. I was raised with no birthday party ever (I was a July birthday and not overly popular) and I turned out fine. In my family we got to choose dinner and dessert and that was the celebration. Although, we live on a ake, so when LO finally gets a party it will be amazing!
Also +1 to name brand crap. I'm going to double down and say, yes babies need a lot of stuff, but they dont need all the stuff. The marketing to parents instantly pisses me off. "Buy piece of shit toy or you kid will be dumb forever." "Buy useless gadget, or your kid will hate you forever." I'm a minimalist and the idea of rooms and rooms of baby/kid crap makes me want to be "barren" forever.
+1 to gender reveals being AW-y, @literatureandink! A (then) close friend from high school had one when pregnant with her first six ago and we had to pick team boy or team girl, choosing beads, party hats, balloons, cake, the whole nine yards, based on which gender we thought she was having. Way too over the top, but then again, that child had a petting zoo at her first birthday party. So... yeah.
My UO is that I hate it when people call baby boys and toddlers "little man." I don't know why, and I get the intent of the nickname, but it still annoys me to no end.
Another one - I hate hate hate hate Disney character anythingggggg for kids. It reminds me of the old ladies in Walmart with no bra walking around in Daffy Duck sweatshirts.
I can't stand Nancy Pelosi. I feel like the house missed a big opportunity to embrace all the change seen in the last election, and instead brought back a tired, Washington institution that embodies so much of what people hate about politicians.
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@runner_doll My husband feels that way about "Buddy" and "Big Guy". I get it, but I can't stop using them! I have no idea how that happens.
I feel much more strongly about not calling girls "Princess". I'm all for playing pretend, but you are not a princess, and I'm not going to treat you that way.
First and second birthdays are the best!! They aren’t for the kid, they are for the parents! We invite all our friends, have a BBQ and get drunk after the kid is asleep. Seriously my favorite. Now, we have one in the am with his friends and one in the pm with ours!
@Happyin14 well I guess I was pregnant during my sons 1st birthday party and we don’t have many friends near by so I couldn’t get drunk.... I was also 19 lol so it’s just family and I cannot stand being around my in laws and their distant family so I just can’t do it. 😂 There’s also a lot of drama and tension between my mom and dad since they’re divorced and I refuse to have multiple parties for each side. So for us it’s much easier and stress free.
DS hasn't had a birthday party yet, but I can see the draw to have a fun party with your friends when LO is a tiny little baby. I'm just not much of a party planner or hostess so I've skipped out on that stuff as long as I can. This year I think I have to do a big bday though since he's turning 5 and all his friends have parties.
Send me all your Disney stuff! I think the parties are a good chance for family/friends to see baby that they might not get to see very often. But I love the idea of making them chill bbq especially with our summer babies.
My UO is that I’ve decided that No one Will be visiting us at the hospital. Give me my space. I don’t want anyone to see me there. They can all wait until I get home.
@hakele +1. Not telling anyone I had the baby except for the person keeping my kids! No thanks. It’s so annoying. And my MIL likes to visit everyday and stay foreve
1) I love birthday parties. I do a cute theme every year and put a lot of work into it. But I do that because I enjoy it and feel like it’s a nice way to celebrate another great year. My son has enjoyed both his parties. 2) I buy a lot of name brand clothes but I buy them second hand or they are hand me downs. They grow way too fast to pay full price for that stuff. 3) I only allow character clothing in sleepwear. Disney PJs, go for it! But not regular clothes. And no sayings
Umm, all you guys who hate on brand name clothes, Baby Gap is the best and I've never paid full price for a single thing!! Always get 40-60% off everything and have purchased plenty of clearance shirts and shorts for like $2-$6 dollars.
I always shop the Nordstrom 2 sales a year and find plenty of awesome bargains!!
My UO is that I totally believe in the nub theory. At least with the perfect image and week in pregnancy. I've researched enough about it and read enough scientific studies to see that it's more than a myth. But duhhh though, I know this isn't place to be asking "what do you think???"
My UO is that I’ve decided that No one Will be visiting us at the hospital. Give me my space. I don’t want anyone to see me there. They can all wait until I get home.
I did this - was in a different state and still didn't tell family I was in labor until I was 7cm and only because DH begged to tell his dad. Didn't want any surprise visitors. Def doing it again this time around.
@ameliabedelia-2 I'm tired of the country being run by the elderly and our choices often only being elderly people who spent half of their careers supporting policies that contradict their current platforms. With Clinton, Sanders and Biden all buzzing about a run for 2020, it's the biggest eye roll ever.
DD didn't have an actual birthday party until she turned 4. And then only 6 or 7 friends. Same this year. Before that it was just parents and grandparents.
I don't mind the frilly girl clothing. I just don't buy it for my daughter. Mostly because I don't see most if it as being practical or comfortable.
+1 to no one at the hospital. I didn't even tell my mom when I went into labour with DD.
+1 to not being a fan of all the baby stuff out there. SO is an architect and very much a minimalist. We bought the bare essentials with DD and it was more than enough.
My UO is I don't like baby showers or wedding showers or any event where people are expected to bring a gift if they wouldn't have done so on their own without the event. But of course I'm also the person who doesn't see the point in getting married so my opinion might be skewed.
@Panaceia@mnkenned@bartonolivia - I'm so happy I'm not alone on this. We actually aren't planning to tell anyone that I'm in labor or that the baby has come. I really just want those first 3 or so days to be just about us. The only family close is my in-laws and they are a couple of busy-bodies that I don't want around.
I'm the total opposite, my labors have been a party for whoever wants to come lol My good friend just happened to be visiting when the OB came in and said it was time to push with my first...someone handed her a phone to record the whole thing and I love that video so much!! My mom and husband have been there for both deliveries and some friends and family visited at the hospital both times. I found it nice to have visitors, especially because we were in the hospital for 3 days with DD because I was GBS+.
ETA: I also found it really nice to have someone there (my mom) to take pictures so H can focus on what's going on and not photography. The pictures I have of him/us that my mom took are priceless.
@Bear14+ my mom was also in the room with us for number 1, and the pictures she captured for us were priceless. We planned for her to be in the room with us for #2, but he cane too fast. Thankfully, the anesthesiologist that day happened to be my best friend from high schools mom. She was in the room getting ready to start the epidural when DS decided he was coming out, so she ended up being in the room with us. She snapped a few pictures for us, which I am so thankful for. I never want to forget the look of shock on my face of how fast it all happened lol
we bave a big family and they’re all local. They were in the waiting room, came in to meet the baby after we had our skin to skin time and then went home. I didn’t mind, it was nice to have the company
We were in hospital for a week:/ SO took some great videos just after DD was born and in the recovery room. Because of the life threatening nature of the delivery SO ended up calling my mom while we were in surgery so she took some great pictures in the recovery room too. My favourite pics were from after we went home though. But I think that's just because the delivery and afterwards ended being so traumatic.
Maybe those of you who were okay with visitors are extroverts... Also, my mom is dead... so she won't be there. I'm not sure if I would want her there if she was still alive. I just keep thinking, do I have any friends or family I would want to be there, and the answer just keeps coming back, nope.
@hakele I am the same as you in terms of visitors. I just didn't want anyone there. I was actually annoyed with SO for calling my mom the last time (although I understand why he did). I don't this time either. It will be just me and SO.
I didn’t want anyone around with my first either. Just felt like I didn’t need an audience while I figured my kid out. Then we were there a week and I was bored. 😂 But I wanted time with just MH, baby and I at home so we didn’t have anyone come. (My family lives hours away and can’t visit for a day and come back).
For my second, I had family come and see me after a day in the hospital. I’m not sure what I’ll want this time. It does help the boredom after a c-section but they also just sit and stare at you... while you try and breastfeed. Not ideal.
Agree with all of those who didn’t tell/won’t tell when in labor!
My mom is very gossipy and I remember her retelling me someone’s birth story a month before I had DD (a long labor ending in c-section - similar to how my own story turned out), and I could just feel her judgements around c-sections.
I texted after I was out of recovery and never actually told her it was a c-section. I just said it wasn’t a good birth experience and I didn’t want t relive it.
The only regret I’m having now is if I end up with a scheduled RCS. I know my mom would come over from the states to watch DD and she would be the only one DD would be happy with for an extended period of time. We will see what the birthing center says about VBAC/RCS next week and I guess go from there!
With DD my MIL showed up when I was in labour despite being told a million times we would call an hour after the baby was born to let everyone come so we could have some alone time to bond. DH actually had to say to her “I think you need to give my wife her baby back, she’d probably like to hold the kid she just gave birth to” because she basically came, took me baby off to a corner of the room and ignored everyone. My anxiety was through the roof. Then the second day I was there DH’s 2 cousins, aunt and uncle, grandmother, grandfather and his moms friend showed up, I felt like I didn’t hold my baby at all the first 2 days of her life and it was rough. This time no one is coming to the hospital, DH will go pick DD up from my mom so she can come meet the baby and no one else until we are home!
With DD I thought I just wanted my husband and no one else there. I ended up crying and begging my mommy to come at 2:30am. 😂 This time we’ll call them much sooner- I think my dad will likely be who stays with DD and my mom will come to the hospital. I’m also thinking of asking my sister to come this time- we have one picture of the delivery - blurry and taken by the doula. I’d like a bit more this time and my sis is good at that stuff.
This one I’m less excited for- my MiL just asked if they could come to the hospital- not for the labor/delivery but to meet baby in the first day or two. She’s generally a good MIL and hasn’t been able to visit any grandkids in those early hours so I’m going to let her I think. They live about 3-4hrs away and will either drive their RV down or stay in a hotel and only for a couple nights. Eh, my parents get lots of time, I guess it just feels fair to invite them also.
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I kind of suck as a girl as far as fashion/beauty so it's pretty overwhelming to even think about it. I'd rather dress boys any day!
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ETA- I've had to do the 1hr 7 times and the 3hr 5 times so far doing both at least once more. I get it. It's no fun and it does make me feel sort of hangoverish afterwards. Still worth it.
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Most OB's make them take it any way, give them an alternate carb/sugar source to do the test with, or have them check sugar levels through out pregnancy instead.
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And yeah, no princess, or little mama stuff for my girl either. Glitter, yes. I love glitter, but other than that I will limit frills, and ruffles, and bow.
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Also +1 to name brand crap. I'm going to double down and say, yes babies need a lot of stuff, but they dont need all the stuff. The marketing to parents instantly pisses me off. "Buy piece of shit toy or you kid will be dumb forever." "Buy useless gadget, or your kid will hate you forever." I'm a minimalist and the idea of rooms and rooms of baby/kid crap makes me want to be "barren" forever.
My UO is that I hate it when people call baby boys and toddlers "little man." I don't know why, and I get the intent of the nickname, but it still annoys me to no end.
I feel much more strongly about not calling girls "Princess". I'm all for playing pretend, but you are not a princess, and I'm not going to treat you that way.
I think the parties are a good chance for family/friends to see baby that they might not get to see very often. But I love the idea of making them chill bbq especially with our summer babies.
2) I buy a lot of name brand clothes but I buy them second hand or they are hand me downs. They grow way too fast to pay full price for that stuff.
3) I only allow character clothing in sleepwear. Disney PJs, go for it! But not regular clothes. And no sayings
I’m more annoyed by that article that says “I don’t hate women candidates, i just happen to hate the women candidates.
I always shop the Nordstrom 2 sales a year and find plenty of awesome bargains!!
DD didn't have an actual birthday party until she turned 4. And then only 6 or 7 friends. Same this year. Before that it was just parents and grandparents.
I don't mind the frilly girl clothing. I just don't buy it for my daughter. Mostly because I don't see most if it as being practical or comfortable.
+1 to no one at the hospital. I didn't even tell my mom when I went into labour with DD.
+1 to not being a fan of all the baby stuff out there. SO is an architect and very much a minimalist. We bought the bare essentials with DD and it was more than enough.
My UO is I don't like baby showers or wedding showers or any event where people are expected to bring a gift if they wouldn't have done so on their own without the event. But of course I'm also the person who doesn't see the point in getting married so my opinion might be skewed.
ETA: I also found it really nice to have someone there (my mom) to take pictures so H can focus on what's going on and not photography. The pictures I have of him/us that my mom took are priceless.
we bave a big family and they’re all local. They were in the waiting room, came in to meet the baby after we had our skin to skin time and then went home. I didn’t mind, it was nice to have the company
Also, my mom is dead... so she won't be there. I'm not sure if I would want her there if she was still alive. I just keep thinking, do I have any friends or family I would want to be there, and the answer just keeps coming back, nope.
For my second, I had family come and see me after a day in the hospital. I’m not sure what I’ll want this time. It does help the boredom after a c-section but they also just sit and stare at you... while you try and breastfeed. Not ideal.
My mom is very gossipy and I remember her retelling me someone’s birth story a month before I had DD (a long labor ending in c-section - similar to how my own story turned out), and I could just feel her judgements around c-sections.
I texted after I was out of recovery and never actually told her it was a c-section. I just said it wasn’t a good birth experience and I didn’t want t relive it.
The only regret I’m having now is if I end up with a scheduled RCS. I know my mom would come over from the states to watch DD and she would be the only one DD would be happy with for an extended period of time. We will see what the birthing center says about VBAC/RCS next week and I guess go from there!
With DD my MIL showed up when I was in labour despite being told a million times we would call an hour after the baby was born to let everyone come so we could have some alone time to bond. DH actually had to say to her “I think you need to give my wife her baby back, she’d probably like to hold the kid she just gave birth to” because she basically came, took me baby off to a corner of the room and ignored everyone. My anxiety was through the roof.
Then the second day I was there DH’s 2 cousins, aunt and uncle, grandmother, grandfather and his moms friend showed up, I felt like I didn’t hold my baby at all the first 2 days of her life and it was rough. This time no one is coming to the hospital, DH will go pick DD up from my mom so she can come meet the baby and no one else until we are home!
This time we’ll call them much sooner- I think my dad will likely be who stays with DD and my mom will come to the hospital.
I’m also thinking of asking my sister to come this time- we have one picture of the delivery - blurry and taken by the doula. I’d like a bit more this time and my sis is good at that stuff.
This one I’m less excited for- my MiL just asked if they could come to the hospital- not for the labor/delivery but to meet baby in the first day or two. She’s generally a good MIL and hasn’t been able to visit any grandkids in those early hours so I’m going to let her I think. They live about 3-4hrs away and will either drive their RV down or stay in a hotel and only for a couple nights. Eh, my parents get lots of time, I guess it just feels fair to invite them also.