July 2019 Moms

UO - 1/3

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Re: UO - 1/3

  • We were supposed to deliver at a birthing center with my son. They discharge you about 4 hours after delivery so we didn’t plan to have anyone come to the center. My mom loves out of state and we don’t have a good relationship so I told her she’s couldn’t come visit until the baby was a week or so old and wasn’t going to tell her I was in labor until he was here. Well I ended up laboring for 60 hours and being transferred to the hospital for a c section so that all went to shit anyway. I was also 9 days overdue so she was constantly calling. The morning I first went into labor my husband was using my phone to time contractions and sent her to voicemail. She knew instantly that I must be in labor and started blowing up my MILs phone for an update. It was a horrible experience. I really hope my next delivery is “quick” and smooth so I can deliver without telling anyone. My in laws will know because they will keep my son but I would like that to be it.
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  • I was more adamant about not having visitors at our house the first couple of weeks. I wanted that time to let DH and I bond with baby and try and find our new normal. My parents and in laws each brought us some meals in the first week but that was it. We will do the same this time
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  • My parents (dad and stepmom) live 1500 miles away and already have a trip planned for about two weeks after our EDD. It was planned before i told them, LOL. So that’s when they’ll see us. They are staying at ours for a few of those days, and I’m okay with that. My mom is going to be the best grandma ever. I can’t wait for her to come stay! My parents are SUPER CHILL. 
  • 😢 nothing makes you feel alone like realizing you have no one to watch your kids or visit you in the hospital. Our family lives in Western New York, and we are in Alaska. We have a few friends and work friends, but no one close enough to even want to visit. My BFF is in Arizona, and if she could afford it she would drop everything to be here with us.
  • @indulgentgypsy That is my situation too. I can't ask anyone without offering compensation, so we're going to have to budget to pay for someone to be on-call to stay with DS. 
  • We live in a completely different state than all of our family and friends, who all have to book flights or drive 2+ days to see us. So, given that it's our first, I'm happy that it'll just be H and me at the hospital. He has said, however, that it'll be hard to keep his parents from visiting shortly after the baby is born. I'm due July 8, so am putting the request out to both sets of parents in the next few weeks that no one plan a trip to visit until after August 1. I want time to come home, bond, figure out the new routine, heal, etc. We'll see how that goes!
  • DD was feeding through a tube and I was trying to get my milk to come in for the first few months so we were hermits once we got home. After about a week of trying to do everything alone while  healing from a CS I called my mom. She came every day for 6 weeks until I was cleared to do everything. But other than that we had no visitors. We didn't see anyone until my mom threw a family party when DD was 4 months old and we had sort of started to figure out life with a baby.
  • My sister was in the delivery room with us the 1st time and I loved it. She just stood back and took pictures. I loved having those candid pictures of H, myself, and our new son! No other guests though. 

    We did have guests in the hospital with my 2nd since wewe lived only a few hours away. They didn't stay for very long so it wasn't so bad. 

    I don't mind guests at house afterwards unless they are staying at our house. Then I feel like I have to clean, cook, and play hostess and I freaking hate it. 
    Wife. Boy mom x6. Expecting #7. Wannabe homesteader.
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  • My sister and DH were the only two present for both my kids. My sister, a mom of 3, was infinitely more comforting and helpful than DH, lol. I wanted him to just step back and leave me alone. She knew all the things to do/say. Now we live 3000 miles away. My parents are flying out 3 weeks before the due date (mine both came 2 weeks early), so they can help with the kids. I wish I had people to come see us in the hospital, it's so boring! 
    Momma to Amelia Marie (7/14) and Austin Samuel (11/17). Adding baby (girl) #3 on 7/21  <3
  • With our first my MIL, SIL and Mom both came up after our daughter was born. With our second, no one came until the following day, My MIL also brought our daughtshower meet heshoshower meet 

    I don't mind visitors, but I was adamant about only my husband in the delivery room. I also didn't want anyone waiting to come see the baby while I was in labor at the hospital. Everyone was notified after delivery and did not come until I was moved into a private room, had some alone time with my baby, and got to take a shower.
  • This... my baby isn't even born yet and I'm getting the guilt trip about making my kid as smart as possible?!?!?! I didnt even read the article, just got mad...


  • @cindler Ha! I'm not even taking prenatals (on my OB's orders due to HG). I haven't read the article but I'm guessing that means my baby's screwed. The articles my helpful mother keeps cutting out of the newspaper for me are all about how the older the parents are the more chance of your kid's brain function being lower. I'm almost 40 and SO is almost 52. So according to the newspaper and my mom my baby has no chance anyways:/
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