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July 2019 Moms
mamanbebe
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Holiday Weekend Randoms 12/22-12/25
mamanbebe
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Welcome to your safe space to rant and rave about this very special time of year!
Re: Holiday Weekend Randoms 12/22-12/25
My FIL got snippy because we told him that we weren’t going to be able to make it to his side of the family Christmas on Christmas Eve night. We’ve expressed so many times that we want that time as a family and to start traditions with our own kids. My in laws are so selfish and don’t care. Not to mention that we are spending the entire morning with my MIL FIL SIL and BIL and we’ve had that planned for months. We JUST found out about my FIL family get together 2 days ago. It’s so frustrating because they beg us to go to his side of the family for every holiday but they smoke in the house. No one wants to be around that... especially with being pregnant. I don’t want my kids around it either. They refuse to have it any other place.
She also tells me that that I shouldn’t encourage my son to like the color pink (he’s 2 and it’s his favorite color, sorry not gonna tell him that he can’t like a color) and she and my sisters also said my oldest is going to be gay because of the way I dress him. Like 1. What does that have anything to do with being gay? 2. If my boys are gay I would still love them! lol she’s crazy.
The boys stayed with my in laws last night so DH and i got to have a nice night shopping and having dinner. We got to sleep in this morning, and it feels glorious! Super low key weekend planned, gonna finish wrapping and bake cookies with the boys! Looking forward to a quiet Holliday weekend
As far as my family, my mom, dad, and sister have been super supportive. We’re telling the rest of the family at Christmas. We’re actually not going to one set of grandparents for the first time ever. In the last few years, we’ve gradually set some boundaries like not coming on Christmas but visiting after. This year, not coming at all. It’s so hard to split all these christmases in different states. I have NEVER had Christmas at my own house. Things are going to have to change when little one arrives. But we’re announcing to them with a gift that my parents will bring them.
My other plan is a pretty big announcement with a gift for my grandma (a different one). Then everyone will find out at the same time when she opens. My anxiety is through the roof already and this won’t happen until 12/25. I’m kind of tempted to just tell her separately and then let everyone find out when they come. That would be easier for me... but I’m leaning towards doing what’s most special for everyone else. Let’s see if I can make it without an anxiety attack! I hate being center of attention. Lol.
Yay, Christmas fun, eh? Anyone not excited for Christmas? I can’t wait for this to be over. Just turned 30, guess I’m becoming a Scrooge. 🤷🏻♀️
How is have you dealt with backlash from setting boundaries? I dread that when the time comes.
So we got a Christmas duck... Someone asked on our local FB if anyone could take an injured duck and we are suckers so....
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@nopegoat cute duck!
Well the check I've been waiting on still hasn't arrived so Christmas is going to be very light this year
Thankful I have a wonderful husband and a low key family who is great at rolling with whatever happens!
His family on the other hand, will is unpredictable. SIL has always been bitter that her little brother got married before her (but she has never showed signs of wanting to settle down, shes a party animal). She also just went through the process of freezing her eggs, which her parents paid for and encouraged yet she's only 32. It was weird I can see her and MIL being bitter that she didn't give the first grandchild. FIL I think will be elated. He's been so lost since he retired a couple of years ago. I think this is just what he needs.
However, my husband invited one of his friends to join us for christmas dinner. He doesn't have any family around, so I'm happy to open up our home. I just think it's so horrible that we're going to have the big reveal to the family and then be like "oh but you can't say anything the rest of the day once our friend gets here." He has a big mouth and there's no way he'd be able to keep it a secret. Plus with the threatened miscarriage earlier this week we aren't telling ANYONE else until12 weeks. So we're basically taking away all the joy and excitement of their first grandchild from them. I'm trying not to be annoyed, but I really am!
My rant is in-law related too. My MIL is the most selfish person I know. We go over to her place after my daughters nap, so we do Christmas morning just myself my husband and DD. She wants us there first thing and wants us to stay all day and evening. We shut her down but she still complains we aren’t there long enough. Then after dinner at her place around 6 we leave for DHs grandmas to see the cousins and do gifts for an hour or two. She always loses her shit every year when we leave to go there, it’s her husbands family and she doesn’t like that we go see them so early but I’m not going later than that with a 3yo. She rolls into her MIL’s at 930pm as everyone is leaving just to say she made an appearance. It’s so rude.
She also works a lot (by choice), so when she has anytime off (usually only stat holidays) she demands she gets to see her granddaughter and gets mad if we dare to have other plans. DH has been working 70hr weeks and he’s only off Christmas Eve, Christmas Day and Boxing Day so I’ve already made it clear Boxing Day is a family day just the three of us to relax but I know she’ll be mad that she’s off work and we “aren’t allowing her” to see my DD.
Im supposed to sing in the choir at mass tomorrow night. And now I’m worried I’ll have no voice. Trying to not talk at all today.
Should be good for keeping things secret with the in-laws tonight. Since I’m actually not feeling good... so that’s a relief.
Now I wish I could relax with some wine until family shows up!
On a related note, My sister is coming tonight and we usually drink together. DH put some water in a vodka bottle so I could pretend. Mmmm nothing like water and La Croix. So happy when I can let go of the charade!
Also, everyone looking or touching to see if/when my bump will “pop” is getting old fast...it’s like “Chill people. When it happens you will know”
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My sil announced she was expecting over Thanksgiving. Which I was excited about. So after I announced tonight, she asked if it was okay if she can announce some more baby (I had no idea what it was). Bc I didn't want to be selfish or a jerk I said it was fine. Guess what, she's having twins!
I don't know how I should feel. Pretty much a mix of everything. Also I feel like it's going to be a competition.
Christmas #2 tomorrow. Heading up there for a 6 hour trip in a little bit. Let’s hope this nausea stays under control on the windy roads 🤢
Ive got a full day around town doing some last minute errands. Hopefully traffic isn’t as atrocious as it was on Saturday.
@bartonolivia You do you.
@canuckmomma what the damn hell is wrong with people. I want to punch them for you. I probably would have screamed my head off (if I didn’t have this laryngitis).
@mamanbebe May the traffic gods be ever in your favor.
@asupernovablizzardstorm wow... sorry about the competition going on. Mine is gonna be weird, too. My cousin’s girlfriend is due 1 week ahead of me. She announced at Thanksgiving. I think she is going to officially announce at Christmas and I’m just gonna be like, me, too. But the whole family pretty much knows about hers already. I know theirs is unplanned, so I feel like it steals a little of my thunder since it took me years to get my BFP...but whatever. That’s my personal hang ups.
@blsparks2010 that is so annoying that they are already gender-jockeying. As a family of all girls, my dad answered it by saying he’d get a boy dog. Maybe you can come up with something snarky like that? im all snark. Haha.
@quinniebear I’ll be thinking about you as you tell the in-laws. Stressful, but you got this.
My laryngitis ‘tis is still there, so I won’t be singing in the choir tonight. I’m really disappointed. We’ve been working on this mass for months. We sing all traditional, formal masses from like Mozart and stuff for big masses. This year was Haydn St Nicolai mass. Seriously worked our butts off. But the morning sickness burned my throat. I also developed a fever last night. Only 99.8 and I’m keeping it down well enough. So nothing to worry about, just uncomfortable. And the chills make me gag, making the throat stuff worse. Looks like the rest of the holiday is going to be a lot rest, a lot of fluids.
Im 11 years older than my little sister. So I was a helper not a hindrance. I can only imagine.