@mermaidca Good point! I'm nervous to get waxed anyway, so maybe I'll just avoid it to save pain and money. I have to figure out something, though - I'm so hairy!
Waxing my nether regions sounds a little too adventurous to me. I don't know if I'm that brave. If I get a shower mirror, I can handle things for a little longer on my own. My boyfriend has mentioned there may be some bikini area Nair or similar product that we can try but idk if any of that stuff is safe for the baby. Pregnancy comes with some unexpected hurdles. If I was rich I would totally be getting laser hair removal treatments to never deal with shaving again. Because these hairs that keep popping up on my chin now have got to go too. Hahaha.
Going on the wax/shave talk, if your DH/BF has a beard trimmer, use that along with a mirror and a razor along your bikini line. Should take care of the problem.
If you don't have a trimmer, I highly recommend investing in one.
@mermaidca, @rennie1108, re: waxing, I get waxed regularly (granted, it started before pregnancy), and yes, there is more blood flow down there, so it is slightly more uncomfortable than when you aren't pregnant, but the extra blood flow makes the hair come out much easier. my wax lady tells how beautifully my hair is coming out every time she waxes me now
but if you weren't getting waxed regularly before getting pregnant, I don't think I would recommend starting during a pregnancy. I think it could scar you for life.
Haha I love this topic! (but I'm a little weird). I really like hearing other people's perspective on this type of thing because I don't have a lot to go on. I think I may try the beard trimmer with mirror and then just wing it. @batmama31 I think you're right that I may be scarred for life lol.
Fwiw, during my first pregnancy, I was able to keep things trimmed down there very easily. I don't wax or shave, but I do keep it trimmed short with scissors. (And with all the blood and such after birth, I would NOT recommend just letting it all grow past second Tri or so. It'll be much easier to get and stay clean if it's short.)
I am a pretty average-size person with a pretty average-size bump. I mostly trimmed by feel. I also could kind of suck in and peer to the side around my bump. I would just cut very slowly, so if I did catch skin, I wasn't hurting myself.
Have your husbands/boyfriends do it! Seems like the obvious solution.
Hahaha my boyfriend offered this as a solution but when I asked if he wanted me near his ball sack with a razor blade he understood why I politely declined lol.
I wax, it's not dangerous at all and it only hurts a little bit more when pregnant. It feels exactly the same as having it done when you're on your period, just mildly more painful.
If you've never been waxed before I wouldn't recommend starting with anyone unexperienced/doing it yourself or using any kind of wax other than hard wax- it hurts a lot less as it doesn't stick to your skin like soft wax.
@phoenix92885 I asked DH to help me trim with his beard trimmer. He said sure. I mean he probably knows the lay of the land better then me anyways seeing as I don’t ever stick my face down there or see it from a good angle.
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@phoenix92885 I asked DH to help me trim with his beard trimmer. He said sure. I mean he probably knows the lay of the land better then me anyways seeing as I don’t ever stick my face down there or see it from a good angle.
This had me giggling. I also asked DH to help and he was like OK RIGHT NOW? No bro - just eventually. Calm down.
My FFFC: I think it's really silly when people name all their kids with the same first letter or (to a lesser extent) have a "theme." Like, okay... your mom's name starts with H, your siblings all start with H, I'm guessing your name does too. -rolls eyes-
That being said, entirely unintentional we picked an M name for this kid, so now our initials go J-K-L-M. Oops.
My FFFC: I think it's really silly when people name all their kids with the same first letter or (to a lesser extent) have a "theme." Like, okay... your mom's name starts with H, your siblings all start with H, I'm guessing your name does too. -rolls eyes-
That being said, entirely unintentional we picked an M name for this kid, so now our initials go J-K-L-M. Oops.
When my aunt (who has twin boys herself) found out we had named one of the twins she said "Well then they're both named, because the names have to match." LOL. No.
@kangstadt I absolutely agree. My sister had a friend growing up and all the kids were Stacy/Lacey/Macie etc. I can’t even think about how often they called the wrong name or got the wrong kid coming when called.
Our girls will have rhyming nicknames but that’s coincidence.
i think jklm isn't something most people would even put together. And also easier to do on accident then naming all kids with the same fist initial.
Also I think it’s even weirder when it’s the same initial as one of the parents. (Like the Duggers. The mom is the only person in the family without a J name. Does that feel weird? Like you are left out? Or like you’re special?)
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I've got a good one to share, and I may lose some popularity points here, idk:
every year a group of friends does a friendsgiving/dirty santa party in early dec. and after talking w/ one friend about it, I've decided my friends are lazy fucks. it's literally our ONLY pot luck event all year long, and me and 2 others are the only people who can be bothered to actually PREPARE something from our own kitchen for this event. we've done this for about 4yrs, and in the past, I would push down my disgruntledness thinking maybe I'm the snooty one & just need to accept that not everyone has that domestic spark. but my friend pointed out that cooking is not that fucking hard. even the shit that we prepare. I brought deviled eggs. it's not that hard. just boil some fucking eggs. she brought sweet potato casserole. chop up some potatoes, sprinkle some sugar & cinnamon, bake it, and throw some marshmallows on top of that shit. IT'S NOT THAT HARD. what really brought me home on this was the fact that at my work, the operations crew & mechanics put on a pot luck for the whole maintenance center. guys, I work w/ old-ass rednecks who have 45min+ commutes from the countryside and they manage to bring in HOMEMADE SIDES PREPARED ON A WEEKDAY. if they can do it, surely these lazy bitches can put SOMETHING together on a fucking saturday.
here were the store-bought contributions this year: - walmart spinach dip (even after someone else brought in HOMEMADE spinach dip) - walmart dinner rolls - walmart variety cake - stale-ass donuts from dunkin - leftover cheese & crackers
everything else was brought/made by me and 2 other friends. the contributions above were brought in by 4 lazy fucks who couldn't be bothered. like, why even show up??
oh, and then the dirty santa gifts- omfg. more than half of them were liquor that no one drinks. like, WHYYYYYY. thank god it's dirty santa b/c every year I just buy something for myself & then steal it back.
@batmama31 nope I agree. I mean sometimes life gets in the way and grabbing a prepared veggie tray on your way is the only way to go, but if it's every year, I would have to agree. At least pick up something nicer than dinner rolls? My SIL and I were bitching last year because one of DH's cousins brought a single ring of shrimp as his contribution to last years party. I made a really nice cheesecake and did a veggie tray with a few dips, people made gorgeous salads, homemade oyster stew, etc. and he picked up one shrimp ring. Which was mainly eaten by him and his daughter. Sooooo.... thanks? There are plenty of easy peasy things you can make up real quick.
@batmama31 no, you are totally right, they are super lazy. Even if you are really bad at cooking (my sister can barely cook, like she has a couple small one person “meals” she can do) they could at least buy something decent. That’s just ridiculous.
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@lyse01, @MRDcle, @thatbaintforbetty, thank you!! I have one friend who always makes the green bean casserole & it's b/c she knows its one of the few things she can't fuck up b/c she doesn't have the greatest cooking skills. surely, EVERYONE can find ONE THING that they can do decently enough to share w/ people at a pot luck.
@batmama31 you're in good standing with me. That's lazy. How old are your friends? I've noticed that the older we've gotten, the better our potlucks have become. Like when we were in our mid 20s, we all bought something from the store. Now that we are all in our early 30s, we have our "speciality" dishes that we each bring.
Totally one of the reasons I hate potluck! I always go all out (well not even, like mentioned it's pretty easy) and then there's always that jerk who walks in with a bag of chips. NO!
My sister and I have also cooled it with parties. We would throw house parties and spend the whole day cooking. Then a friend would throw a party at their house and have store bought spinach dip and half a box of crackers. Oh, no homemade Vietnamese salad rolls? Got it.
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@kangstadt I absolutely agree. My sister had a friend growing up and all the kids were Stacy/Lacey/Macie etc. I can’t even think about how often they called the wrong name or got the wrong kid coming when called.
Our girls will have rhyming nicknames but that’s coincidence.
One of my sister’s and I have rhyming names. I hated it when we were teenagers because friends would call the house asking for one of us (cellphones weren’t a thing) and inevitably we’d get on the phone and it would be the wrong one of us. Her friends were annoying AF.
As for parents calling kids by the wrong name it doesn’t matter if they rhyme or not. You’ll eventually end up calling out the wrong name, lol. My boys have 2 very different names and I’m so guilty of it.
@tumblefluff My parents still to this day just point and say "you" sometimes, or go through all the names (including the dog, lol) before they get the right kid.
I imagine it would be a whole lot worse if they had rhyming or similar sounding names though.
I will get the girls mixed up a lot i'm sure but oh well, lol.
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@thatbaintforbetty H and I already accidentally call each other by the cats’ (and dog before she passed) names. Once we were on a dog walk and H said “midway_mouse (actually my real name) do your poops.” Omg....
@midway_mouse DH and i never call each other by our actual names. I can probably count on one hand the number of times i have called him by his name to him in 7+ years. I don't know if that's weird or not. We almost always say babe, or sometimes love, if we are talking to each other.
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@midway_mouse DH and i never call each other by our actual names. I can probably count on one hand the number of times i have called him by his name to him in 7+ years. I don't know if that's weird or not. We almost always say babe, or sometimes love, if we are talking to each other.
Same. Actually name is if we're pissy with each other. It's always babe or some other really random term of endearment.
Re: FFFC 12/14
If you don't have a trimmer, I highly recommend investing in one.
but if you weren't getting waxed regularly before getting pregnant, I don't think I would recommend starting during a pregnancy. I think it could scar you for life.
Fwiw, during my first pregnancy, I was able to keep things trimmed down there very easily. I don't wax or shave, but I do keep it trimmed short with scissors. (And with all the blood and such after birth, I would NOT recommend just letting it all grow past second Tri or so. It'll be much easier to get and stay clean if it's short.)
I am a pretty average-size person with a pretty average-size bump. I mostly trimmed by feel. I also could kind of suck in and peer to the side around my bump. I would just cut very slowly, so if I did catch skin, I wasn't hurting myself.
If you've never been waxed before I wouldn't recommend starting with anyone unexperienced/doing it yourself or using any kind of wax other than hard wax- it hurts a lot less as it doesn't stick to your skin like soft wax.
DD born: 3/31/19
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My FFFC: I think it's really silly when people name all their kids with the same first letter or (to a lesser extent) have a "theme." Like, okay... your mom's name starts with H, your siblings all start with H, I'm guessing your name does too. -rolls eyes-
That being said, entirely unintentional we picked an M name for this kid, so now our initials go J-K-L-M. Oops.
Our girls will have rhyming nicknames but that’s coincidence.
i think jklm isn't something most people would even put together. And also easier to do on accident then naming all kids with the same fist initial.
Also I think it’s even weirder when it’s the same initial as one of the parents. (Like the Duggers. The mom is the only person in the family without a J name. Does that feel weird? Like you are left out? Or like you’re special?)
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every year a group of friends does a friendsgiving/dirty santa party in early dec. and after talking w/ one friend about it, I've decided my friends are lazy fucks. it's literally our ONLY pot luck event all year long, and me and 2 others are the only people who can be bothered to actually PREPARE something from our own kitchen for this event. we've done this for about 4yrs, and in the past, I would push down my disgruntledness thinking maybe I'm the snooty one & just need to accept that not everyone has that domestic spark. but my friend pointed out that cooking is not that fucking hard. even the shit that we prepare. I brought deviled eggs. it's not that hard. just boil some fucking eggs. she brought sweet potato casserole. chop up some potatoes, sprinkle some sugar & cinnamon, bake it, and throw some marshmallows on top of that shit. IT'S NOT THAT HARD. what really brought me home on this was the fact that at my work, the operations crew & mechanics put on a pot luck for the whole maintenance center. guys, I work w/ old-ass rednecks who have 45min+ commutes from the countryside and they manage to bring in HOMEMADE SIDES PREPARED ON A WEEKDAY. if they can do it, surely these lazy bitches can put SOMETHING together on a fucking saturday.
here were the store-bought contributions this year:
- walmart spinach dip (even after someone else brought in HOMEMADE spinach dip)
- walmart dinner rolls
- walmart variety cake
- stale-ass donuts from dunkin
- leftover cheese & crackers
everything else was brought/made by me and 2 other friends. the contributions above were brought in by 4 lazy fucks who couldn't be bothered. like, why even show up??
oh, and then the dirty santa gifts- omfg. more than half of them were liquor that no one drinks. like, WHYYYYYY. thank god it's dirty santa b/c every year I just buy something for myself & then steal it back.
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My sister and I have also cooled it with parties. We would throw house parties and spend the whole day cooking. Then a friend would throw a party at their house and have store bought spinach dip and half a box of crackers. Oh, no homemade Vietnamese salad rolls? Got it.
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As for parents calling kids by the wrong name it doesn’t matter if they rhyme or not. You’ll eventually end up calling out the wrong name, lol. My boys have 2 very different names and I’m so guilty of it.
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