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  • ki1244ki1244 member
    @tuxielove93 if not for Lillith Fair (which ruined it) I would 100000% name a kid after Lillith from Cheers. That woman is my hero! (I wouldn't really do it...but I'd think about it a lot more anyway.) Technically Lillian is our Disney name (I know it isn't how pregnancy works, but 40 weeks back from my due date we were in Disney World so both boy and girl names have a Disney tie) sooooo I can't oppose it all THAT much -- Lillian was Walt Disney's wife's name and is where the presidential train car on the Disneyland railroad (the Lilly Belle) got its name. Hoping it just grows on me.
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  • vv826vv826 member
    @gta4334 yes DD2 name is Briseis. he suggested it before we were even married and I told him that it would never happen well he wore me down when I was pg. Now I love it and it fits her "uniqueness". Everyone mispronounces it though but o well I just correct them in the nicest way possible! 
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  • antera23antera23 member
    @vv826 just curious, how do you pronounce Briseis? 
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  • vv826vv826 member
    @antera23 its Bree-say-is. he got it off the troy movie she hector's and Paris' cousin the one that Achilles (Brad Pitt) falls in love with. I read it off the Iliad but it never caught my attention. 
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  • gta4334gta4334 member
    @vv826 what a unique name! very cool! 
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  • vv826vv826 member
    @gta4334 thanks like I said it really fits her 
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  • antera23antera23 member
    @vv826 what a beautiful name! 
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  • wisehwiseh member
    If I have a girl I’ve always wanted to call her Mieneke (min-eh-ka) because I really like the name and I’d never thought of boys names. My partner likes the idea of Stuart who is his late uncle that he was quite close to. So I think we’re set on first names.

    Now the question is, what will the last name be? Mine or his? My partner wants it to have his last name so he can “feel closer to it” because he’s feeling “left out” throughout the pregnancy (he’s literally been to every appointment and scan unless he couldn’t make it due to work, and in those circumstances I’ve sent him as many pictures as I could take during the scan, and he insists I give him a symptom update at least 5 times a day) but then I kind of feel a bit left out not having its last name. We can’t hyphenate because it doesn’t work at all, no matter who’s name comes first. We’ve discussed last names when we eventually get married and I’m kind of set on keeping my last name and my partner is happy to change because he doesn’t feel like it belongs to him (he appears to have a bit of an identity issue).

    Are there any unmarried mums or mums who kept their name last name when they got married who can give me an insight on how they went about choosing who’s last name your children get? 
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  • cricket1688cricket1688 member
    @wiseh I’m married and kept my last name. However I’m not sure mine is permanent as I may decide to swap to DH last name eventually. For us we decided the baby would take his last name. It sounds like your partner may switch to your last name? If that’s the case I’d say that’s your answer right there! 
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  • wisehwiseh member
    @cricket1688 his family are super against the idea of him changing his last name though and a lot of his friends have already had massive goes at him for even contemplating the idea. It’s pretty sad that we’re “expected” to take the man’s name even though it originates from a time when women were possessions and taking your husband’s last name indicated you were owned by him. We’ve contemplated just choosing a totally random last name that’s unrelated to anybody, but don’t even know where to start looking for last names! Haha
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  • DcwtadaDcwtada member
    edited December 2018
    I had kept my last name officially but went by DHs last name for anything family related including FB. I eventually switched my last name to his a couple months ago (we had been married more than 2 years by then) since I don’t think I’ll go back to a professional career. His last name is common and my maiden was not - gave me some distinction and recognizability in my small specialized work circles. For me it was nice to have our family have the same last name (even if my drivers license said different). It’s hard to plan a last name if you and your partner are not sure what name he will take or vice versa if you ever do get married but I think you guys can make it special however you do it even choosing a new last name! My DH doesn’t even have his parents last name (long story) we have made it our own and there is something really cool about that, even if it doesn’t have the history my last name does. 

    Another option to consider if it appeals to you is giving your baby one of your last names as their middle name and the other as their last name. That used to be a pretty common tradition in the not so distant past, especially for the firstborn. 

    ETA: tagging @wiseh
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  • wisehwiseh member
    @Dcwtada I like the idea of keeping official last names and going by others, or vice versa. My partner has never used a resume and gets all his work through his name. We’ve really not put much thought into the ramifications. Our last names are Phelan and Wiseman so I’m not sure having one as a middle name would work? So many options! 
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  • KissMeImScottishKissMeImScottish member
    @Erin1510, that’s a beautiful tribute to your mom, no matter which one you use. I love how family names keep memories alive. And Jameson is beautiful.
    Married 25 May, 2013
    William Alexander born 18 September, 2015
    Harper Grace born 9 June, 2017
    Colton Miles born 9 June, 2017
    Bowen James due 19 June, 2019
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  • TJtheGoatTJtheGoat member
    @wiseh BF and I are trying to hash out the last name dilemma as well. Right now, the tentative plan is to use both names. For what it’s worth, I think Phelan-Wiseman or Wiseman-Phelan is just fine. And if you feel that’s too much, Phelan is a good middle name choice. It’s hard to decide though! 
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  • gta4334gta4334 member
    @wiseh I think Phelan is a pretty cool middle name actually! 
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  • Erin1510Erin1510 member
    +1 for using Phelan as a middle name and Wiseman as the last! I think it solves the problem and allows you to avoid giving your child a super long hyphenated last name
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  • r_kr_k member
    edited December 2018
    I also like Phelan as a middle name!  I'm married and I didn't change my last name nor do I have any intentions to - and I still publicly go by my maiden name as well.  However, our little girl will have my husband's last name.  It never really occurred to me for her to have my last name to be honest (and it's not that I don't like my last name - I like it a lot actually).  Even though our last names are different I guess I've always thought of us as the 'insert husband's last name' family so to me it was natural for her to have his last name (plus I know it means a lot to him) and I'm completely ok with that! I think it just depends what is important to you.  If having both names is truly important then I love the middle name, last name idea that way both families are acknowledged and he/she will have an awesome and unique middle name.
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  • kjr9519kjr9519 member
    DH is on board for the girl name I really like finally! I think we’re going with Eloise for a girl. We just have to find a middle name to go with it that we like. We also have to find a boys name we agree on.
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  • canuckbabycanuckbaby member
    edited December 2018
    I declined to take my husbands last name as part of the conditions of our engagement.... his condition was we have a destination wedding and mine was i keeping my last name... when we made a facebook group to keep things organized for our wedding we combined our last names (schurek and torguson) into schurguson and called it the schurguson wedding. Lol totally ran it past my husband for our kids last name. He didnt bite

    Edited to add we decided that he/she would take his last name. No way am i hyphenating that
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  • sarcat87sarcat87 member
    edited December 2018
    A coworker that knows I'm expecting recently asked me what names we were considering. I said a few and she stopped me at one (which is Zadie for a girl) and said, "I don't like that. It sounds Jewish and no one is going to get it right." WTF. She asked ME and I definitely didn't ask for her opinion. I decided right then and there that that was the last time I discuss names with anyone I know other than my hubby until the baby is born. 
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  • sarcat87sarcat87 member
    Yes to "the list". On the notes section in my phone and it's long!
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  • wisehwiseh member
    I’ve really been thinking of the last name as middle name and I’m falling in love with the idea! My partner has had 3 last names in his life and all of them would work, Reilly and McWilliams (change to William) are the other two, so I’ve pitched that idea to him. Fingers crossed he gets on board! Fingers crossed we have a boy at some stage so we can use William haha. I think he’s keen. Thanks so much ladies!! ❤️❤️
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  • ncm1919ncm1919 member
    @sarcat87 Zaide is actually Yiddish for Grandfather. Regardless your friend is rude and that is a really ugly comment. Your spelling appears to be the name of a successful British novelist. I wouldn’t let that person influence you 
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  • sarcat87sarcat87 member
    edited December 2018
    @ncm1919 I'm not. I was just kind of shocked by the whole interaction And it's been bugging me. The weird part is that she is Jewish and I am not so I'm not sure why she was making it seem like that's negative. Interesting that it's so close to a Yiddish word though! I didn't know that. I got it from a 1800's baby name list. It's a variant of Sadie. https://www.baby2see.com/names/1880s.html
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  • antera23antera23 member
    @wiseh we are giving the baby 4 names. A first name, a middle name, my last name, and his last name. My parents named me in that fashion also :) 
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  • momerath81momerath81 member
    I love Kate, but I'm having a hard time finding a middle name to go with it.
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
    @momerath81 are you doing Kate or a longer version (Katelyn, Katherine, etc.)?

    If just Kate, I feel like you'd need a multi-syllable middle name...
    Elizabeth
    Madeline
    Olivia
    Sophia
    Patricia
    ?? 
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  • canuckbabycanuckbaby member
    @momerath81 is there a need for a middle name? 
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  • luckystar28luckystar28 member
    I don't have a middle name and always wish I had one lol! 
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  • catmommaccatmommac member
    edited December 2018
    @canuckbaby @luckystar28 my DH has only a middle initial and while he doesn’t mind it, he wishes he had the full middle name it was supposed to represent. He never had much trouble with the initial, except some forms he had to fill out for grad school that required a minimum of 2 letters for a middle name. I’m sure forms have gotten more accommodating in the last few years, but I’d still go with a middle name.

    edit: grammar
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  • carleym93carleym93 member
    Opinions please: 

    H and I can’t agree on what to do about our boy name. I want Broderick nn Brody because I feel like Broderick is just nicer and gives him more options if he wants to go by something else. DH doesn’t like Broderick, only wants Brody on the birth certificate. Am I overthinking this? 
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  • DcwtadaDcwtada member
    Digging this up even though we don’t know the sex yet... 

    We decided on Gabriel Paul or Sarah Christine

    We have:
    Sophia Lynn
    David Arthur
    Joseph Dean

    I am slightly concerned Sophia and Sarah are too close but I do like the closeness in the same sense. All the middle names are family names, the first names are just ones we like. 

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  • antera23antera23 member
    @carleym93 you’re not over thinking it! Naming a baby is such a big deal! I like the point you make about giving him other options later on in life. Did you and your H talk more about it? 
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  • carleym93carleym93 member
    @antera23 No 😂 But I think I’m going to have to pull “Are you the one that is ripping open to your butthole? Then I’m choosing the name” card hahaha
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  • messymyrandamessymyranda member
    I told my husband that he is in charge of naming this time since I already had to come up with two kids' names. He wants Lovelace to be the middle name. Now to think of something that would sound ok as a first name with that.
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  • vv826vv826 member
    @carleym93 😂😂 sometimes you have too!

    @messymyranda awe and I'm the opposite DH chose last time so this time I told him he has no say
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  • ShadeofGreen816ShadeofGreen816 member
    @carleym93 I actually have known several women that go in with 2-3 names but one they prefer and count on the H to say “you just did that... you can pick” and it has worked all the times I know about! Haha
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  • momerath81momerath81 member
    @ShadeofGreen816, @canuckbaby thanks for replying! I love the suggestion Madeline, since that is my dd's name. Anyway, I found out after that post that baby is a boy, so problem solved!
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