UO Thursday 12/13

peachy13 · December 2018

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

I don't like puppies. 🙅

Sure, they're cute, but I don't have the patience for my shit getting chewed up, my house being pooped and peed in, the time it takes to actually train and have the puppy listen to you. Gah. No. Baby humans, I can handle, puppies-- hard pass.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

Don't tell her i said that 😂

chloe97 · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds YOU DON"T LIKE PUPPIES??? Much like babies, their cuteness makes up for their sometimes naughty behavior. I mean case in point- my dog Barney's puppy profile picture that made us adopt him.

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eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@chloe97 I like puppies that aren't mine just fine 😂

SpaceBurger · December 2018

I'm kind of with you @eatinwatermelonseeds . I would gladly adopt an older doggie that is past the puppy stage. Our pup was a handful even though he didn't have accidents in the house. He chewed a bunch of stuff. Now he's a really great dog. We did get him as a puppy though because we tried to adopt before that, but the lady didn't mention the dog's aggression. He ended up biting me and other dogs

I would have kept him, but we lived in a busy apartment, and I didn't want him to be put down for biting someone. We gave him back, and I cried for a month. Awful!

This is probably not unpopular, but I noticed that often people tell you to eat two cupcakes or two treats or two meals because "one is for the baby". It's mildly annoying because there is no self control in me, so I'll eat both when I really really really don't need that and wouldn't have gotten two on my own. I don't like when people do that even though they're just being nice.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@SpaceBurger there is such a different Outlook on pregnancy when it comes to eating. I think in general I like the leeway, but I also tend to take it a little overboard KNOWING I don't have to "eat for 2" but I mean, I'm already eating anyway 🤷😂

wishiwaspreggo · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds - The thought of raising a puppy right now makes me want to scream so I totally get it. They are a TON of work. However, once I'm through the infancy/toddler years I can't wait to get one (or two space permitting)! Like infants/toddlers, they're so effing cute and well worth the effort and mess. Same with kittens. Gaaaaaaaaaah I want more pets so bad but I just can't. Not with newborn twins on the way.

@SpaceBurger - Along the same lines, I *hate* it when people say "sleep while you can" when you're pregnant. The kind of sleep I get when pregnant is not at ALL the same kind of sleep I get when not pregnant. When I'm not pregnant, sleeping 6-7 hours feels just fine and I wake up feeling ready to face the day even if I'd prefer a little more. Sleeping 9-10 hours feels like heaven and I soar through my day with energy and cheer. When pregnant, though? I don't sleep, I temporarily die. I can sleep 14 hours solid and feel like I only slept 2 hours. My eyes burn perpetually, my body feels heavy, my muscles hurt, I can't focus, and I doze ALL the time. I can't sleep enough. And the sleep I DO get just feels like a tease no matter how much I get. So fuck off with your "sleep now" because I will feel like a new woman when these babies are out of me and not sucking my dry of the very little precious energy I have remaining.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@wishiwaspreggo yessss. My son woke me up all the freaking time, but the sleep I got between wake ups, I was dead to the world. It was beautiful. I wake up constantly through the night now, not getting that solid sleep in between.

chloe97 · December 2018

@wishiwaspreggo I wish I could like your post 1000 times. Yes! Yes! Yes! I, thankfully do not have this issue with this pregnancy, but with DD I was lucky to get 4 hours non-medicated sleep in my first trimester and went literal days without sleeping. It was fucked up. After DD was born, I weaned off the sleeping pills and with the support of my amazing DH who shares the nights with me bc I did not breastfeed, always got 6-8 hours of sleep a night. After my hellish pregnancy, it was amazing. Needless to say, it took all my strength not to slap the people who said that to me in my last pregnancy. This time, I’m sleeping 8 hours at night and adding an hour nap in a lot of days. It’s glorious.

SpaceBurger · December 2018

@wishiwaspreggo YESSSS pregnancy sleep is terrible! Such a cruel joke to have your sleep suck so bad before getting less sleep with the baby. I think I was more tired at the end of my pregnancy than 2 months into the newborn phase.

expandcontract · December 2018

@wishiwaspreggo said: Sleeping 9-10 hours feels like heaven and I soar through my day with energy and cheer. When pregnant, though? I don't sleep, I temporarily die. I can sleep 14 hours solid and feel like I only slept 2 hours.

I love this!!!

@chloe97 im so glad you're not having the insomnia like you did last time!!! Thank God!!

wishiwaspreggo · December 2018

And don't get me started on having to pee all damn night long. Towards the end of my pregnancy I was peeing 10 times a night. I was in tears every time I woke up having to pee because I wanted so desperately for my body to stop torturing me. It was so bad that when I got 4 solid hours of sleep with my newborn - NOT pregnant - I felt like I slept better in that tiny period of time than I EVER did from 2nd tri on. I was so fucking happy to not be pregnant anymore that I passed my PPD tests with flying colors. My OB was puzzled by how happy contented I felt - and it's because a damned placenta wasn't acting as a vampire on my body anymore. Seriously, the moment that wretched thing slipped out of my body, I came back to life. I cannot wait for that sweet day to come again next spring. I'll feel it doubly so with TWO placentas. Oy.

mrsdee15 · December 2018

@eatinwatermelonseeds I love our dog, but oh my goodness I do not want another puppy. So. Much. Destruction. And pee. So much pee and destruction.

My UO is that I don't think Saturday Night Live is funny. Like, at all. Maybe it's the style of comedy, I just don't think over-the-top antics are all that funny. I do like the gifs that come out of it, though.

SpaceBurger · December 2018

@mrsdee15 YES! Agreed about SNL. Some of the actors go on to do funny things outside of SNL, but the show itself is terrible

mrsdee15 · December 2018

@SpaceBurger THANK YOU! DH always is trying to get me to watch sketches and I just... I feel bad but they aren't funny at ALL to me. I laugh pretty easily, but those just never get me.

kbeers13 · December 2018

This UO isn't mine, it's DH's. He doesn't want to be in the delivery room when shit gets real. Once I hit 10cm and doc starts prepping, he's out and I'll be there for the first moments without him. Granted I have others who would love to be there and I don't know how I feel about it other than shocked.

I called my provider today to schedule the "Childbirth Prep" class that's a total of 16 hours long... *ugh* I just realized that maybe I should schedule this with my BFF who would be there and love every second of it. Thoughts?

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@kbeers13 oh heck no. I wouldn't even give him that option. But if you have someone who would gladly be willing to be there, I would take that support. I just would be raising hell if H thought that was even kind of an option.

mrsdee15 · December 2018

@kbeers13 Does he have an issue with blood and the like? My DH wasn't in the OR for my c-section, but he gets really pale when anyone even mentions anything internal to him. I'm a little worried about him being in the delivery room because of this, if we are approved to try the VBAC. I don't want the nurses to have to worry about another patient (that is, DH getting all kinds of sick and potentially lightheaded) on top of me and DS making his way into the world.

lovelybabybumpz · December 2018

@kbeers13 Uh, I'd say 'sorry, I don't have the option to peace out when shit gets real, so you can also stay right in the room as we go through this together.' Unless you don't want him there, which I can't imagine is the case.

SpaceBurger · December 2018

@kbeers13 What if you get to 10 and start pushing and then..................it doesn't happen for another 3 hours haha. You should just duct tape him to a chair so he doesn't fall over if he faints. Problem solved.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@spaceburger right?! I was 10 for 3 hours before I even started pushing and pushed for an hour and a half. It's not just like "oh, you're at 10, oh there's the baby!" My midwife actually laughed at me. Like 3 pushes and I was like "is he almost here?" "Oh honey no" 😂

I let my husband take a nap after my epidural but you better believe that man held my leg for an hour and a half no questions asked (not that the nurse really gave him a choice anyway).

DuchessOfCambridge · December 2018

@kbeers13 agreed, I wouldn't give an option. The nurses can help, he can sit in a chair by your head and help you through it that way. Father up and get over it, dude. H doesn't do well with blood at all, legit will faint, but he kind of had an adrenaline burst when it was time to push and then for the csection, he stayed behind the curtain and didn't see anything. I couldn't have been alone, it was overwhelming and scary to go from thinking I was pushing and going to meet my son to needing emergency surgery. I also needed him there to help me answer questions of what I wanted because I totally forgot and he remembered. Your H can do it. I promise.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

My husband has asked not to be my birth coach because he feels like that's a lot of pressure and if he does it wrong, he'll disappoint me. I was a little annoyed, but he was in the room, he stood by me and rubbed my shoulder IN COMPLETE SILENCE the whole time 😂 I'm not picky, honestly a little "you're doing great honey" every now and then would've been nice, but H tends to be completely silent when he's trying to process things. Like literally you will be talking to him and he'll just go silent for like 2 minutes and start talking again and you're like "oh. We're still talking about that?" He just needs the time to process what you said, what he thinks about it, what he's going to say. It can take a while. And that situation was A LOT to process. So, he didn't have any words until after his baby was born, and he took all the pictures. It was still an amazing day, and he was perfect in my eyes. Plus he got this picture right when they put DS on my chest, so everything else didn't matter.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

Oh! I will say, prior to giving birth, H and I agreed he would not hold a leg and was not going to look down. We wanted to avoid that at all costs. But being that there was just one nurse and two legs, she didn't give him a choice. He saw it all. But bless his heart he just stared at the wall and tried to pretend nothing was happening. When I pooped, I knew it and I looked up at him mortified and he gave me this sweet "I don't know what you're talking about" grin. He knew, but I love him for pretending he didn't 😂

kvh22 · December 2018

@kbeers13 what @DuchessOfCambridge said. DH held my leg and cut the cord. It's not like he was standing down there watching the whole thing live for an hour and a half of pushing. I got an epidural so he was feeding me ice chips and accidentally dropping them, my OB and nurse were giving him a hard time, we all were laughing. They asked if he wanted to look when she was crowning, asked if he wanted to cut the cord, etc. but no one forced him. DD had to be cleaned out by a NICU doctor right away b/c of meconium so wasn't on my chest right away. I actually super weirdly delivered the placenta immediately after she came out (it literally just fell out), meanwhile, DH was able to go over and watch her getting cleaned so she didn't aspirate. It was only a few mins but I was so glad he was able to go over to the other side of the room with her. FIL is pretty old school but DH and his brother are 14 years apart so he was in the room when DH was born after regretting not doing that when BIL was born.

brie_and_almonds · December 2018

@kbeers13 I agree with everyone else... if you were there to make the baby, you damn well better be there when I'm pushing it out.

Also, like everyone else said, actual pushing can be very slow progress. My birth with DD2 was nothing like you see in movies, TV, etc until like the last five minutes of the hour and a half that I pushed... also, an hour and a half of pushing was pretty quick I think.

mrskoz428 · December 2018

My UO is that Valentine’s Day is overrated. Like, please show me love every day, not just on Valentine’s Day.

chloe97 · December 2018

@kbeers13 put me on Team Baby Daddy Better Be in the Delivery Room.

I had my mom there in the hospital to be a resource to DH if he needed help with medical decisions if things went wrong bc I know any decision would make him unable to function and my moms a nurse. So I would definitely have a back up like you are planning. I’m not going to lie, DH spent 50% of my labor in bathroom attached to our room bc his stomach was awful. But he sucked it up and was 100% there for me (minus his pooping time).

DuchessOfCambridge · December 2018

I'll just add I pushed for four hours and HE WOULDNT COME OUT. He couldn't come.out hence C-section but it can take a while for sure.

kbeers13 · December 2018

Thanks ladies. I will talk with DH. I don't want him to bitch about being there and would rather just not have him there if he's going to be a bitch baby while I'm pushing. I'm worried that if he's a big whiner, I might throw something at his head LOL

brie_and_almonds · December 2018

@kbeers13 That's probably a fair concern. Contractions definitely brought out the raging bitch in me. One of the nurses at the hospital told me I was like a different person between contractions 😂

fatmonica · December 2018

I think wish lists ruin the spirit of gift giving. A true gift shows thought and consideration. If I am expected to buy someone something off a list they give me, what is even the point?

Eta -typo

kbeers13 · December 2018

@fatmonica I agree that lists are no fun and a damper. Though I do like them so I can know where to start when necessary.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@fatmonica I just wrote about this on randoms (kind of). I agree. I don't like it. I like to try to buy H things outside his list, but he also has very particular tastes in regards to tools. And I have no clue. I would rather he just give me a list and I'll pick something off it. But I would rather he put thought into what he gets me. He just doesn't anymore 🙄

DuchessOfCambridge · December 2018

I prefer them because I don't like giving people crap they don't want or need, I'd rather give something useful. Of course if I know the person well it can be fun to surprise them with something I KNOW they'll enjoy but I can't do that for everyone. I usually like to get one item off a list and add little surprises to it. I've gotten a lot of stuff people thought was thoughtful but I thought was garbage clutter I now had to find a home for in my small apartment 🤷 I also don't do well with clutter though, it makes me anxious.

poshspice · December 2018

I raise your dislike of puppies @eatinwatermelonseeds for the resentment of my own dogs. Once DD was born they just turned into a nuisance/burden. I don’t know if I’ll ever get another dog once these two are gone. 😬 And we had 4 dogs while I was growing up 🙈

knarlytaurus · December 2018

@kbeers13 have you thought about hiring a doula? They help you through the birth process and can help provide support to DH, remind you of decisions you wanted made, etc. I'm sure your provider can recommend someone who works with the hospital alot. I had never considered one, but have heard such great things from people who used one. It might be a way of keeping DH in there but taking some pressure off of him. We're looking into working with one.

beccaneu · December 2018

@fatmonica. I get what you mean and I do sort of dislike it when someone tells me I have to buy off their list, but as long as I have some flexibility I think they can provide a nice starting off point. Especially when your buying for someone who is particularly difficult to shop for. I hate giving gifts that the person can’t really use or doesn’t really want, so if I’m unsure I’d rather have a list to go off of.

Sometimes I wish people would shop of a wish list for me because a lot of times people (my mom mostly) get me things that are completely useless to me and don’t fit my style at all. I’m kind of a minimalist and I hate random clutter so this maybe an UO but I’ve gotten pretty ruthless about returning or donating gifts that I can’t really make use of.

eatinwatermelonseeds · December 2018

@beccaneu my mil really likes to decorate my house at Christmas. She does generally neutral things, and she has expensive taste and means well, but sometimes it's just super off. She also bought me maternity clothes last pregnancy which was thoughtful except she WAY over estimated how big I was and everything was huge 😂 I don't know, there are some things I just try not to mess with. Fashion and home decor are on that list.

fatmonica · December 2018

I agree that list can help eliminate the stress of shopping, and it makes life easy. I have been grateful for them at times. I guess I more so feel its silly for adults to exchange names and wish lists (complete with Amazon links) with a set spending amount because it feels like we are just doing each others shopping and there is little to no thought given.
However, my MIL does not have my taste at all and I've gotten a lot of useless crap from her over the years, so I guess I can't have it both ways.

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