@bdesterhouse she’s such a funny story. She was so impatient she’d had the sneak peek test done (boy), then the boutique US (girl), then anatomy scan (boy). She was actually a little sad when the boutique said it was a girl. It was a wild 2 weeks before the anatomy scan though.
I would have been so confused lol. Did she go back to the boutique and say “hey you were wrong, wth?!” Lol
We have two sleeping beauties in heaven. Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016. Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015. They will be forever missed.
It’s a boy! We had a 4d ultrasound done where my doctor recommended and found out today. I thought it was a girl so I’m a little shocked, but so excited!
It’s a boy! We had a 4d ultrasound done where my doctor recommended and found out today. I thought it was a girl so I’m a little shocked, but so excited!
Well it's a girl and I'm very surprised. I completely had it in my head that I was having a boy and I was super excited. Idk why I feel sad about having another girl. Either is a huge blessing. Any advice on how I can feel better about it being a girl?
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@violetmarie61516 you already have all the clothes for her! It's ok to feel bummed out and sort of mourn the son you won't have, but your daughter will have a little sister!
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@violetmarie61516 give yourself some time to readjust to the idea of another girl. Are you sharing the gender with others? Perhaps seeing their excitement will also help you to feel excited too!
Had our anatomy scan today and it’s a girl! We were told at 13 weeks that she was most likely a girl, but I was trying to prepare myself for a possible penis. So excited!
@violetmarie61516 I absolutely love having a sister. I have a brother who I love as well, but there’s no bond like the one I have with my sis.
ETA: When I was pregnant the first time, I really wanted a girl and was slightly disappointed when I found out his sex. It took a bit to get used to, but I was really excited pretty quickly after I found out (and was initially disappointed). I hope the same happens for you!
@violetmarie61516 I’m sorry it’s a bit of a shock right now. It’s common to have this disappointed feeling so don’t be hard on yourself for your reaction. Everything I’ve read said you will need to give it time to warm up to an idea you weren’t prepared for (as far as the sex of the baby) and you may not bond with her until she’s born. All of that is normal. (I read up on it because I was trying to prepare to go through what you are experiencing, but for me it was if the baby had been a boy.) I am saying a prayer for you and hope it gets easier soon.
@violetmarie61516 You've gotten some great advice and encouragement above, but I just wanted to weigh in and say I totally understand how you're feeling. I have the sex of my baby written down and sealed inside an envelope just waiting to be opened tomorrow with family over (Canadian) Thanksgiving dinner. I have been so excited to find out (even had a private US yesterday around 19 weeks because I just can't wait to know) but now that we will find out tomorrow, I am so nervous. EVERYBODY thinks this is a boy and since we have a DD, my DH and I are both hoping for a boy as well. I'd love to experience one of each. I am sure I'll be in your shoes tomorrow if we find out it's another girl (of course I love my DD and would actually love having another girl, but I've just been feeling boy for this pregnancy and know DH would love a son). Anyways, I just wanted to share a few positives about having 2 girls that I've come up with in the last few days: -sisters!!! I have 2 sisters and cannot imagine my life without them. We shared clothes and hair and makeup tips and were very close feeling up - we still are! Having sisters is the best 😊 -we already have all the clothes we need! Each season as I pack up my DD's too-small clothes I can't help but feel a bit sad putting away her favourite dress, outfits, etc, or packing away things that still have tags in them that will never be worn. Friends who have had a second child the same sex as their first have told me it's so awesome to unpack all those clothes again for the next child as it brings back happy memories seeing a lot of those clothes a second time around.Pkus it gives them a chance to use those cute items that they never got around to using the first time. -I'm not see if this applies to you at all, but I find girls names a lot easier to choose! I love the girl name we have picked out for this pregnancy whereas I have doubts about the boy name we've chosen.
I hope this helps! You are not alone and not wrong in the way you're feeling. You just need some time to adjust to this new vision of your future that's just opened up to you. Sending hugs and happy girl thoughts your way!
Well, I'm back! We found out yesterday that it's another GIRL! I hate to admit that I'm still trying to adjust to that news (see my post, above). I can't put my finger on why I felt a bit sad, I think because I was hoping my husband would get to have a son. Anyway, I love little girls, have 2 sisters of my own, love my DD to pieces, and am happy that she will have a sister. I'm sure they'll become best of friends. Now that I know, it'll be fun to think about nurseries and names and all that!
Had baby's anatomy scan and can finally add my vote in the poll results.. it's a healthy little BOY! Apparently he was not shy about his genitals but was guarding his heart (his hand kept covering it).
DH and I would be excited regardless of sex however since he guessed girl and I guessed boy, I now also get the self satisfaction of being right. Lol.
So I also just had my anatomy scan done and I'm also having a boy! I have more complicated emotions surrounding having a boy than if I found out I was having a girl. There are many more girls in my family and I just feel like I understand little girls better, but I guess it'll just be even more of a learning experience!
My partner and I also have some conflict surrounding the child's last name. We are both attached to our last names but mine is super rare (I think there are like 10 other people in the country with my last name? Most are my family) and it would also make a really terrible middle name. His last name is more common and would make a beautiful middle name but tradition is obviously more on his side and I think he is less likely to agree to give the child my last name if it's a boy. We haven't talked about it in a while because it makes both of us a little upset.
Anyways, I'm super glad to know that I have a healthy little boy and I know everything else will get worked out!
@bug_hunter Congratulations on your healthy little boy!
We have more little girls in our family too. Our little one is going to have two girl cousins less than a year from him and all of our friends with little ones have little girls. I have heard (fingers crossed!) that little boys are easier, but of course that can vary a lot depending on the individual. I'll be going into this journey blind with you.
Last names can be tricky, especially now that tradition is increasingly not followed. I have a coworker whose parents alternated whose last name was given to the children but that got a bit weird for my coworker who is female with a twin brother. Since they had different last names and were always seen together in school, other students often thought they were dating (awkward!). Best of luck; I hope you are able to sort that out without too much headache.
@mayoduck congrats to you too!! I keep telling my partner that I'm not disappointed, I just need to mentally adjust but he doesn't believe me haha. And that sounds like a REALLY awkward situation with your coworker! I would personally never want to give siblings separate last names but I thought if we had a girl first then I could more easily convince him to go with my last name (yes, selfish, I know!). One of us will end up being a little bit bummed but we'll figure it out.
ETA, if I’m being honest I’m a little bummed about baby being a boy too. I wanted one of each eventually but I really wanted this one to be a girl. I’m getting used to it and both my husband and daughter are over the moon about it so that’s making it easier. I started putting the nursery together and that is helping too.
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@mamakate1616 Unfortunately, neither one of us are fans of hyphenation and my last name is on the longer side so it might be too much. We haven't talked about this in a while and I'll bring it up again sometime soon and see if the conversation goes any differently now that we know the sex and can brainstorm complete names more seriously.
And it's good to know I'm not the only one who had a slight preference about gender because I know it sounds crappy to say out loud! I guess I always envisioned raising a kickass little girl and now I need shift my mentality and start thinking about raising a kickass (and kind) little boy. I'm sure working on the nursery and spreading the news with family and friends will also help!
@mamakate1616@bug_hunter I totally get you both re: gender preference. I think it's totally normal. Before baby is born they are just an idea of a person, not a real, squishy little person that you can see and hold. I have a girl and was kind of hoping for a boy but we are having another girl. It took me about 2 days to adjust and wrap my head around it, and maybe 4 days for me to fully let go of the idea of having a boy, and actually get excited about another girl. I have absolutely no doubt that I will fall madly in love with her the second I meet her though! Planning names and nurseries and stuff definitely helps with the excitement.
Had our anatomy scan today! We have a healthy and very wiggly baby! And we are adding another girl! I think DH is still in shock, he was hoping for a boy this time. But we are still very excited. DD is extremely excited. She had been asking for a sister since day 1.
@novelblessings Yay! Congrats. We are having another girl, too. I'm excited to get to reuse all my DD's clothes, and plan another little girl nursery. Sisters are the best (I have two of my own!)
@laur84ns Thanks! I am excited we don't have to buy too many things and DD is moving to a bigger bedroom which we are re-doing for her, so no re-painting or new nursery stuff needed. Should be an experience, as I grew up with a brother.
It’s a girl!!! So excited! 😄 feel one step closer to meeting this new member of our family. Seeing her move and practice breathing on the ultrasound was incredible and I finally understand why people always say they are “in love” with their babies. Heart so full!! ❤️
Had our AS last week and found it’s a boy!!!!! So now we will have girl, boy, boy. My daughter asked when we get a baby sister 😂😂😂 don’t quite know how to tell her we’re done
Re: All about the SEX (It's a BOY/GIRL!)
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Sept '11-April '13 ~ Testing, failed multiple MFI treatments, saving & TONS of praying
January 2014 ~ IVF/ICSI & PGS ~ no response to stims ~ converted to IUI ~ BFN
February 2014 ~ On to donor embyros ~ 5 blasts!!!
March 2014 ~ FET #1 ~ Transferred 2 blasts ~ BFN
July 2014 ~ Kliman's mock cycle with endometrial function test
Sample too small for EFT, HE slide showed immature cells
New protocol planned, saving for another biopsy for EFT
January 2015 ~ Considering adoption options
April 2015 ~ Privately arranged adoption of planned pregnancy
DD#1 ~ Lillyana Violet Marie born 6/15/16, Finalized adoption 12/20/16
July 13, 2018 ~ BFP....WTF?!?!
7/16 Beta #1 ~ 466...7/18 Beta #2 ~ 1,077...7/23 Beta #3 ~ 5,291
7/23 US #1 ~ 1 gestational sac seen and yolk sac
7/30 US #2 and 1st OB appt ~ 1 perfectly round gestational sac, 1 perfect yolk sac and 1 teeny tiny heart beat seen!!!
ETA: When I was pregnant the first time, I really wanted a girl and was slightly disappointed when I found out his sex. It took a bit to get used to, but I was really excited pretty quickly after I found out (and was initially disappointed). I hope the same happens for you!
-sisters!!! I have 2 sisters and cannot imagine my life without them. We shared clothes and hair and makeup tips and were very close feeling up - we still are! Having sisters is the best 😊
-we already have all the clothes we need! Each season as I pack up my DD's too-small clothes I can't help but feel a bit sad putting away her favourite dress, outfits, etc, or packing away things that still have tags in them that will never be worn. Friends who have had a second child the same sex as their first have told me it's so awesome to unpack all those clothes again for the next child as it brings back happy memories seeing a lot of those clothes a second time around.Pkus it gives them a chance to use those cute items that they never got around to using the first time.
-I'm not see if this applies to you at all, but I find girls names a lot easier to choose! I love the girl name we have picked out for this pregnancy whereas I have doubts about the boy name we've chosen.
I hope this helps! You are not alone and not wrong in the way you're feeling. You just need some time to adjust to this new vision of your future that's just opened up to you. Sending hugs and happy girl thoughts your way!
I hate to admit that I'm still trying to adjust to that news (see my post, above). I can't put my finger on why I felt a bit sad, I think because I was hoping my husband would get to have a son. Anyway, I love little girls, have 2 sisters of my own, love my DD to pieces, and am happy that she will have a sister. I'm sure they'll become best of friends.
Now that I know, it'll be fun to think about nurseries and names and all that!
DH and I would be excited regardless of sex however since he guessed girl and I guessed boy, I now also get the self satisfaction of being right. Lol.
My partner and I also have some conflict surrounding the child's last name. We are both attached to our last names but mine is super rare (I think there are like 10 other people in the country with my last name? Most are my family) and it would also make a really terrible middle name. His last name is more common and would make a beautiful middle name but tradition is obviously more on his side and I think he is less likely to agree to give the child my last name if it's a boy. We haven't talked about it in a while because it makes both of us a little upset.
Anyways, I'm super glad to know that I have a healthy little boy and I know everything else will get worked out!
We have more little girls in our family too. Our little one is going to have two girl cousins less than a year from him and all of our friends with little ones have little girls. I have heard (fingers crossed!) that little boys are easier, but of course that can vary a lot depending on the individual. I'll be going into this journey blind with you.
Last names can be tricky, especially now that tradition is increasingly not followed. I have a coworker whose parents alternated whose last name was given to the children but that got a bit weird for my coworker who is female with a twin brother. Since they had different last names and were always seen together in school, other students often thought they were dating (awkward!). Best of luck; I hope you are able to sort that out without too much headache.
ETA, if I’m being honest I’m a little bummed about baby being a boy too. I wanted one of each eventually but I really wanted this one to be a girl. I’m getting used to it and both my husband and daughter are over the moon about it so that’s making it easier. I started putting the nursery together and that is helping too.
Married: 2012
BFP #1 Sept 2014, MMC Dec 2014 | BFP #2 May 2015, DD Jan 2016
And it's good to know I'm not the only one who had a slight preference about gender because I know it sounds crappy to say out loud! I guess I always envisioned raising a kickass little girl and now I need shift my mentality and start thinking about raising a kickass (and kind) little boy. I'm sure working on the nursery and spreading the news with family and friends will also help!
I totally get you both re: gender preference. I think it's totally normal. Before baby is born they are just an idea of a person, not a real, squishy little person that you can see and hold. I have a girl and was kind of hoping for a boy but we are having another girl. It took me about 2 days to adjust and wrap my head around it, and maybe 4 days for me to fully let go of the idea of having a boy, and actually get excited about another girl. I have absolutely no doubt that I will fall madly in love with her the second I meet her though! Planning names and nurseries and stuff definitely helps with the excitement.
Jack gained his wings on 09/02/2016.
Kali gained her wings on 07/28/2015.
They will be forever missed.
Edited because I posted this on the wrong page or something ugh sorry!
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August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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Me: 36, DH 37.
August 2014- 6w MMC
July 2015- CP
PCOS, plus some medical issues that make me high risk.
Our rainbow babies are due 3/21!!!!!
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