@bradleysmommy28 That's annoying. I gave my SIL a lot of things after DD was born and she had her daughter. Honestly though, I kept the bigger items (RNP, PNP, car seat bases, etc) because I have learned that unfortunately you can't always expect things back. I hate you have to deal with it
@bradleysmommy28 That is super annoying. Similarly, I lent my sister a bunch of stuff and she SOLD it! I'd contact your SIL with a handful of dates that you can come over and help her look through storage and ask her to pick a date that works for her because baby's arrival is 2 months away and you need to know what you have and what items you may need to repurchase and budget for. You can also maybe find a way to nicely say that you lent her the items with the expectation that you would get them back so you need to get the ball rolling....
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
@molosmiles I would hope not and really didn't think she would or I wouldn't have offered it in the first place BUT now I'm starting to wonder (we also made it clear she was borrowing stuff with the expectation of returning them when she was done with the items). After writing my little rant I did happen to find a new rock n' play at Target for $30 so I ended up buying it as a back-up to ease my anxiety.
@tosh24 I like your plan - I think I might make DH do it when he gets back in town. She moved 30 mins north and honestly, I don't have the patience to go up there and deal with it all. And it is HIS sister afterall!
Also, when she moved she started selling a bunch of stuff on a local FB yard sale site and DH caught her selling other stuff we had lent her (a chair, end table, dining table) and approached her about it. Our theory is that we lent her the stuff to get her on her feet because she had bought a house and got pregnant the same month and was very young and just starting out in her teaching career. We never intended on getting that stuff back but the fact that she tried to make money off stuff given to her without asking if we would like it back first struck us the wrong way. We could have easily sold the stuff to other people instead of generously giving it to her.
We just found out that dh's bff is stopping his chemo and entering hospice. He's only 39 and just had a son in April. I'm trying soooo hard not to sob uncontrollably in the middle of this stupid lab at the hospital. Fuck cancer man. This is just so not fair.
I agree with molo @bradleysmommy28. I would be so upset. It's not like clothes where it's like 15-20 bucks at most. It's two RnPs and a bathtub. Those add up. I would definitely have a real serious talk about it. More of a demand at this point.
Oct 16: Spontaneous BFP | m/c @ 9w1d (massive SCH) | D&C Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN May 17: IUI #2 = BFN Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies) Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = cancelled due to missed ovulation
Apr 18: FET #3 (natural cycle) = BFP! Beta 1: 201 Beta 2: 585 Beta 3: 3254 Beta 4: 9715
U/S 19May - one bean measuring on track with a HB of 125! EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
@jgil85 I’m so sorry! That’s so upsetting to hear and I can’t imagine how you and your family feel. Take care of him and his family but don’t forget to take care of yourselves too.
Since finding out this morning that my amniotic fluid level is slightly elevated I've spent too long googling things about that. I just need to stop, though, because I have work to do and there's nothing that can be done until I have the special confirmation US to double check the levels.
Ughhhhhh I hate when appointments end up ruining the rest of my day because I end up spending all day thinking about things and looking it up.
Ugh, I'm so upset with one of my (second?) cousins right now. Sorry in advance for the rant.
Backstory: my grandparents owned their home in WNY for 41 years. They hosted Christmas eve with the extended family for nearly every single one of those years, along with countless other family gatherings. I have SO many amazing family memories in that house.
The house isn't huge or fancy, but the last 10-15 years my grandparents owned it, they sunk a bunch of money and sweat equity into very nice renovations. The biggest was gutting their kitchen and putting in my grandmother's dream kitchen. They knew they wouldn't get 100% of their investment back because housing is so inexpensive generally in WNY, but they invested the money anyway because the renovations made them happy, and in theory they'd have many years to enjoy them.
Then, sadly, my grandfather passed away relatively young from heart disease a few years ago. My grandmother couldn't keep up with the house and harsh lake effect winters by herself, and decided to move south to be near my dad. However, she wanted to keep the house in the family. She sold the house to her nephew and his wife for probably 5-10% less than she could have gotten on the open market.
Fast forward two whopping years, and my cousin and his wife are divorcing and selling the house, for well above what they paid my grandmother. I'm so irritated with them. I'm trying to be empathetic since I'm sure this process is tough on them and their young son, but it's so frustrating that after my grandparents kept this house for 41 years, they could barely manage another 2. I'm also irked that the financial gain is going to get wrapped up into their divorce battle, when it could have helped fund my grandmother's retirement instead.
@jgil85 I'm so sorry. My thoughts are with you, your hubby, your friend, and his family. Why does it have to happen like that. When they say life isn't fair these situations are prime examples. Heart breaking.
@jgil85 I'm so sorry. Cancer sucks. 3 people my husband knew who were all friends all got different types of cancers and all of them passed away within the last 2 years, in their early 30s. My husband went to school with them and he knew them but the 3 guys were all really good friends. It was crazy to me that he knew so many people that passed away so young.
@bradleysmommy28 I would ask for it back. That stuff is expensive and if you were kind enough to lend it to her she should be considerate enough to return it or be honest with you that she doesn’t have it anymore. Definitely offer/insist to have someone help her look if it’s *too much* to handle.
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone) IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear! IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
I would give ANYTHING for a glass of wine right now. We did the pizza/movie/sleepover night idea except ours had a wrench thrown in. DS took a little nap when he got home from school and after he woke up he started screaming and flipping out that his ear felt like lava on the inside. Of course it was almost 7pm so only urgent care was open. Looks like his tubes fell out in the last month and he's already got an ear infection. Thankfully we have a family hookup at our ENT office so we should be able to get him seen early next week but I'm not looking forward to DS having another procedure especially right now. This will be his 3rd set of tubes if he gets them again 😑
@jgil85 so sorry to hear about your friend's cancer.
@sweetyjenj my friend had high amniotic fluid with her 3rd baby. It made it so the baby kept flipping into breech and back. At 40 weeks she saw a specialist who manually flipped the baby back to head down and then (luckily) she immediately went into labor and delivered vaginally as shd had with the other 2. Not sure what your situation is, but wanted to share my friend's case since it didnt really impact her pregnancy or delivery.
@jgil85 so sorry about your friend's cancer. It sucks so much when someone so young dies. It makes me especially sad to think about his son who won't really get to know him.
@jgil85 that sucks, I’m so sorry to hear.... F*** cancer is right....
@bradleysmommy28 that sucks, I’d be pissed and would make DH deal with it! We lent a friend some things that was in similar situation to your SIL and my DH caught the girlfriend trying to donate the stuff! I’m lucky he caught her when he did, and that was before I got PG!
We put an offfer on a house today, I really hope we get it-‘if things go as planned we will be able to move in the first weekend of December giving us some time to get settled in before baby comes!
Aw @AshVA, that makes me so sad to hear. Your poor grandmother must be heartbroken. I would be upset too. I get that life changes happen but it doesn't seem fair.
I went all over the place today. It was exhausting and I probably did too much but I got our RnP and I got a much needed haircut. Like 6 inches cut off.
Other than that we are hanging out at home all weekend. DS is sick and threw up on my bed twice. I'm running out of sheet sets over here. He hasn't thrown up since this morning so I hope he's over the worst of it. Last night was really rough though.
Feeling so drained after this week. We were in a car accident Monday that wasn’t our fault, and our car is totaled. Both my kids have colds and have been sick and miserable and home from school all week. I’m sore from the accident and just not feeling well. I feel like my brain just can’t handle one more thing!
@luckymay2x thanks for sharing! So far my fluid isn't very high, just over the "max" and waiting to schedule our visit to the parinatologist (sp?) to confirm. But doctor said that breech is a common side effect of this, so I'm glad to hear other people having positive outcomes! Fingers crossed!
@Mandamay1414 I didn't recommend the book, but I've read it and LOVED it! Good book!
Re: Weekly Randoms 10/15
Dating: 10/3/08 | Married: 12/27/14
TTC #1: August 2015 | BFP: 2/3/16 | EDD: 10/7/16
DD: 10/5/16
TTC #2: September 2017 | BFP: 4/28/18 | EDD: 1/7/19
DS: 1/9/19
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
Also, when she moved she started selling a bunch of stuff on a local FB yard sale site and DH caught her selling other stuff we had lent her (a chair, end table, dining table) and approached her about it. Our theory is that we lent her the stuff to get her on her feet because she had bought a house and got pregnant the same month and was very young and just starting out in her teaching career. We never intended on getting that stuff back but the fact that she tried to make money off stuff given to her without asking if we would like it back first struck us the wrong way. We could have easily sold the stuff to other people instead of generously giving it to her.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
*TW loss and children mentioned*
Apr 17: IUI #1 = BFN
May 17: IUI #2 = BFN
Jun 17: IUI #3 = Late BFP (18 DPO) | NMC 17Jul17 @ ~6w
Aug 17: IUI #4 = Cancelled due to premature ovulation | TI = BFN
Sep 17: IUI #5 = Cancelled due to overstimulation (10+ follies)
Nov 17: IVF #1 = Cancelled due to non-IF related health issue | TI = BFN
Dec 17: IVF #1 = Puregon 200, Menopur 75, Orgalutran, Suprefact trigger due to OHSS risk | 22R, 18M, 16F, 10B frozen
Feb 18: FET #1 (medicated) = BFN
Mar 18: FET #2 (natural cycle) = CP (beta 1: 54; beta 2: 0)
EDD: 07Jan2019 Team Green
My Rainbow Baby Boy born 03Jan2019
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
TTC #2: April 2018 ~~ BFP: May 2018 ~~ EDD: January 2019
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Backstory: my grandparents owned their home in WNY for 41 years. They hosted Christmas eve with the extended family for nearly every single one of those years, along with countless other family gatherings. I have SO many amazing family memories in that house.
The house isn't huge or fancy, but the last 10-15 years my grandparents owned it, they sunk a bunch of money and sweat equity into very nice renovations. The biggest was gutting their kitchen and putting in my grandmother's dream kitchen. They knew they wouldn't get 100% of their investment back because housing is so inexpensive generally in WNY, but they invested the money anyway because the renovations made them happy, and in theory they'd have many years to enjoy them.
Then, sadly, my grandfather passed away relatively young from heart disease a few years ago. My grandmother couldn't keep up with the house and harsh lake effect winters by herself, and decided to move south to be near my dad. However, she wanted to keep the house in the family. She sold the house to her nephew and his wife for probably 5-10% less than she could have gotten on the open market.
Fast forward two whopping years, and my cousin and his wife are divorcing and selling the house, for well above what they paid my grandmother. I'm so irritated with them. I'm trying to be empathetic since I'm sure this process is tough on them and their young son, but it's so frustrating that after my grandparents kept this house for 41 years, they could barely manage another 2. I'm also irked that the financial gain is going to get wrapped up into their divorce battle, when it could have helped fund my grandmother's retirement instead.
My wife and I have conceived a babe with my body and frozen donor sperm through IUI, with medication support (clomid, ovidrel, and injections of progesterone)
IUI #1, #2, and #3: Dec 2017, Jan 2018, and Feb 2018 - all BFN
HSG Test: April 2018 - all clear!
IUI #4: April 15/16, 2018 - BFP!! EDD: Jan 7, 2019
@sweetyjenj my friend had high amniotic fluid with her 3rd baby. It made it so the baby kept flipping into breech and back. At 40 weeks she saw a specialist who manually flipped the baby back to head down and then (luckily) she immediately went into labor and delivered vaginally as shd had with the other 2. Not sure what your situation is, but wanted to share my friend's case since it didnt really impact her pregnancy or delivery.
@bradleysmommy28 that sucks, I’d be pissed and would make DH deal with it! We lent a friend some things that was in similar situation to your SIL and my DH caught the girlfriend trying to donate the stuff! I’m lucky he caught her when he did, and that was before I got PG!
We put an offfer on a house today, I really hope we get it-‘if things go as planned we will be able to move in the first weekend of December giving us some time to get settled in before baby comes!
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
Also the pubic pain is getting worse so I see a lot of laying up this weekend.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
Other than that we are hanging out at home all weekend. DS is sick and threw up on my bed twice. I'm running out of sheet sets over here. He hasn't thrown up since this morning so I hope he's over the worst of it. Last night was really rough though.
I lost my angels 07/2010, 04/2017, 10/2017
Meimsx no more
fur baby snuggles. Ignore the cushions on the floor. We’re washing the covers.
@Mandamay1414 I didn't recommend the book, but I've read it and LOVED it! Good book!
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19