@expandcontract I was thinking now only because my first time around I liked seeing what others were experiencing and what was to come for me! I’ll go with the majority though.
@DuchessOfCambridge I'm flexible but I like the idea in general. My first appointment isn't until next week but I think we have ladies past or quickly approaching 8 weeks when I'd say at least half of OBs will start appointments. @expandcontract I don't remember when my last group started doing it but they don't get more frequent until 3rd tri, right?
They might not be used very frequently but I figure with all of us in different places, at least a few people are likely to have appointments each week. Also I just like having one place to see how they’re doing if no one objects, I’ll start one! I know Mondays are thread heavy but I think it makes the most sense. But feel free to suggest a different day.
I don't know if it makes sense necessarily right now or if we want to wait till people start really buying stuff but what about some sort of frugal thread? We can share deals, money saving tips, cheap meals, etc.
Wife. Boy mom x6. Expecting #7. Wannabe homesteader. , 💙💙💙💙💙💙
I like that idea @nopegoat. And maybe "What do you really need?" I didn't keep much from the other two and am a notorious shopper, but I'm honestly really trying to reduce my footprint and not be such a consumer. Going to attempt to go more of a minimalist route (maybe lots of good second hands too) with this one in an effort to acheive that and would love to have a thread to bounce ideas of what is really needed, best items to get used, etc with any like-minded bumps
@nopegoat and @mcewen3 As a first time mom I would be super interested in these threads. I have limited space and budget so having a thread with advice from stm specifically about what baby things they got the most use out of and where not to waste your money would be awesome.
I highly recommend the BabyBargains book (or website) to anyone. They’ve done all the research for you - what you really need, the most expensive option, the best cheap option, middle ground, etc. They also tell you what you don’t need but if you still really want it, here’s what you should get. It made planning a registry a lot easier for me and cut out the noise. I was so overwhelmed and didn’t know where to start.
Can we start a thread called why am I awake!!! Been up since 3am, its 5:30. DH is literally getting ready for work now, and I still haven't gone back to sleep!!!😫😪
Not serious about a new thread, really just venting!
Can we start a thread called why am I awake!!! Been up since 3am, its 5:30. DH is literally getting ready for work now, and I still haven't gone back to sleep!!!😫😪
Not serious about a new thread, really just venting!
My last BMBs totally had Late-Night Check-In threads after the babies were born when people were up in the middle of the night nursing or whatever.
@brie_and_almonds That thread was a lifesaver in my August board! It was nice to know you weren’t the only one up in the MOTN during those tough early days.
@secicc12 yes, absolutely. Like, at least while I'm staring daggers at my peacefully slumbering husband, I know that all across the country, other unfortunate souls are suffering with me.
Can we start a Hump Day, Bump Day thread next week? I was disappointed it wasn’t done this past week.
I support this. HDBD is my fave and like almost none of the boards do it anymore.
I ❤ HDBD, but I get why people don't like to participate / do it so early. There is a lot of shaming surrounding whether someone's bump is "real"/"all baby" or "just blump"/"fat" to which I say, fuck that. Bloat is part of pregnancy too, and we don't need to fat shame pregnant people for enjoying their changing bodies.
Can we start a Hump Day, Bump Day thread next week? I was disappointed it wasn’t done this past week.
I support this. HDBD is my fave and like almost none of the boards do it anymore.
I ❤ HDBD, but I get why people don't like to participate / do it so early. There is a lot of shaming surrounding whether someone's bump is "real"/"all baby" or "just blump"/"fat" to which I say, fuck that. Bloat is part of pregnancy too, and we don't need to fat shame pregnant people for enjoying their changing bodies.
PLEASE!! I looooove HDBD!! I will totally understand if people hide their faces, but I am so excited to see everyone's bumps and watch how they change/grow. Plus, I look like I'm about 16 weeks along so I wanna show it off
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Any chance that we can impose a snark-free rule for certain threads? I’m super pissed off that a lurker from June decided to continue her feud from TTGP in the Spotting Support group thread. Like, one of our regular members is freaking out that she may be miscarrying and someone decided it’s a good time to be snarky? Not okay. Sure, I’m all for snark on most threads, but there are certain threads that should be support only and that is one.
@chloe97 I do agree as well - I was only trying to point out that the advice was meant as sincere IMO knowing the background of both ladies but I do not condone the snark. You make a good point although I don't think any of our regulars on this board would be snarky on either of those threads (maybe wishful thinking so good to call it out?)
@msb615 You mean you don't spend all day on TB? No problem at all! I just didn't want to make that thread all about the drama since there's enough tough stuff going on there.
@chloe97 I totally agree that that thread should be off limits to snark. No place for it there. I will say though that while it was insensitive of her to air her grievances there, I know some people are still pissed at how @mrskoz428 handled herself not only in TTGP, but in the intro thread with her TW requirement. She brushed off everyone's comments and it really rubbed people the wrong way. I know I've had a hard time getting past her ignoring people's feelings and half-assed apologies. I'm working on these feelings and want to give her a second chance since I want this board to be a welcoming and close-knit place. I guess I'm saying this all because I kind of see where Meatballs is coming from even though her delivery was in poor taste.
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
@zuuls_mom I am sure there are still some people upset with me. I get that and I have been very cognizant of my actions since that time. I am aware that my post in TTGP was wrong and had gone back and edited it shortly after I had posted it, realizing my error. I have made it a point to be very supportive and understanding of everyone here. Thank you for trying to give me a second chance. I appreciate it and how that I can regain your trust and I’m sorry if my post or comment caused any pain, emotional or otherwise, to you or anyone else.
@zuuls_mom This! I am working through these feelings as well but similarly, trying to be supportive. I don't think I could have said it better than you did.
ETA it is knowing meatballs's background with past pregnancies and the way she has interacted with others that made me think it was sincere. I hope I am not being biased in that assumption.
ETA: Meatballs is a close friend, so I may be biased but agreed with her advice that if those are your symptoms, you NEED to go in, especially after my own loss in July.
@kvh22 I have held my tongue because as someone who hasn't experienced loss, it's REALLY not my place to comment on that, but I know her comments really hurt some people so I felt compelled to say something this time just to make sure it didn't get lost and buried.
@mrskoz428 I sincerely appreciate you making an effort to be supportive and make up for your lapse in judgement. We're all human and make mistakes and I am sure you're an awesome person. It was just a bad first impression. I know I've come off poorly in my life before, so I am all about second chances!
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Me: 32 │ DH: 35 Married 8/16/13 BFP#1 DS 11/13/16 BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18 BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
I apologize for my delivery. But as others have said, my advice is sincere.
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Me: 33 DH:30 DD: Aug '16 10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@meatballs37 you are not the only one to want me to be more assertive. I didn’t take your advice poorly. I agree that I need to be. Also, I’m happy to see you lurking from June. Wish you a healthy, uneventful pregnancy. ❤️
Me: 33 DH:30 DD: Aug '16 10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks. 10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery 11/2/17 Twin A & B born 11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU Benched 6 months BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
@brie_and_almonds mine is most def all bloat and I dgaf!!! I'm all for starting a hdbd thread! **edited to add, I posted this on mobile while quickly scrolling at work and see now that a more serious convo took place after the hdbd posts. I did not mean in any way to disregard and/or make light of what was discussed above. Hopefully did not offend anyone
I forget which thread it was but someone suggested a gaining (too much) weight and losing (first tri)/not gaining enough weight as separate threads. Is it too early/did we get a consensus on that? First trimester is hard with morning sickness so I feel like many people either lose weight due to throwing up or food aversions/lack of hunger or gain weight because all that tastes good isn't healthy/eating is the only way to not feel sick. Open to thoughts but I could use some solidarity here already so thought I'd see what the group thinks...
@kvh22 I'm open to those threads being posted whenever. I personally won't be partaking in them because I have had a history of disordered eating and I am trying to focus on doing the best I can without looking at the scale, but I can see the value in having those threads for others.
Has anyone started the gaining too mu ch weight thread. I had a weekend of eating, celebrating a birthday, and really last week I ate whatever, and it has crept up on me. We need to discuss things to do before my next appointment. I know my doctor pretty well, and I think she is going to give me a hard time if I've put on the amount of weight I think I have.
Re: ***READ THIS FIRST*** Board Organization
If no one is opposed to it, i say go for it.
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Not serious about a new thread, really just venting!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
ETA it is knowing meatballs's background with past pregnancies and the way she has interacted with others that made me think it was sincere. I hope I am not being biased in that assumption.
ETA: Meatballs is a close friend, so I may be biased but agreed with her advice that if those are your symptoms, you NEED to go in, especially after my own loss in July.
@mrskoz428 I sincerely appreciate you making an effort to be supportive and make up for your lapse in judgement. We're all human and make mistakes and I am sure you're an awesome person. It was just a bad first impression. I know I've come off poorly in my life before, so I am all about second chances!
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
DD: Aug '16
10/2017: Twins confirmed with TTTS at 22 weeks.
10/10/17 Twin B passed after in utero surgery
11/2/17 Twin A & B born
11/26/17: Twin A passed after 24 days fighting in the NICU
Benched 6 months
BFP: 6/28/18 MC:7/16/18 BO
BFP: 10/2/18 EDD 6/15/18
**edited to add, I posted this on mobile while quickly scrolling at work and see now that a more serious convo took place after the hdbd posts. I did not mean in any way to disregard and/or make light of what was discussed above. Hopefully did not offend anyone
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
EDD: 05/27/19
hoping for a girl!!!