@MaggieG183 Your students have your home phone number?!? That's crazy! I once got written up by a school because a student emailed me (not the parent) through the online gradebook they made us use, and I wrote back to her. I can't imagine expecting students to call me!
I've been weaning off of Effexor. Effing suuuuuuucks. I wish my doc had told me how terrible the withdrawl effects were BEFORE I started taking it in the first place.
@liliumstargazer13 It all is above board and our principal knows that students have the phone numbers for our whole team. We have pretty horrid phone service in our classrooms in our wing and due to that, and the fact that I'm a gym teacher and not by a landline at all for hours in the day, it's important that my phone number is out there for people to call. I have additional monitoring on my phone that the district pays for to make sure, should anything go down, God forbid, that all my conversations are transcribed and all my texts are archived. We had a track coach who was fired because he was inappropriately texting students, and due to this, we, as a district, have taken extra precautions to ensure that conversations on private devices are documented. A bit big brother-y, but I honestly wouldn't have it any other way as I have nothing to hide. What's nice in this situation is I was able to immediately take this issue directly to our resource officer, who was then able to access my phone records to see who was prank calling and texting and have that taken care of right away.
@eatinwatermelonseeds oh my goodness, I don't know how you did that-- it must have been awful! You are a tough lady. I traveled and forgot my meds once. I went 4 days without taking it, and I had to go to urgent care for the worst migraine ever. I kept throwing up, so they gave me two shots in the toosh--one for nausea and one for the pain. Plus, the brain zaps were terrible. That's how I knew I couldn't go cold turkey 😖
@flutterflutter omg the brain zaps. And the first time I did it I had horrible lucid dreams. First time I didn't have a choice for to insurance issues. Second time I was just done.
I was talking to a mom in my school about my pregnancy and how it was my first one, and it eventually went on to talk about our plans after our Bachelor's. I plan to go for my Master's abroad, as my husband and I have been planning to move abroad for several years.
This woman went off about how kids change everything. She had this knowing, patronizing smile on her face as she was telling me all about all the plans she had before she got pregnant the first time and how all my plans will go out the window and everything will change when the baby comes.
Now granted, I don't have kids yet so I don't know personally what it'll actually be like to try to parent and live my life ... but WTF woman?! My husband and I have been prepping and planning and saving and strategizing for YEARS to get me to go back to school and for this move. Don't get sassy with me just because you had to put your life on hold.
@flutterflutter omg the brain zaps. And the first time I did it I had horrible lucid dreams. First time I didn't have a choice for to insurance issues. Second time I was just done.
Seconding the OMG BRAIN ZAPS. I ran out of Lexapro once or twice in the years I've been taking it, and I seriously thought I was going insane because of the brain zaps. I didn't even know that was a thing.
@missmcgonnagal I do that sometimes, I don't think I realize how annoying it must be to new moms. That said, I got a nursing degree with an autistic child (found it he had autism the month after I got into a program) with 30+ hours of therapy and services. With our challenges moving out of state isn't even possible, but I honestly think with a typical child if you want to, I think you could continue with your plans. Some challenges here and there, as to be expected, but not impossible.
@missmcgonnagal kids DO change things, but that doesn't mean your plans will "go out the window". What a way to be supportive... FWIW, I went back to school to start my masters when DD1 was 2 months old. It was hard, but it wasn't impossible, and it was absolutely worth it. We didn't move abroad as well, but if that's a part of your life plan, there's no reason for a baby to prevent it. You do not have to narrow yourself into just one role in order to be a mother.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@missmcgonnagal I hate how small minded some parents can become. What’s right for her may not be right for you. Andplusalso, kids adapt so much more easily than adults. We are planning to move abroad sometime in the next 6-9 months. Granted, when DH started looking into this job we weren’t planning on having a 3rd baby right around the same time, but I know we can make it work. I’m really excited for all of our kids to have that experience for a few years. Don’t let the naysayers discourage you
@missmcgonnagal I find when people have that reaction they're always a little jealous of your plans, so they try to put a damper on it/ruin your excitement. Just because she feels she can't do "anything" with kids, doesn't mean everyone else does! You make it work and adjust.
@missmcgonnagal I equate women like that to the “just you wait” comments I got all the time as a FTM. I had severe insomnia in pregnancy and didn’t sleep more than 4 hrs a night unless on serious sleep meds and parents would say to me “if you think you’re not sleeping now, just you wait.” Guess what? After I gave birth my insomnia went away and because DH planned it this way- we took turns sleeping and we both got 6+hours a night when she was a newborn. She was a normal newborn that was awake every 2-3 hours, but we strategized how to best take care of ourselves and we actually for functioning humans with a newborn. I don’t think people understand that things don’t have to go exactly how it went for them. They just assume you will make the same choices as them. And we didn’t.
@chloe97 I've never understood people who try to compare pregnant sleep to newborn sleep. I make children that don't sleep but I ALWAYS feel more exhausted pregnant. My quality of sleep goes waaaay down during pregnancy, especially later in pregnancy. Once my kids are born, I feel way more rested even though I'm getting up more because the sleep I get is actually better.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@k2k2tog I hear ya! I was up every hour to pee at the end of my first pregnancy, and my daughter slept like a champ! She was slow to gain weight, so we actually had to wake her up every 3 then 4 hours to feed her, per her pediatrician. Once we got the apl clear to stop that, she went right to sleeping 6 then 8 then 12 hours straight. I would have killed for 8 straight hours when I was 1,000 months pregnant!
Re: Monday B!tch Fest 10/8
This woman went off about how kids change everything. She had this knowing, patronizing smile on her face as she was telling me all about all the plans she had before she got pregnant the first time and how all my plans will go out the window and everything will change when the baby comes.
Now granted, I don't have kids yet so I don't know personally what it'll actually be like to try to parent and live my life ... but WTF woman?! My husband and I have been prepping and planning and saving and strategizing for YEARS to get me to go back to school and for this move. Don't get sassy with me just because you had to put your life on hold.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019