That kind of thread doesn't fit well into any of the other threads, so is completely acceptable. Most one-off threads are the same 3 questions or comments over and over and over again. How else do you think we should handle them on the board?
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
Late to the party this week. I hate actually having to work. UGH.
@mrsdee15 I had an early baby too and I was super emotional about it! I felt like the end of my pregnancy just got ripped away, even though most people would be happy to skip a month+ of being pregnant in the summer. It's a sudden shock. You have every right to be emotional about your babe turning 1.
@mcewen3@poshspice The end of naps is my NIGHTMARE. What are we supposed to do with these kids the entire day?
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 1 daughter, 15 months
How are your other kids doing this week? She's doing great! She is extra clingy to me when I leave for work, which I secretly love (after that one time she cried when I picked her up from my mom's - that hasn't happened again, thankfully).
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Actually starting to feel a lot better. Less bloated, a little less nauseous. Maybe seeing the baby during our u/s just helped me calm down a little bit and stop over-analyzing all my symptoms? Rant/rave - MH is in NYC this weekend with his cousin. I'm excited to have some 1:1 time with DD, but also not excited to have zero help all weekend. ALSO his Airbnb host literally cancelled his reservation 2 hours ago...and he's supposed to arrive tonight. So I scrambled around until I found another place that was open.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Similar to @MaggieG183 - I really didn't have too many of those thoughts before DD arrived. I definitely said I'd never bedshare, which I stuck to. I guess I had said I'd keep baby in our room until she was 1, but then shipped her down the hall at 3 months. I'm sure once she gets older, I will have more to add. e.g. No tantrums in the store, etc..
@k2k2tog I wasn’t trying to offend anyone. It was mostly a joke. This is my third pregnancy and third time on the bump app. The first time around back in Sept 2015, we didn’t have rules like this so everyone could just post a new discussion when ever they wanted and I preferred it way more than this way with so much structure. I liked the free spirit and laid back way of the bump back then. But I know that a lot of people get annoyed with the constant new discussions. So I get it. It’s not my preferred way, but it is what it is lol
@secicc12 Yes, EXACTLY! I'm sorry you also had an early birth, and you said exactly what upset me when it happened. I felt like that last bit was totally ripped away, and DH would joke about how we should have a party for her actual due date and it made me upset! It took a long time to get over that. That's horrible about YH's AirBNB, I've heard of that happening so often. So glad it worked out for him!
DD born PPROM preemie at 36 weeks on 10/1/17 after over a year TI, then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW, because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@Sketner610 I'm surprised that was your experience in 2015. The June 2014 moms ripped people apart for one-offs, way worse than the order we're trying to enforce here. The Bump is generally known for being a more organized pregnancy forum, allowing for deeper community to develop. There are any number of alternatives if you're interested in less structure.
Not offended, but I'm always slightly bemused by people who dislike the way The Bump is, and yet are interested in being here, especially when they see many of the regulars as power hungry and crazy.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe DD2: October 2016 DC3: coming May 2019
@MaggieG183 Ugh I'm sorry you're in that type of environment. That mom sounds nuts threatening to go to the principal. My local moms group and my Aug 17 BMB are all really amazing ladies so I think I haven't encountered much of the mom-shaming I hear so much about. Just didn't want you to think I was judgy!!
Just went in for my 8 week appointment. Moved my EDD up one day (from 5/18 to 5/17) since it was based on estimated ovulation. We looked at possible conception dates and my temp spike and 5/17 looked more likely plus matched exactly with how the baby measured on the u/s.
Asked my doctor when she recommended the flu shot and she said as soon as possible and they have them there so I got it. DH was disappointed they wouldn't give him one, too, lol. Anyways, sorry for starting the flu vaccine hysteria.
@Sketner610 I'm still BFing my almost 14 month old so I'll jump over to that thread!
Does anyone else feel like this almost isn't real? When I was pregnant with DD, it all felt so life-changing and dramatic (in a good way). I'm absolutely excited for this baby, he/she was 100% planned and wanted (not that it's bad if it wasn't planned, we just were actively trying), I just don't feel that same doe-eyed sense of wonder. I was relieved everything was good on the ultrasound but not amazed like "oh my god there's a little person in there." DH was also like "I feel like (DD) looked more like a baby on the first ultrasound." I'm pretty sure she was just as blob-like as this one and he's confusing it with others that were later. I'm so excited to be growing our family so I hope this is coming across the right way. I know 2 will be harder than 1 but we've already adjusted our lifestyle so we're home by 7:30 for bedtime, up early in the mornings, etc., we don't have to do a nursery as we're in a 2BR apartment, we'll probably get a double stroller and not much else new. I guess I just feel like if we had this baby tomorrow, we'd basically be ready whereas last time I spent months curating my registry and doing research on baby products, childbirth, breastfeeding, feeding, child development, you name it. Sorry that got long, I just wanted to explain it properly as I feel like it could come across wrong.
@kvh22 Great news about your appointment! I'm glad it all worked out. I totally feel the same about #2. I didn't even cry/feel extra emotional during the first u/s - I was just like YAY baby has a heartbeat! It's so cute! Then back to my normal day. It doesn't feel real yet. I think once we start feeling kicks/showing more it might change? But you're definitely not alone in just plugging along. On the plus side, I feel way less overwhelmed. I know what to expect (for the most part), I know how breastfeeding works, what delivery is like. I'm less nervous this time.
@kvh22 I could understand that. I feel like this time is better for us. Last time, DH and I had only been married a year (and we got married 4 months after meeting, so had only known each other that long too 😳) and things changed drastically when I got pregnant. Even more so after that baby was born. Our son is almost 5 so we're basically starting over, with the same excitement of first time parents but now knowing better what to expect. Our relationship has been stronger than ever this time. We're a team. We pretty much started my first pregnancy divided on every issue. This time none of that seems to matter as much. I think it would've been different if I'd gotten pregnant a year or two after DS, i don't think we'd be as excited, though I'm not sure we'd still be married if that had happened.
Sorry, I don't think any of that was really related to your concerns 😂
@kvh22 YES! I feel ya! I don't have that same sense of wonder as I did before. I am totally looking forward to sporting a bump again - I loved it before with DS - but I don't feel quite the same as before. We'll also get a double stroller, but we aren't going to redo the nursery at all. It will stay as is for #2. If baby ends up being a girl, I'll add some butterflies to the walls or add a bunny or two, but it'll all be similar to now. I'll also have to get *some* new outfits as most of DS's stuff when he was 0-6 months was pretty unisex anyway. DS will move to the new room throughout the spring of this coming year and I know I'll be more excited setting that up for him than anything else as he will have some opinions on the matter in terms of theme - dinos vs. cars vs. mountains, etc. - but otherwise I'm pretty "meh" about it all. I'm looking forward to my appt on Tuesday next week, but even that seems less exciting because DH will still be out of town for work. It'll be just me. I just have to hope the news is good...not sure how I'll handle things if it's not and I'm all on my own.
And @Sketner610 DO it! That would be a great place for so many moms to check in. I feel like it'd be a good support...I don't see a problem with a thread like that. What I think about when I make threads is 1) is it already being talked about somewhere else? 2) does it benefit just me? If you can say "no" to both of those questions, it could be a legit new thread for all to contribute to. Great idea!
@kvh22 yes! Basically all I need to do is buy an adapter for my stroller to turn it into a double and things like diapers/wipes. If it’s a girl, I’ll buy some clothes but a lot of DS’s littler stuff is gender neutral. Both pregnancies were planned but with DS it was all I could think about literally all the time. Now I often forget I’m pregnant, even after seeing the ultrasound. I assume it’s because I have DS to worry about but totally feel you on this.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? DD - almost 2!
How are your other kids doing this week? Adventurous, lovely, cranky. The usual.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I am AMA this pregnancy and diagnosed Crohn's, so I feel like I have so many appointments on top of all my other current specialists. Also I can't wait until I'm out at work and I can get perhaps a little sympathy on why I always want to use the nap room.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Screen time before 2. Co-sleeping. She wanted to nurse all night. I slept with DD attached to my nipple for 9 months it feels. She was a great sleeper as long as she had her boob. She's now in her own room, thankfully!
@eatinwatermelonseeds yes! It's an extra office used for conference calls when we need privacy (we're otherwise doubled up in our office suite, but we've saved that sacred space). But it's primary function is for napping (and pumping when I was doing that for DD).
@kvh22 with my second I definitely felt like it was much less dramatic. Everything was kind of like been there done that and we were TTC so we had thought about logistics already. I am finding for this baby it feels a little more exciting maybe because baby was unplanned (I was on the pill and pretty diligent so no idea how this happened), so I am feeling a little less prepared and The process is more unexpected. If that makes any sense.
Re: STM+ Check In Week of 10/3
@Sketner610 lol bump admin. lol crazy with power.
That kind of thread doesn't fit well into any of the other threads, so is completely acceptable. Most one-off threads are the same 3 questions or comments over and over and over again. How else do you think we should handle them on the board?
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
@mrsdee15 I had an early baby too and I was super emotional about it! I felt like the end of my pregnancy just got ripped away, even though most people would be happy to skip a month+ of being pregnant in the summer. It's a sudden shock. You have every right to be emotional about your babe turning 1.
@mcewen3 @poshspice The end of naps is my NIGHTMARE. What are we supposed to do with these kids the entire day?
@kvh22 Poor girl! I hope she feels better soon.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 1 daughter, 15 months
How are your other kids doing this week? She's doing great! She is extra clingy to me when I leave for work, which I secretly love (after that one time she cried when I picked her up from my mom's - that hasn't happened again, thankfully).
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Actually starting to feel a lot better. Less bloated, a little less nauseous. Maybe seeing the baby during our u/s just helped me calm down a little bit and stop over-analyzing all my symptoms? Rant/rave - MH is in NYC this weekend with his cousin. I'm excited to have some 1:1 time with DD, but also not excited to have zero help all weekend. ALSO his Airbnb host literally cancelled his reservation 2 hours ago...and he's supposed to arrive tonight. So I scrambled around until I found another place that was open.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Similar to @MaggieG183 - I really didn't have too many of those thoughts before DD arrived. I definitely said I'd never bedshare, which I stuck to. I guess I had said I'd keep baby in our room until she was 1, but then shipped her down the hall at 3 months. I'm sure once she gets older, I will have more to add. e.g. No tantrums in the store, etc..
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
@Sketner610 I'm surprised that was your experience in 2015. The June 2014 moms ripped people apart for one-offs, way worse than the order we're trying to enforce here. The Bump is generally known for being a more organized pregnancy forum, allowing for deeper community to develop. There are any number of alternatives if you're interested in less structure.
Not offended, but I'm always slightly bemused by people who dislike the way The Bump is, and yet are interested in being here, especially when they see many of the regulars as power hungry and crazy.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
Just went in for my 8 week appointment. Moved my EDD up one day (from 5/18 to 5/17) since it was based on estimated ovulation. We looked at possible conception dates and my temp spike and 5/17 looked more likely plus matched exactly with how the baby measured on the u/s.
Asked my doctor when she recommended the flu shot and she said as soon as possible and they have them there so I got it. DH was disappointed they wouldn't give him one, too, lol. Anyways, sorry for starting the flu vaccine hysteria.
@Sketner610 I'm still BFing my almost 14 month old so I'll jump over to that thread!
Does anyone else feel like this almost isn't real? When I was pregnant with DD, it all felt so life-changing and dramatic (in a good way). I'm absolutely excited for this baby, he/she was 100% planned and wanted (not that it's bad if it wasn't planned, we just were actively trying), I just don't feel that same doe-eyed sense of wonder. I was relieved everything was good on the ultrasound but not amazed like "oh my god there's a little person in there." DH was also like "I feel like (DD) looked more like a baby on the first ultrasound." I'm pretty sure she was just as blob-like as this one and he's confusing it with others that were later. I'm so excited to be growing our family so I hope this is coming across the right way. I know 2 will be harder than 1 but we've already adjusted our lifestyle so we're home by 7:30 for bedtime, up early in the mornings, etc., we don't have to do a nursery as we're in a 2BR apartment, we'll probably get a double stroller and not much else new. I guess I just feel like if we had this baby tomorrow, we'd basically be ready whereas last time I spent months curating my registry and doing research on baby products, childbirth, breastfeeding, feeding, child development, you name it. Sorry that got long, I just wanted to explain it properly as I feel like it could come across wrong.
Sorry, I don't think any of that was really related to your concerns 😂
And @Sketner610 DO it! That would be a great place for so many moms to check in. I feel like it'd be a good support...I don't see a problem with a thread like that. What I think about when I make threads is 1) is it already being talked about somewhere else? 2) does it benefit just me? If you can say "no" to both of those questions, it could be a legit new thread for all to contribute to. Great idea!
How are your other kids doing this week? Adventurous, lovely, cranky. The usual.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I am AMA this pregnancy and diagnosed Crohn's, so I feel like I have so many appointments on top of all my other current specialists. Also I can't wait until I'm out at work and I can get perhaps a little sympathy on why I always want to use the nap room.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Screen time before 2. Co-sleeping. She wanted to nurse all night. I slept with DD attached to my nipple for 9 months it feels. She was a great sleeper as long as she had her boob. She's now in her own room, thankfully!
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
yes! It's an extra office used for conference calls when we need privacy (we're otherwise doubled up in our office suite, but we've saved that sacred space). But it's primary function is for napping (and pumping when I was doing that for DD).
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019
BFP: 8/20/2018 - EDD 5/4/2019