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May 2019 Moms
kvh22
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STM+ Check In Week of 10/3
kvh22
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Sorry this is a day late.
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
How are your other kids doing this week?
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
How many kids do you already have? Ages?
How are your other kids doing this week?
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
Re: STM+ Check In Week of 10/3
How are your other kids doing this week?
5y/o is being generally oppositional, and fighting me on simple, stupid things. I guess she needs to feel more control or something.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Have you all told your other kiddos that baby is on the way yet? If not, when will you?
GTKY: What did you say you would neverdo as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) My shame trifecta: 1. Let my kid eat fast food 2. Use a baby-leash 3. Use screen time as a babysitter
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 1 DS, 10.5 mo
How are your other kids doing this week? Great! Really a jet lag champ. His runny nose seems to be finally stopping and he didn’t get a fever from the flu shot 👍🏽
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Just happy to be on vacation, and it’s baby friendly. DS also finally successfully pulled to stand today! He’s been working on it for weeks. Fun it was in front of family we see so rarely
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
That I would never have toys that make noise (hahahahahahaha). I can’t think of any more right now but I’m sure as he ages there will be more to come.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? DD is 13 months
How are your other kids doing this week? She threw up at daycare on Monday so was home with me. After sleeping for about 2 hours (in the car on the way home from daycare, transitioned to the crib, then fell asleep while BFing and napped more on me), she was her usual, energetic self. Sleep has been tough though as she'll wake up and not want to stay down. DH will get back in bed and she'll start crying. We were up for 2+ hrs last night but then she slept until 7:30 this morning.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Rant: Morning sickness with a toddler sucks!! This is hard. I never actually throw up but just feel like crap in the evenings which is usually our time together for 2-3 hours. Also, how are people managing to eat food? I can't get the energy to cook a meal in the evening. DH has been getting home super late from work (6-6:45) and DD's bedtime is 7:30 and then will be traveling next week.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? Screen time before 18 months. I'll put on Sesame Street for her - no more than one episode a day and 3-4 a week. She's seen 15 episodes the past month and a half but it's been more frequent now that I feel like crap and just want to be lazy.
@brie_and_almonds No shame in the baby leash game. I've been trying to convince DH to get on board for one in crowded places.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? DD just turned one this week. I didn't expect to be so emotional about it, but it was a rough birth and it was so emotionally-charged when she was born a bit early. I was just thinking about how the first night after she was born she wouldn't eat, and I held her all night long. I'm getting teary thinking about it now, even. I'm so grateful she's a healthy, happy 1-year-old now. Sorry, didn't mean for that to turn into a big, long thing.
How are your other kids doing this week? Good, she's a sassy ball of energy, constantly speeding towards things dangerous for babies. We will be completing our childproofing this week.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? We aren't sure how to switch from formula to normal milk, she doesn't seem too fond of it. She normally drinks her formula cold, but I've heard warming the milk can help. Also, she spits out most of her food. Does anyone have any recommendations for best way to get her to increase her food intake and go for the milk?
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Oh man. My worst is probably screen time. We don't do it much, but I have definitely capitalized on distracting DD with the Sesame Street "1,2,3,4" more times than I would like to admit so I can use the bathroom or get something done.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
ETA: I really came around on the leash with #2. It became less of a punitive torture device and more of a way for my toddler to be more "present" with her sister at places like the zoo, etc. Rather than being cooped up in a stroller or a carrier.
How are your other kids doing this week? He's doing really well! He's been whining a lot which has been so grating on my patience, but he's also been really sweet giving everything kisses and saying that he loves us unprompted so it makes up for it
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Just tired! I feel like I can't get rested. I just started Synthroid so hopefully that helps a bit.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many). I always said I'd limit screen time and now I find myself turning on the TV every weekend just to make it through. He's still not super into it though so I guess that's good. Yay.
Married 8/16/13
BFP#1 DS 11/13/16
BFP# 2 MMC dx @ 13w 10/30/18
BFP# 3 Preemie DD born at 38w (IUGR) on 8/28/19 weighing 5.5lbs. Our little miracle
How are your other kids doing this week? Great, he’s been home yesterday and today with me because daycare’s daughter has hand foot mouth, hoping ds doesn’t get it. My mom is coming down to take care of him tomorrow and Friday for me. He’s actually starting to tell us when he needs to go potty which I think is kind of crazy. We haven’t been pushing potty training but just asking him sometimes if he needs to go. He loves the praise (and chocolate chip) he gets when he goes!
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Not much, interested to see how the next 6ish months go to see if we need a second crib or if he might be ready for a big kid bed before the new baby
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) haha honestly we weren’t around too many babies or kids so we didn’t have too many preconceived opinions on things. I do think leashes are great for kids, and if we need to use one we will! Haha
@mrsdee15 I'm sorry, I don't have much to offer for personal anectdotes with milk transitions. That was one thing that we did really gradually, just toggling nursing and milk and I don't remember it ever being an issue. I know some moms who would mix it with the formula and slowly start adjusting the ratio as LO got more used to the milk. As far as food intake, do you feed her or does she feed herself? I found my kids usually ate the most when I put a healthy variety of foods on their tray and just let them go to town on it while we ate our dinner.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 2 girls, 5 & 3
How are your other kids doing this week? Is it a full moon? Because everyone is out of sorts. They normally bicker but today is out of this world. Plus, my 3 year old has been snarly about everything, including going to school which is totally not normal for her. I don't know, but I hope it is all fixed with a good night's sleep.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm getting a serious aversion to food today, something that I haven't experienced in previous pregnancies. My 3 year old snacking right in my face is bringing me closer to vomiting than I have felt in years.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) Screen time is definitely a big one. Also, I always swore I would never short-order cook for my kids. That they would be expected to eat what's in front of them no matter what. I really have tried, but my 5 year old is a really challenging eater. It's not even that she is picky, she just flat out refuses to eat a lot of the time. Plus she gets hangry. Its a losing battle, and we are really running out of steam with it. I definitely find myself catering to her desires a little more than I'd like to admit.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? 1 DD, she'll be 2 in Nov
How are your other kids doing this week? She's trying every last ounce of patience I have. She's refusing naps. And we fly across the country tomorrow. Please pray for me. She hates sleep, she won't nap on the plane. This whole weekend is going to be a sh*t show.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Anyone's LO quit napping at 22 months? It looks like that's where we're headed. What do I even do with her during nap time if she is done napping? Ugh I need that time for chores. And for some alone time.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) I said I would never hand over my phone when she's in the stroller. And I still don't if we're out in nature having a walk. But if we're shopping and I need to get the rest of my list and it's not going well, you can bet I'm putting something on Netflix or YouTube and handing that phone over. It's hard enough to get out of the house, I'm not abandoning my cart lol.
How are your other kids doing this week? He's pretty good. Happy to have his grandparents home so he can get back to his normal routine.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Anyone else starving constantly? Any time someone mentions food I want it.
@brie_and_almonds I love that point about the younger child being more present, we definitely have been feeling like DD is feeling cooped up in her stroller. She can't quite walk on her own yet, but when she does I think that'll be a good selling point.
then 3 failed IUIs, and finally a successful IVF FET.
Due with #2 5/2/19 after HIO once in my FW,
because apparently that's how life works now. Team Blue!
How are your other kids doing this week? He's so excited. I bought him an I'm a big brother book and he was so thrilled.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I'm so sick 😩 I haven't been having sex due to cramping and my poor husband might actually be dying from deprivation 😂 I'm just so nervous.
GTKY: What did you say you would neverdo as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
Let him watch a lot of TV. Let him sleep in my bed. Eat fast food. Man, I was such an awesome mom before I had kids.
@brie_and_almonds I will probably not talk to DD about the new baby until after the anatomy scan. I don't want to get her hopes up about a sibling if we have a major issue. It's probably PGAL brain, but oh well. It's usually in charge. Also, I figure once we know the sex we can just tell her. DH has vaguely asked her if she wants a baby sister or a baby brother and she always says sister lol. So we shall see. At least once we know the sex it will be something more concrete we can talk about with her. I'm also assuming my tummy will be huge at that point and she will be able to feel the baby move from the outside.
@kvh22 have you considered asking your OB for diclegis or zofran? Diclegis helps me (it doesn't cure the nausea completely - definitely not a silver bullet, but I can function as a parent and productive human for most of the day) and I just had a bad side effect with zofran, but I know lots of people have success with both meds.
@mrsdee15 I don't have any earth shattering advice about mixing the milk and formula. But my DD hated the taste of cow's milk. The way we finally got her to drink it was we bought boxed milk that has a cute picture of a little girl and a cow on the box (after she learned how to use a straw), and she would drink it because she loved the picture. Once she got used to the flavor she started taking milk in her sippy cups. With food, what kinds of things are you serving her? If you've introduced spices (allergy purposes), flavor her food the way you would enjoy it. DD has only ever eaten her asparagus the way DH cooks it for us - grilled with lemon, pepper, salt, and olive oil. She also loves garlic salt. She also occasionally eats her scrambled eggs mixed with salsa. Don't expect her to eat plain food. Babies like flavor, too! Just introduce spices as you would any other new food. Cinnamon sugar is also a helper with toast and occasionally sweet potatoes.
@zuuls_mom hope things go well with the synthroid!
@aels12 we used paid for a sleep consultant for the many sleep issues we had, and she said their professional recommendation is to not move toddlers to a bed until they turn 3 *unless* they are climbing out the crib before hand. There is more danger with tiny ones getting out of bed and making mischief in their rooms while everyone else is asleep than just falling out of the bed. Anyway, that's the advice we got. Thankfully my kid is not a climber, so we're getting her a new convertible crib for her "big girl" room when we move her.
@mcewen3 I feel you on the short order cook. DS has been in food therapy for almost a year for eating issues, so it’s a huge struggle in our house.
How many kids do you already have? Ages? One DS who is 2yo
How are your other kids doing this week? Better this week! His molars are finally breaking through and I think his swimmer’s ear has cleared up!
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I stay at home and lately DS wants to me to play on the floor allllllllll day. I love him and I love staying at home, but I am just done and over touched by the time DH gets home.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many) I thought DS would grow up eating everything we do, but instead he eats fruit snacks and bars all day. He gets screen time pretty regularly, which I was super against in the beginning and before he was born.
How are your other kids doing this week? Pretty good, actually! We have our ups and downs, but right at this moment, with both of them well on their way to bed, I'm feeling pretty good. Ask me again tomorrow when we start the fight to get on the bus and I might say something different.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? Tonight, I was hit with the smallest overwhelming moment of anxiety about this baby. Because I've been feeling so crappy, I feel like I've been barely able to adult. Keeping a cleanish house, stimulating my children in appropriate ways, making sure they're getting to their activities, and then in bed on time - it all just seems like too much. So, how am I going to handle all this PLUS a brand new baby?!? And then continue to manage it all for years until they're big and can manage themselves? Will I always be in survival mode, barely hanging on? Ultimately, I know I will manage it all. I had these same fears and concerns when DD2 was born, and we've done mostly, some of the time, just fine with her. So, we will manage, because we won't have any other choice. But, it was just a moment where I thought... what have we done?!?
I am definitely coming down with my second cold of the school year, so I'm sure that extra bit of exhaustion and my sore throat had something to do with that negative voice at the back of my mind.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? Oh, so many things. But, there was one thing that I remember so so clearly. When Isabel was about 2 months old, I went to sign her up for baby time at the local library and, while waiting for the library to open (we had to get there half an hour early in order to ensure a spot in the class) I met a mom of a 10 month old. We chatted a bit, and she told me that her son wasn't sleeping through the night yet, at 10 months old. I so clearly remember thinking, "Oh, I will NEVER let that happen to us. If this baby doesn't sleep through the night soon, we will DO SOMETHING about it."
Said baby went on to refuse to be sleep trained, and I discovered myself not so happy with the whole concept of CIO after all, so at 17 months, she finally slept through the night for the first time in her life. And didn't do so consistently until she was 3.5. Also, we bedshared so much. I used to say I would never. But I actually kind of love bedsharing.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
But to be honest, I think I underestimated how hard 1st tri was going to hit me. And I don't think I'm underestimating how hard the first year or so will be with a newborn and the two olders. I'll have freezer meals prepped, and a very visible calendar hanging so that my mushy mommy brain doesn't lose track. I'm actually planning to do some similar prep this weekend to get me through the next couple months because clearly I already need it.
@mrsdee15 I can't help with the milk situation much, mostly because I just don't remember. As for other foods though... DD1 is and has always been a very picky eater. Or... not so much picky... she just doesn't eat hardly anything. We follow Ellyn Slater's division of responsibility, as recommended by her doctor way back when she was one. Essentially, we decide what and when she eats and she decides how much. If it's next to nothing, that's ok. Kids will eat when they're hungry. As she's gotten older, we've strayed from this a bunch and will allow her to request favourite foods. But it seems to have worked fairly well and doctors are a-ok with her weight, even though, to me, it seems like she doesn't eat nearly enough.
DD1: June 2014 - VBM4lyfe
DD2: October 2016
DC3: coming May 2019
-one DD age 2
How are your other kids doing this week?
-exhausting. She is having a pretty good week, behavior wise. But we also just weaned, and she is not happy about it. She keeps sweet talking my boobs. “Oh mommy, I love my boobies. They are so nice!” Followed by her kissing my boobs for an uncomfortable amount of time. Sorry kid, no amount of sweet talking will get you back on these guys.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
-my kid is copying my pregnant symptoms and it is pretty funny, but I hope I am not setting her up for weird habits late in life. For example, when I throw up (which is all day everyday) she watches and runs to her toilet and says “my turn!!” And then goes ahead and pretend vomits in the toilet 😑.
GTKY: What did you say you would neverdo as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
-no screen time as babysitter (ha! Mickey Mouse is her real mom).
-no nursing after 1. 😂
-I won’t cater her food.
d1-5, d2-2.5
How are your other kids doing this week?
D1 started K this fall and already has her second cold. I knew it was going to happen but I still feel bad for her. D2 has been so rebellious lately and getting into everything.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
We’ll tell them about the baby after the anatomy scan. Then we’ll know the sex and anything else that might be important for them to know. Not so much worried about them spilling the beans to our family, but one of my pet peeves is when people ask a kid “do you want a brother or a sister?” as though they’ve any choice about it. Drives me crazy. 😬😆 so we’ll wait til we know to tell more people. it’ll also be less time for them to wait til baby gets here, although at their ages 5 months is still going to feel like an eternity.
GTKY: What did you say you would never do as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many)
Screen time and sweets were definitely things I thought we would limit more than we do.
So many different meals for everyone. I swore it would never happen, but alas, please hand me my apron, I have frozen meals to microwave. 🏆
1 son, he’ll be 2 in November.
How are your other kids doing this week?
He’s still super clingy. Also has started trying to hit Daddy and I in the face which is so much fun.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions?
Excited for some toddler free time for my birthday tomorrow. Hoping to go see A Star Is Born with my fiancé if I’m not too sick.
GTKY: What did you say you would neverdo as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done?
Funny enough, I said we’d never use a stroller and that we’d babywear everywhere. We definitely babywore *everywhere* for the first year but after that he was just too heavy and it got too uncomfortable. We have a stroller wagon now and I love it. We’ll still babywear the new babe probably but the wagon is nice to have for sure!
How are your other kids doing this week? Great! He’s been in such a good mood considering DH has been home a total of 14 days since August 1st...amazing that we are even prego at the moment.
Rants/Raves? Concerns/Questions? I love my in-laws! They just left today but they left after prepping 3 freezer meals, completely transforming my laundry room (cleaned it, added some built in shelves and a hanging bar, cleaned the washer) and added a shelf to my hallway closet that has been so desperately missing. They also took DS twice so that saved me $60 at daycare expenses and folded piles of laundry and walked the dog for me daily. I’m going to miss them so much....good thing they’ll be back in 2 months for DS’s birthday.
GTKY: What did you say you would neverdo as a parent before your child was born and have absolutely done? (choose one or many ). Nothing! I never wanted to be that mom because I knew I would probably bribe my kid(s) at times with TV or food or whatever to behave. I knew I would have a screaming toddler in a grocery store. I knew it would all happen so I try never to judge because we’ve all been there or will be there. I hate the holier than thou attitude that exists in the world within mom communities so I try not to perpetuate it. I must say though, I have been quite proud that I’ve never had to pull the phone out in a restaurant to keep the kid chilled out and we’ve only had one public meltdown. FX