@katy0990 this isn’t parenting advice by any means but I keep an emergency tootsie pop in my purse for the dreaded long waits! I hope you have an old faithful trick to get you through that hour!!
Small rant: I am supervising a trainee whom I met with this morning, and explicitly told him to schedule new patients anytime during our clinic session EXCEPT the one hour I’m not available. An hour later, he sends me a message stating he has scheduled a new pt for the one time I’m not available. Now I have to make him reschedule the patient. So annoying.
@maureenmce Thanks for asking. Thankfully it seems like my GI stuff was a 1-day thing; now I’m back to just the usual reflux fun today.
@clbness I will be the outlier here and say my husband would be pissed if I involved his mother/parents. There was one really bad night where he was wasted, had the dog, and was basically missing. I involved his parents because I literally had a panic attack and we separated and went to different places we thought he might be. I won't go into other details, because it is much worse than even that, but he initially got upset I called his parents out of embarrassment, but understood why I reached out for support. If we got into a regular fight about his drinking, he'd be upset if I roped them in, because he probably would feel gained up on. I get that, and I try to respect it. Ifhe were to ever do anything close to what he did before I'd likely rope in his parents again, and quite possibly leave him.
All that to say, you might want to have a conversation with him about it, because his response to it might have to do with his relationship with them.
@katy0990 Is there any way you could go early and pick up the drink so you can take it home and consume it day of? That's what I did for my GD test, so all I had to do was go into the lab for a blood draw. No waiting with a toddler!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon I wish! The procedure used to be that your OB gave you the drink, and you just drank it 45 minutes before arriving at the lab. That was what I did during my last pregnancy. However, apparently now you must consume it at the lab and you are not able to leave until the hour and blood draw is over.
@katy0990 I'm sorry your dad declined. It's difficult enough to ask for help and not feel like you're burdening someone.. but when your own family doesn't step up it hurts the heart. I hope the appointment goes well!
@katy0990 I don't blame you for being irritated with your Dad...especially since he's an early riser anyways AND he's mentioned not seeing DS that often. Hopefully he keeps himself entertained for your GTT...good luck! @Katzalia People, man! I don't understand how people can mess up simple instructions! @LLynde5@Jens_Hoes I have a good relationship with my IL's and MH is very close to them, as well. IF I were to say something to his Mom, it would have to be a last ditch, desperate attempt at resolution. I will still continue to have talks with MH in future instances (hopefully they're so few and far between) and if it gets worse, will suggest marriage counseling before even going to MIL (if it were to even happen). Anywhoo, I really appreciate your opinions and thank you for sharing your stories. I'm sorry that you have had to deal with this enough to have experience with it! *hugs*
Side note: I would like to add that I am no perfect little gal. I've had a few pre-kid moments where I was a total ass while drinking!
@clbness oh I hear you! No angel over here, lol. But then, it might also be why you are the right person for your husband! You can keep him in check when need be but also have the patient and understanding if he gets a little off track.
Thanks everyone! I appreciate the affirmation! I have no problem watching my own child. It’s just annoying that I never ask him for anything (he actually never gave us the money he promised us 6 years ago for our wedding) and here I put myself out there, and ask and he isn’t willing. But, I’m sure here shortly be will be complaining about not getting enough time with DS.
I'm sorry I'm so late to the game, I've been MIA all week... In an effort to catch up on all these other threads, I'm just sending a giant hug to all of you! I totally feel you guys about the husband overdoing it on alcohol- it's my biggest pet peeve actually! DH has come a lonnnng way but he still slips up occasionally and I want to throw a shoe at him.
My bitch for the week is that it's way too freaking hot out for October and it's going to be the death of me. Where is fall?! Signed, a sweaty pregnant woman. *sobs*
So I just got confirmation from my insurance that my policy does not cover any discount on a breast pump. I am f-ing livid- LIVID!! For the amount I pay every month it’s complete bullshit. I will be bitching to HR. Now I have to add that to the never ending list of shit I have to buy that I wasn’t planning on. Sorry for all the cussing but it’s crap. Maybe I can use my FSA card to purchase one?
@countrygirl624 If you have a health savings account, you should be able to use that. I will contact them first though, to find out how they want you to go about purchasing it.
@morgantu My brother ALMOST had that same issue, except when they listed the house the first time, they were unable to sell it. I think they ended up selling it 2.5 years later.
@kadeephd We are in the same general area so I can give my input on a babysitter. When I used a babysitter for DS while I went to the gym before I was back at work I was paying her $12 an hour.
@katy0990 That is frustrating! I actually have mine this weekend too and asked my mom if she could watch DS for me while I went. She told me my aunt will be visiting so she's not sure because they're supposed to go see my second cousin. Okay, first of all my appt is at 9:00am, there is no way you're going to visit that early. Second, my aunt hasn't seen DS in a year and a half, you'd think she'd want to see him. I am pretty sure she is still upset with me over something small and stupid that happened back when DS had just gotten out of the hospital and we were going through hell. They didn't even tell any of us she was coming!!
@countrygirl624 Seriously?! That's BS!! I thought all insurance companies covered breast pumps. I am sorry to hear that.
@clbness I am super close with MIL, I consider her a close friend. I would not go to her with any of our marital issues. I just feel like that would be a bad idea. I feel like it's a bad idea to involve family, but that's just me. I think if DH had an issue and I went to his mom, he'd probably be pretty upset about it.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@countrygirl624 omg that would absolutely make me livid! How on Earth do they justify covering Viagra and not birth control or postpartum Essentials like a breast pump?! I seriously don't understand how these companies work or what the heck their thought processes are.
I’m tired of my colleagues. I use that loosely as they are not in my department, but I have to work with them. There should be no reason for a 10 reply email chain- just pick up The phone and have a direct conversation if it’s that complicated. Also to the lady who replies all with utter nonsense and thinks she is adding value to the conversation, where she is clearly missing the point- Stop just stop! I asked one question - when do you give this form out. She started with “well historically....”.
@Activebaby Ugh - that drives me nuts. Some people clearly don’t have enough on their plate when they do crap like that wasting everyone’s time. Definitely a pet peeve of mine!!
@scaredunprepared When Obama put into effect that companies were required to cover certain things to women companies were able to elect out if they chose to based on what exact rules I don’t know. I just know it’s a disappointment and I plan to bring it up to HR after I get my (hopefully) promotion next week. Lol. Don’t wanna rock the boat til I sign my new salary.
DH had to work all day/night yesterday and night tonight. He won’t be home until after I’m in bed probably. I’m just feeling kind of lonely and blah today. Probably because I have been sitting on the couch doing nothing for much of the day which is depressing. So that’s my bitch for today. No energy. No motivation. No dh. Boo.
@countrygirl624 that really is disappointing. I guess men's need to get it up is more important than a baby's need to eat... clearly they have their priorities straight. Sheesh! I get that you don't want to rock the boat until your promotion goes through. Best of luck!
@rosebud332 I get it. I'm feeling blah too but mostly because I'm coming down with something and I'm super exhausted. And when I'm sick DH keeps his distance to prevent getting sick himself, so I'm already feeling lonely Work today was ROUGH, barely got through the day without falling asleep. I hope you feel better soon, maybe do something nice for yourself, like a bath or pedi?
My bitch for the day is insurance. Just got a bill from my sons pediatrician for $89. I'm like wtf why am I getting a bill. Look on bcbs and apparently sep. 1st they became out of network....... first of all a fucking notice would have been nice. So now I have to find a new pediatrician in network for ds and newborn. Even though we absolutely love his doctor and have been going to him since ds was born. Plus that was one thing I didnt have to worry about, I completly trust that doctor with my newborn. Wtf happened after 3 years their all of a sudden out of network. Why have a flipping family doctor and have a pcp if at the drop of a hat you cant use them anymore.
@lavenderlisa Wow!! I can't believe they didn't let you know that they were going to be out of network. Sorry that's now something you have to worry about.
@rosebud332 I know that feeling sometimes. Sometimes it's nice when they're out and the house is quiet and sometimes it's just lonely.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
@lavenderlisa that sucks that your pedi is now out of network. You should have been notified - that wasn’t nice. During my last pregnancy I used a group for my ultrasounds that my then OB office (use different one now) set me up with. 1st US was covered - just a copay, 2nd was very expensive. Turns out different physicians within the practice took different insurance. I was so mad. I thought that was not nice of them to not tell me that within the same practice some took my insurance but some didn’t. Again...I don’t use them anymore.
My bitch for today is that i am sick. Breathing is hard enough with this baby in the way.. now I feel like I can barely breathe with being so congested! Third trimester and sick should be considered cruel and unusual punishment.
@lexidawg ugh, it should be considered cruel and unusual and we should be exempt from all illness! I seem to always get a gnarly head and chest cold a few weeks before I go into labor and it's pure torture. Finger's crossed it gets out of your system and you're feeling better quickly!!
@lavenderlisa sorry that you have to go through that with your insurance. It's the worst!!!
Remember how I was over this week already? I'm scared I'm coming down with something. My whole back just started spasming 10 minutes after I got to work and wouldn't get better. Sitting and standing both hurt like crazy and walking was only thing that was semi better. Then I got a sore throat by the afternoon. Taking some airborne and going to bed early now, fx it's nothing. I dont want to be sick!
Re: Bitchtoberfest • w/o 10.1
@maureenmce Thanks for asking. Thankfully it seems like my GI stuff was a 1-day thing; now I’m back to just the usual reflux fun today.
If we got into a regular fight about his drinking, he'd be upset if I roped them in, because he probably would feel gained up on. I get that, and I try to respect it. If he were to ever do anything close to what he did before I'd likely rope in his parents again, and quite possibly leave him.
All that to say, you might want to have a conversation with him about it, because his response to it might have to do with his relationship with them.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
@Katzalia People, man! I don't understand how people can mess up simple instructions!
@LLynde5 @Jens_Hoes I have a good relationship with my IL's and MH is very close to them, as well. IF I were to say something to his Mom, it would have to be a last ditch, desperate attempt at resolution. I will still continue to have talks with MH in future instances (hopefully they're so few and far between) and if it gets worse, will suggest marriage counseling before even going to MIL (if it were to even happen). Anywhoo, I really appreciate your opinions and thank you for sharing your stories. I'm sorry that you have had to deal with this enough to have experience with it! *hugs*
Side note: I would like to add that I am no perfect little gal. I've had a few pre-kid moments where I was a total ass while drinking!
My bitch for the week is that it's way too freaking hot out for October and it's going to be the death of me. Where is fall?! Signed, a sweaty pregnant woman. *sobs*
@morgantu My brother ALMOST had that same issue, except when they listed the house the first time, they were unable to sell it. I think they ended up selling it 2.5 years later.
@kadeephd We are in the same general area so I can give my input on a babysitter. When I used a babysitter for DS while I went to the gym before I was back at work I was paying her $12 an hour.
@katy0990 That is frustrating! I actually have mine this weekend too and asked my mom if she could watch DS for me while I went. She told me my aunt will be visiting so she's not sure because they're supposed to go see my second cousin. Okay, first of all my appt is at 9:00am, there is no way you're going to visit that early. Second, my aunt hasn't seen DS in a year and a half, you'd think she'd want to see him. I am pretty sure she is still upset with me over something small and stupid that happened back when DS had just gotten out of the hospital and we were going through hell. They didn't even tell any of us she was coming!!
@countrygirl624 Seriously?! That's BS!! I thought all insurance companies covered breast pumps. I am sorry to hear that.
@clbness I am super close with MIL, I consider her a close friend. I would not go to her with any of our marital issues. I just feel like that would be a bad idea. I feel like it's a bad idea to involve family, but that's just me. I think if DH had an issue and I went to his mom, he'd probably be pretty upset about it.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!@AdorkablePixie They’re grandfathered in and also don’t cover birth control. But don’t worry - viagra is covered.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@scaredunprepared When Obama put into effect that companies were required to cover certain things to women companies were able to elect out if they chose to based on what exact rules I don’t know. I just know it’s a disappointment and I plan to bring it up to HR after I get my (hopefully) promotion next week. Lol. Don’t wanna rock the boat til I sign my new salary.
I'm not even sure why but I'm just over this week already. I want to be done with work and go home and sleep.
@rosebud332 I get it. I'm feeling blah too but mostly because I'm coming down with something and I'm super exhausted. And when I'm sick DH keeps his distance to prevent getting sick himself, so I'm already feeling lonely
@lavenderlisa Wow!! I can't believe they didn't let you know that they were going to be out of network. Sorry that's now something you have to worry about.
@rosebud332 I know that feeling sometimes. Sometimes it's nice when they're out and the house is quiet and sometimes it's just lonely.
Me: 31
DH: 29, SA - Great
Married: June 12,2011
TTC #1: 1/2014
Diagnosis: Hypothalamic Amenorrhea
Treatment: Clomid: 50mg, 100mg, 150mg - not successful and not monitored
Menopur 75ml (upped to 112.5ml), Ovidrel, & IUI IUI #1 8/31/2015
9/15/2015: BFP HCG - 400, 9/17/2015: HCG - 827, 9/21/2015 - HCG 3,327!DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
Remember how I was over this week already? I'm scared I'm coming down with something. My whole back just started spasming 10 minutes after I got to work and wouldn't get better. Sitting and standing both hurt like crazy and walking was only thing that was semi better. Then I got a sore throat by the afternoon. Taking some airborne and going to bed early now, fx it's nothing. I dont want to be sick!