@runningyogimama do you have postpartum supplies for you? I’m going to get some with an amazon gift card because I don’t want anyone else getting that stuff for me. I also buy vitamins on amazon because they have good prices. You could also save it for ordering things you didn’t know you needed for this baby after it’s born or just treat yo self!
@clobert and @lifesabeach85 Those are both part of what I’ll grab from Target with my completion discount there. I’m mostly wanting to maximize my completion discount coupon from Amazon, since it’s one time use, by not forgetting anything bigger than I am about spending all of the gift card, which we will definitely use, if not now, than while I’m on maternity leave and the budget’s super tight.
@lifesabeach85 I got a random 15% off baby purchase coupon from Target that expired last week, and I seriously didn’t have anything bigger I needed, so I just used it on a Halloween sleeper, since I’m not positive baby will be here, but pretty sure, and didn’t want it to go to waste, lol! Do you have any big items you still need?
I had totally forgotten about the Amazon completion discount, so thanks for mentioning it @runningyogimama! I added several things to it last night and will probably order everything in a few weeks, since we just had to buy a new washer and dryer yesterday. @runningyogimama As for the CJs butter, we're you the one that recommended the stick so you don't have to get it on your fingers? That's what I put on my list, but I'm not sure which is the best to get.
Here's what I put on my list: -pacifier straps/clips -babyganics hand sanitizer to put on the changing table (the best! It's not drying like Purell and my eczema-prone hands thank me for using it) -babyganics lotion -diaper pail bags -pads for after delivery -milk storage bags -Cjs butter
@offtoneverland I plan to grab a stick CJ’s for the diaper bag, and then just the regular stuff for the changing table. The stick kind of grossed me out, since it’s going directly on their butt and then you’re putting the lid back on, so imagine it’s just full of germs. I usually gift a sample size of the regular stuff with any baby gifts I give.
@runningyogimama - I don't remember if you're EP or if you'll BF too, but nipple cream if you plan on BF. Bottle brush for cleaning? Nosefrida if you use one? Saline drops and tylenol (I assume that's part of your random little things description)? Those were just a few of the things on my list.
Also, your nursery is adorable! That is DS's favorite book at the moment, so I think that will be his birthday "theme" this year. I use the term theme loosely because he's a November baby too and I'll have a 2 week old on his birthday. His birthday will probably consist of a birthday shirt, banner, cake, and family.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
Are any of you planning a med free birth? I tried and couldn’t do it with my first but I’m wanting to try again... hoping the second time will be a teeny bit easier. I was in labor 44 hours with my first and I feel like this one can’t possibly be worse. (Goes to find some wood to knock on).
I guess I am actually MOST worried about not bonding right away with the baby or like you said, @offtoneverland, being able to love another kid just as much, but I know those are thoughts a lot of moms go through.
Ugh, a couple weeks ago when my toddler was sick and refusing to eat I bought these strawberry nutritional shakes packed with vitamins and protein, which he now loves. He is refusing his regular milk, and wants “special” milk. The problem is that a package of four 8oz bottles of this strawberry milk is $9!!!! This totally backfired on me
I looked into just getting regular strawberry milk, but the sugar content is really high. Just not something I’d want to give on a daily basis.
@BabyBoyH92016 It's not the same thing as strawberry milk, but do you think he'd like Ovaltine? He'd still get a little sweetness in his milk, and Ovaltine also has some added vitamins.
@offtoneverland I’ll look into Ovaltine! Thanks! It also just dawned on me that he might enjoy drinking out of the little bottle the strawberry milk comes in. I might save one and put regular milk in it and see how that goes over.
Ugh reassure me again that my kiddo will love preschool. This is his first week, so I completely understand that tears are normal. He’s totally fine once he’s in the room and I leave. His teachers always say that he did great.
What worries me is that he has clearly developed an anxiety about it. He shows lots of hesitation anytime it’s time to get into the car. Like he’s worried we are going to school. We also have been going to a gym with a kid care room for the past 8 or so months. He loves it. Never cries when i leave. Yesterday we went, and from the moment we started walking towards the gym he was starting to get choked up and was saying No, Go, over and over again. His favorite care giver was there, as well as his little buddy who he always plays with. Even with me hanging around for the first 5/10 minutes until he got warmed up and started playing wasn’t enough. We ended up leaving. This is not normal. We’ve been going 3-4 times a week for 8 months and he’s always fine.
I was prepared for preschool to be an adjustment, but I wasn’t prepared that it might affect him in other parts of his day like this. I hate that he has anxiety about being left.
@BabyBoyH92016 no advice, just commiserations. dd is almost the same. every morning i get the “i don’t want to go to school!” “will you stay?” “school is NOT fun!” it takes a toll on our mornings and i cried monday morning on the way to drop off. but, when she gets there, she runs into the classroom and forgets about me and saying goodbye every single time. then at pickup she tells me that she wants to stay.
i really think in our case it’s less about not liking school and more about missing mom, and sensing the big transition coming when the babies get here. doesn’t make me feel any better, though.
@BabyBoyH92016 they're always a bit apprehensive the first two weeks, and it sucks because even things that were a part of your previous normal routine suffer. All I can say is that this too shall pass, and let him know that you're open to talking about it when he's not anxious to help him acclimate to preschool being part of his life now. I found with both kids that while they were going through the transition, I would ask them about things they learned or did during the day, and at first they struggled to answer but as time went on and they got used to it, the transition became easier.
@BabyBoyH92016 I would just keep up with the routine and hope that after a few weeks his anxiety will ease. I have found that when I stay to get DD acclimated somewhere she just gets more anxious and it's usually better to just walk away and have the caregiver call or text you with an update in 15 min. Every time I have done this when DD has been anxious about going to school I get a text with a picture of her smiling and playing.
Wondering if anyone else's kiddo ever had swelling in their arm after getting the flu shot? DD got hers yesterday afternoon and that night/today it's red and swollen at the injection site as well as a few inches below that. I did read that this is normal and her teachers at school today weren't at all alarmed, but it's also very warm to the touch. Of course DH made a comment about abscesses so that's in my radar now. She's never had this reaction from the flu shot before so I'm needing a little reassurance. I'm going to reassess in the morning and call her ped if it hasn't changed, but in the meantime...anyone else seen this?
@MouseMama817 - DS hasn't had any reactions like that, but I would ice it if she isn't already in bed. Is it bothering her otherwise? Hopefully it looks a little better (or at least not worse in the morning).
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
So my son just turned 2 and started preschool a few weeks ago, and we are already getting bday invites. I’m sure the whole classroom was invited. I actually don’t know the little boy having the party or his parents. Until now, I’ve only gone to parties where I’m friends with the parents, or if it’s a child my son actually plays with. I’m not sure what the proper etiquette is here. The introvert in me that hates small talk does not want to go, but i feel bad declining and wonder if i should just suck it up. He’s only 2. I fully anticipated this for kindergartens/elementary school, but it just seems a little soon for all these parties.
@BabyBoyH92016 I’m also an introvert and I don’t go to parties the whole class is invited to unless I know the parents or know that DD plays with the bday child. Honestly, the whole bday party thing can get so crazy! DD is 4 and there have been weekends where we’ll have three parties she’s invited to! I can’t handle that much interaction, so I only go to parties I know mean something to her. I don’t know if that’s the right answer lol but it’s what I do.
@BabyBoyH92016 if it’s not inconvenient I try to go to every party we are invited to. We went to one recently where I had never met the parents, but it turned out they were new in town so that was also a way for them to get to know people. I am also an introvert but as a SAH I am always trying to meet other moms so maybe that makes me more interested in going. They usually only last an hour or two at this age anyway.
@BabyBoyH92016 wow that would surprise me if DS started getting invited to bday parties for his preschool friends (2-3 year olds). I don’t know any of the parents, I rarely pick up and the same time another parent is there. Daycare recommends sending a treat with your child to celebrate with his friends while they are there.
I’m starting to kind of panic about going into labor and how everything will work with the girls! I don’t remember being this panicked the first time - there’s just so much more to their schedules now — DD1 was barely 1, and easy to just drop off and go. I’m planning to write out a list for the ILs of their activities this week, if they want to take them to dance/gymnastics/swimming if any of those fall while I’m in the hospital, and what time drop off and pick up is for DD1, and let both school and daycare know that FIL will likely be the one picking them up, even though all of our parents are down as emergency contacts/people we have okayed them to leave with. And to pack bags for them this week.
We try to go to most of the parties we are invited too. It definitely can be overwhelming, but honestly they are usually at a cool indoor activity place so it is free and a great way to burn off energy. It’s kind of fun for me to see my kids interact with their school friends too since it is a side I’m not typically privy too. I totally understand not wanting to deal with the small talk and all that, but you could also meet a really cool parent who is just like you (I’ve had the experience!).
@BabyBoyH92016 DD started getting bday invites like a week after starting in the 2 year old preschool class. We're pretty selective though and if I've never bumped into the parent or heard DD talk about the birthday boy/girl, we RSVP no. I'm also a huge introvert and can only handle so much small talk.
@runningyogimama I am right there with you! We were on a family vacation 8 hours from home this past weekend and on the last day I almost felt like I was having an anxiety attack, just thinking of all the logistics involved and what if I go into labor early and all of the thousands of things I haven't done yet. We're fortunate to only have DD at home, my parents right across the street, and the surgery scheduled during preschool's Thanksgiving break. If I had everything to consider that you do, I'd need to be medicated lol
What is the consensus about sending your kiddo to school with a cold? My two year old has had a cold since yesterday. No fever (not even low grade) and is in good spirits. His nose is a little runny and he periodically coughs. I used to be the type of mom who would keep him home for a sniffle, but have definitely loosened up on this since i notice that colds are not stopping other parents from letting their kids do activities. Today is a super rainy day, otherwise I would have considered keeping him home and just doing outdoors activities. I stay at home (preschool is only 2.5hrs), so I worry the teachers will be annoyed that i sent him to school. Make me feel better (or worse!) about this.
@BabyBoyH92016 100% yes send your kid to school with a cold, unless they feel too bad to function. If I kept my kids home every time they had a cold (especially DD1), she would be out most of cold/flu season every single year (and neither of us would have a job, haha).
@BabyBoyH92016 under the circumstances you have, I would send to school. In fact, DD has the sniffles and she’s at school! That’s probably where he got it! If she had a fever or seemed lethargic and out of sorts I would keep her home obviously. I’m sure the teachers expect to be wiping noses and teaching the kids about hand washing, covering our mouths, etc.
@BabyBoyH92016 - I think if his snot is clear, he's fever free, and the cough isn't a frequent hacking cough, you're good to send him. I know DS's old speech place and his kindermusik class said they didn't want kids there if their snot was yellow or green.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
Anyone getting nervous regarding childcare for your other kiddos while you are in the hospital? Both my mom and my in-laws live pretty close to us, so I can count on them. They both watch my toddler a few hours at a time, but that’s it. They are both older and I’m nervous if they can keep up with him for multiple days and follow his schedule (he is very high energy/active) They also don’t drive him around, so they will be home bound for the most part which will be hard on him. Luckily our hospital is 5 minutes away so I plan on having my husband pop home as frequently as possible especially if it’s nap or bedtime. I swear I’m more concerned about my toddler then i am about giving birth. Ha ha.
@BabyBoyH92016 I am with you! Also more worried about DD than myself and the new baby. She will stay with my parents but yeah they’re getting older and to top it off my older sister and her family are living with my parents while their house is being renovated so it’s wild over there! DH will come home at least once, ideally to get her down for nap or bed. Hopefully we can leave the hospital after 24-36h too so it won’t be too long. I also have a list of babysitters that my mom can call/text for a few hours of relief here or there.
Do you know any sitters who can help out? Even if mom or mil were there supervising a younger person could be doing the high energy play to give them a break!
@BabyBoyH92016 - I am also more worried about DS than anything else while I'm in the hospital. My parents do a pretty good job with him and have kept him overnight once, but I'm still nervous. They are 3 hours away so I do worry a little what happens if I go into labor since I don't really know anyone here well enough to leave DS with them yet. We do plan on having DH help with whatever if need be since we're only 20 min from the hospital especially nap/bedtime.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
Re: STM Chat- September
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
@runningyogimama As for the CJs butter, we're you the one that recommended the stick so you don't have to get it on your fingers? That's what I put on my list, but I'm not sure which is the best to get.
Here's what I put on my list:
-pacifier straps/clips
-babyganics hand sanitizer to put on the changing table (the best! It's not drying like Purell and my eczema-prone hands thank me for using it)
-babyganics lotion
-diaper pail bags
-pads for after delivery
-milk storage bags
-Cjs butter
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
Also, your nursery is adorable! That is DS's favorite book at the moment, so I think that will be his birthday "theme" this year. I use the term theme loosely because he's a November baby too and I'll have a 2 week old on his birthday. His birthday will probably consist of a birthday shirt, banner, cake, and family.
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
I looked into just getting regular strawberry milk, but the sugar content is really high. Just not something I’d want to give on a daily basis.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
What worries me is that he has clearly developed an anxiety about it. He shows lots of hesitation anytime it’s time to get into the car. Like he’s worried we are going to school. We also have been going to a gym with a kid care room for the past 8 or so months. He loves it. Never cries when i leave. Yesterday we went, and from the moment we started walking towards the gym he was starting to get choked up and was saying No, Go, over and over again. His favorite care giver was there, as well as his little buddy who he always plays with. Even with me hanging around for the first 5/10 minutes until he got warmed up and started playing wasn’t enough. We ended up leaving. This is not normal. We’ve been going 3-4 times a week for 8 months and he’s always fine.
I was prepared for preschool to be an adjustment, but I wasn’t prepared that it might affect him in other parts of his day like this. I hate that he has anxiety about being left.
i really think in our case it’s less about not liking school and more about missing mom, and sensing the big transition coming when the babies get here. doesn’t make me feel any better, though.
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
@runningyogimama I am right there with you! We were on a family vacation 8 hours from home this past weekend and on the last day I almost felt like I was having an anxiety attack, just thinking of all the logistics involved and what if I go into labor early and all of the thousands of things I haven't done yet. We're fortunate to only have DD at home, my parents right across the street, and the surgery scheduled during preschool's Thanksgiving break. If I had everything to consider that you do, I'd need to be medicated lol
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
Do you know any sitters who can help out? Even if mom or mil were there supervising a younger person could be doing the high energy play to give them a break!
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green