FFFC 9/14

k2k2tog · September 2018

Iiiiit's Friday! Let's here your flame free Friday confessions!

(Not always flame-free)

k2k2tog · September 2018

This confession brought to you by the ladies who read Larabars as Labradors in the "What my pregnant self is eating" thread:

If I were presented with the opportunity in a country where dogs are raised for meat and it would be culturally appropriate to do so, I would try dog meat.

psychobutthead · September 2018

@k2k2tog as long as you aren't ok with trying human in countries where thats ok I can live with that.

Confession. I really hate other people's kids. I like mine can't stand other people's unless they are newborns.

k2k2tog · September 2018

@psychobutthead I can definitely assure you I have no interest in eating people.

peachy13 · September 2018

Of all the tons of clothes people gave to us for DD (9 months now) at the shower, birth, Christmas, etc. - I would say she's actually worn about 10% of it. I returned a lot, donated a lot, or dropped off at daycare for backup clothes. A lot of stuff might look cute, but it's uncomfortable for the baby or difficult for us to put on/take off. And if it's not that, then the clothes are just plain ugly or not our taste (I'm not crazy about cutesy sayings). I know people love buying baby clothes but honestly for kids under 1, easy and comfy is KEY.

nonlinear_function · September 2018

@peachy13 amen. My 9/16 babe lived in sleep 'n' plays for the longest time. So much easier than all the outfits with layers and frills and whatnot.

keighty80 · September 2018

After my divorce, I honestly never thought I'd meet anyone else or get married again. Let alone, have another kid. So I got rid of EVERYTHING. So my FFFC is that I'm probably going to have a baby shower to ask for some items because I'm an idiot and got rid of all of my baby stuff. We'll buy all the big stuff ourselves, but we'll have a bbq/baby shower for our family/friends and we'll ask for the smaller items such as clothes and diapers and bottle kits etc...By the time this kid is born, my son will be almost 5 so I'm starting over from scratch basically.

missmcgonnagal · September 2018

I drank a 5oz glass of red wine when I knew I was 2-3 weeks pregnant. My MIL was in town and she watches me like a hawk for any signs of pregnancy (she actually asked me when my IUD date was up that visit). Since it was a holiday (Rosh Hashanah) she would have been on me like white on rice if I said no or didn't drink.

I won't see her for any extended time until Thanksgiving when we intend to break the news if all is still going well.

thismustbethemom · September 2018

This morning, I showered for the first time in.... five days

Sleep>being clean these days.

sleepy33 · September 2018

keighty80 said:

After my divorce, I honestly never thought I'd meet anyone else or get married again. Let alone, have another kid. So I got rid of EVERYTHING. So my FFFC is that I'm probably going to have a baby shower to ask for some items because I'm an idiot and got rid of all of my baby stuff. We'll buy all the big stuff ourselves, but we'll have a bbq/baby shower for our family/friends and we'll ask for the smaller items such as clothes and diapers and bottle kits etc...By the time this kid is born, my son will be almost 5 so I'm starting over from scratch basically.

Haha maybe my twin FFFC is I was too lazy to get rid of most of my baby stuff. I mean, bottles and diapers I'll need, and probably the infant seat is expired...But if your fam is like mine, they'll be so happy that *you're* happy again, they'll be thrilled to have a party.

megsb615 · September 2018

@peachy13 I agree that comfy is best when they’re little babies. My son pretty much stayed in sleepers and onesies unless we were going somewhere.

My FFFC is that I love smocks, monogrammed outfits, bubbles, Jon Jons, etc. for babies and little kids. I put my son in little khakis and a soft button up shirt around 4 months old, and he looked like such a little man that I haven’t put him in either since then. My Mama heart couldn’t take it. Flame away, but i dread the day of not getting to dress him sweet anymore.

peachy13 · September 2018

@missmcgonnagal good one! I did this too with DD. My best friend's bridal shower was like the week after I found out I was pregnant and all my girlfriends were in attendance, sitting at my table, watching me like a hawk since I was "next in line" for getting pregnant. I very slowly sipped a weak mimosa over the course of like 3 hours lol.

megsb615 · September 2018

@missmcgonnagal Some people really do watch you when they’re expecting it! One of our friends is that way, and will ask practically every time we see them if I’m pregnant or not. She’s had 3 kids, so you’d think she’d know not to, but nope..

aels12 · September 2018

@k2k2tog I’m a huge animal lover so I’m super annoying and not trying to start anything about humane/Inhumane slaughter practices in the US, but have you seen how dogs are treated in those countries prior to/as they are being killed for meat? It’s horrible, I don’t have a problem with being adventurous and trying different things, but I can’t handle anything to do with the dog meat trade/consumption.

DressageDarling · September 2018

@msb615 ugh, that would bother me so much! We planned on not telling many people this time around (like my dad and 2 friends know and that’s it), but I ran into a friend at Target and she just straight up asked me.

sleepy33 · September 2018

msb615 said:

@missmcgonnagal Some people really do watch you when they’re expecting it! One of our friends is that way, and will ask practically every time we see them if I’m pregnant or not. She’s had 3 kids, so you’d think she’d know not to, but nope..

Ughhhh, why are people?!

ElleJDubs · September 2018

@missmcgonnagal I am going to a "find the wine" corn maze tonight with my friends. I was too excited about a night out to say I couldn't go. I do have one friend going who knows so I'm going to try to dump most of my wine in her cup! I may take a couple tiny sips!

beccabek92 · September 2018

Didn’t think I had a rant need until now.
Friend offers to go to lunch with me.

Friend says she’ll be right back and is still gone 15 min later.

I’M STARVING!!!!!

thanks for listening everyone

DuchessOfCambridge · September 2018

I said I wasn’t going to buy anymore pregnancy tests buuuuuttt :shrug:

ElleJDubs · September 2018

When I make my 3 year old mac and cheese I feed it to him. He doesn't like doing it himself bc he gets messy and I tend to agree lol

zuuls_mom · September 2018

I haven't shaved my legs in like a month. Flame away!

megsb615 · September 2018

@DressageDarling Seriously? Like I just don’t understand why people do that.

missmcgonnagal · September 2018

ElleJDubs said:

@missmcgonnagal I am going to a "find the wine" corn maze tonight with my friends. I was too excited about a night out to say I couldn't go. I do have one friend going who knows so I'm going to try to dump most of my wine in her cup! I may take a couple tiny sips!

That sounds like so much fun!

kvh22 · September 2018

I love that DD is so excited to go to daycare she doesn't even say goodbye to me most days (she just turned one so it's not like she's 4 and ignoring me). This is how it should be and I'd be sad if she didn't want to be there. She gets to play for 8-9 hours. She should LOVE it! Her teacher kept telling her to say goodbye when I dropped her off but she only had eyes for the slide. Fine with me.

@peachy13 If I was a SAHM, I'd be way more upset about the dumb clothes people get us. As DD goes to daycare, it's perfect! Although, MIL is the main offender and it's just not my style. I don't think we have much that'd be uncomfortable - but half of what she buys us goes to daycare as backup clothes.

@keighty80 I actually think it'd make sense to have a shower. Between the age gap and it being with a different person, go for it!

@missmcgonnagal Yea, I definitely have friends who are going to know when we hang out. I'm not going to put them off but I'm kinda like...we'll all ignore it and/or I'll say I'm waiting to take a test (for those who know we're trying) so being safe. For others who don't know we were trying again (those with no kids), I'm still BFing so I can use that as an excuse and they won't know better.

megsb615 · September 2018

@DuchessOfCambridge At least you’re honest. Pretty sure I’ll pick some 88 cent ones up at Walmart once I run out.. because you know, I was in there anyway

missmcgonnagal · September 2018

kvh22 said:
@missmcgonnagal Yea, I definitely have friends who are going to know when we hang out. I'm not going to put them off but I'm kinda like...we'll all ignore it and/or I'll say I'm waiting to take a test (for those who know we're trying) so being safe. For others who don't know we were trying again (those with no kids), I'm still BFing so I can use that as an excuse and they won't know better.

It wouldn't be such a PITA if people could keep it to themselves. If I were to catch a friend not drinking, and I thought that was odd, I might ask them about it later but I wouldn't tell other people. That's the thing with my MIL ... she would have to tell everyone she's ever met IMMEDIATELY. I'd be happy to tell her right off the back if she could keep it to herself. Hopefully your friends can at least respect you enough not to gossip about the whole thing.

megsb615 · September 2018

@zuuls_mom No flame here! I thought I was bad only shaving on weekends!

kvh22 · September 2018

@missmcgonnagal you'd think your friends (and MIL) who've been in that situation would get it. *sigh*

I have a lot of issues with my MIL but she kept our first pregnancy to herself until we were ready to tell. Our engagement on the other hand, she told people about while we were still working through telling our friends - we didn't put it on FB for a month while we told people in person or via text/phone (live across the country from friends/family). One of DH's friends was really mad he found out from his mom and not DH.

So far i've only told my mom, my sister (together on the phone), my OB (before DH

) and my barre studio as there are modifications I'll need AND my co-worker and I go together so it has to be discrete. I think we'll wait the 12 weeks to tell everyone else but we told some immediate family at christmas last time when I was 6 weeks since we were staying with them and I wasn't drinking and felt like crap.

megsb615 · September 2018

@sleepy33 I’d much rather them assume and just not say anything. Then I don’t have to lie and try to avoid them for the next few weeks, and they can keep on “studying” me to see if they’re right. Haha

@missmcgonnagal My in laws are the same way. You tell one of them, and it goes through the whole grapevine of family, and whoever they may see in the grocery store. When we told them about my first pregnancy, we asked them not to say anything yet. My FIL, FIL’s best friend, my husband and me went to the lake that same afternoon, and I overheard my FIL is telling his BFF. I mean, seriously..

foodislove · September 2018

Only person I've told is my BFF, whom DH loves. She's the godmother to our DS, and now future kiddo. As much as I love our parents and sibs, I really wanna hold off telling them as long as I can because I know the baby will be the focus of everything and anything.

psychobutthead · September 2018

peachy13 said:

Of all the tons of clothes people gave to us for DD (9 months now) at the shower, birth, Christmas, etc. - I would say she's actually worn about 10% of it. I returned a lot, donated a lot, or dropped off at daycare for backup clothes. A lot of stuff might look cute, but it's uncomfortable for the baby or difficult for us to put on/take off. And if it's not that, then the clothes are just plain ugly or not our taste (I'm not crazy about cutesy sayings). I know people love buying baby clothes but honestly for kids under 1, easy and comfy is KEY.

My problem was people bought us winter clothes in sizes when it would be summer. Then they would buy a long sleeve onsie but no pants to go with it making it so damn difficult to find anything to match.

I wad also given tons of shoes that where all winter shoes that where fleece lined when it turned summer. He wore almost nothing at all I was given. Everyone bought the wrong season.

beccabek92 · September 2018

@DuchessOfCambridge my DH bought me the 50 pack pf HPT’s from Amazon for like $20. Best investment ever. I have 20 tests lined up showing the line getting darker and darker. It’s so exciting. And then I got to the point when I just anted to pee on a stick because I wanted to make the magic line appear. After the 21st test and a fancy digital one I was finally sated. Have fun!

sleepy33 · September 2018

DuchessOfCambridge said:

I said I wasn’t going to buy anymore pregnancy tests buuuuuttt :shrug:

k2k2tog · September 2018

aels12 said:

@k2k2tog I’m a huge animal lover so I’m super annoying and not trying to start anything about humane/Inhumane slaughter practices in the US, but have you seen how dogs are treated in those countries prior to/as they are being killed for meat? It’s horrible, I don’t have a problem with being adventurous and trying different things, but I can’t handle anything to do with the dog meat trade/consumption.

No, I haven't looked into it - I mean, traveling to those countries to eat dog is not actually something I aspire to. I don't doubt that it's horrible. But, I have a suspicion that all animals being raised for meat in those countries would be treated in similar ways. So, IF one were in one of those countries, should one avoid all meat?

(I know that for you, if you are a vegetarian for ethical reasons, that answer might be yes. For me, it is not.)

psychobutthead · September 2018

Confession. I am really afraid I will end up having twins.

I helped raise my twin nieces, thats why I'm afraid.

foodislove · September 2018

Confession: I really dislike my closest mom friend since she's had kids. We were two peas in a pod when we were pregnant together (kids are 2 months apart).

We're now completely incompatible when it comes to doing things with our children in tow. She's completely unstructured in terms of having activities for her eldest or cleaning her house or focusing on her relationship with her DH, but extremely strict about their schedules and who she trusts her kids with. She complains about having no time to herself but she never allows them to put down their infant. She asked me to come over and hold the baby so she could clean - god forbid the baby go in a rock and play for 30 minutes (I did go and hold the baby, though, I'm not heartless). Love her but even DH admits, when she and her DH have their kids over, the tension is so thick about what the kids can/cannot do, ugh.

mrsclark731 · September 2018

I’m still drinking 160mg of caffeine daily. I prefer my caffeine in the form of sugar free Red Bull. If it was coffee no one would bat an eye. I’m out of f*cks.

I’m a SAHM to a crazy ass toddler. I also have a successful Etsy store I run from home ... so I’m not giving it up this time around.

foodislove · September 2018

@mrsclark731 No judgement here. I have some Starbucks refreshers in my fridge I may be eyeing next week while DH is working out of state and I'm alone with the 2yo. Also vastly curious what you sell on Etsy!

merrylea · September 2018

I had an edible the night my son was conceived. I saved them in the freezer for 2 effing years to wait to not be pregnant or nursing and I get knocked up on the first shot.

Best O of my life that night tho! 😜

mrsclark731 · September 2018

@foodislove I have managed to carve out a niche for myself in the very big world of Etsy wedding stationery, specifically destination wedding welcome bags. I do thank you notes, itineraries, programs, name tags....anything you can think I I have probably designed, printed, cut and punched it

Going strong since 2014. It’s a nice little gig and I like being challenged creatively and such. Keeps me sharp when the rest of my day is consists of potty talk and peppa the pig!

foodislove · September 2018

@mrsclark731 What a wonderful gig - that sounds like a lot of fun! Do you have a Cricut or Silhouette then? I have the Cricut but I don't really know anyone else that has one and uses it for anything other than small personal things.

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