Thanks, @katethemom@molosmiles and @Mandamay1414 so far DD is still suffering pretty bad with the mouth sores, but nothing on her hands or feet. The one in my mouth is gone already, the one on my hand scabbed over, but I have 2 new ones on my feet. But altogether, mine are so much milder than hers.
Looks like DD will be home from daycare tomorrow, so basically all this week. She's been sort of ok. There will be long periods where she is kind of normal, but then she just sort of loses it. For example, today she said she wanted to play a game with daddy. DH said "ok, what do you want to play?" And she just started wailing. I thought she was in pain, but she just cried "I don't know any games!" Took her like 30 min to calm down, and she didn't want any of our game suggestions.
Poor miserable kid.
It has been a week, balancing a miserable kid with trying to get a full work load in during part time hours. Im lucky DH can split the days with me so we both can keep working at least part time.
@wkuandrea I have a lot of student loans, too. It's a second house payment, basically. I went to a private undergrad, and unfortunately thought private loans (Wells Fargo) would be better than federal. NOT TRUE! Thankfully my grad school loans are federal and I can do the income based. Similar to you, we're doing the smallest payments possible until it can be forgiven. I'm at a nonprofit agency, though, so it's forgiven after being there and making payments for 10 years. I'm 2 years down. We file taxes separately so they only look at my income, and they still let me claim a family of 3 (soon 4!) so payments are smaller. Like you said, though, my principle amount just keeps going up from interest. All I can hope for is that they don't suddenly stop doing the loan forgiveness. My private loans have no income based option, just basic repayment. lame.
Finally moved our last box into our new apartment on Tuesday, and I'm not looking forward to unpacking everything on my own (boyfriend is back to working during the day). Hoping I can put everything in its place before I go back to school next week & work the following week--here's to wishful thinking!
Home again with DD, DH takes over at 12 so I can work. Her mouth sores still look bad, but she ate without crying for the first time in days. I think she will be back to normal this weekend (fx).
One of DS's daycare teachers came over to babysit him last night while we went to dinner with friends. They're also having a January baby, and it was so fun to catch up! I'm excited about finding an evening babysitter - I basically didn't have to give her any instructions because she has him for probably more waking hours a week than I do!
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
@kns1988 our go-to babysitter is one of DS's first daycare teachers. She's known him since 7 weeks old, she's like another grandma to him at this point. So thankful for her.
@cait32 That's a good article. It isn't very hard, but it's frustrating. I could write a novel of all the BS I've had to go through with my federal loans, and they DO NOT help very well. And each customer service person will give you a different answer, which is incredibly frustrating. You have to learn to ask LOTS of clarifying questions, and I'm glad I do. I've actually needed them to do a review of past calls to see that I was given false information and that I was clear over the phone on that convo that I didn't understand. It really shouldn't be this hard.
Basically: be in the RIGHT income based plan, make sure that your employer AND your position qualify, make sure to make all your payments on time. It's frustrating because they can be all like, "oh this income based plan will be better for you, yada yada yada" and try to automatically move you around. And unless you ask SPECIFICALLY "does this plan work with the loan forgiveness plan" they won't tell you and won't care.
Ugh. So tired. I had a horrible night’s sleep Wednesday and last night wasn’t any better. I woke up at 1:40 to pee, then DS decided to wake up at 2am (wide awake) and talk to himself, I had CRAZY dreams about Spiderman, and then DS woke up at 6:30 ready to rock and roll. DS has also been a pill so I text DH to tell him he needs to come home on time because only one of us (referring to DS and me) might be alive at the end of the day. Fortunately, I got to close my eyes for about 20 minutes while DS was playing and I had a little iced coffee I got at Target today.
DH’s football team won their first game of the season tonight!
His team has been awful the past 2 years, only winning 3 games total. It was fairly unpleasant to live with DH during the past 2 football seasons. Tonight, they played well, and I’m seeing a glimmer of hope for a decent season this year?!
Anyway, I am so thrilled that they won this game.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Also, my boobs just started hurting at 17.5 weeks, and DS keeps snuggling and smooshing them! He doesn't mean to, but he always manages to dive right onto my boobs.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Also, my boobs just started hurting at 17.5 weeks, and DS keeps snuggling and smooshing them! He doesn't mean to, but he always manages to dive right onto my boobs.
My boobs haven’t stopped hurting.. and DS does the same thing.
Married: May 2012 DS1: May 2016 DS2: Jan 2019 Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Am I insane? I just agreed to foster a mama cat and her 1 month old baby. I think my husband might kill me, but I couldn’t let a mama and nursing baby stay in a shelter!
@Mandamay1414 The way I see it.. Either toddler is told to stop being annoying and to learn to communicate properly, or toddler can just throw fits until he/she gets what is wanted. I'd say you're a good mom for teaching!
DD has been up way past her bed time for the last three nights and of course is waking up at the same time in the morning - but is a major grump. Yesterday she took a 3 hour nap so I’m praying I’ll get one of those today so I can relax (I had company during yesterday’s).
Also im currently aggressively ignoring her because I feel like she’s forgotten how to play independently.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@BitterBetty12 good luck and know you are doing the right thing. Independent play is so important and sometimes they won't just do it on their own... something I didn't learn with my 1st and I wish I had
Found out our OOP max for insurance is $10,000 for the family, which I'm guessing we'll meet between myself and baby. SO ANNOYED that it's that high. DH said his open enrollment is in December and there's a slightly more expensive plan that the OOP max is $7000, so we're going to switch to that one, but it takes into effect Jan 1st. I'm due 1/10, so as long as baby isn't 2 weeks early, it should work out. Even $7000 seems high to me, but my open enrollment at my work has now closed, and I didn't even think of switching to my work for a better OOP max. UGH!
DH and I are going on a date tonight thanks to my friend who offered to watch DD. I didn’t think we’d get to see Crazy Rich Asians since we looked at tickets yesterday and for Saturday, tickets seemed to be sold out in nearby theaters. We nonchalantly picked 7 PM show only to go back and pick the 5:15 show since oh yeahhh, we’re parents. If we watch a 7 PM show on a Sunday night, we won’t be home until 9 PM.
I’m excited to see what the hype is all about! Heard it’s a series of books but I honestly haven’t heard of it until the movie.
Today has been awful. DS is either teething or not feeling well because I've never seen him so fussy. I just broke down and cried because I can't take it anymore. This is the first time my kid has ever made me cry.
Me: 29, DH: 31 Married: October 2014 Began TTC: April 2015 BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w) BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w) BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17 BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DD is 3.5 and almost never plays independently. We have been trying to get her to play on her own at specific times (like before dinner, when we are busy getting home from work and cooking) but she just wails the whole time. Very rarely she will ask to go to her playroom and play by herself, but it is like once in a blue moon. And we always say YES!
@kns1988 yikes! Days like that are tough but hang in there. You’re doing great!
@molosmiles thank you! It’s such a hard balance. I feel so guilty sometimes when I’m in the room with her and ‘ignoring’ her. But at the same time I know that independent play is good for her and important as well. And she used to be good at it when she was a baby but now that we’re in toddler-hood she is defintiely a bit more clingy.
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@luckymay2x Ah that is tough! I think personality has a lot to do with it. I’m lucky that DD has always been relatively good at playing by herself. But now that she’s 14 months and she’s walking and able to communicate really well, she’ll frequently gravitate toward me rather than trying to engage with things on her own. When she does that I kind of recalibrate a bit. I only ‘play’ with her when I’m on the ground. If I want her to play independently I’ll sit on the couch next to her play area and engage a bit less until she starts to entertain herself. It’s hard because I don’t want to ignore her all together but sometimes she needs me to in order to remember how to play on her own. When we have a good balance I can engage with her but she’ll still also go back and play alone again. So that’s what I’m trying to get to mow
Me: 28 DH: 26 Married: November 2015 TTC#1: January 2016 BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16 BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17 DD Born 06/23/17 TFAS: April 2018 BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
@luckymay2x I've struggled with DS at times with the independent play. He seems to go through phases with it and sometimes does well, but other times will just not be content unless someone is playing with him. I've just tried to be consistent with the times of day that I need time to myself. He knows I do some light housework first thing in the morning, and cooking dinner is definitely his time to play alone. I'd say just continue to be firm about that time of day that you want her to entertain herself and hopefully she'll get used to it. I will say that DS has gotten better since he's turned 4. I found he was way more challenging as a 3-year-old than any other age - just clingy and temperamental most of the time. Maybe things will get easier in a few months!
DD is terrible at independent play. I think a lot of it is her personality, she seems to be an extrovert. She would always choose to play with friends over playing by herself. I have a couple times during the day when I want her to play by herself, but it does typically require some amount of ignoring her and her protesting.
@luckymay2x it's so tough! My first never really played alone but my truck with her was to initially play with her, just to get her started and then go do something else. It worked well to get her to play independently for at least a little bit. Personality has a lot to do with it because DD2 has always been better at independent play, she'd gladly have one of us play with her though. As someone else mentioned setting times that are for independent play can really help too. Kids and those routines. I'm not a routine person so that is hard for me, but kids learn so well with routines. Good luck! It's hard and exhausting. (DD1 is 9 now and started playing independently without a fight around 5)
@molosmiles and @pttomato I think it is personality, too. DH and i are both introverts who prefer a lot of independent time. But all of DH's family are extreme extroverts and we think DD inherited that train. Two introverts with an extroverted toddler, lol.
I started giving her stickers if she played independently for 5 min at a time and it seems to be working. Fx!
Re: Weekly randoms 8/13
Looks like DD will be home from daycare tomorrow, so basically all this week. She's been sort of ok. There will be long periods where she is kind of normal, but then she just sort of loses it. For example, today she said she wanted to play a game with daddy. DH said "ok, what do you want to play?" And she just started wailing. I thought she was in pain, but she just cried "I don't know any games!" Took her like 30 min to calm down, and she didn't want any of our game suggestions.
Poor miserable kid.
It has been a week, balancing a miserable kid with trying to get a full work load in during part time hours. Im lucky DH can split the days with me so we both can keep working at least part time.
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DS 05/29/2013
M/C 02/14/2017
M/C 06/05/2017
C/P 03/01/2018
BFP 05/17/2018 EDD 01/27/2019
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
His team has been awful the past 2 years, only winning 3 games total. It was fairly unpleasant to live with DH during the past 2 football seasons. Tonight, they played well, and I’m seeing a glimmer of hope for a decent season this year?!
Anyway, I am so thrilled that they won this game.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DS1: May 2016
DS2: Jan 2019
Baby #3 EDD: 6/18/24
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
I'd say you're a good mom for teaching!
Also im currently aggressively ignoring her because I feel like she’s forgotten how to play independently.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Married: 8/11/2007
DD: Born 2/3/17
BFP#2: 5/3, EDD 1/10/19
I’m excited to see what the hype is all about! Heard it’s a series of books but I honestly haven’t heard of it until the movie.
ETA: *to watch DD
Married: October 2014
Began TTC: April 2015
BFP #1: 9/18/15. EDD 5/18/16. MC 10/26/15. (9w)
BFP #2: 2/27/16. EDD 11/7/16. MC/D&E 4/20/16 (11w)
BFP #3: 9/22/16. EDD 5/29/17. DS born 4/24/17
BFP #4: 5/20/18. EDD 1/23/19.
DD is 3.5 and almost never plays independently. We have been trying to get her to play on her own at specific times (like before dinner, when we are busy getting home from work and cooking) but she just wails the whole time. Very rarely she will ask to go to her playroom and play by herself, but it is like once in a blue moon. And we always say YES!
I’m lucky that DS doesn’t always need me to entertain him. He’s pretty good at playing by himself and imaginary play.
@luckymay2x sounds like my DD.. I'm really hoping she learns to play by herself a bit more before little brother gets here.
@molosmiles thank you! It’s such a hard balance. I feel so guilty sometimes when I’m in the room with her and ‘ignoring’ her. But at the same time I know that independent play is good for her and important as well. And she used to be good at it when she was a baby but now that we’re in toddler-hood she is defintiely a bit more clingy.
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
Married: November 2015
TTC#1: January 2016
BFP #1: 5/02/16 - MC: 5/27/16
BFP #2: 10/06/16: 6 - EDD: 06/20/17
DD Born 06/23/17
TFAS: April 2018
BFP #3: 03/21/18 - CP
BFP #4: 04/23/18 - EDD 01/04/19
I started giving her stickers if she played independently for 5 min at a time and it seems to be working. Fx!