A (incomplete) list of things my DH appears to be congenitally incapable of doing: remembering which day is trash day; wiping up his hair from the drain after he showers; taking his car to be serviced; putting away his clothes after he does laundry; noticing whether the dishes in the dishwasher are dirty before he puts them away in the cupboards; paying his bills on time; getting rid of amazon boxes; calling a repair person; throwing away rotten food.
Lately, I started gently complaining about how he never got rid of his amazon boxes after he ordered something. That seemed like an easy thing for him to change, right? I thought asking him to do that wouldn't make me a shrew. Sooooo.... he DID start removing them from our living room, which seemed like progress. But instead of folding them up and putting them in the recycling, he started carrying the boxes, still whole and full of packing material, down into the basement and piling them up in the basement. That's more work than just getting rid of them!!! I don't even understand.
I’m pretty excited about this because mine has been driving me up the wall (half is hormonal half is not)
my oh oh so dear hubby has been promising to clean out the office upstairs to start transition to our bedroom to make room for another nursery 4 weeks ago. I know there is lots of time but really I won’t be able to help him move all ththe furniture up there is he doesn’t get it don asap! Then I’ll hear him complain that it’s soooooo much work for one person *insert eye role*
Mine has been a douche about dinner. I have to eat lower carb and he said he was down to eat what I am. No. He complained every night for 4 nights and flat refused to eat what I made for two of them. When he complains about something I cook it isn’t one comment. He just won’t shut up about it for an hour. This coming from somebody who can’t cook. I was too pissed to speak to him Tuesday night.
Lol, my DH is at it again to get rid of our animals, 2 of which are cats I've had for 10 years. He makes it a point to tell me I'm snoring and that he has to use ear plugs to sleep. He likes to ask me what I'm doing 5000 times when I'm just trying to take a nap. He would really like to know when I plan on cleaning, including the litter box and bathing the dogs lol. I love him, but LORD he drives me crazy sometimes.
My husband is convinced we need a 3rd row SUV for our two children, and he seems to believe I have some disdain for 3rd row vehicles. No babe, I love a 3rd row SUV. What I will not agree to is doubling our car payment when you have a perfect sedan that fits two car seats beautifully THAT WE PURCHASED LESS THAN A YEAR AGO.
No H, you don't need another car especially not one that only fits 2 people, we just bought a new car. We don't have a three car garage, therefore we don't need three cars... stop asking!! Also, why can't you make me dinner ever?? You can cook meat, therefore you can cook vegetarian meals too.
@danixbanani24 AMEN. I was eating some leftover pasta last night that I bought at lunchtime, and my husband looked at it and said "that looks like it's just all cheese." I responded with a snarky "Very astute observation" and then gave him the middle finger as I continued eating. For the last two months, cheesy anything has sounded awful, and finally this week it hasn't made me sick and I can enjoy it again. So DH can kindly fuck off with his judgement.
@danixbanani24 my husband did that at the beginning of my first pregnancy. I was livid. Told him to F off and I was going to eat whatever made me feel good and I could stomach. This go round he hasn’t said a word and offers to get whatever I want. Safe to say he learned a lesson.
My husband has zero empathy for the fact that everything makes me vomit (like eating a salmon sandwich in front of me) but other than that unfortunately I’ve been the asshole thanks to damn pregnancy hormones. He cooks, cleans and does the early morning wake ups and everything nice he does just pisses me off more? Ugh hopefully my moods will level out soon
I don't get on here much, but I did tonight, just to see if this discussion was a thing, and I am so so so glad it is here. can we talk about video games? computer games, whatever. Effing WOW, I would like to set fire to his overpriced computer and make him sit there and watch it burn. Id also like his stupid best friend with an effed up marriage to just go away. I don't wish him harm because I like his wife, but my god I cant stand that kid (i say kid because he does nothing to qualify himself as a man) also, Im allowed to be moody. IM PREGNANT! the more you call me moody or try and tell me not to be moody the more moody I will be. Take the kid to some fancy bakery out of state and bring me back some pastries and leave me alone for several hours on end.
p.s. I really love my husband and he is a good guy, i just don't like him this moment. P.P.s excuse my horrible punctuation and such, the flames that are shooting out my fingertips as i type make being neat and nice impossible.
@okayestmom12 and @lifeislove87 same with the snoring here too. The thing is he used to never snore but has gained weight since DD and now snores SO LOUD that sometimes I just want to punch him in his sleep.
@mamabear89071516 my husband plays this stupid computer game every night and it’s so irritating . He has to play it while we are just relaxing on the couch so all I hear is his clicking of the mouse.
He snores sometimes but but I feel bad because my pregnancy snoring has already started and I’m sure it’s worse than his sometimes snoring
My car issue is the opposite. We've had our car less than 3yrs but when DH bought it, he needed it more for work and we had no kids. We did however have our 80lb dog and knew kids were coming. What did he get?!? A 2 door mini cooper. So now I remind him on a regular basis as he climbs into the trunk to load our daughter, that my one requirement for the car was that it worked with car seats and our dog!! So when he complains about the car, it's all over. I have also told him that as soon as we find a house to buy, his car is being replaced by the car I want, which is a 3 row SUV. B/C we will have 2 adults, 2 kids and an 88lb dog!! Not to mention all their shit!
TW: 1 infant loss 8/17: Our daughter was born 8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass 2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old 4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
My husband is a super duper health freak gym rat and I am just.....not. I don’t eat TERRIBLE but dammit if I want Oreos at night I’m gonna eat them lmao
Faaaaahk @conchispita. Blue dawn and water will get it out.
Back when we had one, DH was watching DD while I worked in the other room. He fell asleep, she stripped nude, covered herself in Vaseline and peed and pooped everywhere. It was a nightmare.
My husband is a super duper health freak gym rat and I am just.....not. I don’t eat TERRIBLE but dammit if I want Oreos at night I’m gonna eat them lmao
Yaaassss! I bought Doritos the other day because my SD is 8 and we eat strict and never have junk food so I thought it’s summer we are going to the pool, it’s a treat! (I also packed veggies and fruit so it’s not like I bought McDonald’s!) he freaked out saying it was full of chemicals etc. I just can’t live so restricted! Hahahah
@runalrun That's when you tell your husband to shut the fuck up, and resume your junk food consumption. If he continues being judgmental, increase the junk food. He'll get the memo soon enough, if he's smart. FWIW, I figure that life is long, and occasional junk food, alcohol, etc is what makes the journey enjoyable.
Dear H, when you say you’ll do the dishes, why do you always leave the pots and pans to me? When you vacuum, why do you only do the living room and skip the kitchen, bathroom and bedroom? When you clean the bathroom, why do you not scrub the bathtub? Why do you literally never clean the floor or dust anything?? I can’t go over everything you do after you do it, because I do all of the things you do and more when it’s my turn. And I work 10-15 hours more than you in an average week.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
His stomach is bothering him. Fuck you DH. I’ve been sick for about 9 weeks at this point - nausea, vomitting, constipation, diarrhea. Maybe don’t complain to your pregnant wife about your stomach issues.
@grebretso - DH only surface cleans. If I don’t clean after he cleans, nothing is really clean. So basically our house is a hot fucking mess right now. He’s also incapable of cleaning while taking care of the kids. He can only do one or the other. Meanwhile, I can clean, cook, work, take care of the kids all at the same time. Men.
@kayjay44 Same. He’s good at vacuuming (good meaning: he’s the only partner I’ve ever had who actually moves furniture out of the way to vacuum instead of going around it), but he only does the one friggin room. Since I haven’t been cleaning for three months, our place is filthy. And we don’t even have kids!
He does cook, but when he does he never wipes down the counter afterwards, so it’ll be full of crusty splatters. Also everything he cooks comes out of a can, jar and/or the freezer. If I want healthy food made from scratch I’ll have to do it myself. Lately he’s been doing most of the cooking so I’m sustaining myself on chili tater tots and bean dip.
DS born 2/18/2019 DD born 4/1/2023 Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
My H does like to cook and cooks well, but he's utterly incapable of cleaning up after himself. As in, he doesn't even wash/recycle empty cans, and leaves the trimmings of veggies all over the counter. Combine that with my current utter lack of motivation to peel myself off of the couch/bed in the evenings after work, and our apartment resembles a dorm room of college guys. And that's just two adults. All y'all with kids are superheroes in my book. If I had a child right now while pregnant, I think my apartment would look like something you'd see on Hoarders.
DH can’t stand seeing me take a nap while he cares for DD. DD shortly pooped herself (again) and DH found it necessary to wake me, even though he is capable of taking care of it himself. All I did was say something incoherent and lay down again. When she drew on the carpet, again it was necessary to wake me up. Can I just take an uninterrupted nap in peace??? That is my biggest gripe with him right now.
@hannahbananas11 lol it does look like an episode of hoarders up in here. Except that my kid is just to the age of cleaning up his toys (he’s 18 months - “cleaning” is a loose interpretation of what he does). But it does help to be able to blame it on your kid when people come over. Can’t tell you how many times I’ve said “omg I’m so sorry, DS is just a hot mess right now” and people make soothing noises and say how precious he is. Whatever lol
I'm so tired of coming home from work in the morning to find his leftover midnight snack remnants on the coffee table, the banister used as a hamper and fucking shoes and socks everywhere. He also just leaves food blobs in the sink. Every fucking time. WHY. we have a disposal, it should not be this difficult!
He has the worst sleep apnea but we can't afford all the sleep studies to get him a CPAP so he keeps the entire house up at night snoring and then complains in the morning to the pregnant lady who worked all night that he's tired. -_-
Re: Why my SO is a &!@*^%#!
Lately, I started gently complaining about how he never got rid of his amazon boxes after he ordered something. That seemed like an easy thing for him to change, right? I thought asking him to do that wouldn't make me a shrew. Sooooo.... he DID start removing them from our living room, which seemed like progress. But instead of folding them up and putting them in the recycling, he started carrying the boxes, still whole and full of packing material, down into the basement and piling them up in the basement. That's more work than just getting rid of them!!! I don't even understand.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
my oh oh so dear hubby has been promising to clean out the office upstairs to start transition to our bedroom to make room for another nursery 4 weeks ago. I know there is lots of time but really I won’t be able to help him move all ththe furniture up there is he doesn’t get it don asap! Then I’ll hear him complain that it’s soooooo much work for one person *insert eye role*
I'm on pelvic rest so NO.
Edited to add: Now he's sexting me.
Baby girl #1 7/11/13
Baby girl #2 4/30/15
Baby Boy Due 2/16/19!
Also, why can't you make me dinner ever?? You can cook meat, therefore you can cook vegetarian meals too.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
can we talk about video games? computer games, whatever. Effing WOW, I would like to set fire to his overpriced computer and make him sit there and watch it burn. Id also like his stupid best friend with an effed up marriage to just go away. I don't wish him harm because I like his wife, but my god I cant stand that kid (i say kid because he does nothing to qualify himself as a man)
also, Im allowed to be moody. IM PREGNANT! the more you call me moody or try and tell me not to be moody the more moody I will be.
Take the kid to some fancy bakery out of state and bring me back some pastries and leave me alone for several hours on end.
p.s. I really love my husband and he is a good guy, i just don't like him this moment.
P.P.s excuse my horrible punctuation and such, the flames that are shooting out my fingertips as i type make being neat and nice impossible.
MMC 2.12.11 @ 8w
PVM 5.8.12
GWM 3.17.15
RPM 2.21.19
I almost killed him for night farting last night. Almost.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
He snores sometimes but but I feel bad because my pregnancy snoring has already started and I’m sure it’s worse than his sometimes snoring
We did however have our 80lb dog and knew kids were coming. What did he get?!? A 2 door mini cooper.
So now I remind him on a regular basis as he climbs into the trunk to load our daughter, that my one requirement for the car was that it worked with car seats and our dog!! So when he complains about the car, it's all over.
I have also told him that as soon as we find a house to buy, his car is being replaced by the car I want, which is a 3 row SUV. B/C we will have 2 adults, 2 kids and an 88lb dog!! Not to mention all their shit!
1 infant loss
8/17: Our daughter was born
8/18: Our daughter kicked open heart surgery ass
2/19: We lost our son to Prader-Willi/Paradoxical Vocal Cord/ Noonans at 6wks old
4/26/2020: EDD for baby #3!!!
He may have fallen asleep too. :<
Back when we had one, DH was watching DD while I worked in the other room. He fell asleep, she stripped nude, covered herself in Vaseline and peed and pooped everywhere. It was a nightmare.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
FWIW, I figure that life is long, and occasional junk food, alcohol, etc is what makes the journey enjoyable.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
@grebretso - DH only surface cleans. If I don’t clean after he cleans, nothing is really clean. So basically our house is a hot fucking mess right now. He’s also incapable of cleaning while taking care of the kids. He can only do one or the other. Meanwhile, I can clean, cook, work, take care of the kids all at the same time. Men.
BFP 6.8.2018 EDD 02.18.2019
He does cook, but when he does he never wipes down the counter afterwards, so it’ll be full of crusty splatters. Also everything he cooks comes out of a can, jar and/or the freezer. If I want healthy food made from scratch I’ll have to do it myself. Lately he’s been doing most of the cooking so I’m sustaining myself on chili tater tots and bean dip.
DD born 4/1/2023
Baby #3 EDD 11/21/2024
And that's just two adults. All y'all with kids are superheroes in my book. If I had a child right now while pregnant, I think my apartment would look like something you'd see on Hoarders.
DH can’t stand seeing me take a nap while he cares for DD. DD shortly pooped herself (again) and DH found it necessary to wake me, even though he is capable of taking care of it himself. All I did was say something incoherent and lay down again. When she drew on the carpet, again it was necessary to wake me up. Can I just take an uninterrupted nap in peace??? That is my biggest gripe with him right now.
He has the worst sleep apnea but we can't afford all the sleep studies to get him a CPAP so he keeps the entire house up at night snoring and then complains in the morning to the pregnant lady who worked all night that he's tired. -_-