Bitchfiesta week of 8/13

Katzalia · August 2018

Bring on the BF.

erose625 · August 2018

Someone at work already managed to piss me off this morning so now I'm boycotting work and online clothes shopping for 3 events I have coming up. That has made me more mad because I don't like any maternity plus size options. I need a formal dress for a wedding, a dressier white top for a vow renewal (they are doing a white tops/denim theme like they did for their wedding 10 years ago which was actually really fun but not a lot of white maternity tops out there it seems besides tees), and a dressy business appropriate dress for my company's centennial gala. I've gotten way too comfortable in leggings this pregnancy and dressing up seems like a chore

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

My BF is that the weekends go by much too quickly. I wanna be home playing with DS!

kirstey728 · August 2018

BF is I have absolutely ZERO energy. I went to Target yesterday with my family and when I got home I was exhausted. I really have to pace myself or I get wiped out quickly.

echo-charlietango · August 2018

@lippy625 Any luck on RentTheRunway? They’re my fancy-dress go-to, but I haven’t looked at their maternity options. Good luck searching!

clbness · August 2018

My BF is all things travel related right now. Our travel to MN on Thursday was long, but went very smooth. DD was very clingy and moody all weekend and only wanted to be held, which was exhausting because the lake property we stayed at was hilly and involved a lot of walking. She fussed all weekend because bugs were flying around her face and did not want anyone other than me or MH talking to/holding/touching her. And MH had groomsman duties al weekend, so it was me that did all the lugging in the hot, humid climate. She did NOT walk down the aisle, but that’s ok...she looked cute in her flower girl getup and ended up dancing her butt off at the reception!
Travel yesterday (and today) is the icing on the shit cake though. Saturday afternoon, MH ran up to the cabin and said, I forgot to check us in, here’s the itinerary and left me to figure it out. I try to get online and while he thought he booked United on our flight home, he actually booked Sun Country...who we’ve never heard of. It wouldn’t let me check in online, so we got up at 4:30, drove the 3 hours from the lake to the airport and got there in time to find out at the counter that our flight had been cancelled. We got an email 11 minutes after our flight was supposed to take off informing us our flight was cancelled. Umm, thanks?! We looked for other flights later in the day, but all to Denver were sold out. Flights the next day would have cost us $1200, so we rented a car and started driving. Made it to our friends house in Kearney, NE (one of our groomsmen, his wife and daughter) last night and driving the rest of the way right now. I was so ready to be home yesterday by noon and my poor toddler is tired of her car seat. I’m going to take her swimming later and get frozen yogurt later for being a trooper. Sorry for the long ass rant, y’all!

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

@clbness That is terrible! They're refunding your money for the canceled flight, right?! I don't get how airlines can just cancel flights like that last minute. That happened to my mom a couple weeks ago too!

Katzalia · August 2018

@clbness that sounds hellish. Glad you made it back, but I think you need another vacation to recover!

clbness · August 2018

@AdorkablePixie Yes, we just got off the phone with Expedia and we’re getting about $350 back. So, with our $800 (plus food and fuel) one-way car rental, we technically “only” spent an extra $500 to get home. It sucks balls. My guess is that they didn’t have enough passengers checked in to make the flight worth it to them. Fuckers.

LLynde5 · August 2018

@clbness I would have sat there and cried. Sounds like you are making the best of a bad situation.

erose625 · August 2018

@echo-charlietango Thank you! I did look at RTR, I've used them a lot for wedding outfits (we had 7 weddings last summer) but their maternity plus options seem very limited. I think I am going to try and order a regular dress a size or two bigger and get it altered if need be, so many more options than maternity.

clbness · August 2018

Also, @AdorkablePixie, I’m sorry that happened to your Mom...grrr!
@Katzalia I agree...another vacation would be heavenly! But maybe a lake in CO...I don’t want to fly anywhere!
@LLynde5 My husband was mad enough for the both of us...I had to keep a happy attitude for DD.

@lippy625 The dress I wore to the wedding this weekend was cute and so comfy. I got it from Motherhood Maternity. I just hopped on their website and couldn’t find it, so it must be discontinued. So, I’m no help here. I hope you find something you like!

hkom · August 2018

@clbness Travel issues are my personal nightmare especially when they stem from general incompetence, which it sounds like yours did with the airline. I would have been so furious in that situation.

katy0990 · August 2018

@clbness I’m sorry. That sounds awful!

LLynde5 · August 2018

Why do little girls love the brightest, sparklest, cheapest crap?! My DD’s wardrobe is pretty basic so DH can dress her without her looking homeless. Most outfits are hung together so he can’t really mess it up but then other people buy your kid items like glitter cover Walmart crap and I can’t throw it out because it was a nice gesture and it all my DD wants to wear. I tell my DH they are play clothes but if she whines enough he will let her leave the house in it. Same with her trolls blanket, She has land of nod bedding but insists that the poppy blanket is for bed time. She un makes her bed and remakes it the way she likes it. I don’t fight her on it but why, just WHY!!!

Katzalia · August 2018

So it’s Monday. It has been super busy and nothing has been easy. Hospice patient unsafe to go home and in tears. Violent patient yelling at me for a prolonged period, and zero nursing backup came, nor did the supposedly present police escort. Colleague who is quitting as of the end of the has been doing pretty much zero work the past 2 weeks. I’m not thrilled at the vacancies but she hasn’t been much help when she’s here. Now apparently she may have been offered another position so we might be stuck with her again. If this keeps up I am going to be seriously burnt out.

Activebaby · August 2018

I have more work than I can complete. I’m overwhelmed, and I need to tell my bosses this. Instead I don’t. I won’t get into a job that I can’t have a work life balance again. I’m overwhelmed about planning for maternity leave too. However I left work (at another campus) at 4 and it wouldn’t make sense to go back into work, so I went home and went for a run. My attitude is so much but better than it was at least.

Katzalia · August 2018

@Activebaby good for you taking care of yourself and choosing a run over going back to work to run yourself into exhaustion with too much work. Yay for good boundaries and a good run! I should be thinking about this too because I am getting overwhelmed with my workload more than doubling.

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

@Llynde5 I put some of DS's clothes that come in sets together so DH will dress him in that outfit together. He still mixes them up!! He puts DS in this dinosaur shirt and always puts him in the wrong shorts!! I keep telling him the correct shorts are right with the shirt and he still does it wrong.

@Activebaby Running/working out always makes me feel better! Sorry you're overwhelmed.

maureenmce · August 2018

So, because I'm an idiot and wore too tight pants yesterday, I had horrible, horrible reflux and (again, because I am an idiot) I decided to skip dinner last night because I literally could not stomach anything with the reflux. So then this morning on my way to work I got super lightheaded, had to stop immediately for food and nearly passed out in a McDonald's. I was also up in the middle of the night with my DD last night so between that exhaustion and the lightheadedness earlier, I wish I could just go home and crawl in bed. At least the food helped and I am starting to feel normal again. Note to self - do not skip dinner while pregnant. Or if I have to, don't forget to eat breakfast *immediately* upon waking.

omnommer · August 2018

So not a huge issue but I'm a bit annoyed. I love my midwife practice in general, but the one midwife I've seen the past two visits is a little bit too cautious/restrictive in my opinion. Last visit, she asked about my exercise and I told her that I was doing home workout videos and had been doing them for years. A mix of strength training, cardio and yoga. And that I was modifying based on what I've researched I need to modify such as no twisting, no laying on my back, keeping my heart rate under 140 beats per minute, etc. She told me to stop doing workout videos all together because "she couldn't watch every single one to see if they were safe." Instead, she told me to walk more and do a nice, pregnancy class (aka more $$$) to make sure I'm doing moves that are safe.

This visit (yesterday), I told her I had started a once a week class and was doing "strength training and cardio at home" while modifying (note, I didn't say workout videos lol). Again the modifications were like no twisting, no laying on my back, watching the heart rate, lowering the weights I use. THEN she told me that I don't need to be using weights at all while pregnant. I was like, what?! Are you serious. I'm used to doing squats with 15-20 pounds at a time in each hand! Yeah, I've gone down to 10 in each hand since I've gained like 14 pounds so far, so it evens out... but if I did no weights then I wouldn't be getting the same kind of workout I'm used to. Everything I've read and heard from other medical practitioners is that as long as you modify appropriately and were doing this type of workout prior to pregnancy, it's safe to continue as long as you are low-risk and don't have negative affects during or after exercise. My nutritionist (who also has a degree in sports science or something like that) lifted her entire pregnancy (modifying as needed) and has a perfectly healthy baby now.

Anyways, then the kicker was that we talked about air travel and the midwife said she doesn't recommend anyone travel after 28 weeks because if you go into pre-term labor you'll be stuck wherever you are until the baby is released to go home. I was like... wait, what? So for someone with a perfectly healthy pregnancy, I can't take a 2-hour flight at 31 weeks? Then she said, well you can, but the risks are higher and I wouldn't do it if I were you. Of course, if I develop a risk factor then I won't be traveling... but that seems a bit extreme to me.

Either way... I'm just venting. She's moving out of the country in a month and will no longer be a part of that midwife practice. All the other midwives I've met have not been as cautious/restrictive as her, and I get a really good feeling about the practice overall.

hkom · August 2018

I really wish that presidents and vice presidents would either just completely stay the eff away from everyone else's cities, or at least choose speaking locations that can be directly accessed by helicopter. Pencie is in Cincinnati today and this is the current traffic situation on the interstates:

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Probably 15-20 miles of interstate, including I-75, one of the busiest interstates in the country, just completely shut down for hours. I don't have to deal with this at all and I am still SEETHING.

maureenmce · August 2018

@omnommer Wow, that is incredibly restrictive, especially with the exercise! That's crazy. My doctor hasn't even asked details of what my exercise routine is (walking and at home strength training with 8 pound weights.) I feel like most OBs and midwives are just thrilled if you're exercising regularly and nothing crazy risky. Glad she'll be gone soon and you like the rest of the practice!

LLynde5 · August 2018

@omnommer so my pregnancy is high risk and I just got off pelvic rest and was told to immediately go back to exercise and not to lift more than 25! Mine is also a midwife and suggested doing spinning babies exercises in addition too.

binxybaby · August 2018

@omnommer I've always heard that if you did something before pregnancy, you can do it during pregnancy. You are taking the right precautions. She's just a worrywart.

omnommer · August 2018

@maureenmce Yeah, from what I understand, it's all beneficial as long as you aren't experiencing negative affects from it like cramping, dizziness, etc!

@LLynde5 Interesting how different practitioners think so differently! The other midwives in the practice seem much more normal with regards to this, haha. That's awesome that your midwife suggested you immediately start exercising and not to lift more than 25. 20-25 has kind of been my "limit" even though I never defined it during pregnancy thus far! It just didn't feel good to go past that. I'm sure you soooo happy to be done with pelvic rest and are able to get back to exercise.

katy0990 · August 2018

@maureenmce I am sorry you’re feeling so crappy! That had to be especially scary to be away from home!
@omnommer Wow! Once my spotting stopped and my lifting restrictions were gone, my OB encourage me to exercise at the same pace I was doing before I got pregnant. I have never heard of such a restrictive practitioner. I’m glad she will be gone soon!

texas_t · August 2018

@lippy625 Pink Blush has a ton of cute plus size maternity dresses and tops!!!!

AdorkablePixie · August 2018

@omnommer She sounds like a crazy. That workout doesn't sound like much compared to what I do and I haven't been told to slow down or stop anything. She is being WAY over cautious if you haven't been having any issues and aren't at risk. That would drive me crazy. At least you won't have to deal with her soon.

Also, I'd fly still!!

gorgeousariel · August 2018

@omnommer my friend did CrossFit all the way through her pregnancy. I believe as long as you did it pre- PG it's fine to do now. Glad that midwife is leaving.

omnommer · August 2018

Thanks for all the replies ladies! (re: workouts) I plan on continuing what I'm doing and ignoring her. (Though I've paused working out with all this terrible smoke in the Northwest from the fires - my lungs are definitely feeling that!)

@AdorkablePixie I definitely plan on flying still! It's just a 2-ish hour flight and I'll get to go to my husband's awesome conference/after parties and see my sister. Definitely seems worth it at 31 weeks. We aren't buying tickets until about 3-weeks out though, just in case things change. My mom did have pre-eclampsia with me, so I have a slightly heightened risk factor for that, though still very unlikely. So, in end of September I'll buy my flight.

PensiveCrayon · August 2018

Having a very #fwp and feeling bitchy about it: one of my AirPods just randomly stopped working. I use my AirPods a million times a day. They are life. I contacted Apple support and the guy on the chat was like, "I can't tell you what the problem is lol sry. Go take 'em into an Apple store." But like...where am I gonna find and Apple store in Butt Nowhere, AL?

Which means I'll have to live with one-ear audio until I can make it to a big city. Whenever that happens.

echo-charlietango · August 2018

@PensiveCrayon Ugh, I know that feel. I’ve thought about buying back up pods just in case. I would keep calling support until you get a rep who understands that Apple Stores aren’t always an option.

ab_canada · August 2018

@PensiveCrayon
This is why I am an Android customer.. Would any other bluetooth headphones work? You can hopefully find a cheap pair in Butt Nowhere

PensiveCrayon · August 2018

@ab_canada No, because I am DEVOTED to these stupid things

One-ear listening is fine, I'm just being whiny. But maybe I will try calling for a different support person @echo-charlietango.

ab_canada · August 2018

@PensiveCrayon
Well, then that's a First World Problem indeed!

echo-charlietango · August 2018

@PensiveCrayon OR you can be shady (not like I’ve ever done this...ahem). Buy another pair outright from somewhere local, then swap out the bad AirPod. Return the AirPods to retailer, letting them know that one was defective and you don’t want to exchange.

coybig · August 2018

let me add to the FWP fun. I have a desktop computer in the basement downstairs that no longer has a working keyboard. I thought it was a driver issue, so played with that for 30 min, then did a system restore to the last update, still nothing. plugged in to my laptop to test, but got the blue screen of death because my laptop is ancient in computer terms and nothing is compatible anymore. when it finally rebooted, turns out the keyboard for the desktop isn't recognized by the laptop either- so keyboard is broken. To top it all off, Charter upgraded our internet to 200Mbps and sent us a new modem. However, my router is 7 years old (and technology of it older) and cannot handle the new speeds. So new router and keyboard today I guess. F U technology.

rosebud332 · August 2018

@echo-charlietango

orangecrush29 · August 2018

@omnommer that would be super annoying to me too! I had a similar high risk doctor my last pregnancy who told me to “take up crocheting” and s bunch of other crap because his nurse took an inaccurate measurement of my cervix so they thought it had shortened. He was this super old grumpy dude and I’m so happy I don’t have to see him this time! Maybe it’s just because this is my 4th kid and I feel pretty in tune with my body but I’m keeping my workouts to myself and thankfully, my OB hasn’t asked! I feel great and have had no issues keeping up with CrossFit/swimming/ so I’m just gonna keep to myself!

@PensiveCrayon that’s so frustrating! I haven’t gotten AirPods yet but my hubby has some and is obsessed and would be so sad if one was busted!!

@hkom Omg that traffic looks like my worst nightmare!! So glad you didn’t have to be out in that!

@coybig it’s so frustrating when it’s one thing after another with technology!! We’ve had a ton of issues with our internet lately and all of the rebooting and troubleshooting is such a giant headache. Hopefully the new router and keyboard solve your issues!

As for me, I’ve got a few complaints!! My main one is this: my two older boys flew to Chicago unaccompanied today to visit their dad before school starts back up. They’re 10&9 and I was a nervous wreck even though it was an easy direct flight. Well, their super stellar dad showed up to pick them up 40 minutes late!!! OMG I was and still am fuming. Thank goodness the airline had a flight attendant stay with them but I’m just so mad that he’s so irresponsible and stupid.

My other minor issues are: my hubby is gone for 2 weeks and I can’t keep up with my crazy 2 year old. Also, my Apple Watch has a small crack in it out of nowhere and it’s usually fine but sometimes it’ll freeze up and I can’t click on anything in that corner and it’s annoying.

katy0990 · August 2018

@orangecrush32 Wow! 40 minutes late! I’d be so furious! I’m so sorry that you and your kids have to deal with that.

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