Now that July is coming to an end and many of us have had our babies (and TB is horribly glitchy), we are talking about making the move over to Facebook if/when everyone is comfortable.
My last BMB invited people via pm and since I only use the app I didn’t see the invite until like months and months later. That was also on TCF though too so maybe that had something to do with it... regardless I missed out with my last group and I don’t want to again!
@acunamatada I’m not familiar with how June did it. I guess I can go back and stalk to see, but basically I don’t care too much how it’s done, I just want to make sure we are only having people we recognize and not random lurkers or people who never participate, just to protect safety and all that.
@acunamatada I’m not familiar with how June did it. I guess I can go back and stalk to see, but basically I don’t care too much how it’s done, I just want to make sure we are only having people we recognize and not random lurkers or people who never participate, just to protect safety and all that.
Agree. Maybe even migrate over in a one or two week window to control who comes...so a month later people unknown don’t try and make way over. And it keeps dialogue fluid if all done at once.
I'm ready! And yes, the more controlled the better...I guess whoever sets it up can receive DMs here on the bump with the names to add to group? Then they can send the group invite via Facebook messenger?
@acunamatada I’m not familiar with how June did it. I guess I can go back and stalk to see, but basically I don’t care too much how it’s done, I just want to make sure we are only having people we recognize and not random lurkers or people who never participate, just to protect safety and all that.
I dont remember the specifics, just that they were very selective in weeding out the randoms and lurkers.
I know I was super late to get involved in the board, and could be better about contributing regularly, but would definitely like to come along if there’s a move.
Ooh. I know some fb groups I’m in have like a questionnaire thing that you have to answer before you can join. Maybe have one of those so that we can give our username from the bump and make sure only the people we recognize are joining
+1 to @hillbillywife idea. I haven't participated in weeks because I don't have regular access to a computer while I am out of work and the mobile app is the worstttt. Let's move soon!!!
I definitely think there should be more than 1 person making the call. If I remember correctly from June I think they had a few people move over that were definite regulars and then had a group vote or people vouch for others as they requested to join (I don't remember exactly).
Me: 31 DH: 34 Married: April 2016 TTC December 2016 BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17 MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017 BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18 TTC January 2019 BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
My last BMB was a bit different because we retreated to a private board on TB mid pregnancy because of some drama and ban hammer issues but when we did make the move to FB we all had to post a “tribute” picture that was us, with a visible bump/baby, holding a sign with our handwritten Bump name and a spoon (for randomness to keep people from finding a random pic and altering it).
Once the “core” group was admitted, we started voting on whether we thought someone participated enough to be admitted to the FB group too.
@comealongponds where did you post the photo? On the bump? I’m just not too crazy about showing my face on here. I have a couple times but generally prefer to crop it out.
I haven't been participating (or even lurking) much bc the threads get so long and I'm so limited on time with two little humans to care for. I'd vote moving to FB too or we risk losing more people as babies are born and we all get too busy to navigate TB app.
@comealongponds the photo is interesting. I like any ideas that help with security.
I hardly use FB and don't even have a photo of me on there, but would definitely join if the group makes the move. I'm tired of issues with TB and I'm really missing you all, I haven't been on much because it's too hard to get on my laptop currently and the mobile app sucks.
I was just thinking of when this convo would come up again! - I agree with all the safety measures people have suggested above including the funky picture request.
Yeah I was not as active on TB as I was last time because I just couldn't keep up with the long threads, and now I can barely type due to the lag on the mobile app, so usually I just give up halfway through my response.
Love the idea of extra security measures and the photo that @comealongponds suggested. Sad we even have to think about these things but I’m glad we are taking precautions early on
+1 to @hillbillywife suggestion. Also, with having multiple admins.
@comealongponds that photo idea, especially with holding a spoon, made a me laugh. I'm down to wear a colander or something on my head to prove it's me!
I’m fine to move whenever but voted for 8/8 just because I felt like the end of the month due dates should have their chance to post their announcements and birth stories before everyone leaves. Although I guess I should have voted for later than 8/8 as some could go to 42 weeks.
I agree with having 2-3 admins and then doing whatever security measures to join.
Married 9/19/09 Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
TTC#1 starting Nov. 2009 3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12 TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts. TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
I don’t have a colander (long story) but I’ll gladly put a pot or small strainer on my head.. But only if it means I don’t have to get on this stupid app again lol
I'm ok moving. We can do a private or secret group and the secret password or photo is cool, i just want to fair warn everyone that i won't be doing individual friend requests along with the group; I'm also backing away from fb in general due to drama and purging my list. Whole bunch of people from my EDS support group keep friending me and i feel like a bitch for annoying/declining but trying to keep personal circle small as fb drama grows.
I agree with the multiple admins. Many of the groups I'm in have rules about no personal attacks, no sharing anything personal that's posted outside of the groups, etc.
I might be okay with someone joining later that wasn't super active here if she agreed to and abided by those policies.
From previous experience, a rule of no talking about what happens in the group outside of the group and no contacting any other members friends/family members. You wouldn’t think it should need to be said, but apparently it does
Are there any regulars with a potential induction date later than 8/9? That's what my goal one would be, so I voted for 8/8 because I thought I'd be the last possible birth at 42 weeks and a due date of 7/26 (today!!). I didn't want to make everyone wait for me and I think the other mentioned late induction date was on 8/8?
Definitely like the FB idea. I never get Bump notifications and forget to check it and get behind. I think a questionnaire to weed out those not in this group is a great idea. I'm having little peanut tomorrow so idk how active I'll be in the coming days, but definitely want to be included in the move.
@smashjam I think I remember one regular besides you with an induction date around then but blanking on who it is. I am totally fine with waiting til after the later births if that’s what the end of monthers want.
Re: The Great Facebook Debate
I like how June did it, but if anyone has other thoughts let’s hear it!
I dont remember the specifics, just that they were very selective in weeding out the randoms and lurkers.
TTC December 2016
BFP 2/28/17 // CP 3/1/17
MFI Diagnosis: Aug 2017
BFP 11/1/17 // DS born 6/18
TTC January 2019
BFP 3/21/19 // D&C (MMC) 5/8/19
Once the “core” group was admitted, we started voting on whether we thought someone participated enough to be admitted to the FB group too.
ETA I think having at least two administrators is a good idea
@comealongponds the photo is interesting. I like any ideas that help with security.
I hardly use FB and don't even have a photo of me on there, but would definitely join if the group makes the move. I'm tired of issues with TB and I'm really missing you all, I haven't been on much because it's too hard to get on my laptop currently and the mobile app sucks.
@comealongponds that photo idea, especially with holding a spoon, made a me laugh. I'm down to wear a colander or something on my head to prove it's me!
Let's doooooo it!!
I agree with having 2-3 admins and then doing whatever security measures to join.
Me (32) Dx PCOS, DH (32) SA = Normal/mild morph issues
TTC#5 July 2017 - 3rd cycle TTC = BFP on 11/12/17 at 9dpo Beta #1 = 96 at 13dpo - Beta #2 = 207 at 15dpo
3 rounds of Clomid + TI and 3 rounds of 7.5 mg Femara + IUI before our BFP on 11/8/10 at 12dpiui
TTC #2 3rd cycle of Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 4 follies = BFP on 10/12/12
TTC#3 July 2014 - Metformin +TI = BFP at 9dpo - Twins, one baby lost at 5.5 weeks
Macy Annabelle born at 37w4d on 4/29/15. Diagnosed with Cri du Chat and passed away on 6/6/15. Forever in our hearts.
TTC#4 3rd cycle of Metformin + Femara 7.5mg+Ovidrel+TI = 3 follies = BFP on 12/24/16
Kylie M.
Baby #1 Born 12.16.2015
Baby #2 Due 7.13.2018
I might be okay with someone joining later that wasn't super active here if she agreed to and abided by those policies.
As I tried to respond to this, the app crashed.
I think a questionnaire to weed out those not in this group is a great idea.
I'm having little peanut tomorrow so idk how active I'll be in the coming days, but definitely want to be included in the move.
I also dont don’t plan on friend requesting any of you unless necessary. At least at first.