I have thr same feelings and concerns with DH but it's also never been just us.. we've always lived with either set of parents and a sibling so we've never had the "on our own" experience and now we wont until the babies are grown up and gone! But we did do a lot of traveling and random adventures that I worry will come to a hault. But I'm also so excited to start new adventures with the baby bears and do stuff we wouldn't do without kids. Trying to focus on the pros (:
Honestly- I’m already planning road trips with Tiny Human. I’m not going to take xem to Disney until xe is old enough to participate and hopefully remember, but that doesn’t mean we can’t do smaller trips (and frankly, trips more in line with what I enjoy than catered to a kid’s entertainment.)
@kiwiw2628 I can't relate since H came with E, but I image I would've had a total breakdown before our first if we had ever had time just the two of us. Life is about to totally change, it's totally understandable to freak or get sad about some of those changes.
Thanks everyone! I know its normal, and I know change will be different, and CLEARLY we made super active decisions to get to this point (lol), its just now thats its basically here I am like 'oh shit oh shit oh shit'
@bntfroggie I’m with ya. H and I did Disneyland last winter and we left the kids with their grandparents. We told them we were “visiting some old friends in Anaheim”
I feel the same way sometimes and then other days I'm like we have done so much as a couple and I'm totally ready to share our life and raise another human! We have been together 11 years come September. As much as we both love our no responsibility lives and freedom to travel, do and purchase what we want, I also have this deep desire to put down roots and give my love to someone else. Plus with us not having a close extended family we want to have our own family. Are we prepared for the HUGE change a baby will bring? Likely not but we will adapt and adjust. I think it wouldn't be normal not to be fearful or sad
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@DunkinDecaf I feel like Mickey is definitely an old friend. That story is amazing! If we were anywhere near Disneyland or World, you would totally find me playing hookie from work and running off to have fun at Disney.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
In other news- I have found Blast’s first Halloween outfit. Just going to put it over whatever xe is wearing and go... (Well, not exactly “go”- more like answer the door for the 10 or so trick-or-treaters in my neighborhood with a dinosaur strapped to my chest...)
I get a panicky feeling, like WHAT IN THE WORLD WERE WE THINKING WE COULD HANDLE KID NUMBER 4?!?! I know we can and will and it will definitely take a village, and be crazy and amazing all at the same time. With each one, it's been so different but awesome. Probably especially with the first. These lil babies come and turn our lives upside-down, but we wouldn't have it any other way and it's amazing! Different, but amazing.
Speaking of Halloween costumes. DF wants to do a Where the Wild Things Are theme (it was the first book he ever bought or read for ODD) and he already has a Max costume for himself and he wants ODD and the baby to both be monsters. If anyone happens to stumble across a costume that would be suitable for a newborn, please let me know! I've been looking and have so far only found 1 costume on etsy that would cost a fortune.
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@coffee-saur if it's any consolation everyone who I've talked to who went 3+ said that each kid is a very easy transition. Apparently once you get past 3 it's just adding another to the clan.
BFP 2/11/15 (EDD 10/13/15). MMC 3/30/15 D&C 4/3/15 "We will always love you"
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
@bntfroggie we are doing Disney World in January. Totally for me, not baby. I worked there for 7 years though, so it will be fun to have her meet some of my close friends who are still there and old cast members!
Ladybug - April 2013 Dandelion - October 2018 Angel "Aurora" - July 2020 Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021 Angel "Maxine" - January 2022 Angel "Violet" - March 2022 Baby Dove due March 2023
@mamabearcj yes we need that thread! I usually buy my kids’ Halloween costumes at the end of August/ beginning of September before everything is picked over!
@nasalot188 I'm feeling the same way with DS. Granted he has 3 older siblings from SO previous marriage, but they are grown and haven't lived with us since before DS was born. So essentially he is and it's a lot harder for me than I thought it would be.
On one hand I'm so excited to see him be a big brother but on the other he is growing up so fast and I feel kinda guilty because I feel in a way I'm rushing it having another baby.
DH found a interesting series on Netflix called beginning of life. It's all about babies first couple years. Very science based and factual. Has subtitles for some of it. Check it out
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
@chyvie aaaaand now I am watching that. I need to figure out how to early on set this kid up to make a bunch money in his life because a bunch of ours went into IVF for this kid, so now he is my retirement ticket, so he needs to make bank (kidding...kind of...)
@mamabearcj I was starting to type up your name in the other thread and my iPhone totally auto filled your screen name. I think that means i Bump too much!!
@chyvie I think DH and I watched the first 2 episodes of that and thought it was interesting! But...I thought the later episodes got a little too "documentary" for me and focused heavily on infant development and pregnancy in 3rd world countries, and it just made me feel weird how they were filming this in really terrible living conditions and how mothers had almost nothing. Definitely made me thankful for what I have, but kinda became a little depressing to watch after that.
@jemmerjams we are on episode 2 .I'll let you know what I think when I get there. I know I enjoy seeing other perspectives around the world as we have traveled to a lot of the countries and seen some of it first hand but never really got to talk to many of the people experiencing it. If that makes sense?
Me 33 DH 41 TTC since 2016 Due: October 12, 2018 Location: Ontario, Canada
So this super random and I try to be open minded about names, but I just read a crime report article about a big drug bust and one of the people arrested was named...Bdonshee...
Re: Randoms 7/5
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
also I will definitely get a chicken bake
Sadly, pregnancy means no roller coasters this summer.
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I'm getting the fox one because my pup is called a Red Fox Lab so I'm thinking it would be cute.
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TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD 3/15/12
DD 6/3/14
#4 Due 10/26/18!
Speaking of Halloween costumes. DF wants to do a Where the Wild Things Are theme (it was the first book he ever bought or read for ODD) and he already has a Max costume for himself and he wants ODD and the baby to both be monsters. If anyone happens to stumble across a costume that would be suitable for a newborn, please let me know! I've been looking and have so far only found 1 costume on etsy that would cost a fortune.
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
https://www.amazon.com/Underwraps-Costumes-Pumpkin-Bunting-Costume/dp/B003MS5QUQ
I can't even!!!!!
Dandelion - October 2018
Angel "Aurora" - July 2020
Angel "Sawyer" - May 2021
Angel "Maxine" - January 2022
Angel "Violet" - March 2022
Baby Dove due March 2023
On one hand I'm so excited to see him be a big brother but on the other he is growing up so fast and I feel kinda guilty because I feel in a way I'm rushing it having another baby.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
report article about a big drug bust and one of the people arrested was named...Bdonshee...