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October 2018 Moms
cdepperschmidt
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I was...wrong...
cdepperschmidt
member
Prior to baby #1 there were a lot of things I thought I was going to do or not do. Needless to say, I WAS WRONG lol. I thought it might be fun for STM+ to share someone things they thought they would definitely do, but didn’t work out.
Re: I was...wrong...
When DS was tiny it was fine. I wore him a lot while I was on maternity leave. But when I went back to work I only wore him once or twice a week and he was 25lbs by 6months. My body could not keep up front carrying and I never felt confident back carrying alone. By the time he was 11 months I pretty much stopped wearing. I also learned that I did not have the patience for wrapping. I’ll definitely wear agian this time, but I am also fully embracing the stroller!
BFP #2: due 6/30/2017, MMC found 12/7/2016
BFP #3: due 10/21/2018
Some of the things I read that failed miserably
”just feed her on the take off and landing”
”lots of snacks”
”new toys/books”
”fly during nap/sleeping hours”
30 minutes max of tv a day. Not sustainable at all.
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I know it...
......
- I would make all my babies food. I made most of DS1's food but I just mushed whatever veggie we ate for dinner and fed it to DS2.
-I won't be one of those parents that hands their kid an iphone/tablet in public to keep them quiet
ETA:
-I said we would never cosleep but DS1 slept in our bed from 2.5-7 months.
I said we would never use a paci too, but about a month in I was like I am not a human paci and by then he wouldn’t take one. This baby is getting a paci!
I said I would never raise my voice at my kid....ha!
I promised myself I would discipline well - turns out I suck at it.
I wanted my kid potty trained by 2...that's not happening.
I didn't want to formula feed - he had a bottle day 1 in hospital
a few things I have surprisingly STUCK to:
- DS was never brought in bed with us for more than an hour in the early mornings (no judgement at all for those that do, I just knew I couldn't do it.)
- I was so terrified of SIDS - my child always slept on his back until he was able to roll over. I tried him on his stomach for a nap once and lasted about 2 minutes. I was terrified.
- I wanted to sleep train at 5 months and we actually stuck to that and never looked back. Best thing we ever did.
I honestly don’t know what I am going to do this time around. We no longer have a guest bed.
Also, +1 for phone/screen time. Mama needs peace.
TTC since 2016
Due: October 12, 2018
Location: Ontario, Canada
DD1 - BFP 7/23/15 (EDD 3/31/16). "We believe in you rainbow" DOB 4/2/16
DD2 - BFP 2/9/18 (EDD 10/19/18). "Grow baby grow!" DOB 10/24/18
BFP 11/16/20 (EDD 7/31/21). "Round 3 FIGHT!"
I mostly stuck with stuff, but I was pretty loose on it too begin with. I did make his food, but it's really like 2-3 months before he just wanted the food. Not too hard. Didn't care about the paci but he adamantly refused.
I've loosened on the screen time but he still gets little. And only pictures/videos of himself on the phone - that was MILs doing regardless of my wishes. He'll do about 5 min of a nature/animal documentary before he doesn't care, but his exposure to TV at all was also MIL.
set on doing it, but DS was a really solid sleeper and so by the time he would wake up, his bum would be covered in diaper rash from
sitting against the moisture from the diaper for so long. I know we could have bought other cloth diapers that somewhat minimized the wet feeling, but I didn’t really feel like buying a whole new stash at that point, so we just switched to a more natural brand disposable. Once we made the switch, his diaper rash almost immediately went away, so we were happy that we gave up on them in the end.
formula!! I vowed Never to use the F (formula) word in my house and after having my first I had inverted nipples, cracked and bleeding and mastitis and thrush he wasn’t gaining any weight so I start supplementing and wouldn’t have if pediatrician didn’t suggest it but we were all the happier for it! Happily I did breastfeed DS2&3 for 8& 6 months and then when they got interested in looking around I gave it up, i’ll see what I can do for this one!
+1 baby food!! I insisted I would only make my own! I did make all my own for DS1 but DS2 got whatever was on my plate most the time and some jarred food too! And don’t even get me started on my third! He never got one single jar of food only ever food from a plate! I might try and make this baby food once again we’ll see how it goes!
And yes for screen time! Again I did pretty good with my first! He didn’t watch much of anything until I had my second son and my first was 18 months! We got into morning routine of just sitting around while I nursed or slept watching cartoons! I don’t feel bad though, we are for the most part a huge outdoor family so a few mornings when the nights were rough of watching some shows I think so far all of them have turned ok! it’s called sanity! But once baby was able to sleep more we def turned those jams off and did some constructive fun time! But we rarely do tablets if ever we only have one and the boys use it maybe once a month? They are big LEGO fans so they do that pretty much all day every day!
cant think of too many more but umm sure there are a lot
I planned a lot of stuff that either never happened or rarely happens!
He does get a ton of outdoor time and weekly trips to the zoo and playground and he spends the whole day at preschool doing arts and crafts and such so I don't feel guilty about a couple hours of tv in the evening when I'm dead tired after work.
I also thought I'd never bed share and he still ends up in our bed every night. But I love cuddling him!
Little/No screen time - DS had an iPad of his own at 1 year. Hahahahaha!!!
Potty trained by 18 months - just lol. More like 2 1/2 years.
I was was going to stop drinking and be sweet and sober like my mom was except for holidays and anniversaries - wine erryday (not really, but at least a few nights a week I’ll drink a glass or two of wine)
Co-sleeping was definitely our "we're not doing that" moment. Lol I am a crazy light sleeper (I actually have a sleep disorder wherey body doesn't go into deeper/restorative sleep stages like it should.) Since DS breastfed, (and had ties) he wanted to eat a lot. It ended up far easier to sleep with him and do the dream feed thing. He turned 2 yesterday and still sleeps with us mostly (though he can/will sleep independently.)
And the screen time thing is laughable! We ended up with 6 (my niece) in our custody when DS was just over 1 month. So of course she watches TV/has a tablet, which definitely led to him having more screen time! Lol
I will say, for the most part @jynjer91 we really stuck to most everything that we we're adamant about. He had no food before 6 months (DH and I we're feed early and have lots of GI issues, so it wasn't something we we're willing to bend on), no juice, exclusively breastfed (this was the hardest and took a lot of support, help from medical professionals and determination. It was just something I needed to do for us.) Cloth diapered exclusively until 1 (he was slow to accept solids, or it may be before! Lol I wanted to make it until solids at least. Solid poops are harder to deal with lol), he goes everywhere with us, no one has watched him, still rear facing at 2 etc. It is possible to keep with most of what you want (at least the more important things.) But once they get older, I think it's harder lol (I say this as DS is watching muppet babies, drinking Gatorade and just asked for birthday cake