So for babysitting I've always dropped my daughter off at my parents/in laws houses or we meet so they can take her home. It works out fine for the most part. And really they only pick up a day here and there during the school year and once a week when school is out.
So that's the backstory.
On to my dilemma. Lol I've been working 50 hr weeks lately and theres no time to begin with since we both work full time. Plus in order to have a functional child during the day I need to get her to bed pretty early bc we get up at 5. Well I've worked out 1 day a week w my dad during summer. My moms I can swing by on the way home but my dad is an hour away and i get off work during rush hour. So even tho work is on the way out there it works out to maybe 2 hrs total of driving in rush hour traffic. We get home after her bed time and have to stop for fast food for dinner in order to stay close to our normal schedule. So I asked him to meet me after work. Well he's not trying to drive in rush hour traffic. So I offered my husband to get her since that buys us another half hour so it's only the beginning of rush hour. Well my suggested half way point is too far. We need to come closer to him...
I feel bad but I think I'm gonna skip explaining my logic again and just tell him I can have my mom watch her and he can have every other week.
Does everyone else drop off and pick up at grandma/grandpas house or is it more common to have them over? I feel like I'm being reasonable asking for help keeping our routine.