Confession- I'm so danged out of it that I don't even know what day it is half the time and it completely didn't register that today was Thursday.
So let's make up for lost time with another unpopular opinion and flame free confession combo thread! As per usual confessions are not guaranteed to be flame free. On this thread we also encourage random rants about anything you should feel the need to rant about.
Anything you want to get off your chest?
Re: UO/FFCF Mash-up Time Again! 6 21/22
I'm not really a fan of the DS, DD, DH (and most other abbreviations) and just prefer to type out my kid, my son or my husband or whatever. That being said I don't really care what anyone else does.
I'm not a fan of a lot of the R&B and Hip Hop coming out right now and have been askng my husband to please change the station to anything other than "Weak Jams." I can't think of any good specific examples, but he'll have Pandora on and it's just so...weak. Just... Blah. It's not new (style wise,) it doesn't have a great dance beat or clever lyrics. It's just weak.
I really dislike that the summer snack at my kid's school involves crackers every single day. I feel like most of them are a worthless, throw away food from a nutritional stand point. Yes, all the kiddos love goldfish crackers. Who doesn't? I like 'em. But he doesn't need goldfish and graham crackers every damn day. Eating should be for nutrition and energy, not for keeping busy. (For the kids. Not me. I get to eat all the junk all the time cause I'm an adult and can make those choices for myself. Please don't take away my delicious non nutritional snacks.)
Confession: I'm 100% ok with a certain level of hypocrisy in parenting. Like telling my kid he can't have a second cookie and then eating a whole bag of them after he goes to bed.
Confession: I eat a lot of cookies. Like a lot. You can't maintain love handles like I've got without a certain level of attention and dedication to your diet. It's true. It takes work.
I'm also ok with a certain level of hypocrisy. I'm pretty sure my motto with Polly will be "do as I say, not as I do"
Confession: I am having ice cream for breakfast today. It has calcium, that’s healthy right?
My FFFC is that my motivation to post has gone way down recently because mobile has been really glitchy. I don’t use the app, but even the site on Safari is pissing me off. My love tits are broken. That being said, I’m reading and trying to keep up with being supportive where I can!
I also hate online sales parties. Back in the day if someone had a Tupperware or Pampered Chef party or whatever, they had to actually invite you to their home and then feed you. Those I would sometimes go to. The online ones though I honestly don't get why I wouldn't just go to whatever website and order what I needed when I needed it.
When i was shopping for my car I mostly did research then wanted to test drive and push all the buttons. While trying it out on the sales floor I was thinking out loud to DH and mentioned that the back seat was a little tight so car pooling with friends might be a challenge. The sales guy said "well are you buying the car or are your friends buying the car?" Dear mister, adults in the back seat is on my list of wants, now I hate you and don't want to buy your cars.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
Edit to add - I'm all for working from home (or being a SAHM if you can afford it)! Just not if you are asking for me to buy something from you and then also bragging about your amazing life.
FFFC: I'll probably let my kid curse. We'll teach him that it's frowned upon in formal settings (school, work, etc.) but at home/with friends it's ok. Partly we'll be doing this because curse words are based on society and are different in every country. Basically, people get their panties in a wad over words because society tells them to. Partly because I curse like a sailor at home and don't want to have to watch my mouth in my own house. Exceptions will be intent. Examples: A) "F*ck! I broke the plate" would be acceptable. b) "F*ck you" not acceptable because that's ill intent.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
ETA:
@magnolia209 Oh I totally expect LO to make mistakes at first and cuss in public. I'll just be "that mom" at the playground. Whatever.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Once my kids are old enough to understands that their actions have consequences, like cursing in class will get them detention or whatever, then it's a free for all and everyone can make their own choices regarding the type of language they use. For now though I've come to the conclusion that I don't think it's fair to put that burden of responsibility on my 2 year old to have to think that much about it.
The other day someone chastised him in my home though for cursing and I nipped that shit in the bud real fast. He's in his own home and he's not hurting anyone. Yes, you can remind him that it's not a great word to use, and even better, suggest a different way to say it. If kiddo shouts "freaking f@*$," when he can't fix his toy, you can suggest that he try the phrase, "this is frustrating and I'm upset!" But you can not, in my house, punish him for language choices. Unless he calls you yourself a "freaking f@*$," he's not in trouble. At all. So back off.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
When our kids get older and understand there's a consequence to using course words, that is on them. But maybe my FFFC should be that excessive swearing makes me uncomfortable. So much of the time there's just such a wide variety of words that you can choose to express yourself that it doesn't need to fall back onto a swear word. This could be because for the most part I only ever heard my parents swear when they were mad/arguing/upset and I'm too empathetic for my own good and take on other peoples emotions easily. And I knew in those situations that the words were not meant lightly. Who knows.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
I blame the parents. :D
In the end, kids aren’t developmentally equipped to read context and fluidly shift sets between different environments / communication partners for many, many years. Having the expectation that they’ll be able to navigate such a complex set of social rules means they’re going to make many missteps along the way, which just seems like opening my kid to unnecessary stress (repeat reprimands from childcare providers, negative reactions from other parents, possible limitations in play dates, etc). Seems like a lot less frustration on everyone’s part to model the language my child will be expected to use across settings and contexts (knowing I’ll eff up from time to time, lol).
Side Rant: Here's to hoping for an emotionally resilient child. You're comment about reprimands from childcare providers reminded me that they'll likely talk negatively about how his parents are raising him in front of him anyway (vegan, cloth diapers, allowing dresses in public if he wanted to wear them). While working in daycare, I heard caregivers complain about all these things (and more) in front of the children. I'm more concerned with how he'll navigate that at such a young age.
On the flip side, until then I have extremely modest preferences for small children's vocabulary. This just comes from how I was raised. Butt, pee, fart, snot, poop, oh my God - these were not words you said in my house. We didn't even have euphamisms for fart or snot, you just didn't discuss such things. It just makes me cringe when I hear little kids use terms that seem crass to me. So we say bum, tee tee, poo, poot. No rhyme or reason as to why those terms don't offend me, but I hate it when DH adds an extra p on the end of poo in front of our toddler. *Shrug*
I'm totally the opposite when it comes to adults. Aside from formal settings, I see no reason to censor yourself. A big pet peeve is using asterisks or other symbols to write certain words. Like, seriously? We're all adults, we can all spell, does anyone not say the actual word in their head when they see "F***"? As far as I can see the only point in doing this is to say "I know I'm not supposed to say it" but then say it anyway. To be clear, l don't judge individuals for doing this, just that it's a social norm. I do it too most of the time just to play by the rules and in case someone is gonna be uppity and report me, but #alltheF***ingeyerolls !
*typo
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d