I know it's early, but I'm a planner and love to think ahead and apparently some of you are on the same page, so let's do this! I always find it SO helpful to look at other ladies' checklists because, inevitably, I forget something! What's on your to do list before baby's arrival?
Re: Share Your Things To Do Before Baby Arrives Checklist!
- Get the spare room turned into DS1's big boy room
- Get the nursery repainted and theme changed
- Get a new vehicle (our second car)
- Buy a carrier
- Get second camera for monitor
- Install gate at top of stairs (for when DS is in his big boy bed)
- Buy new bassinet
- Break out the old baby gear and try to find new home for it
- Once gender is confirmed, go though DS's clothing, wash and organize.
I think that's about it!-buy mini crib and set up a mini nursery in our room, wall decorations, etc.
-reorganize our room to actually fit the above stuff
-buy a dresser to put in the room this LO will eventually share with our DD
-car seats - one for my husband's car, one for mine
-maaaaaybe a sit/stand stroller, but I haven't decided yet (my DD is "over" strollers, so...)
-buy a bunch of baby boy clothes because we failed at gender neutral last time
-buy some warm baby clothes, since this LO will actually need them
-decide if I want to switch DD to a toddler bed or not, if so, do it
-reorganize DD's closet so there's room for this LO's stuff
-reorganize our storage closet and throw a bunch of stuff away
-wash all baby clothes
-deep clean carpets (this is long overdue)
-book newborn, 6 month and 1 year photos (the photographer we like does a package deal)
-buy new Dr. Brown's bottles
-get new breast pump through insurance
-take bouncer and activity mat out of storage
-streamline DD's bedtime routine so it doesn't take a freaking hour, hour and a half
-buy DD a big sister book, pick out a toy to give her "from" the baby
-buy/send Xmas presents/cards early because I do not want to deal with that ish while super pregnant or postpartum
-hospital tour (need to schedule that asap)
-prefill out hospital forms
-actually get a prenatal massage this time, since I have a gift certificate leftover I never used last time
-buy a baby book (and actually fully fill it out this time!)
-make concrete arrangements for childcare during labor
-UGH I forgot we need to buy a new CAR. BOO.
-oh yeah, probably get a tree really early and decorate? Thanks @Kristah2 for the reminder!
....and that's all I've got for now. What am I missing???
@maureenmce I am actually already looking forward to getting Christmas stuff up early! I am not, however, looking forward to taking it all down postpartum... When would you recommend ordering a breast pump? Is this something we should do soon, or is it okay to wait til 25-30 weeks?
Started IF Feb. 2014
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IUI June 2015, BFN
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IVF Oct. 2016, fresh transfer, 2 day-3 embryos, BFN; nothing to freeze
IVF Nov. 2017, fresh transfer, 2 day-5 blasts, BFP; ectopic; 1 blast frozen
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- tour and pick some daycares. Choose one and get on waiting list, if necessary
-talk with hr about maternity leave options and figure out schedule with mh's leave time
- finish registry and actually decide if I'm having a shower/when and how
-go through all the things friends have offered to hand down to us
-buy all the things
-hospital tour/childbirth/breastfeeding classes
- lots of house projects (for baby and get ready to sell)
-convert what is now my dressing room into a nursery. Figure out where to put all my clothes lol
-paint porch and steps
-mount tv on wall (so it's not directly across from nursery door)
- take a cute Xmas card pic that is baby related
- Finish removing wallpaper, plastering, and repainting in the living room so that we can start to...
- Repair plaster in the nursery and paint.
- Obtain crib, crib mattress, and dresser for baby's room.
- Sort baby clothes and purchase clothes for a winter baby (our first was creeping up on 12MO sizes before we got to the point where we needed to dress for cold weather).
- Potty train, probably.
- Knit her baby blanket.
I don't know, it feels like we really don't have much to do this time, compared to what we needed to do as first-time parents. Maybe we're just more relaxed about it. Even if we don't get the nursery anywhere near finished or the furniture purchased, she'll sleep in our room initially anyway and I have zero qualms about the people in my family living out of laundry baskets. If we don't get potty-training accomplished, well, we're pretty much diaper experts at this point. Aside from maybe some cold-weather appropriate clothes, everything we're contemplating purchasing at this point is more of a want than a need, you know?My list (so far)
-rearrange bedroom furniture so we can fit a crib in Master bedroom. This will actually get done in the next 3 weeks because I need somewhere for my niece to sleep, and our guest room will be occupied by an adult. We have a fold out floor bed that will work for the kiddo. I’d rather retire her to my room early than have her sleep on the floor/couch in the living room. Our only tv is in the living room and grown ups want to stay up late!
- make guest room into baby room (this might not happen for even months after baby is born-aside from baby clothes storage) because newborn will sleep in our room
- get the cat updated on her vaccines (just in case) and either buckle down on trying to trim her talons myself, or get a routine of bringing her in somewhere to trim cat claws. I don’t want any kitty scratches on baby.
-finish up the baby registry and share it (it’s almost done! I just keep forgetting little things- like bottle brushes!)
-seriously decide if I’m going to find a better “real job” before I start showing and it makes it too tricky to get employed. Right now I’m a mostly stay at home cat mom who does side gigs.
- draw my graphic novel (just a personal goal, I think now would be a good time to get it done)
- make more clothes and things for the baby
-uh, any other important things others have/will mention that might be applicable.
-oh! And go on some kind of solo couple trip just the two of us before baby arrives. Nothing too fancy, just something to cross off our list that we’ve done that.
I’m not sure if we’ll get a tree though. I don’t do fake trees. The tree is more important to me than it is to SO, so unless I can convince him to do 80% of the decorating, we might just skip all of that this year.
Aside from that I need to make woolies, and bamboo flats for the newborn stage.
Go go through my current CD stash and weed through it, some are 10 years old!
Buy a new woven because that’s my
treat every baby.
Order my birth kit by 36 weeks and set up my birth area with affirmations and such.
Maternity photos, I’ll do these myself.
Make any props I’ll need for the newborn shoot, though I tend to not be very prop loving I do want a few new native fable bonnets with Christmas rompers to go with them.
Once we know the gender I need to go through those specific clothes and weed out a ton.
I know for a fact I need new swaddlers, burpies, and a warm car seat cover.
That’s all I can think of for now!
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
@maureenmce @mag1cbeli3ver My insurance won't cover a breast pump until 28 weeks & needs a prescription, so I'll be doing that in a few months too!
-Get DS moved into his new room in October I'm thinking
-Take away his binky after he is transitioned well so that if new baby takes on he hopefully isn't impossible about not having one
-Go through the baby clothes we have and get the gender neutral out & ready & the boy stuff handy in the case that it's a boy. DS is also a December baby so that will be easy I think.
-We already have the click connect for the newborn, so we're good as far as vehicles & car seats go. We also have a million+1 bottles from trying to get DS to take one, so we're covered there too.
-Figure out for sure what our plan is with the monitors. We'll keep our Angelcare on the newborn for the motion sensor peace of mind, but I'm not sure if we'll use our current travel/spare one for DS or get another one for him & keep that one for travel.
-Thanks @maureenmce for the Christmas things reminder! We probably won't send out cards for Christmas & possibly do a birth announcement instead so we can include new LO. It worked well last time for me to set up for Christmas early & slowly took things down postpartum. Let's be real here, I took down the Christmasy things, but left the winter things up until about... April?
-Possibly make a registry with an early due date so I can get a few things we need as they come up.
-I'm taking my own newborn pictures (again) and highly recommend if you have a decent camera! I got a couple of great shots of him including one where he was peacefully sleeping on a blanket covered bean bag with the Christmas tree/lights blurred behind him. I plan to do this same shot again!
I feel weirdly calm about the fact that I don't think we have a TON of things to do. Mark my words, because this will definitely change.
DS: 12/20/16
EDD: 11/29/18
- finish registry without having panic attack
- have shower and buy whatever we don't get if it seems necessary/important
- set up bedroom with whatever we end up getting for baby to sleep
- wash and organize baby clothes
- install carseat bases and carseat
- go to breastfeeding and delivery classes at hospital
- do hospital tour
- pack hosptial bag
- figure out how to get a breast pump through my insurance
- do minimal X-mas shopping early (and make as much as possible, like jams this summer)
- maybe knit or crochet baby blanket if I am feeling crafty and ambitious
- get ahead on my spring semester work so I can take it easy (come up with paper ideas, find and clean data sets to use)
- get life insurance for both my husband and me
- look into moving if something cheapish and bigger opens up nearby. A one bedroom + den would be ideal. (am I crazy to consider moving in October? If we don't move we can always do it the summer after baby is born, or the summer after that)
- plan baybmoon
- relax as much as possible. go to yoga. maybe take up meditation or something? I have never succeeded in doing this in the past, but it can't hurt to try again.
- meet new moms in my area so I have mom friends
- figure out a plan for childcare starting in March -- we don't need enough hours to warrant daycare. I'm considering hiring an undergrad or masters student at my university to watch the baby for the few hours I'm in class each week.
- edited to add -- figure out which insurance plan available to my husband is best for the baby, switch my husband's insurance to that effective Jan 1., and find a pediatrician that accepts both his plan and my plan (which will cover the baby for the first month).
I'm in the no tree boat. I've actually never gotten a tree as an adult. We'll probably start getting one, but not this year.new car
new car seat base
diapers
new bottles
new breast pump
figure out if I have long sleeve baby clothes(ds1 and 2 were spring/summer babies)
take clothes out of storage and hang them up- figure out how to organize all the kids clothes
I’ll use my same pedi and same daycare (but if there are ftms reading I would recommend you start on those soon)
I love the idea of Christmas card/birth announcement together. It makes me so excited!
Heres a picture of one of my favorites with my last baby. And now I miss my dreads ::sigh::
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
Okay, off the top of my head here...
- All of the Christmas stuff early: buy and wrap gifts, do a Christmas card, maybe put up Christmas (I say maybe because H will be gone from the end of September until the due date, and I definitely can't do it alone with the boxes up high and everything. But I want to, because we didn't set it up the last two years and it was sad).
- Buy the minimal baby stuff we need: play gym, cutesy clothes if it's a girl (side note, I don't think it is), double stroller
- Buy toddler bunk for A, maybe set it up? Maybe not?
- Sort through old clothes, diapers, and toys, find space for it all
- Figure out maternity & newborn photos
- Set up bathroom/breastfeeding/treat yoself stations (I can elaborate for anyone interested)
- Get out bassinet and set that up
- 5 more weeks of Hypnobabies online + daily tracks and affirmations
- Go to doula-offered classes
- Make padsicles, freezer meals and snacks
- Get breast pump and feeding accessories through insurance
I think that's it?The list looks daunting, but I'm with the rest of you S(+)TM's...things feel a lot more relaxed this time around. Not super worried about the cleaning part of nesting -- I asked MIL to get me a housecleaning service for my birthday in November, so they'll do the majority of the dirty work
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Big Stuff
-Call our parish about their child development center, and get on the wait list if there is one. If we don't like it, start from scratch to find another option.
-Make a budget and figure out how much leave I will be able to take. Technically, I'm an independent contractor, so all of my leave is unpaid - but since I contract for my dad's company, I have a lot of options in terms of flexibility, part time options, and being able to take bb to work with me. H makes pennies as a graduate student, so me completely not working for several months is no bueno.
-Call my health insurance company and figure out how to add bb to my plan.
-Hospital tour.
-Perhaps take BF/Birthing classes.
-Finish registry.
-Have a shower.
House Things
-Reconfigure our two spare rooms. Guest room will become the nursery, the office will either stay an office or become a combo office/guest room if we can fit the spare bed in there.
-Paint nursery
-Purge the office of all the crap that has accumulated in there (it's our catch-all junk room) and clean/organize what's left.
-Purge our clothing and consolidate for more dresser/closet space.
-Purge and clean basement.
-Clean our carpets.
-Winterize the garden/yard.
Misc.
-Buy leftovers from registry
-Wash baby clothes
-Wash/prep cloth diapers
-Park hospital bag
-Put up food / make freezer meals
-Finish reports and tie up as many loose ends as possible at work
-Decorate for Christmas before bb gets here. As a rule, I usually don't do this until Advent starts, which is Dec 2 this year, 2 days before my due date. I may have to make an exception.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon yes, please do elaborate on the treat yoself stations!
-Lower the mattress in the crib
-Put mobile and bumpers back up
-Wash and sort baby clothes
-Get the baby gear from the attic cleaned and set up
-Install car seat bases and have them inspected
-Set up child care and dog sitters for our hospital stay
-Get a coming home outfit
-Pack hospital bag
-Skim through childbirth and breastfeeding info
-Stock up on Colace, ibprofin, and ice packs
-Make freezer meals
-Christmas prep (gifts wrapped, see Santa, house decorated, etc)
-Talk to photographer
-Buy diapers
-Order breast pump
-Buy baby book and start it
-Add second seat kit to stroller
-Buy a gift for DS from baby
-Install dresser topper
I am sure I am forgetting some things.
Emergency phone charger
Scissors (just spitballing here -- I used Always Discreet underwear and so it would be nice to have a pair of scissors around to cut them off instead of having to take my pants off all the way. Especially because the majority of the time I used these was while we were still in the NICU and who wants to take their pants off in a public hospital bathroom? Ugh)
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@Activebaby That is crazy that they made you wait on your pump until after the birth. Mine had me go online and pick it and then shipped it to me at 32 weeks.
@PensiveCrayon I love that idea!
Echo’s Pre-Baby To Do List
• take photo for announcement
• send pregnancy announcement to immeadiate family
• fill out registries ASAP
• close & move
• give @PensiveCrayon my phone number
• actually get everything unboxed
• actually get rid of crap we keep moving
• find new dog groomer
• meet my new OB
• schedule hospital tour & sign up for hospital classes (BFing & birth)
• hire contractor to tear down and rebuild garage?
• email new PCM about seeing an allergist
• choose freezer meal options or limitations
• decide on wallpaper for an accent wall?
• decide how to store LO’s clothes, I don’t want a dresser or a million tiny hangers
• buy more nursery art, I’m thinking animals or space. Maybe animals IN space
• panic about flu season
• get flu shot
• consider hiring a cleaning service for February...when I usually get the flu
• get breast pump through my insurance co. & Target
• buy a new car
• pack hospital bag
• panic about birth
• survive
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
-buy and install a carseat (though honestly DH can do that before I’m discharged anyway)
Might do:
-buy presents and wrap (I usually buy everything off amazon so I’m not too worried when this happens)
-buy crib (baby will sleep in PNP in our room for the first 3 months at least, so I’m not in a hurry)
-buy some more clothes, especially more 3-6 and 6-9 mo
-contact photog to come do newborns and/or hospital pics
-DH says pack a bag because apparently my habit of doing that on the way out the door isn’t his favorite
-knit a little elf hat for baby, and maybe matching hats for DD and DS.
-buy some prefolds and covers for once baby grows out of the newborn cloth we have.
Things I probably won’t do:
-set up a crib or re-arrange DS’s room in any way
-buy a new car (we’ll wait until I go back to work)
-send birth announcements (we do Christmas cards, we’ll do Christmas cards but nothing too special this year)
I’ve kind of found that waiting things out helps me determine what’s really necessary. We’ll also have so much time to run to the store once the baby comes. We stopped at Target on the way home from the hospital with DS, and it’s kind of nice to have an excuse to get out of the house anyway.
My list, none of which really needs to be done before baby gets here:
-buy crib
-buy dresser
-buy double stroller
-buy 2nd camera for monitor
-clean out and move the office to our master bedroom so that can become 2nd baby's room
The obvious:
-buy diapers, new nipples for bottles, some ready to feed formula incase we need to supplement, and clothes if needed, buy pads for me
As for things like making padsicles, buying tucks pads, witch hazel, etc. STEAL ALL OF THE THINGS FROM THE HOSPITAL. Once you open something it is yours. So the day you are being discharged, if you are low on the ice packs, or numbing spray, cooling wipes, diapers, mesh undies, ask for more. They technically charge your insurance for this, but for those who have insurances that have a flat copay for hospital stay, it works in your favor.
This is sort of my perspective this time around: (pic in spoiler because it's huge)
My stepdaughter wants to move into the guest room, so we need to set her up in there and then convert the upstairs playroom into the nursery and her old bedroom into the new guest room.
I got a little overwhelmed thinking about it all. Interestingly enough, we were the first of our friends to have a child (stepdaughter is 8) and then all of our friends have had kids and now here we are having another, so many of them have offered up their baby stuff. So we will als have to go through it all and decide what we are going to use. We also have stuff from my stepdaughter, but because we weren’t sure if we would ever have our own, it’s mostly all pink, so if we are having a boy, we would need more.
@Jens_Hoes love that picture - so accurate. I'm such a type A I will make a list, but first baby I was in major planning mode by now. Fourth baby - doesn't even really have a room, so I haven't even started thinking about a nursery. I figure I have awhile to decide how we want to do the room situations.
@PensiveCrayon the Promptly Journals - how soon do you start filling them out in your pregnancy? I have an amazon gift card, but they are out of stock. I wasn't sure if I should try to get one from somewhere else so I can start filling it out, or if I have some time to wait. I think they are out of stock on the Promptly website too.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018