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September 2018 Moms
stothi
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FFFC 6/8
stothi
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Confess!
Be warned though, FFFCs aren't always actually flame free!
Be warned though, FFFCs aren't always actually flame free!
Re: FFFC 6/8
my confession is actually from last week but either we didn’t do a fffc or I totally missed it. But I legit wet my pants at work one day. I had a bad cold and during a really bad coughing fit just totally peed all over myself. Thank god it was the end of the day and my office is right next to an exit so I could slink our without anyone noticing. But it was super embarrassing.
Semi-related, I also bought those waterproof pads and put one under a towel on the couch, in my car, and one under the sheets in my bed.
The percentage of moms who have their water break before or early on in labor is pretty low so I had people telling me I was way too worried about it, but since it does happen I wanted to be as prepared as possible.
MMC 8/5/15 at 8 weeks
DS born 9/13/16
BFP 1/13/18 - EDD 9/20/18 - It's a boy!
We honestly don't need a gift, we planned for Polly for just about a year and set money aside for baby stuff but if you're going to celebrate the welcoming of the other coworkers children, shouldn't ours be celebrated too. They won't be receiving anything else from us and I'll be glad when DH leaves the program next year.
this sounds so petty when writing it out, but in my life it’s a huge annoyance!
I know it’s my own heart issue, but I’m afraid I’m going to say something to her that I’ll regret, or that I’ll regret not saying something. Because, seriously, girl! You are 28! Turn Netflix off and take care of business and be a little bit responsible!!
@mrsbigtime I won't lie, individually those offenses seem minor. BUT if it were my sister, all those thing compounded would infuriate me. It sounds like maybe she could benefit from a little tough love? In the nicest way possible. It's certainly not inherently rude for you to tell her that you don't appreciate her giving away the things you had asked to have returned.
FFFC: May was a SUPER tight/slow month for my business. Like, no more treats from the grocery because we're on a strict budget type of tight. My confession is that I'm still scraping together ~$200 to get my hair done tomorrow. I want fun hair again and we're getting professionally photographed twice in June. Dammit I want to look good in them.
This isnt really a confession, but I’m kind of sad I won’t have a shower. I’ve lived where I am for like a year and a half and I still never really made a lot of close friends, and I certainly don’t have a “group” of them. My family is wonderful and generous and I know they are looking forward to sending us gifts (we put together a registry as sort of a shopping list for ourselves, and bc family was asking what we wanted). But it still makes me a little sad that I won’t have a typical baby shower with a group of girlfriends.
Making adult friends is so hard!!!! We just keep convincing college friends to find jobs in our area, it's a pretty solid strategy and now that there are now if is it's increasingly appealing to people
@SkilledSailor unless we won't be able to eat or pay the mortgage, money is set aside for my hair. It's my one consistent just for me self care thing and idgaf if it's a frivolous expense. I can, and sometimes have, given up everything else, but the hair stays a priority.
@ashh2018 I feel sad you aren't having a shower and if we lived near each other in real life, I wouldn't care that we don't know each other that well, I would put a little something together for you. I know that doesn't help you any, but I just want to let you know that at the very least I think it's a legit thing to be sad about.
I'm lucky that DH and I met here through mutual friends and together we do have a nice group of friends now. We just got married last year and I have one friend here who loves to throw parties. She threw a bridal shower last year and is throwing us a co-ed baby shower in August. But I was sad that none of my best friends or family would be at the shower (bridal or baby). Still super thankful to celebrate with LA friends!
I did just have the most special amazing surprise shower at home, but that only happened because I convinced my best friends who live all in different cities to come to my home town for a girls weekend. I did this because I couldn't deal with two separate trips and I really wanted to see my family as well. I had no idea that they would put together a surprise, but it was great. And, it would not have happened if I hadn't forced them all to be in the same place at once (again - not wanting a shower, just out of convenience!).
And finally, my IRL pregnant friend hates traveling and her family and best friends from home did a virtual shower. They all sent gifts to my friend here in CA. Then the Mom hosted on the east coast. My friend and her H skyped in and they cut the cake in the East while here in CA they had their own little cake. My friend opened all of the presents while on skype. She loved it! It sounds super overwhelming to me, but you might think about some way to celebrate with people back home. No matter where your people are, they are so so happy for you!
FFFC #2: We ordered a Little Nomad foam play mat for our play area in the living room and I put it together today. The mat fits together like a puzzle and there are edge pieces that fit on the outer edges. I wasted an hour trying to match all of the edge pieces up with the pattern before I read the instructions again where it clearly states that the edge pieces will not all match up with the pattern.
BFP #1: 1/23/2012 DD: Born 9/20/2012
BFP #2: 12/30/2017 DS: Due 9/10/2018
My moral/ethic compass doesn't allow me to skip out a half hour early on a daily basis.
@MrsBigTime I'd be upset if I was you. You should say something and definitely don't give her any more hand-me-downs because she clearly doesn't appreciate them.
@ashh2018 It's super hard to make friends as an adult. We're throwing an informal backyard party co-hosted by my SILs and we only invited family and a few local friends. I totally assumed that about Prenatal yoga classes as well! I may try to get a contact for one or two people I've chatted with.
@SkilledSailor DH and I have personal spending funds allocated for every month in our budget. You can borrow from the future, bank it for a bigger purchase, and spend it on anything you want. It's for things like clothing, hair, and recreation. It's not a lot, but it's great to have a little cash every month that I can spend on me, no questions asked!
Married Aug. 2013
TTC #1 Sep. 2016
***TW***
BFP Jun. 5, 2017; MMC Aug. 2, 2017 at 11w6d
BFP Nov. 20, 2017; ended in CP
All the tests. Everything normal except treated for ureaplasma and DH potentially has high DNAF.
BFP Dec. 25, 2017; EDD Sep. 5, 2018; DD arrived Aug. 26th
My chart: https://www.fertilityfriend.com/home/63f71d
Thanks all for the support. You’re all right - I think we will try to plan a little something even if it’s just with a couple people. Sadly our two closest couple friends have both had difficulties with this, and one just experienced a loss. I was heartbroken. I’m not sure I’d feel right asking them to celebrate with us.
@ashh2018 I’m sorry you’re not getting a shower. I hope you find a way to celebrate. I’ve been to several showers for women I’m not really close to and I was always happy to go. You might be surprised at people’s willingness to help you celebrate.
DH and I order Home Chef delivery. They “lost” our box this week, so we were out a few dinners this week, which we were not prepared to substitute real groceries for coming back from vacation. When I called the company, they told me they would “credit my account.” Well, said credit apparently applies to the next few deliveries according to my online account! I’m choosing to believe they intentionally want me to pay only $10 per week for the next several weeks and their customer service is really that amazing...
@ashh2018 I completely think that’s a legit thing to be sad about and you should celebrate in whatever way feels right to you!
@smsaulino I think that’s super odd that that is happening to you and really just rude. They should be fair and equal across the board! I’m sorry you’ve put forth cash and effort over the years and it’s not being reciprocated.
I guess my FFFC is that my typical work schedule is 8:30-4pm! But I regularly check my email evenings and sometimes first thing in the morning, and when ad hoc meetings are scheduled off hours (like meetings with Asia) I take them at 7am or 7pm as necessary. When I travel for work I’m probably working 14 hours days, and weekends. All my work gets done, and if there’s a tight deadline I’ll work late as needed. So I guess I have no moral quandary about my typical day’s work hours!
FTR I have no problem with leaving early on occasion if it's slow. But people who complain about having too much work or not being able to get everything done and then consistently leave early get under my skin. Like it's no wonder why you can't get all of your work done if you shave off 2.5 hours each week. I'm cool with having the UO this time.
Also, I HATE when people complain about how busy they are...I always want to respond with something like “yeah, your work must take a long time if you’re not efficient” or “that’s too bad you don’t understand how to prioritize to get things done” just to be a b. But I just can’t do it. LOL
@patience7150 We could totally do a virtual baby shower for @ashh2018. But how? We could post random, funny thoughts, or STMs could post tips? Then in the MOTN feedings she could come back and read it? Just a thought. @stothi You seem like you'd be a good friend IRL
@MandyMost I am an “I’m so busy” person. Truthfully, I need another employee but I cannot afford to hire someone (or FFSC- I just don’t want to pay that much) so I’ve got a never ending to do list.
*eta- clarity