The next person who makes a comment about us starting a baseball team (boy #3 on the way) is getting punched in the face.
We've told 4 people and 2 of them immediately made the same joke (MIL and my uncle). Of the other 2 people, 1 knows nothing about baseball (my mom), so it could have easily been 3 for 4.
Do you guys think we should create a new ultrasound thread for anatomy scans/second trimester pics? The first one is getting large, but I don't want anyone to feel left behind. I think we're all in the second tri now though, right? At least most of us are, I think.
@MojieJo - how annoying. With DS before he was even born DH's family was saying they hope we have a girl next time. Like wtaf!?! I am so excited to be team green this time and part of me is loving that it drives so many people crazy not to know the sex. It doesn't matter to us, why should it matter to you??
ETA: Work was good enough last night we had time to take a peek at baby again! It's not a high quality machine (which reassured me that we wouldn't accidentally see the sex) but it was still so fun to see the heart valves, fingers, etc. Sweet baby looked like he/she was sucking on his/her hand
*TW*
Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
I'm being totally ridiculous, I know, but I'm feeling petty and resentful.
DH's cousin just announced he's having another baby (their 5th). I really wanted this time around to just be me, since with my twins, that same cousin and his sister both announced pregancies at the same time as me after big gaps of no children (he had three teenagers and she had two tweens). I thought I was going to get my moment to shine after waiting 10 years for my miracle babies that time, but I had to share it with people his family was so much more interested in and now it's happening again.
Cousin #1 just had another baby (her fourth) and I was looking forward to being the only one this time. I know it's ridiculous, like I said, but I'm pregnant and emotional.
It doesn't help that the response to our announcement was lukewarm (his aunt literally said that we need to get a hobby) and now cousin is getting showered with attention (including from the same aunt who made the hobby comment).
I'm sorry for being a selfish jerk and bitching about this, but I can't say anything to DH or anyone else around me and need to vent.
I am nesting.like.crazy! I assume because I don’t have all of the baby stuff research to do like the first time (and don’t have a baby to currently occupy me 24/7 like the second, ha). Our garage sale pile for next month has like quadrupled in size, haha, and I’m doing all of the random little things around the house I’ve been wanting to do (or asking my husband to do).
@MojieJo I get this. My SIL and I were both pregnant with our firsts at the same time. I know she is TTC right now, and I kind of feel like, “let me have this!” Before I got pregnant, they said they wanted a 4 year gap and now they don’t. The shitty thing is she keeps having miscarriages, so I really need to get over it and wish her well.
@MojieJo I can totally see why your feeling that way. Hormones aside that’s a really shitty thing for her to say. Not sure why ppl don’t think before they speak.
@MojieJo I'm so curious why YH's aunt told you that on your 2nd pregnancy, but not on the cousins' 4th! How annoying and awful. I'm so sorry. I don't think it's wrong of you to feel that way. I like pregnancy because you get more attention than normal. Not that I'm an AW, but I think everyone likes having more attention. I'm sorry that you're not getting the attention you were hoping for. You talked about YH's side of the family; how does your side of the family feel about this pregnancy? I hope they're being kinder. @runningyogimama Me too! My energy is finally back and it's great. I don't need to have DD's room/the nursery done for several months, but I'm already trying to get everything done NOW, just because I can and I want to! @pink_polkadots How are you faring in this crazy rain storm? I hope you're safe from the flooding.
@offtoneverland My best guess is that those cousins are the golden children of the family (in spite of all sorts of reasons why they shouldn't be). They can both do no wrong and everything they do is amazing and incredible for some reason. Everyone's acting like cousin's 4th pregancy was an amazing miraculous blessing and my second (third, technically, but they don't know about my previous loss) is...not.
The messed up part is that the aunt who made the comment is fairly close to MH (he's at their house once a week or so helping her husband, his uncle, out with things and has always been a part of their family stuff), or at least I thought she was. I mean there's plenty more that's messed up about the whole thing, but that's just the icing on the cake.
My family is complicated. We're not close (I'm close to my parents and we're friendly with an uncle, but that's about it).
My brother hasn't said more than a few words to me or my parents in years (the last time I talked to him was when I was pregnant last time and that was a single, short email that he never read or replied to my response to), most of the rest of our family is just scattered and estranged from each other for various reasons or dead.
My grandmother (only living grandparent) is excited, but I don't talk to her because she was terrible to me when I was growing up and I have no time or energy for her now (it's too late to make amends for me, but my dad talks to her once a week and she's happy).
So as far as people I talk to, they're all excited (all three of them). Everyone else either doesn't know because they don't care to be involved in my life or don't care one way or the other.
I feel better knowing that I'm not just being completely unreasonable here. It's hard to tell whether I'm being a bitchy pregnant lady or have a legitimate reason to complain sometimes.
@MojieJo - this is a random question for you... how on earth do you make the text in your siggy a certain color? I googled it and tried many different ways and for the life of me couldn't get it to work!
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
@MojieJo I'm so sorry you're dealing with all of that and that you're not very close to your own family. Please remember that we're all happy for you and rooting for you! I know it doesn't help much since we don't know you IRL, but hopefully it helps a little bit.
@mockingjay1 Go to the signature edit area and click on the HTML edit option. It's the one on the end that looks like "</>".
The text you want to enter should look like: <span class="post-color-red">TEXT HERE</span>.
You can replace the "red" with any other basic color. It may work with hex codes, too, but I'm not sure (haven't tried).
EDIT: Fixed my code. The way it was originally should work, but that's how it's currently entered into my signature.
@offtoneverland It absolutely does! You guys are a great support system when I need someone to lean on or just to bounce opinions off of. You're my pregancy family.
Let’s go on a punching spree together! My husband’s grandmother’s first words when we told them were expecting: “Are you really pregnant?” (Wtf) followed by “We better start high praying for a girl!” I have a beautiful healthy son and the gender obsession drives me nuts! I can’t help what we have! Grrr.
@MojieJo Agreed with @highsteaks. That woman sounds like a peach. I totally get wanting to have your own special time. My brother and SIL got pregnant shortly after their wedding and we were all relieved because it didn’t look like it was going to happen for them. Anyways, DH started talking about wanting another baby around that time and I took a hard pass— I wanted that time to be all about her. It really is a thing. Here’s something that should make you feel way less petty and ridiculous: I have a tense dynamic with said SIL because she is constantly trying to one-up me and is really weird about trying to compete with me in odd ways. Like she’ll get angry if I take my own mother to a doctors appointment because she could’ve taken her. It’s strange. Or if I take DD to do anything she’ll jump in to say she already did that with her DD. Or already bought that sippy cup, tried that brand, etc. It’s exhausting. Anyways, I’m secretly really excited to be able to have a newborn and a toddler because she’s never dealt with that dynamic (she had her first 16 years ago, then married my brother and had her second 2 years ago) and she won’t be able to preach to me or act like she’s better or more knowledgeable than me. How’s THAT for petty and ridiculous?
i just realized that i was suppose to be taking 3 a day of one of the vitamin supplements my mfm doc wants me on, and i’ve only been taking 1. nbd, i’ll start taking the right number from now on, but i’m seriously irritated that i didn’t read the supplment directions earlier.
slightly related request for opinions: for those who take/took b6+unisom, when will/did you stop taking them? i still probably have enough for another week and a half, but should i go ahead and stop now that i’m starting to feel ok? i feel like this is a really stupid question.
@highsteaks I still have some B6 left but I stopped taking last week. I will be 17 weeks tomorrow, for reference. I was really nervous to stop but so far I seem to be ok.
@wannaflickone i’m nervous too, thus the request for hand-holding. the last time i didn’t take any for 24hrs, i was a complete mess the next day. really don’t want to repeat that. that was around 12.5w.
@wannaflickone i’m taking a half dose (12.5mg?) right now since that’s what the ob’s handout suggested. i think i’m going to go to 15 weeks (so another 3 nights) then i’ll try every other night until i run out. maybe. we’ll see
@highsteaks I'm at 15w now and have stopped taking it for the past two weeks or so. Since then I've had a little nausea here and there but in general it's a lot better for me. Could you try just taking the unisom and cut out the b6 (or vice versa) and see how the day goes? I understand the fear/desire not to feel crappy too though. Good luck lol if the idea is you just don't want to have to purchase more I could mail you what I have left of mine?
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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@lurvleybunchococonuts that’s an idea. i think i have more b6 left than unisom (and i could halve the b6 like @wannaflickone suggested, too) so that seems like good baby steps. it’s reassuring to hear that at 14w you were mostly ok. and thanks for the offer—i’m not quite ready to be getting drugs from an internet stranger just yet, but if i was it would definitely be from you
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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@mockingjay1 I was just thinking about asking this same question. No!!!! I'm glad I'm not the only one. I didn't create an account so I don't think I can even check the status of it. I was beginning to think mine had been lost.
Y'all this tropical depression is killing me. It's rained/stormed for over a week straight. In other news, we got Pho last night and I'm pretty sure the baby kicked with joy. At least that is what I told H. I swear it tasted like nirvana. So freaking good!!
Mh has told me to stop buying things for the baby so others will be able to buy for us. I know my sister is giving us a "sprinkle", but I feel like we should be getting the bigger items. Any other st+ms have input about registries/gifts (expectations) for babies after your first?
@middleschoolmommy no opinion on what’s polite or not, but i’m of the opinion that if you see something you know you want/need on sale, get it. you can’t predict whether someone else will ever get it for you, and better to get it cheaper while you can than stuck buying it full price later.
I just felt baby moving for the first time! Pretty sure I'm going to be giddy for the rest of the day!
Me: 34 DH: 34 Married 10/28/17 Our TTC Journey
TTC #1 February '18 Team Green turned TeamBlue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21 BFP June '21 MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21 Jan '22 - started IF testing BFP Jan '22 MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22 BFP May '22
@middleschoolmommy - we have all the big items from DS (carseat, stroller, high chair, swing, rnp, etc are all gender neutral). I don't expect a shower/sprinkle, but if my friends/coworkers throw me one I assume it will be for diapers, wipes, and other smaller items. I'm sure clothes would be on that list if we knew what we were having. If there's a big item you want and can get for a good price I'd go for it! If not you can always add it on your registry and if someone gets it for you great, if not you can use your completion discount to get it.
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Me:35 DH:35 Dx: PCOS DS1 born 11/2014 DS2 born 11/2018 3 previous losses Rainbow babydue 12/2021 - Team Green
@tessiesmom26 ohhhhh YAY! I'm so happy for you! (And slightly envious for myself. I can't WAIT to feel LO move)
@middleschoolmommy I agree with PP's. I have some large items on my registry but if I get a good deal I'm going to purchase it myself and remove it from the registry. I had a rock'n play on it initially; however, I know I'm going to be getting one used from a good friend of mine whenever I go to visit her next time so I've removed it from the list. I don't like the idea of not purchasing something that will be needed with the expectation of someone else getting it for me. If they happen to of course I am grateful, but if I see a great deal I'm not not going to get it just in hopes that someone else will. kwim?
BFP 3/21/2020! OMG We're having TWINS! 4/17/2020 -------------------------------- LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby! -------------------------------- Me: 33 | DH: 41 Married: March 2016 TTC #1/IUD out January 2017 PCOS dx January 2018 Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018 BFP 3/10/2018! -------------------------------
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I got a lot of the "bigger" items we needed from facebook market place recently - bassinet, pack n play, play mat - and then I got a few things from BRU. The only "big things" we still need are a crib mattress and an infant seat w/ extra base. I told MH about an infant seat at BRU and the "stop buying things" was his response. I'm hoping his attitude is more about the timing than he actually expects these things to be bought for us.
eta: but now I can totally go to him with the argument of "see... all these other pregnant ladies agree"
Re: Weekly Randoms 5/21
We've told 4 people and 2 of them immediately made the same joke (MIL and my uncle). Of the other 2 people, 1 knows nothing about baseball (my mom), so it could have easily been 3 for 4.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
ETA: Work was good enough last night we had time to take a peek at baby again! It's not a high quality machine (which reassured me that we wouldn't accidentally see the sex) but it was still so fun to see the heart valves, fingers, etc. Sweet baby looked like he/she was sucking on his/her hand
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
DH's cousin just announced he's having another baby (their 5th). I really wanted this time around to just be me, since with my twins, that same cousin and his sister both announced pregancies at the same time as me after big gaps of no children (he had three teenagers and she had two tweens). I thought I was going to get my moment to shine after waiting 10 years for my miracle babies that time, but I had to share it with people his family was so much more interested in and now it's happening again.
Cousin #1 just had another baby (her fourth) and I was looking forward to being the only one this time. I know it's ridiculous, like I said, but I'm pregnant and emotional.
It doesn't help that the response to our announcement was lukewarm (his aunt literally said that we need to get a hobby) and now cousin is getting showered with attention (including from the same aunt who made the hobby comment).
I'm sorry for being a selfish jerk and bitching about this, but I can't say anything to DH or anyone else around me and need to vent.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
@runningyogimama Me too! My energy is finally back and it's great. I don't need to have DD's room/the nursery done for several months, but I'm already trying to get everything done NOW, just because I can and I want to!
@pink_polkadots How are you faring in this crazy rain storm? I hope you're safe from the flooding.
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
The messed up part is that the aunt who made the comment is fairly close to MH (he's at their house once a week or so helping her husband, his uncle, out with things and has always been a part of their family stuff), or at least I thought she was. I mean there's plenty more that's messed up about the whole thing, but that's just the icing on the cake.
My family is complicated. We're not close (I'm close to my parents and we're friendly with an uncle, but that's about it).
My brother hasn't said more than a few words to me or my parents in years (the last time I talked to him was when I was pregnant last time and that was a single, short email that he never read or replied to my response to), most of the rest of our family is just scattered and estranged from each other for various reasons or dead.
My grandmother (only living grandparent) is excited, but I don't talk to her because she was terrible to me when I was growing up and I have no time or energy for her now (it's too late to make amends for me, but my dad talks to her once a week and she's happy).
So as far as people I talk to, they're all excited (all three of them). Everyone else either doesn't know because they don't care to be involved in my life or don't care one way or the other.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
I feel better knowing that I'm not just being completely unreasonable here. It's hard to tell whether I'm being a bitchy pregnant lady or have a legitimate reason to complain sometimes.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
The text you want to enter should look like: <span class="post-color-red">TEXT HERE</span>.
You can replace the "red" with any other basic color. It may work with hex codes, too, but I'm not sure (haven't tried).
EDIT: Fixed my code. The way it was originally should work, but that's how it's currently entered into my signature.
@offtoneverland It absolutely does! You guys are a great support system when I need someone to lean on or just to bounce opinions off of. You're my pregancy family.
● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C
● IUI #3: BFN
● IUI #4: BFN
● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP! BOY #3!
● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks
● Natural #2: BFP - M/C @ 5w5d
Here’s something that should make you feel way less petty and ridiculous: I have a tense dynamic with said SIL because she is constantly trying to one-up me and is really weird about trying to compete with me in odd ways. Like she’ll get angry if I take my own mother to a doctors appointment because she could’ve taken her. It’s strange. Or if I take DD to do anything she’ll jump in to say she already did that with her DD. Or already bought that sippy cup, tried that brand, etc. It’s exhausting. Anyways, I’m secretly really excited to be able to have a newborn and a toddler because she’s never dealt with that dynamic (she had her first 16 years ago, then married my brother and had her second 2 years ago) and she won’t be able to preach to me or act like she’s better or more knowledgeable than me. How’s THAT for petty and ridiculous?
slightly related request for opinions: for those who take/took b6+unisom, when will/did you stop taking them? i still probably have enough for another week and a half, but should i go ahead and stop now that i’m starting to feel ok? i feel like this is a really stupid question.
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
DD1: 8/2014
TTC #2: 6/2017
BFP 8/3/2017 | CP 8/4
BFP 10/16/2017 | CP 10/21
BFP 12/18/2017 | CP 12/28
BFP 2/15/2018 | EDD: November 2nd | It's a girl!
DD2: 10/2018
ask as well. Hopefully we will get them before the babies come
+ 2019?!?!?! I swear it was just 2001.
Mh has told me to stop buying things for the baby so others will be able to buy for us. I know my sister is giving us a "sprinkle", but I feel like we should be getting the bigger items. Any other st+ms have input about registries/gifts (expectations) for babies after your first?
Married 10/28/17
Our TTC Journey
Team Green turned Team Blue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21
BFP June '21
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21
Jan '22 - started IF testing
BFP Jan '22
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22
BFP May '22
Dx: PCOS
DS1 born 11/2014
DS2 born 11/2018
3 previous losses
Rainbow baby due 12/2021 - Team Green
@middleschoolmommy I agree with PP's. I have some large items on my registry but if I get a good deal I'm going to purchase it myself and remove it from the registry. I had a rock'n play on it initially; however, I know I'm going to be getting one used from a good friend of mine whenever I go to visit her next time so I've removed it from the list. I don't like the idea of not purchasing something that will be needed with the expectation of someone else getting it for me. If they happen to of course I am grateful, but if I see a great deal I'm not not going to get it just in hopes that someone else will. kwim?
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LO arrived 11/9/2018! We have a baby!
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Me: 33 | DH: 41
Married: March 2016
TTC #1/IUD out January 2017
PCOS dx January 2018
Medicated cycle 2.5mg Letrozole CD3-7 February 2018
BFP 3/10/2018!
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eta: but now I can totally go to him with the argument of "see... all these other pregnant ladies agree"