Mother’s Day plans with grandmothers

I’m just curious. Do you all include both mom’s on mother’s day plans? My mom and I usually have a daughter/mother day the Saturday before, my husband always takes his mom out for dinner on a Saturday evening the night before too. We get our own dinner on mother’s day together with just our own little family, husband kids and me. My husband visited his mother today w the kids after we were done with our thing today. My goal of the day was to do nothing, just relax and watch tv. My mother in law seemed sad and said maybe next year we have a cookout on mother’s day. I don’t want a cookout. She has 2 daughters who don’t step up. I feel it’s up to them to do something. I feel bad but I also want to enjoy my day myself.