Super disappointing initial prenatal appointment today. I was told over the phone when I scheduled it that it would include an ultrasound. Nope. Dragged my SO along with me basically for a gyno exam. Thought he'd get to see baby since he's kind of still on the fence about this whole baby thing and I figured seeing baby might warm him up to the idea, but no. Pap smear and breast exam. That was it. No real information, no answers. No hearing and seeing baby's heartbeat. I got a SCRIPT for my ultrasound in 2 weeks. How dumb. Such a waste of time. My ER visit last week was much more productive. Frustrated:(
@scaredunprepared Aww, I'm sorry that your appointment wasn't what you were expecting.. but on the bright side, your SO came, which is awesome! That means something
Yes, very true, @ab_canada! Way to find the silver lining thanks for that! I think he's still in shock and is just taking longer to process everything. I processed it all super quickly in one day (because i kind of had to). I really think once he's gotten to see and hear baby, and sees my belly growing, he'll start to come around. At least that's what I'm hoping! I just can't believe I need to wait 2 more weeks before he gets to see the ultrasound. Waiting is so hard!
@scaredunprepared For what it's worth, my husband never did get excited about pregnancy number one (and he was the one who had always wanted to be a parent in the first place). Ultrasounds didn't interest him, the belly didn't interest him, feeling kicks didn't interest him... nothing. It took until our newborn could sort of focus her eyes on him for him to fall absolutely head-over-heels in love with being a dad. The two of them are the BEST of friends now, definitely each other's favorite people. You'd never know they had a slow start. As long as your SO is a supportive and kind partner for you (non-negotiable), and is an active participant in making whatever plans you need his assistance to make (not necessarily decorating the nursery and buying cute onesies, but stuff like figuring out childcare and finances and living arrangements, as needed), try not to let his ambivalence worry you too much. There's a wide spectrum of normal reactions, and it doesn't mean he's not going to be a great dad.
On the topic of appointments: they took all my blood yesterday for regular first trimester screening and NIPT. By noon, I had most of the test results for CBC and antibodies and such. Now to wait for information on trisomies, microdeletions and genital configuration!
@scaredunprepared I totally understand the S/O taking longer to process. My S/O's initial reaction was not good; as we were not together at the time when I fell pregnant with our first. (We are together now, and happily expecting num 2 obviously) But, given we had known each other a very short time, he wouldn't even talk to me for WEEKS after I told him I was pregnant. He was not about becoming a dad. As time went on, he eventually mulled over the idea of becoming a father, and turns out.... he is very excited about this baby and absolutely adores our daughter and loves her more than anything in the world. Sometimes it just takes time. I'm sure he'll come around.
@katy0990 it really is taking forever! Each hour feels like weeks! I'm glad he came with me for the exam too, even if it wasn't what we were expecting. And he seemed willing to come with me again.
@AGK2015@trucksntutus thank you both. I guess there is no one way to react to the news you're going to be a parent. I will give him time and space. For Father's Day i am planning on getting him a few cutsie goodies. Hope that helps warm him up. He is actually being great about finances now (initially he was being quite selfish about this), and even changed the town we were planning on moving to once he discovered the schools weren't great. So I think we are heading in the right direction.
@AGK2015 good luck with the remainder of your bloodwork. Hopefully it all comes back normal.
Had an appointment yesterday. Just a physical check-up: doctor found I have an irregular heartbeat and now I have to go get an ECG. I'm more fascinated than concerned! Doctor also said to go ahead and eat runny eggs. It actually isn't in medical literature that pregnant women shouldn't eat them and the risk of getting salmonella is so small that she said it's not depriving myself (I miss runny eggs so much!). So yey!
@ab_canada hope all goes well with the ECG. Today I learned I have a tilted uterus and a VERY sensitive cervix that bleeds at the slightest pressure. No wonder I'm spotting so much. The more you know. I forgot to ask so many of my questions because I felt so uncomfortable with how my appointment went glad you got answers about runny eggs! Lol enjoy!
Good luck @ab_canada with your ECG! Keep us posted! That is really interesting, no other dr/nurse has told you that before? How interesting/bizarre.
@scaredunprepared Of course, anytime! It def sounds like the right direction if he's considering how the schools are and finances are looking up. Where we are moving to in GA have decent schools and was also on our list when we knew we were PCSing there.
@trucksntutus I love your username, btw. No, no other doctor has mentioned it but I have never really have a physical exam before (I think, anyway). I think it's fine. I will be upset if they tell me I shouldn't drink coffee for the rest of my life
Had my 1st OB appointment yesterday. She used a handheld ultrasound and we were able to see baby and the heartbeat again. Got my H on board with doing the NIPT so I scheduled that for the 22nd. They'll also use the handheld ultrasound and/or Doppler at that appointment too. It's so helpful for my PGAL brain that we get to check on baby at every appointment.
Me: 35 H: 35 Married: 4/5/13 "You know that place between sleep and awake, that place where you can still remember dreaming? That's where I will always love you. That's where I'll be waiting." ~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #1: 11/12/12 EDD 7/25/13 Baby boy: 7/27/13 BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18 BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18 RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28 BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19 Rainbow baby girl born 7/23/19 BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I drove an hour and a half into the big city so that I could go to a walk-in (ER only here, and I think I've mentioned this all elsewhere, but I just moved to my province so I am waiting for a family doctor still). He referred me to an OB in my town, so I'm hopeful that I can start seeing one very soon. It was such a relief!
I do have a midwife appointment booked for the end of the month, but the midwife is stationed in the big city and my husband and I are starting to question whether it'd be reasonable as I'd have to get to the city while in labour in the middle of winter.... so hopefully a local OB works out.
I'm trying to just say calm and positive, and not worry about people judging me for not having a doctor. I am jealous of everyone whose gotten to see their babies already, but I know my turn is soon!
Hubby & Me: Born 1993 Married: August 2013 Son: December 2018 Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
@kelseyyh Your turn is coming soon!! I’m moving next month so I get to do what you’re doing now: wait to meet new GP, get an OB referral, find a good hospital/OB combo. I am not looking forward to it, but at least it shouldn’t change after we make our choices
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Re: Weekly Appointments 5/7
Aww, I'm sorry that your appointment wasn't what you were expecting.. but on the bright side, your SO came, which is awesome! That means something
On the topic of appointments: they took all my blood yesterday for regular first trimester screening and NIPT. By noon, I had most of the test results for CBC and antibodies and such. Now to wait for information on trisomies, microdeletions and genital configuration!
I totally understand the S/O taking longer to process. My S/O's initial reaction was not good; as we were not together at the time when I fell pregnant with our first. (We are together now, and happily expecting num 2 obviously) But, given we had known each other a very short time, he wouldn't even talk to me for WEEKS after I told him I was pregnant. He was not about becoming a dad. As time went on, he eventually mulled over the idea of becoming a father, and turns out.... he is very excited about this baby and absolutely adores our daughter and loves her more than anything in the world. Sometimes it just takes time. I'm sure he'll come around.
@AGK2015 @trucksntutus thank you both. I guess there is no one way to react to the news you're going to be a parent. I will give him time and space. For Father's Day i am planning on getting him a few cutsie goodies. Hope that helps warm him up. He is actually being great about finances now (initially he was being quite selfish about this), and even changed the town we were planning on moving to once he discovered the schools weren't great. So I think we are heading in the right direction.
@AGK2015 good luck with the remainder of your bloodwork. Hopefully it all comes back normal.
@scaredunprepared Of course, anytime! It def sounds like the right direction if he's considering how the schools are and finances are looking up. Where we are moving to in GA have decent schools and was also on our list when we knew we were PCSing there.
I love your username, btw.
No, no other doctor has mentioned it but I have never really have a physical exam before (I think, anyway). I think it's fine. I will be upset if they tell me I shouldn't drink coffee for the rest of my life
Married: 4/5/13
"You know that place between sleep and awake,
that place where you can still remember dreaming?
That's where I will always love you.
That's where I'll be waiting."
~Peter Pan
*TW*
BFP #2: 10/29/17 MMC dx @ 9 weeks
BFP #3: 2/2/18 MC 2/7/18
BFP #4: 3/2/18 MC 3/9/18
RPL testing and hysteroscopy: all normal
BFP #5: 4/1/18 MMC dx @ 14 weeks ----> genetically normal girl
Hysteroscopy to remove scar tissue 9/28
BFP #6 11/5/18 EDD 7/20/19
BFP #7 12/8/2021 EDD 8/22/2022
I do have a midwife appointment booked for the end of the month, but the midwife is stationed in the big city and my husband and I are starting to question whether it'd be reasonable as I'd have to get to the city while in labour in the middle of winter.... so hopefully a local OB works out.
I'm trying to just say calm and positive, and not worry about people judging me for not having a doctor. I am jealous of everyone whose gotten to see their babies already, but I know my turn is soon!
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept
Congrats on finally getting a referral. I'm sure you will be able to see your little peanut soon!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Married: August 2013
Son: December 2018
Baby in heaven: February 2020, was due Sept