I let my kids watch TV and play on tablets, even at young ages. DD learned the ABCs from Sesame Street before she was 2, so anyone who wants to tell me all the screen time is rotting their brains can gtfo. Lord knows I grew up watching "the street" and my mom's soap operas every day, and I somehow manage to be a functioning adult.
You know those just-for-the-photos maternity gowns? You know, the long flowy ones with a split open skirt so a giant belly can be exposed while the future mother only shows a little arm or leg?
I think they are impractically hideous.
*zips up flame retardant suit*
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
You know those just-for-the-photos maternity gowns? You know, the long flowy ones with a split open skirt so a giant belly can be exposed while the future mother only shows a little arm or leg?
I think they are impractically hideous.
*zips up flame retardant suit*
Ooooh I hate those too. I think maternity photo shoots in general are weird. *ducks*
Same!! My ENITIRE family believes in “woo” and DH and I just don’t. The fam is *slowly* coming to the realization that people they love (us) can be successful and moral without religion.
Science is the best! Fact-based evidence por vida!
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@texas_t@hkom woo is pseudoscience. aka rubbing garlic on ear infections get rid of them, putting breastmilk in a child's eye gets rid of pink eye, amber teething necklaces, virgin gut theory
Idk how much of an UO this is ‘round these parts, but my UO today is that any baby clothes that don’t say something like “little man” or “daddy’s girl” are gender neutral.
I’m tired of people I know thinking gender neutral is limited to gray and yellow. Pink with kitties on it? Put a baby boy in it, why not? Green and brown with trucks? Girls can wear that too! I think the concern here is someone misgendering a baby? (Not that we know the baby’s gender until they can tell us)
If this boy is wearing a fairytale shirt with little red riding hood and cursive lettering of “happily ever after”, what if someone calls him a girl?!” (An example of a baby shirt I bought the other day. It’s cute and my baby will wear it no matter how they pee)
Also, baby clothes that do have gender specific wording are usually the worst.
@Jens_Hoes I’m with you. I don’t care what other people do, but as soon as they start getting too preachy about it or it starts to get dangerous (like not using actual medicine when they really should, or telling me medicines are “big pharma” and I shouldn’t trust them) I’m out.
@tumblewee Yeah, the baby gender thing is really ridiculous. I think people tend to get wayyy more insane about it with little boys for some reason. It's a baby - it has no concept of what it's wearing. If I have a boy I'm going to dress him in pink and purple flowers just to piss people off. And if someone accidentally calls him a girl then who cares? IT'S A BABY THEY DON'T EVEN KNOW IF THEY ARE A BOY OR A GIRL.
I only want a VBAC because abdominal surgery is no joke; has nothing to do with what's "natural" and you'd better believe I'm getting the epidural. My body may be capable of safely delivering a baby all on its own (jury's still out on that, didn't work the first time, plenty of women/babies might have just died 150 years ago instead), but if it is, it's capable of doing it regardless of whether or not I'm in agony.
@LLynde5 this! My sister does this to me all the time and I’m like “you can google that”. If I have the time I usually look it up for her because she’s my baby sister, but still. I don’t have some secret knowledge of the internet. Go out and find the info yourself!
@texas_t@hkom woo is pseudoscience. aka rubbing garlic on ear infections get rid of them, putting breastmilk in a child's eye gets rid of pink eye, amber teething necklaces, virgin gut theory
I generally go with science and medications.. that said my UO: I am an amber teething bracelet fan..eeek! I had one on DS ankle from about 3 months. Kept it inside his sleeper or socks (if he was sockless it came off) and at 18 months he has all his teeth (except second molars) and only had 1 day where teething was bad enough to need extra snuggles and tylenol. AND he had anywhere from 2 to 4 come up at once (never 2)! Maybe he was just a great teether but hell I am not about to take that bracelet off to find out!
I tried an amber necklace on my son for a hot second, but it made me nervous. He was just having a hell of a time teething and I was desperate. Ibuprofen for the win on that one.
@texas_t the necklaces sort of freak me out. But thats why I stuck a bracelet on his ankle. I'm all for medication when needed but I also know there are some risk especially with prolonged use. So if I can get through teething with one dose of tylenol I'll take it! ETA: no judgement on mamas who use medication to soothe. You do what you gotta do for everyone to get through teething!
... I’m tired of people I know thinking gender neutral is limited to gray and yellow.
Have you seen primary.com? It's basic, ungendered children's clothing. It's just simple colors without graphics or words. I will be asking for all of the gift cards when we get a registry started.
...Asking questions that can be solved with a simple google search. I mean why wait for the answer?
Haha, have you seen lmgtfy.com? It stands for Let Me Google That For You. Go to the site, enter a query, and it will generate a code that you share with the person who's too lazy to Google. It shows them how to search their own query and ends on the search landing page. Obviously it's more work than telling a person an obvious answer, but it's a great way to be helpful AND snarky at the same time.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
1) I believe in the God version of "woo" but not in the healing crystals, salt lamps, garlic-on-the-feet kind.
2) @echo-charlietango I love Primary clothes -- an added bonus is that they use super durable, good-quality material. My son's knees are blowing out of everything because he's a super-crawler who refuses to walk, and his Primary leggings are holding up the best. I've got a new order of 18-month pants and PJ's coming in the mail right now. They've got a super cute line of rainbow-striped pj's and I couldn't not.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@echo-charlietango I haven’t heard of that website, thanks for sharing! Lmgtfy sounds hilarious too. I might try that with my sister sometime. How do you always have cool resources/websites/etc for everything everyone on here mentions wanting to do or try or has a problem with? Lol, keep it up!
@PensiveCrayon Awesome! I haven't asked any friends yet about Primary because of my first-trimester secret keeping. It's good to hear that the quality is worth it too
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@echo-charlietango I haven’t heard of that website, thanks for sharing! Lmgtfy sounds hilarious too. I might try that with my sister sometime. How do you always have cool resources/websites/etc for everything everyone on here mentions wanting to do or try or has a problem with? Lol, keep it up!
I'm just a human compendium of knowledge! But really - I take learning new things seriously and soak up new experiences.
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Re: woo...I definitely believe in science and medication, but I do think some woo has merit. Idk if essential oils falls under woo? But oil of oregano cleared up about 7 or so warts I had on my fingers. My doctor had already tried freezing them, TWICE, and it didn't work, even the smallest one grew back. Ever since the oil of oregano (I took it in capsules) I haven't had a single wart.
@tumbleweed-1 I let my DSs hair grow out because he had pretty curls, so daycare would start throwing it in a pony tail on top of his head. We would do it too, kept the hair out of his eyes! Even when he was wearing "boy-ish" clothing, he'd get called a girl because of the ponytail. I'd just correct people and move on, maybe bitch to DH later about, "umm, how was it not obvious he's a boy?? He was wearing XX outfit".
@Jens_Hoes: so Mh's ex gf once put garlic IN HER VAGINA to get rid of a yeast infection. News flash, it didn't work.
@tumbleweed-1, @hkom; +1million to ugh gendered clothing (and all thing). we are solidly team green until like, the little human wants to tell us how they want to dress, what they want to play with, etc. \ @echo-charlietango thanks for the primary tip! I'm definitely going to be checking them out!!
I know "woo" and "religion" are often used interchangeably by some atheists... I don't believe in pseudoscience "woo" or theistic belief "woo," personally, but I tend to distance myself from other atheists who get nasty about the latter. It seems to be an UO among some of the other non-believers I've met, but I find people like Richard Dawkins and Sam Harris to be mostly pretty awful.
@kristah2 Hahaha...side-eyeing you. (with love, of course!)
I'll take the side eye! I know its an UO. and I was beyond skeptical.. how can a little bracelet help?! Maybe it can't and it's fluke but I've seen kids teeth.. I'm not going to see how it goes if I take it off!
I know "woo" and "religion" are often used interchangeably by some atheists...
Whew, nice save! Luckily I don't think you'd feel the need to distance yourself from me. While DH and I are certainly atheists, we're not super militant about it and we don't try to convert others. I still thank people for sending us Easter cards, yet scowl disapprovingly when church and state are not separated. *shrugs shoulders*
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
I am down with some of the “woo” stuff, now that I’m hearing examples. *ducks*
I don’t use essential oils to the point that I ignore science and science based medical care, but a lot of herb based medicinal stuff does have helpful properties. I make thieves vingear for all sorts of purposes. It’s apple cider vinegar that I add mint, lavender, sage, clove, garlic etc to and let it steep in my fridge for months. It comes out as a disinfectant/bug spray (bug repellent was the reason I first started making it).
I also like to learn about metaphysical properties associated with rocks/crystals but that’s mostly because I really like rocks and I look that up for fun. I also like astrology stuff for fun.
I know "woo" and "religion" are often used interchangeably by some atheists...
Whew, nice save! Luckily I don't think you'd feel the need to distance yourself from me. While DH and I are certainly atheists, we're not super militant about it and we don't try to convert others. I still thank people for sending us Easter cards, yet scowl disapprovingly when church and state are not separated. *shrugs shoulders*
Nah, nothing you've said gives me the impression you're one of THOSE atheists. Sounds like we're probably pretty similar in our approach. I appreciate when people want to pray for me (even if I don't think it will be effective) because I get that they're being thoughtful and kind; as long as nobody's demanding I live by their religious strictures or pushing for genuinely harmful and/or hateful policies based on their worldview, I'm happy to live and let live.
I'm with you all on the woo. I am firmly anti-woo.
@AGK2015@echo-charlietango I'm also not religious at all and neither is my husband, though I'd hope we aren't militant about it. It does piss me off when people use religion as an excuse to be controlling and/or jerks though, which seems like it's happened a lot throughout history. I admit I forbade the word god at our wedding ceremony. Maybe I am militant.
I’m late but maternity shoots are so embarrassing to me as a human, and you can’t get pain relief from a necklace unless it’s covered in lidocaine. Also even if there is a knot after every bead, it’s still a choking hazard. You can choke on one bead.
I admit I forbade the word god at our wedding ceremony. Maybe I am militant.
We didn’t have any gods in our wedding either! We wrote our own ceremony and were “married by the power of Greyskull”
NTNP since Dec 2012 | TTC since Jan 2016 Dx: Unspecified IF BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
All my unpopular opinions seem to be popular on this board, yay! I am also pretty anti woo, my DD loves her tablet and has learned SO MUCH from the little songs and mini shows she watches and I feel 0 guilt about her enjoying that for a certain amount of time each day, and I hate overly gendered clothing, especially with writing on it like little man or princess or what not.
I will say, and this is maybe an unpopular opinion, that in the quest for gender neutral clothing (which I support and I love) I do want to be very careful that gender neutral doesn't equal just shopping in the boys' section or defaulting to boy clothes, which I have noticed is the case sometimes. Of course I think it's so, so, so important that we don't teach our girls that robots and astronauts are boy things, but it's also very important not to teach them that traditionally feminine things like pink or dresses or whatever are lame. I was taught by society very early on that girly things were stupid and boy things were cool, and I think that's very damaging and makes it difficult for all kids to determine their true interests and likes. I like to approach things more from a gender rainbow perspective - try ALL the colors, wear the dresses, play with trucks, be a princess, be a soccer star, go to science camp, play with dolls, like...all of it, and treat all of it with equal enthusiasm, so the kid can figure out which of those things are truly fun and cool to them.
Re: UO 5/3/18
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I think they are impractically hideous.
*zips up flame retardant suit*
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Don't hate me
Science is the best! Fact-based evidence por vida!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
woo is pseudoscience.
aka rubbing garlic on ear infections get rid of them, putting breastmilk in a child's eye gets rid of pink eye, amber teething necklaces, virgin gut theory
I’m tired of people I know thinking gender neutral is limited to gray and yellow. Pink with kitties on it? Put a baby boy in it, why not? Green and brown with trucks? Girls can wear that too! I think the concern here is someone misgendering a baby? (Not that we know the baby’s gender until they can tell us)
If this boy is wearing a fairytale shirt with little red riding hood and cursive lettering of “happily ever after”, what if someone calls him a girl?!” (An example of a baby shirt I bought the other day. It’s cute and my baby will wear it no matter how they pee)
Also, baby clothes that do have gender specific wording are usually the worst.
(in general not just babies and pregnancy related)
Asking questions that can be solved with a simple google search. I mean why wait for the answer?
I had one on DS ankle from about 3 months. Kept it inside his sleeper or socks (if he was sockless it came off) and at 18 months he has all his teeth (except second molars) and only had 1 day where teething was bad enough to need extra snuggles and tylenol. AND he had anywhere from 2 to 4 come up at once (never 2)! Maybe he was just a great teether but hell I am not about to take that bracelet off to find out!
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
ETA: no judgement on mamas who use medication to soothe. You do what you gotta do for everyone to get through teething!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Have you seen primary.com? It's basic, ungendered children's clothing. It's just simple colors without graphics or words. I will be asking for all of the gift cards when we get a registry started.
Haha, have you seen lmgtfy.com? It stands for Let Me Google That For You. Go to the site, enter a query, and it will generate a code that you share with the person who's too lazy to Google. It shows them how to search their own query and ends on the search landing page. Obviously it's more work than telling a person an obvious answer, but it's a great way to be helpful AND snarky at the same time.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
2) @echo-charlietango I love Primary clothes -- an added bonus is that they use super durable, good-quality material. My son's knees are blowing out of everything because he's a super-crawler who refuses to walk, and his Primary leggings are holding up the best. I've got a new order of 18-month pants and PJ's coming in the mail right now. They've got a super cute line of rainbow-striped pj's and I couldn't not.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
@tumbleweed-1 I let my DSs hair grow out because he had pretty curls, so daycare would start throwing it in a pony tail on top of his head. We would do it too, kept the hair out of his eyes! Even when he was wearing "boy-ish" clothing, he'd get called a girl because of the ponytail. I'd just correct people and move on, maybe bitch to DH later about, "umm, how was it not obvious he's a boy?? He was wearing XX outfit".
DS2 due 12/12/18
@tumbleweed-1, @hkom; +1million to ugh gendered clothing (and all thing). we are solidly team green until like, the little human wants to tell us how they want to dress, what they want to play with, etc. \
@echo-charlietango thanks for the primary tip! I'm definitely going to be checking them out!!
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
I don’t use essential oils to the point that I ignore science and science based medical care, but a lot of herb based medicinal stuff does have helpful properties. I make thieves vingear for all sorts of purposes. It’s apple cider vinegar that I add mint, lavender, sage, clove, garlic etc to and let it steep in my fridge for months. It comes out as a disinfectant/bug spray (bug repellent was the reason I first started making it).
I also like to learn about metaphysical properties associated with rocks/crystals but that’s mostly because I really like rocks and I look that up for fun. I also like astrology stuff for fun.
@AGK2015 @echo-charlietango I'm also not religious at all and neither is my husband, though I'd hope we aren't militant about it. It does piss me off when people use religion as an excuse to be controlling and/or jerks though, which seems like it's happened a lot throughout history. I admit I forbade the word god at our wedding ceremony. Maybe I am militant.
Dx: Unspecified IF
BFP#1 Nov 2017 • Blighted Ovum + MMC • D&C at nine weeks
BFP#2 Apr 2018 • It's a boy! • Born 13 Dec 2018
I will say, and this is maybe an unpopular opinion, that in the quest for gender neutral clothing (which I support and I love) I do want to be very careful that gender neutral doesn't equal just shopping in the boys' section or defaulting to boy clothes, which I have noticed is the case sometimes. Of course I think it's so, so, so important that we don't teach our girls that robots and astronauts are boy things, but it's also very important not to teach them that traditionally feminine things like pink or dresses or whatever are lame. I was taught by society very early on that girly things were stupid and boy things were cool, and I think that's very damaging and makes it difficult for all kids to determine their true interests and likes. I like to approach things more from a gender rainbow perspective - try ALL the colors, wear the dresses, play with trucks, be a princess, be a soccer star, go to science camp, play with dolls, like...all of it, and treat all of it with equal enthusiasm, so the kid can figure out which of those things are truly fun and cool to them.