November 2018 Moms

Appointments and Updates 4/22 - 4/28

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Re: Appointments and Updates 4/22 - 4/28

  • @brookepdavis - I'm so sorry for your loss. Please do take care of yourself!


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  • @MojieJo - good luck at your appointment on Thursday! I'm sure everything is fine. I think a little anxiety is normal. Well, at least I hope it is since I have been feeling it too. 


  • @kamahina9 Thank you! 

    I'm sure everything will be fine.  I apparently just like to torture myself. :expressionless:
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  • @brookepdavis My heart is broken for you. Wishing you all the best. Take care of yourself❤
  • @brookepdavis I’m so sorry for your loss

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  • linz36linz36 member
    edited April 2018
    When is your appointment?
    It was yesterday. It was my first time with this OB who was highly recommended as I was just released from my RE. She didn’t shake my hand, touch me in any way or check the babies. I know it still early but geez give the Doppler a shot. Then she told me that I could only be her patient if I elected to have a c-section because I’m carrying twins. First my twins are fraternal and likely not sharing a placenta so there is no reason for me not to be given a chance to labor so long as they are both in the correct position. So I’m currentky looking for another OB. I left the appointment really sad and upset.

     How far along will you be?
    9w5d (she did change my due date based on the U/S)

     What is being addressed at your appointment?
    First visit

    Comments/questions/concerns :
    to all the twin mommas to be...is your doctor going to give you a trial of labor assuming everything is okay prior?

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  • @linz36 I’m so sorry you didn’t mesh with your OB! Mine will definitely let me labor as long as the babies position is correct. I think you just need to find a new OB who shares the same ideas as you. Of course there could be many reasons you might end up needing a csection but saying that’s the only way you can deliver right from the start is wrong. 

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  • @linz36 I'm so sorry to hear your appointment didn't go great :(  I do not blame you at all, I would look for a new OB as well.  That seems so bizarre to me.  If there's complications or issues further down the road I can see discussing a c-section, but at this point to say you have to agree to a c-section just seems crazy.  Granted I have no knowledge of carrying/birthing twins or anything.

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  • @linz36 so glad to hear you’re going to find another ob. some doctors are conservative, but I think being staunchly conservative isn’t always best. docs should always determine each person’s plan of care on a case by case basis. twin mom here too, and although my first appointment was with a midwife who won’t likely deliver my babies (i believe an ob-gyn has to in my practice) she did say that they will talk about my *options* for delivery at a later appointment, which leads me to believe that i will have the option to labor vaginally if the twins are in a good position and it’s deemed safe for me too.
  • @linz36 If you're not comfortable with your OB and her bedside manner, definitely shop around. Even if you do end up needing a C-sec for whatever reason, it's usually a red flag for me when a doctor just has a single SOP for every patient.


  • @linz36 - Wow, I'd be looking into a new OB too. Not just because of the poor bedside manner, but you should be given the option to have your twins vaginally (if all is well when the time comes with babies, positioning, etc). I've never heard of doctors not giving mom's the option from the first appointment unless there was a medical reason. 
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  • When is your appointment?
    Tomorrow afternoon, 4/27

    How far along will you be?
    12w3d

    What is being addressed at your appointment?
    NT scan and pap smear with OB.

    Comments/questions/concerns :

    With both of my other children, I received my NIPT results well in advance of going in for my NT scan. Even though they advised it taking up to two weeks, results seemed to be back much faster. I can't help but be nervous that something came back flagged and that is why they haven't uploaded them to my portal. I'm hoping they've just started new protocol where they discuss the results in conjunction with the NT, but I'm so ready for tomorrow. 
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  • @wannaflickone do you know if LabCorp ran your test by chance? You can actually sign up for their patient portal and it will at least tell you if they have sent your results to your OB yet. 


  • @middleschoolmommy Glad to hear your appt went well. 
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  • @lifesabeach85 I'm not sure. It is through one of the larger brands... materni-t or harmoni I believe. I wish I could remember what I signed!
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  • @middleschoolmommy - how are you getting nipt results back so fast? 

    @mockingjay1 - yay for perfect results!
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  • Congratulations @middleschoolmommy!!
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    DS2 born 11/2018
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  • @middleschoolmommy Wonderful news! You just convinced me, I just caved in and bought it :) So happy for you!! 
  • @middleschoolmommy wow! A girl! Congrats! 


  • @middleschoolmommy congratulations!!! So exciting!
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  • @middleschoolmommy - Sweet! Congrats!
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  • MojieJoMojieJo member
    edited April 2018
    I posted this in the ticker change thread, but felt like it belonged here, too...

    I'm feeling overwhelmed after my first OB appointment (different doctor than my last pregnancy).

    The blow-by-blow...

    Okay, so I love my new OB as a person (great guy, super down to earth, funny), but I'm questioning whether he's being ridiculously over-cautious about some things:

    * Insisting I stop taking my mood stabilizer cold turkey (because it's apparently exponentially more dangerous taking it along with my other psych meds, in spite of what my psychiatrist told me) and only begrudgingly letting me stay on my low dose anxiety medication and the medication I take for my fibromyalgia that I literally can't function without.  

    He said I have to at least try and see if I can soldier through, but coming off means having to slowly taper back up if I go back on it because it can cause a dangerous rash if you up your dose too fast.  So if I go off the deep-end, it's not a quick fix to get me back where I was.

    * No sex after 25 weeks (!) because of the risk of pre-term labor

    Never heard that one before, even with my twins and even he admits it's controversial.  I didn't ever have any pre-term labor at all with my twins.  There was nothing at all happening naturally at my 38w4d scheduled C/S.

    * Eat fish only once every 2 weeks (instead of once a week).  

    No budging, which is making me sad since the one date night my husband and I have each week involves going to a nice seafood restaurant we love.

    * See an MFM because I'm apparently super complicated and high risk even though I have less issues going on now than I did with my twins and I didn't see one then...  

    His reasons are that I have psych issues, I'm 35 (so advanced maternal agree), on multiple medications, have asthma and IBS (both mostly non-symptomatic for a long while) and had pre-eclampsia at the tail end of my last pregnancy, which are all valid points, but were also all true (except the pre-eclampsia) with my last pregnancy, plus that one was multiples!  But on the plus side, I'll get extra monitoring and ultrasounds, so that's good.

    So much thrown at me in that first appointment.  I went in happy and came out feeling like I was thrown into a hurricane.

    I really like him and his office and he comes very highly recommended, but I'm feeling really overwhelmed by all of these cautious things.

    I'm also terrified of how my psychiatrist is going to react to me not talking my mood stabilizer since my next appointment with him was supposed to address possibly upping the dose because of the increased blood volume of the second and third trimesters.  I can function without it, but I'm not a pleasant person to be around and my head gets very "loud" (crowded with thoughts).

    I'm sitting here freaking out and wondering if I'm making a mistake with this new guy as much as I love him, but my old OB nearly killed me during my C/S and was a complete asshole.  I know a lot of people are probably going to think "find someone new!" but I don't think there's anyone better for me to find and the only thing really getting me is the no-go on my mood stabilizer.  

    I'm not confrontational, so I'm afraid of dealing with both my psychiatrist (who I don't see again until July!) and my OB about the issue (and the MFM when I see him).

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    ● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C :'(  
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    ● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP!  BOY #3!
    ● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks :'(
    ● Natural #2:  BFP - M/C @ 5w5d :'(

  • CopperBoom86CopperBoom86 member
    edited April 2018
    When is your appointment? It was this morning, 04/27

    How far along will you be?
    I am 12w5d

    What is being addressed at your appointment?
    It was just a regular check in. I got to see the baby on the portable US and they drew my blood for the Panorama test. I'm about to die to know what this baby is! I literally have NO IDEA. So much for mother's intuition!

    Comments/questions/concerns?
    None, smooth sailing so far!
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  • @MojieJo sorry i have no wise words for you, but i couldn’t read and not comment. i’m sad that your new ob is putting you in such a tough spot. i don’t think you have to commit to changing OBs if you just want to talk to a few others to get a feel for whether you can find a better fit.
  • MojieJoMojieJo member
    edited April 2018
    @highsteaks Thank you for the sympathy.  I can't believe I'm in another OB predicament again after the last guy was such a fail and this guy is so well-recommended).  I might try another to see what I think.  I honestly don't know at this point. 

    The issue is that I'm basically required to see an OB recommended by my RE because of the issues around this being an IVF baby and them wanting to make sure I'm seeing someone they know can handle the things that come along with that.

    They gave me one other person's name (since I'd already tried and hated their third recommended practice the first time around), but this guy came highly recommended from both the sonographer who was a patient of his herself and local doctor reviews (4.5/5 as opposite to my first doctor's 2.25/5 rating and scary reviews).

    There's not a lot of options around here without driving further into a bigger city (we're an hour away from a very major city, but I can't do the travel necessary with twins who need watched during appointments).

    Who knows, maybe everything will be just fine in the end and I'm worrying needlessly.  It's hard to say with my anxiety making me second-guess everything that happens in my life.
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    ● IUI #3: BFN 
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    ● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP!  BOY #3!
    ● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks :'(
    ● Natural #2:  BFP - M/C @ 5w5d :'(

  • highsteakshighsteaks member
    edited April 2018
    @MojieJo if it gives you any fortitude/solace, i switched practitioners at 26 weeks pregnant last time because the first one was really giving me red flags. my travel time went from 10 minutes to 45 minutes (hospital from 5 min to 50min). but i was still glad i did it because i was so much happier with the new group.

    also, now i’m carrying twins! please stop in the multiples thread from time to time to bestow your wisdom  :)
  • @MojieJo I'm so sorry you had such a rough appointment! I don't have any experience with taking medications while pregnant, and I don't know what medication you're taking, but it does not seem safe for you to stop a mood stabilizer cold turkey. Even if you can function without it, you have to take care of yourself and your family too. It sounds like your doctor is more on the side of keeping baby healthy than keeping you healthy at the same time. It seems like a good idea to get a second opinion about your medication, but that's completely up to you. It's so hard to take more time to make more appointments! I would imagine that your psychiatrist would know which medications are safe during pregnancy too, so I guess you just have to go with your gut on this one. Hopefully some others who have taken mood medications during pregnancy can chime in here to give some better advice than I can give. 
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  • @highsteaks That does.  I think I'll see how this goes for a while (at least until after I see the MFM since they'll be a large part of my care), but I may end up trying another practice before this is over.

    I'll definitely check in now and then.  I don't know how wise I am, in spite of having gone through it myself, but I can try to be helpful! :lol:

    @offtoneverland You can stop taking it without tapering off (not like my anxiety medication, which had to be tapered down slowly to prevent withdrawal and seizures), but it's not ideal to just stop it, no.  I'm taking Lamictal, Klonopin and Trazodone.  He's making me stop the Lamictal.

    I agree that he's more concerned with baby than me.  Part of me feels that's as it should be (baby comes first), but I'm no good to my other kids and family if I'm a basketcase.  I'm hoping the MFM will give me a much needed second opinion and then if I still disagree, I can escalate to getting my psychiatrist involved.
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    ● IUI #1: BFN 
    ● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C :'(  
    ● IUI #3: BFN 
    ● IUI #4: BFN 
    ● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
    ● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP!  BOY #3!
    ● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks :'(
    ● Natural #2:  BFP - M/C @ 5w5d :'(

  • @MojieJo *hugs* oh girl I'm so sorry your appt didn't go great. Stopping meds can be so dangerous. I have no experience with any or the drugs you listed and have no real suggestions other than do what you feel is best and thinking of you and hope your MFM appt brings you a better idea.

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  • @lurvleybunchococonuts Oh, I know! 

    When I was younger (and desperate for reasons I don't want to get into because it wasn't a good time in my life and I don't want to think about it), I quit taking one of my old psych meds cold turkey and went through the worst, scariest withdrawal of my life. 

    Luckily no seizures, but I couldn't regulate my body temperature, had horrible, intractable nausea that even Zofran wouldn't touch...plus a whole slew of other issues.  Very bad idea.  I knew I shouldn't have done it, but didn't realize just how dangerous it was.

    Hoping for an appointment with the MFM soon.  The OB said they would fax them to call me to get me in for an appointment in the next 1-4 weeks.  Hopefully sooner reader than later.
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    ● IUI #1: BFN 
    ● IUI #2: BFP - early M/C :'(  
    ● IUI #3: BFN 
    ● IUI #4: BFN 
    ● IVF/FET #1 (2 transferred): BFP! TWINS!
    ● FET #2 (1 transferred): BFP!  BOY #3!
    ● Natural #1: BFP - M/C @ 8 weeks :'(
    ● Natural #2:  BFP - M/C @ 5w5d :'(

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