Sephora is the biggest scam in history. My kid blew $300 there because they sold her all these things she “needs.” I try to tell her that when I was her age I got wet and wild and splurged on covergirl.
That being said, I do shop at high end make up now. But I’m old and need too.
DD1 | Jan 2009 DD2 | June 2011 DS1 | Oct 2013 ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001) DS2 | June 2016 DS3 | Dec 2018
@Gwyneddlesliegrace Girl yes. I didn't start wearing high-end makeup until I was in my late 20s, because I could afford it and once you get to that age it really does make a difference. But I shop at Ulta because I find their employees to be much less snobby and in-your-face than Sephora, and unless I need to get color-matched for foundation I order everything online.
My UO is probably going to get some flames, but coffee effing sucks. I used to drink a ton of it in college, but my senior year I attempted to give up caffeine completely (LOL). It didn't work but I completely lost my taste for coffee and I absolutely cannot stand the smell or taste now, no mater how nice the coffee is or how much cream and sugar is in it. I also think a lot of my disdain comes from coffee culture as well. I rely on caffeine as much as the next person and my morning cup of tea is a ritual that I love, but people are OBSESSED with coffee and I just don't get it??
Sleep training AKA CIO. It saved my sanity and my marriage and I fully intend to do it with this baby, too -- probably even earlier. I'll escort myself out again
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@hkom I don't think we can be friends. I regularly drink six to eight cups of coffee a day at work when I'm not pregnant; it tastes amazing, it smells good, it keeps my chilly fingers warm, it's calorie-free (because I drink it black), and I need that chance to get up and stretch my legs with a walk to the kitchen every hour or so. Coffee shops were my go-to spots when I was a student (and when I was a single girl generally) just because I needed a comfortable work space with fewer distractions than home, and finding the exact right one was important because it was like a second home; I don't go as often as I used to, but I still appreciate a good cafe.
I'm only obsessed by coffee culture by proxy (my husband is a huge coffee nerd... roasts it, grows it, brews it a jillion different ways, cares about things like origin and roast method, famous roasters, the whole nine yards), but it strikes me as being pretty similar to craft beer culture or foodie culture... nerds gonna nerd out, you know?
@PensiveCrayon Same. I hate how judgey people are about this. Sleep training freaking saved us. My kid was NOT sleeping. It took us like 3 nights of Ferber and the results were incredible.
@hkom I love coffee but I’m sorta with you on the coffee culture thing. I like a fancy Starbucks every once in a while but mostly I just want a regular cup of coffee. It’s definitely for the caffeine but it’s also a comfort thing as well since my whole family are coffee drinkers and it’s just always part of gatherings and such.
@AGK2015 I mean I totally get it, but I still think people can be ridiculous about it. It just gets very tiring when I have to fend off the millionth "OMG YOU DONT DRINK COFFEE HOW DO YOU SURVIVEEEEE?!?!" or have them insist that I am somehow ignorant like "Oh, you just haven't had good coffee." My FIL still does this to me and I have known the man for 6 years.
My husband would probably call me a tea nerd. I like the ritual of making it, it makes me feel good, and, like you, it gives me a reason to take a short break at work. I just try not to be a snob about it. My husband drinks weak, store-brand, decaf tea, and while I occasionally tease him about it, I don't, like, judge him because of it because it ultimately doesn't bother me.
Those are the types of people that get to me. Foodies and beer people can get the same way and it just irks me (Don't even get me up on my craft-beer soapbox ). People would probably describe me as a mild foodie, but I'm not going to chide someone for eating at McDonald's, and pretend like I'm better than them because I prefer a $20 burger made from free-range grass-fed beef, you know? (For the record, I don't prefer the $20 burger. I love me some fast food and I am not ashamed).
Anyway. Rant over. This is obviously a huge pet peeve of mine haha.
*Edit* @rosebud332 I totally get the comfort and social aspect of it! I just tire of getting verbally assaulted when I turn down a cup of coffee haha. I just find it rude. People can get the same way with alcohol, which is a whole other can of worms. "You don't drink?!?! How is that even possible?!" My brother is an alcoholic and when he is successfully maintaining his sobriety, someone who is unaware of his situation offering him a drink is one of his biggest anxieties because he is afraid of that reaction. I've seen people do that (to people other than my brother) and it just boils my blood. Coffee is obviously less taboo, but still. Maybe I'm on a medication that I can't take with caffeine and I am uncomfortable discussing it, or maybe I'm pregnant and not drinking caffeine and I don't want to tell you I'm pregnant, or maaayyybe I just don't like coffee!! Just let me live!!
UO: I think makeup in general is kind of silly. In order to hide your skin's imperfections, you slather a bunch of crap on your skin, which if not properly dealt with will cause additional blemishes, which will need to be concealed by more crap.
Definitely appreciate the artistry of some of it and I know a lot of folks are able to use it to say something about their personalities, but for the rest of us, who only wear it in order to adhere to general expectations of presentableness... NOPE.
@hkom Fair enough. I still think you're a little crazy, because coffee is objectively the most delicious beverage in the history of ever, but as a bona fide potato hater, I get where you're coming from. Trying a different brand of potato chips isn't going to "fix" me; I'm not gonna try to sell you on a nice Ethiopian roasted in the Scandinavian style by third wave wunderkind Tim Wendelboe
Have no idea if this is unpopular or not, but I think the major social media sites (Twitter and Facebook) are bad for society. From the data mining to the bots and rapid spread of disinformation, to just the fact that I don't want to be friends with every person I've ever met or hear the random thoughts of everyone on the planet. If they both shut down tomorrow I'd be thrilled and I think people would be happier and less misinformed.
I do like limited social media (my closet 30 friends and I have slack, which is awesome, and I like communities like the Bump where you have something in common, like pregnancy) but the big social media giants can go away like, now.
@hkom ; I’m with you. I LOVE tea and am having a really difficult time without my normal routine (cup {or two} in the morning and at bed time. I’ve never been able to drink coffee and enjoy it.
My UO is that I’m trying to be caffeine free for my pregnancy. I know that it’s reported <200mg a day is said to be fine, but I’m just choosing to avoid it altogether.
I’m only 4 weeks {almost 5! Yay} so we’ll see how I feel later down the line, because I really am missing my tea!
@nurse_good Good for you!! I've cut out all of the other no-nos (one of my favorite things is cold lunchmeat, especially bologna {I know}, just straight from the deli bag - it's been a tough 7 weeks), but I honestly probably should try harder with the caffeine. I've definitely cut back and do manage some days without it, but I still drink a cup to a cup and a half on a regular basis.
@maureenmce Hang on back up. You can do Slack for personal groups of people? Does it cost money or do you just sign up like any other social media? I used Slack when I worked for Uproxx and loved it. I have a group of mom friends from a TTGP break-off group that keep in touch mostly via Messenger but also through a Facebook group, but if we could move to Slack that would be almost better. I would just have to convince them all
But really, I mostly agree with your UO. I did a social media break for Lent and it made me worry a lot less about my son's development and focus on enjoying him. That said, I do use Facebook to keep in touch with aforementioned TTGP friends, as well as the D16 break-off group. And I like the Groups feature. I'm part of a huge sleep group that is great for bouncing questions off of.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I agree on the social media thing. I think it's largely poison. The main reason I keep Facebook is because my husband works remotely during the summer for a few days a week, and the internet is the only way to communicate, so we both keep it around so we can message each other. I also like to use it to keep up with people I do care about, especially family that live far away. Not that I wouldn't otherwise, but it just makes it easier. Facebook hates me because I have relatively few friends and don't update my profile enough for them, I guess. My timeline actually completely stopped updating last year and I would get notifications that it would work again if I added more friends. I was so pissed I almost cut the cord right then and there. I'm actually ready to get rid of Twitter I think. It adds absolutely nothing to my life.
I just joined twitter in 2016 to keep tabs on the election. I read it in small doses, so that I don't get too rage-y. I don't really understand the point.
I occasionally hop on Twitter to get news from people who are actually involved in news events that aren't necessarily well-covered (I found it was really critical in upping my understanding of what things looked like on the ground for things like protestors in Ferguson or Standing Rock), but I don't use it other than that.
Facebook on the other hand... the Groups feature is EVERYTHING. It's how I stay in touch with my old A16 regs, and there are a lot of good resources in local groups that I'm glad I have. I'm less keen on their Newsfeed; I don't usually see a whole lot of personal updates from family and friends, and it feels like I spend way more time than I'd like having to really curate and fact check the news that I get from it. Not to mention what feels like the added burden of deciding whether to push back on the (often fake) news other people promulgate on it (because how do you just scroll on past when somebody's actively promoting misinformation, you know?). I'd rather stick to getting my news directly from actual news sources.
@PensiveCrayon Yes! You can totally do small group slack. Unfortunately, I don't know the details on how because our brilliant, tech/social media savvy friend set it up for us (and she does run some slacks for her work, so I'm not sure if she had to pay or not.) But it is AMAZING. Once I had a way to stay in touch with all my closest friends I was like, well what the heck am I using Facebook for? (Though, like others, I do have my old BMB group via facebook.)
But yeah, overall, I just like the small version social media, not the big behemoths, because they are ripe for abuse/spam/propaganda and just also I think the anonymity makes people horrible. Like there was some funny tweet that went viral the other day about a little girl at a dentist office who only wanted a female dentist and the family who tweeted it is getting DEATH threats. People are more nuts on social media than they would be otherwise, I think.
@AGK2015 It is such a burden. My aunt and brother both post the craziest stuff and I feel like I have to say something, but also it just makes me want to unfollow them because I'd rather not ruin my day by knowing the weird/awful stuff they think.
@kadeephd I'll raise you one "I think all gender - but really sex - reveal parties are too much". I guess I'm just jealous no-one has ever thrown a party for my vagina.
@kadeephd and @ay-eff totally with you guys. Just had a big fb debate about why "gender reveal" (like you said, problematic in itself) parties are detrimental to children and any who doesn't subscribe to the gender binary. Strongly held uo for me
@kadeephd and @ay-eff totally with you guys. Just had a big fb debate about why "gender reveal" (like you said, problematic in itself) parties are detrimental to children and any who doesn't subscribe to the gender binary. Strongly held uo for me
Please ignore my ineptness at quoting your response, morgantu. I'm on the mobile app and it won't let me fix it and type outside of the gray box.
I'm firmly on this wagon as well. They are definitely problematic, but I also just think they are ridiculous in general.
If people want to do (non elaborate) gender reveals I don't mind too much (it's not for me, but whatever floats your boat) BUT I find it super weird when it's phrased like, "will it be trucks or tiaras? Football or fairy princesses?" Like...kids, even at 1 or 2 are so much more individualized and complex than that! My daughter is *obsessed* with planes, trucks, trains, helicopters - basically anything that's fast and loud. She also loves pink and purple and wearing my necklaces. She has no interest in baby dolls, climbs like a monkey and is fearless, but she also *hates* if her clothes get dirty and is extremely picky about her "look." Kids are so much more than gender and it's so weird how determinative people think it will be re: interests or personality. Kids are kids. Babies are babies. They'll like what they like and be who they'll be, gender aside.
my biggest issue with the gender reveal stuff is that nobody really cares. Like, even my parents? It’s not really going to be life-altering information. DH and I are the only ones who care, so I’m not going to make a spectacle of it.
Yes to the last two sentiments. Most people just really don't care. The people that do care will be perfectly happy if you just tell them in a normal way. Like I'm literally going say to my parents "it's a boy" or "it's a girl." I did the same when I told them I was pregnant and will do it again when I tell everyone else. "Guess what? I'm pregnant! " That's all!
BUT, like @maureenmce said, some people seriously go overboard. We will probably find out the sex, but we aren't going to tell very many people because I don't want people giving me a bunch of crap covered in huge sparkly pink bows or monster trucks and tools and footballs.
I mean at the end of the day, you do you as long as your not hurting anyone, but I'm still going to think youre extra and roll my eyes at you
Gender expectations are 1/2 of the reason we don't find out the baby's sex. For me preparing for a baby has very little to do with how the baby pees. If I have a daughter she will 100% wear my son's hand me downs.
I guess that is my UO I hate when people say that they have to find out the sex to prepare. Im all about finding out if you want to find out but there is really nothing to prepare based on how they pee.
Sleep training AKA CIO. It saved my sanity and my marriage and I fully intend to do it with this baby, too -- probably even earlier. I'll escort myself out again
Ditto. We waited waaayyyy too long. My son was 14 mos before he quit waking up 2 times a night crying to eat. My doctor actually advised it because I told him we’d tried gentler methods and it just pissed him off more. 3 days of CIO and he was finally sleeping through the night!! Totally doing it earlier this time around!
The whole gender thing in all aspects is annoying. I get super annoyed when I am scanning and all they want to know is if it’s a boy or a girl. I had someone bring their screaming child in and she announces “I’ll have my husband leave with him as soon as you tell us the gender.” uhm. No. That’s not how it works. Your screaming child can leave now. I need to be able to concentrate on making sure your baby, you know, has its arms and legs and stuff before I even think about caring if it’s a boy or girl.
FYI- don’t push/ask your sonographer to tell you the gender right away. And don’t ask them to call a cake place/your mom/best friend and tell them the gender. I can almost promise your baby’s legs will be closed until the absolute very end, or possibly the whole time. Flame away.
Re: UO 4/19
That being said, I do shop at high end make up now. But I’m old and need too.
DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
My UO is probably going to get some flames, but coffee effing sucks. I used to drink a ton of it in college, but my senior year I attempted to give up caffeine completely (LOL). It didn't work but I completely lost my taste for coffee and I absolutely cannot stand the smell or taste now, no mater how nice the coffee is or how much cream and sugar is in it. I also think a lot of my disdain comes from coffee culture as well. I rely on caffeine as much as the next person and my morning cup of tea is a ritual that I love, but people are OBSESSED with coffee and I just don't get it??
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I'm only obsessed by coffee culture by proxy (my husband is a huge coffee nerd... roasts it, grows it, brews it a jillion different ways, cares about things like origin and roast method, famous roasters, the whole nine yards), but it strikes me as being pretty similar to craft beer culture or foodie culture... nerds gonna nerd out, you know?
@hkom I love coffee but I’m sorta with you on the coffee culture thing. I like a fancy Starbucks every once in a while but mostly I just want a regular cup of coffee. It’s definitely for the caffeine but it’s also a comfort thing as well since my whole family are coffee drinkers and it’s just always part of gatherings and such.
My husband would probably call me a tea nerd. I like the ritual of making it, it makes me feel good, and, like you, it gives me a reason to take a short break at work. I just try not to be a snob about it. My husband drinks weak, store-brand, decaf tea, and while I occasionally tease him about it, I don't, like, judge him because of it because it ultimately doesn't bother me.
Those are the types of people that get to me. Foodies and beer people can get the same way and it just irks me (Don't even get me up on my craft-beer soapbox ). People would probably describe me as a mild foodie, but I'm not going to chide someone for eating at McDonald's, and pretend like I'm better than them because I prefer a $20 burger made from free-range grass-fed beef, you know? (For the record, I don't prefer the $20 burger. I love me some fast food and I am not ashamed).
Anyway. Rant over. This is obviously a huge pet peeve of mine haha.
*Edit* @rosebud332 I totally get the comfort and social aspect of it! I just tire of getting verbally assaulted when I turn down a cup of coffee haha. I just find it rude. People can get the same way with alcohol, which is a whole other can of worms. "You don't drink?!?! How is that even possible?!" My brother is an alcoholic and when he is successfully maintaining his sobriety, someone who is unaware of his situation offering him a drink is one of his biggest anxieties because he is afraid of that reaction. I've seen people do that (to people other than my brother) and it just boils my blood. Coffee is obviously less taboo, but still. Maybe I'm on a medication that I can't take with caffeine and I am uncomfortable discussing it, or maybe I'm pregnant and not drinking caffeine and I don't want to tell you I'm pregnant, or maaayyybe I just don't like coffee!! Just let me live!!
OK I REALLY need to stop rambling now.
Definitely appreciate the artistry of some of it and I know a lot of folks are able to use it to say something about their personalities, but for the rest of us, who only wear it in order to adhere to general expectations of presentableness... NOPE.
I said it. Don't kill me!
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*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
I do like limited social media (my closet 30 friends and I have slack, which is awesome, and I like communities like the Bump where you have something in common, like pregnancy) but the big social media giants can go away like, now.
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DD2 | June 2011
DS1 | Oct 2013
ADD3 | Oct 2014 (April 2001)
DS2 | June 2016
DS3 | Dec 2018
Due with baby blob August 2021
My UO is that I’m trying to be caffeine free for my pregnancy. I know that it’s reported <200mg a day is said to be fine, but I’m just choosing to avoid it altogether.
I’m only 4 weeks {almost 5! Yay} so we’ll see how I feel later down the line, because I really am missing my tea!
Our biggest thing so far so far has been checking the internal temperatures of meats we cook.
But really, I mostly agree with your UO. I did a social media break for Lent and it made me worry a lot less about my son's development and focus on enjoying him. That said, I do use Facebook to keep in touch with aforementioned TTGP friends, as well as the D16 break-off group. And I like the Groups feature. I'm part of a huge sleep group that is great for bouncing questions off of.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Facebook on the other hand... the Groups feature is EVERYTHING. It's how I stay in touch with my old A16 regs, and there are a lot of good resources in local groups that I'm glad I have. I'm less keen on their Newsfeed; I don't usually see a whole lot of personal updates from family and friends, and it feels like I spend way more time than I'd like having to really curate and fact check the news that I get from it. Not to mention what feels like the added burden of deciding whether to push back on the (often fake) news other people promulgate on it (because how do you just scroll on past when somebody's actively promoting misinformation, you know?). I'd rather stick to getting my news directly from actual news sources.
But yeah, overall, I just like the small version social media, not the big behemoths, because they are ripe for abuse/spam/propaganda and just also I think the anonymity makes people horrible. Like there was some funny tweet that went viral the other day about a little girl at a dentist office who only wanted a female dentist and the family who tweeted it is getting DEATH threats. People are more nuts on social media than they would be otherwise, I think.
@AGK2015 It is such a burden. My aunt and brother both post the craziest stuff and I feel like I have to say something, but also it just makes me want to unfollow them because I'd rather not ruin my day by knowing the weird/awful stuff they think.
BUT, like @maureenmce said, some people seriously go overboard. We will probably find out the sex, but we aren't going to tell very many people because I don't want people giving me a bunch of crap covered in huge sparkly pink bows or monster trucks and tools and footballs.
I mean at the end of the day, you do you as long as your not hurting anyone, but I'm still going to think youre extra and roll my eyes at you
I guess that is my UO I hate when people say that they have to find out the sex to prepare. Im all about finding out if you want to find out but there is really nothing to prepare based on how they pee.
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I said it.
FYI- don’t push/ask your sonographer to tell you the gender right away. And don’t ask them to call a cake place/your mom/best friend and tell them the gender. I can almost promise your baby’s legs will be closed until the absolute very end, or possibly the whole time. Flame away.