December 2018 Moms

UO 4/19

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  • Sephora is the biggest scam in history. My kid blew $300 there because they sold her all these things she “needs.” I try to tell her that when I was her age I got wet and wild and splurged on covergirl. 

    That being said, I do shop at high end make up now. But I’m old and need too. 

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    @Gwyneddlesliegrace  Girl yes.  I didn't start wearing high-end makeup until I was in my late 20s, because I could afford it and once you get to that age it really does make a difference.  But I shop at Ulta because I find their employees to be much less snobby and in-your-face than Sephora, and unless I need to get color-matched for foundation I order everything online.

    My UO is probably going to get some flames, but coffee effing sucks.  I used to drink a ton of it in college, but my senior year I attempted to give up caffeine completely (LOL).  It didn't work but I completely lost my taste for coffee and I absolutely cannot stand the smell or taste now, no mater how nice the coffee is or how much cream and sugar is in it.  I also think a lot of my disdain comes from coffee culture as well.  I rely on caffeine as much as the next person and my morning cup of tea is a ritual that I love, but people are OBSESSED with coffee and I just don't get it??





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  • @hkom I don't think we can be friends.  I regularly drink six to eight cups of coffee a day at work when I'm not pregnant; it tastes amazing, it smells good, it keeps my chilly fingers warm, it's calorie-free (because I drink it black), and I need that chance to get up and stretch my legs with a walk to the kitchen every hour or so. Coffee shops were my go-to spots when I was a student (and when I was a single girl generally) just because I needed a comfortable work space with fewer distractions than home, and finding the exact right one was important because it was like a second home; I don't go as often as I used to, but I still appreciate a good cafe.

    I'm only obsessed by coffee culture by proxy (my husband is a huge coffee nerd... roasts it, grows it, brews it a jillion different ways, cares about things like origin and roast method, famous roasters, the whole nine yards), but it strikes me as being pretty similar to craft beer culture or foodie culture... nerds gonna nerd out, you know?
  • @hkom I am with you. Coffee is gross. I have never been able to drink it or smell it. 
  • @PensiveCrayon Same. I hate how judgey people are about this. Sleep training freaking saved us. My kid was NOT sleeping. It took us like 3 nights of Ferber and the results were incredible. 

    @hkom I love coffee but I’m sorta with you on the coffee culture thing. I like a fancy Starbucks every once in a while but mostly I just want a regular cup of coffee. It’s definitely for the caffeine but it’s also a comfort thing as well since my whole family are coffee drinkers and it’s just always part of gatherings and such.
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    edited April 2018
    @AGK2015 I mean I totally get it, but I still think people can be ridiculous about it.  It just gets very tiring when I have to fend off the millionth "OMG YOU DONT DRINK COFFEE HOW DO YOU SURVIVEEEEE?!?!" or have them insist that I am somehow ignorant like "Oh, you just haven't had good coffee."  My FIL still does this to me and I have known the man for 6 years. 

    My husband would probably call me a tea nerd.  I like the ritual of making it, it makes me feel good, and, like you, it gives me a reason to take a short break at work.  I just try not to be a snob about it.  My husband drinks weak, store-brand, decaf tea, and while I occasionally tease him about it, I don't, like, judge him because of it because it ultimately doesn't bother me. 

    Those are the types of people that get to me.  Foodies and beer people can get the same way and it just irks me (Don't even get me up on my craft-beer soapbox ;)  ).  People would probably describe me as a mild foodie, but I'm not going to chide someone for eating at McDonald's, and pretend like I'm better than them because I prefer a $20 burger made from free-range grass-fed beef, you know?  (For the record, I don't prefer the $20 burger.  I love me some fast food and I am not ashamed).  

    Anyway.  Rant over.  This is obviously a huge pet peeve of mine haha.

    *Edit*  @rosebud332 I totally get the comfort and social aspect of it!  I just tire of getting verbally assaulted when I turn down a cup of coffee haha.  I just find it rude.  People can get the same way with alcohol, which is a whole other can of worms.  "You don't drink?!?! How is that even possible?!"  My brother is an alcoholic and when he is successfully maintaining his sobriety, someone who is unaware of his situation offering him a drink is one of his biggest anxieties because he is afraid of that reaction.  I've seen people do that (to people other than my brother) and it just boils my blood.  Coffee is obviously less taboo, but still.  Maybe I'm on a medication that I can't take with caffeine and I am uncomfortable discussing it, or maybe I'm pregnant and not drinking caffeine and I don't want to tell you I'm pregnant, or maaayyybe I just don't like coffee!!  Just let me live!!

    OK I REALLY need to stop rambling now.





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  • UO: I think makeup in general is kind of silly. In order to hide your skin's imperfections, you slather a bunch of crap on your skin, which if not properly dealt with will cause additional blemishes, which will need to be concealed by more crap. 

    Definitely appreciate the artistry of some of it and I know a lot of folks are able to use it to say something about their personalities, but for the rest of us, who only wear it in order to adhere to general expectations of presentableness... NOPE. 
  • @hkom Fair enough.  I still think you're a little crazy, because coffee is objectively the most delicious beverage in the history of ever, but as a bona fide potato hater, I get where you're coming from. Trying a different brand of potato chips isn't going to "fix" me; I'm not gonna try to sell you on a nice Ethiopian roasted in the Scandinavian style by third wave wunderkind Tim Wendelboe ;) 
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    @NickNack11 My husband agrees with you!  He's a Rihanna man.





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    edited April 2018
    Unpopular opinion: Beyonce is overrated.

    I said it. Don't kill me!




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  • Have no idea if this is unpopular or not, but I think the major social media sites (Twitter and Facebook) are bad for society. From the data mining to the bots and rapid spread of disinformation, to just the fact that I don't want to be friends with every person I've ever met or  hear the random thoughts of everyone on the planet. If they both shut down tomorrow I'd be thrilled and I think people would be happier and less misinformed.

    I do like limited social media (my closet 30 friends and I have slack, which is awesome, and I like communities like the Bump where you have something in common, like pregnancy) but the big social media giants can go away like, now.
  • Unpopular opinion: Beyonce is overrated.

    I said it. Don't kill me!

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  • @hkom ; I’m with you.  I LOVE tea and am having a really difficult time without my normal routine (cup {or two} in the morning and at bed time.  I’ve never been able to drink coffee and enjoy it.  

    My UO is that I’m trying to be caffeine free for my pregnancy.  I know that it’s reported <200mg a day is said to be fine, but I’m just choosing to avoid it altogether.

    I’m only 4 weeks {almost 5!  Yay} so we’ll see how I feel later down the line, because I really am missing my tea!
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    @nurse_good Good for you!! I've cut out all of the other no-nos (one of my favorite things is cold lunchmeat, especially bologna {I know}, just straight from the deli bag - it's been a tough 7 weeks), but I honestly probably should try harder with the caffeine. I've definitely cut back and do manage some days without it, but I still drink a cup to a cup and a half on a regular basis.





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  • @hkom oh my god I LOVE bologna!  I hadn’t even thought about not having it yet.  I’m not huge into deli meats, but I love me a bologna sandwich!  

    Our biggest thing so far so far has been checking the internal temperatures of meats we cook. 
  • @maureenmce Hang on back up. You can do Slack for personal groups of people? Does it cost money or do you just sign up like any other social media? I used Slack when I worked for Uproxx and loved it. I have a group of mom friends from a TTGP break-off group that keep in touch mostly via Messenger but also through a Facebook group, but if we could move to Slack that would be almost better. I would just have to convince them all ;)

    But really, I mostly agree with your UO. I did a social media break for Lent and it made me worry a lot less about my son's development and focus on enjoying him. That said, I do use Facebook to keep in touch with aforementioned TTGP friends, as well as the D16 break-off group. And I like the Groups feature. I'm part of a huge sleep group that is great for bouncing questions off of.
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  • ^WSS. 95% of my facebook use is in groups that started on thenest/thebump.
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    I agree on the social media thing.  I think it's largely poison.  The main reason I keep Facebook is because my husband works remotely during the summer for a few days a week, and the internet is the only way to communicate, so we both keep it around so we can message each other.  I also like to use it to keep up with people I do care about, especially family that live far away.  Not that I wouldn't otherwise, but it just makes it easier.  Facebook hates me because I have relatively few friends and don't update my profile enough for them, I guess.  My timeline actually completely stopped updating last year and I would get notifications that it would work again if I added more friends.  I was so pissed I almost cut the cord right then and there.  I'm actually ready to get rid of Twitter I think.  It adds absolutely nothing to my life.  





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  • I just joined twitter in 2016 to keep tabs on the election. I read it in small doses, so that I don't get too rage-y. I don't really understand the point. 
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  • I occasionally hop on Twitter to get news from people who are actually involved in news events that aren't necessarily well-covered (I found it was really critical in upping my understanding of what things looked like on the ground for things like protestors in Ferguson or Standing Rock), but I don't use it other than that. 

    Facebook on the other hand... the Groups feature is EVERYTHING. It's how I stay in touch with my old A16 regs, and there are a lot of good resources in local groups that I'm glad I have. I'm less keen on their Newsfeed; I don't usually see a whole lot of personal updates from family and friends, and it feels like I spend way more time than I'd like having to really curate and fact check the news that I get from it. Not to mention what feels like the added burden of deciding whether to push back on the (often fake) news other people promulgate on it (because how do you just scroll on past when somebody's actively promoting misinformation, you know?). I'd rather stick to getting my news directly from actual news sources.
  • @PensiveCrayon Yes! You can totally do small group slack. Unfortunately, I don't know the details on how because our brilliant, tech/social media savvy friend set it up for us (and she does run some slacks for her work, so I'm not sure if she had to pay or not.) But it is AMAZING. Once I had a way to stay in touch with all my closest friends I was like, well what the heck am I using Facebook for? (Though, like others, I do have my old BMB group via facebook.)

    But yeah, overall, I just like the small version social media, not the big behemoths, because they are ripe for abuse/spam/propaganda and just also I think the anonymity makes people horrible. Like there was some funny tweet that went viral the other day about a little girl at a dentist office who only wanted a female dentist and the family who tweeted it is getting DEATH threats. People are more nuts on social media than they would be otherwise, I think. 

    @AGK2015 It is such a burden. My aunt and brother both post the craziest stuff and I feel like I have to say something, but also it just makes me want to unfollow them because I'd rather not ruin my day by knowing the weird/awful stuff they think.
  • @ay-eff True!  I guess that's part of it for me.  It feels like pigeonholing your kid before they are even born.

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  • @kadeephd and @ay-eff totally with you guys. Just had a big fb debate about why "gender reveal" (like you said, problematic in itself) parties are detrimental to children and any who doesn't subscribe to the gender binary. Strongly held uo for me 
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    morgantu said:
    @kadeephd and @ay-eff totally with you guys. Just had a big fb debate about why "gender reveal" (like you said, problematic in itself) parties are detrimental to children and any who doesn't subscribe to the gender binary. Strongly held uo for me 

    Please ignore my ineptness at quoting your response, morgantu. I'm on the mobile app and it won't let me fix it and type outside of the gray box. 

    I'm firmly on this wagon as well.  They are definitely problematic, but I also just think they are ridiculous in general.  





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  • hkomhkom member
    edited April 2018
    Yes to the last two sentiments.  Most people just really don't care.  The people that do care will be perfectly happy if you just tell them in a normal way.  Like I'm literally going say to my parents "it's a boy" or "it's a girl." I did the same when I told them I was pregnant and will do it again when I tell everyone else.  "Guess what?  I'm pregnant! " That's all! 

    BUT, like @maureenmce said, some people seriously go overboard.  We will probably find out the sex,  but we aren't going to tell very many people because I don't want people giving me a bunch of crap covered in huge sparkly pink bows or monster trucks and tools and footballs. 

    I mean at the end of the day, you do you as long as your not hurting anyone,  but I'm still going to think youre extra and roll my eyes at you 







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  • Gender expectations are 1/2 of the reason we don't find out the baby's sex. For me preparing for a baby has very little to do with how the baby pees. If I have a daughter she will 100% wear my son's hand me downs. 

    I guess that is my UO I hate when people say that they have to find out the sex to prepare. Im all about finding out if you want to find out but there is really nothing to prepare based on how they pee. 
  • @mckcak23 THANK YOU. If I give you my husband’s phone number could you please tell him this? He won’t listen to me. 
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  • @NickNack11 I 100% agree with you! I cringed when people started calling Coachella, Beychella last weekend!!!
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  • @mittenlove86 yessss it makes me gag!
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  • Sleep training AKA CIO. It saved my sanity and my marriage and I fully intend to do it with this baby, too -- probably even earlier. I'll escort myself out again ;)
    Ditto. We waited waaayyyy too long. My son was 14 mos before he quit waking up 2 times a night crying to eat. My doctor actually advised it because I told him we’d tried gentler methods and it just pissed him off more. 3 days of CIO and he was finally sleeping through the night!! Totally doing it earlier this time around!
  • I hate pedicures.

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