I've been MIA but now we're finally back from Vega$ and I have my computer back! So here's a big update on my life, copied over from the Wednesday Ticker Change thread. (Sorry for the cross-post!)
I had a v. rough morning. I took #1 in for a follow-up developmental evaluation and they're referring him out for PT and OT, and we're holding off on speech therapy until his next follow-up in two months. (Honestly though, I'm not super concerned about his speech, but whatever.) After that we had his 15-month appointment and it was taking forever and he was being squirrelly, and I was already feeling super bummed about the referrals because (and I know this is not logical but it's honestly how I feel) I keep wondering where I went wrong and dwelling on how bad of a parent I am that he's not hitting his milestones. And I'm also super sleep-deprived because of our entire day of travel yesterday and getting in at 10:30, so I sort of lost it on him then tried to sit down in a chair that wasn't there. In front of everyone. Fell on my bum, started crying, people came over, was examined even though I told them it literally didn't hurt after the initial fall, they took me over to mental health after the pediatrician appointment to make sure everything is okay. Honestly I just need a long nap. #1 fell asleep on the ride home, of course, so I need to wait until his second nap this afternoon to finally lie down. Luckily he's very independent at home, so he's currently wreaking havoc all over the house while I catch up here and finally get my coffee. Feeling much better now. He was in PT for torticollis when he was younger and I actually loved the additional help, so it will be good to have him in again.
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@PensiveCrayon I know you probably know this, but I'm gonna say it anyway: you're not a bad parent. Parenting is HARD, but you're doing an incredible job, and whatever challenges #1 has are not a reflection on you The mark of a great mom is one who makes opportunities for her children, and does her level best to provide them with the tools they need to thrive; if you were anything short of excellent, you wouldn't have been there in the first place.
@PensiveCrayon I'm so sorry you had such a rough morning! And everything is so much harder with pregnancy hormones. But please don't second guess your parenting skills - you sound like a *wonderful* parent. Lots of kids with wonderful parents who are doing a great job don't hit milestones on time. It's not your fault!
@PensiveCrayon I am so sorry for the day you have had. It sounds like a draining wreck. We had to have EI screenings for my son and while I am sure we all have those thoughts of what could I have done differently the important thing is that you are getting the interventions! You sounds like a fantastic mother to me!
I have my first appointment tonight and my husband just got an emergency at work and is going to have to work all night. While yes I normally like having him at appointments because with my complicated medical history it is good to have another set of ears mostly it means that I have to wrangle my 2 year old during the appointment. While most of the time I love not having family close by sometimes it could be helpful.
@PensiveCrayon geez, that's quite a day. I hope you are able to get some rest and feel some peace, as PPs said, you are already giving your child so many opportunities and that will encourage them to grow in the way that's just right for them!
@texas_t SAME!! I have been absolutely useless the past week or two and I cannot seem to shake it. The weather is finally starting to get better here too which is making it much worse.
Extremely random - last night in the grocery store I found myself tearing up to Katy Perry's "Firework." Fun fact - I HATE that song, haha. Wtf hormones?
There are so many threads already- it was hard for me to find the randoms. I just scheduled my first appointment today! It’s getting real. They couldn’t find a time until mid May. Then I said it was for OB and i was already 6 weeks, so that opened up an appointment in April. I know the OB I picked on a friend/professional level so this will be a surprise when she sees my appointment.
I'm using the same OB that delivered my son. I'm a little bit annoyed because when I was pregnant in 2014/2015, he was the only OB in his practice and he did my initial ultrasound and I'd see him at a majority of my appointments. Since I had my son, he's a acquired a new partner OB and we switch between seeing her and him and just an ultrasound tech for my first ultrasound. I'm not excited. I had some weird stuff happen at the end of my pregnancy, and I like how low key he was, so I don't want to switch, but I'm less than thrilled with the change. Oh well; I guess we'll see.
Pregnancy hormones at their finest: my husband and I went to see Blockers, and I cried multiple times during the movie thinking about baby growing up and moving to college lol
@luckycharm324 Was that movie good?? It looks hilarious...it's on our list. You know, the list of movies we will never see until it's on DVD because we have a kid. Lol
@Activebaby Yay! Here's to hoping April flies by for all of us. @texas_t That's hard. But who knows? Maybe you'll love the extra OB even more? Fingers crossed.
@luckycharm324 So i work at a college and today is open house and i got teary too! It was for the student life video- i felt like such a dork! @PensiveCrayon yes please! I need all the help! Even if i don't want it lol
@littlewhitecottage it was actually a lot better than I thought it would be! It was funny but also had some heart to it. Definitely one to see after your LO is asleep though lol.
@morgantu I felt like such a dork too! My DH got a little emotional at some parts too so I didn't feel as bad!
I think that's a great idea, @PensiveCrayon! I remember being awed by the number of things that nobody tells you about pregnancy/childbirth/newborns and that aren't in the books; would have been great to have something like that the first time around.
@PensiveCrayon Yes, I would love that! Not only because I remember that type of thing being invaluable as a FTM, but also because I...have forgotten a lot of things? I had kind of a traumatic time during the newborn phase (my thyroid went very badly out of range in one direction and then the other, which caused PPA and then PPD) so I was in survival mode and kind of blocked out a lot of stuff! I would love to hear tips and experiences from all the STM and beyond moms here!
And also, it would probably be helpful if people who had a tough time, like myself, shared their experiences so no one is taken off guard by the difficult things that can happen. I am so, so lucky that a good friend of mine just happened to email me to tell me about her experience with PPA and its warning signs or I would not have known what was happening to me.
@maureenmce That's sort of the problem, isn't it? I've forgotten it all myself! I remember being a few days/weeks postpartum and thinking, "I have to remember this!" But I've lost half of it already. I'm sure it will come back though.
I'll start the thread once the kid is finished eating his lunch!
Me: 31 | DH: 31
Together since 2003 | Married 2010 TTC #1 January 2016 BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016 Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018 BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
Thank you for starting the everything you didn't know about pregnancy thread! I know there were a couple people who basically said that any advice given is irrelevant so they don't give it or take it, but I for one, was really glad to hear the experiences of BTDT moms when I was a FTM. I knew every pregnancy is different, but there was a lot of good tips and info. Even now, I'm glad to read over and rediscover so many things I forgot about.
@westcoastfoodie Yes! I'm not dense, I realize that not every experience will apply to me, but I'm glad I at least knew there was a possiblity it was coming, or if it did come it wasn't out of left field!
Re: Weekly Randoms - Week of 4.9
I had a v. rough morning. I took #1 in for a follow-up developmental evaluation and they're referring him out for PT and OT, and we're holding off on speech therapy until his next follow-up in two months. (Honestly though, I'm not super concerned about his speech, but whatever.) After that we had his 15-month appointment and it was taking forever and he was being squirrelly, and I was already feeling super bummed about the referrals because (and I know this is not logical but it's honestly how I feel) I keep wondering where I went wrong and dwelling on how bad of a parent I am that he's not hitting his milestones. And I'm also super sleep-deprived because of our entire day of travel yesterday and getting in at 10:30, so I sort of lost it on him then tried to sit down in a chair that wasn't there. In front of everyone. Fell on my bum, started crying, people came over, was examined even though I told them it literally didn't hurt after the initial fall, they took me over to mental health after the pediatrician appointment to make sure everything is okay. Honestly I just need a long nap. #1 fell asleep on the ride home, of course, so I need to wait until his second nap this afternoon to finally lie down. Luckily he's very independent at home, so he's currently wreaking havoc all over the house while I catch up here and finally get my coffee. Feeling much better now. He was in PT for torticollis when he was younger and I actually loved the additional help, so it will be good to have him in again.
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
I have my first appointment tonight and my husband just got an emergency at work and is going to have to work all night. While yes I normally like having him at appointments because with my complicated medical history it is good to have another set of ears mostly it means that I have to wrangle my 2 year old during the appointment. While most of the time I love not having family close by sometimes it could be helpful.
@mckcak23 good luck tonight!
In gross news, my officemate keeps farting and doesn't think i can smell it. Little does she know, pregnancy nose. I'm actively trying not to barf.
DS2 due 12/12/18
DS2 due 12/12/18
Just testing my ticker! sorry
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
@texas_t That's hard. But who knows? Maybe you'll love the extra OB even more? Fingers crossed.
@PensiveCrayon yes please! I need all the help! Even if i don't want it lol
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*
@morgantu I felt like such a dork too! My DH got a little emotional at some parts too so I didn't feel as bad!
@PensiveCrayon Yes I think that would be a super fun post!
And also, it would probably be helpful if people who had a tough time, like myself, shared their experiences so no one is taken off guard by the difficult things that can happen. I am so, so lucky that a good friend of mine just happened to email me to tell me about her experience with PPA and its warning signs or I would not have known what was happening to me.
I'll start the thread once the kid is finished eating his lunch!
TTC #1 January 2016
BFP April 18 2016 | EDD December 29, 2016
Welcome baby A! January 9, 2017
TTC#2 March 2018
BFP March 30, 2018 | EDD December 12, 2018
BFP #1: 7/15/15, SB: 11/14/15
Rainbow baby DS born 9/29/16!!
BFP #3 3/26/18 | Due 12/3/18
*Rainbow 8/2015*
*Expected Rainbows 12/2018*
*Loss of Twin 5/2018*