Questions w/o 4/8

pink_polkadots · April 2018

KellyT22 · April 2018

Swimming suits - where are you guys finding maternity suits? I've tried my go-tos and don't love their selections.

therealfrizzle · April 2018

@KellyT22 I just plan to use the suit I bought for my post partum body. It's a few sizes bigger and a tankini, so there's room for my belly to come out. I haven't seen very much for maternity swim suits and I live in FL! You'd think there'd be more of a selection.

lifesabeach85 · April 2018

@KellyT22 I have one from Old Navy (one piece) and one I got at a Motherhood store in the mall (tankini and I just use my regular string tie bottoms)

kecoff01 · April 2018

@KellyT22 - I have only bought one maternity swimsuit and I think I got it online at Motherhood Maternity. It was just a simple black tankini with a skirted bottom.

purelex · April 2018

The one I have I bought from Kohls.com, I believe. I read a lot of reviews and it worked out well. Excited to get another season out of it!

blue2mango · April 2018

I am also looking for one. I didn't need one with DS. I was pregnant in Fall and Winter, plus I had no reason to go swimming. This time I will be pregnant mostly summer and my DS LOVES water so I think I need to find one. I may try Ross, they have had more maternity lately.

Clobert · April 2018

I might have to get a maternity suit this time although I do have some tankinis.

i have my first ultrasound next Monday and I’ll be 8 weeks. I had an appointment but they didn’t check for heartbeat or anything. I don’t have anyone to watch my 3 yo except my husband but I’d like him there. Should I bring her? I was going to wait until after a good ultrasound or 12 weeks to tell her because I don’t think she’d understand a loss and she would probably tell everyone (she’s obsessed with babies and little sisters and brothers and almost seems to have figured it out). I was thinking of telling her they’re going to check if there’s a baby in there so I could tell her they didn’t see one or wow there’s a baby! Has anyone done this and do you have any ideas?

MouseMama817 · April 2018

@clobert The first time around DH moved mountains to come to every. single. appointment. This time around he had to stay behind with DD so I asked if I can Facetime him during the appointments so he can still be a part of it. Maybe that would work for you guys if you decide not to take your daughter?

firsttimespartanmom · April 2018

@Clobert you might want to double check with your doctors office too - mine specifically told me there could only be one person in the room with me for my first ultrasound and no children.

the-lo · April 2018

Anyone around 10 weeks getting a little bump? I had bloating for 2 weeks but now I think I can say it's looking more like a slight curve. So excited!!

mockingjay1 · April 2018

Clobert said:

I might have to get a maternity suit this time although I do have some rankings.

i have my first ultrasound next Monday and I’ll be 8 weeks. I had an appointment but they didn’t check for heartbeat or anything. I don’t have anyone to watch my 3 yo except my husband but I’d like him there. Should I bring her? I was going to wait until after a good ultrasound or 12 weeks to tell her because I don’t think she’d understand a loss and she would probably tell everyone (she’s obsessed with babies and little sisters and brothers and almost seems to have figured it out). I was thinking of telling her they’re going to check if there’s a baby in there so I could tell her they didn’t see one or wow there’s a baby! Has anyone done this and do you have any ideas?

I think most doc offices are pretty family friendly. DH & DS (who is also 3) were in the room with me for my first ultrasound at 6 weeks. It was no big deal. We didn't even tell DS what was going on just that the doctor was checking mommy and he read a book they had in there. We haven't really told DS because we don't want him to tell the world until we are ready.

lifesabeach85 · April 2018

+1 for checking with doctors office about toddlers in the u/s. Mine does not allow them. They’re fine with bringing kids to any other appointment just not ultrasounds.

lachnessmomster · April 2018

@Clobert +1 to checking with your doctor's office, but I had the same worries before today. I have a 21-month-old, and was very happy to find that they were kid-friendly, and even had magnetic letters in the ultrasound room for kids to play with! The tech also had a stash of Batman stickers that she shared with DS, so it was an all-around success for him.

Good luck!

Clobert · April 2018

Thanks everyone! I’ll check with the doctors office, although it’s near my husbands office and we live far away so we’d probably all go and he’d hang out in the waiting room if we decided not to bring her in. I’m mostly just worried about telling her or not. She would be very interested in the doctors and what they’re doing . She knows about babies in tummys and even asked me if I had a baby when she saw a book about pregnancy. I said Maybe one day... She is fascinated by the pictures in my book and asks about when I was pregnant with her. She started putting dolls down her shirt and my shirt. We’ll keep thinking about it and ask the office.

firsttimespartanmom · April 2018

So I’m a bridesmaid in one of my best friends weddings in late July. Problem number one: I already ordered my dress and can’t cancel or change the size. Has anyone experienced this and know if I’ll be able to get it altered to fit, or if I’m totally out of luck and have to get a new one? I’m due 11/7 so will be 25 weeks pregnant for the wedding.

Problem number two: I’m nervous to tell her. I know she will be happy for me, but for some reason I feel bad that I’m going to look like a big pregnant whale at her wedding, won’t be able to drink at her bachelorette party, etc. I have this feeling that I’m just being a bad friend and I’ve been putting off telling her because of it.

Any thoughts/advice/suggestions welcome!

pelorunningmama · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom If the dress has decent seams, a seamstress may be able to let it out some. I don't know your body type, but with my first I didn't have a true baby bump until 28 weeks or so. While you will be larger, it may not be as bad as you've envisioned. Don't worry about telling her! I'm sure she will be happy for you. I was a bridesmaid in one of my best friend's weddings when I was 36 weeks pregnant with baby 1. I still had a great time and took part in all of the activities (I even went to Vegas for her bachelorette!). Sure you can't drink, but that doesn't mean you can't have fun.

vrj0522 · April 2018

@the-lo - I am on my 4th baby and at 8.5 weeks I definitely have a little bump. Unfortunately it's still too early for it to be baby. Here's a picture of fundal height to help figure out where your baby is at throughout pregnancy. At around 12 weeks, they start to poke out from behind your pubic bone and by 20 weeks they should be as high as your belly button.

lifesabeach85 · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom I think it mainly depends on the cut of the dress. If it’s empire waist then probably better luck having it let out or accommodate your bump than if it’s fitted at the waist. Did you try calling the company or shop and explaining the situation? People tend to be pretty understanding when it comes to pregnancy so maybe they’ll make an exception or give you a discount on a maternity dress from that line (most major companies make them)

As as for your friend, I can’t imagine why she would be mad. It would be pretty insane to expect people to base their family planning decisions around one’s wedding for heavens sake.

vrj0522 · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom - At 25 weeks, you will probably just have popped a coupke of weeks earlier so if the fit of the dress is slim around your waist, you will definitely need it altered. And depending on how much weight you've put on by then, it's unlikely that you'll be very big by then (awesome thing of first pregnancy) since your belly won't have grown too much yet, so I wouldn't worry much about being too big or detracting from any of the fun.

cm716 · April 2018

So, I have my first prenatal appointment tomorrow and my doctor's office has two locations. One has the ultrasound machine and one does not. My appointment is at the one that does not. I called the doctor's office to see if I needed to move it to the other location so that they could get an ultrasound and she emailed my doctor and is going to call me back.

My question is has anyone had their first prenatal appointment and not gotten an ultrasound or a Doppler? I'm 7ish weeks I'm not far long enough for the Doppler to pick up the heartbeat and I'm confused as to how they would confirm the pregnancy without an ultrasound? but the tech seem puzzled by my question.

firsttimespartanmom · April 2018

@wannaflickone @lifesabeach85 @vrj0522 thank you so much for your advice! I don’t think she’ll be mad at all, I just for some reason feel guilty about it - she was in my wedding in October and I wouldn’t have gotten through it without her help, so I want to make sure I am there for here just as much.

So here’s a link to the dress: https://dessy.com/dresses/bridesmaid/social-bridesmaids-style-8185/#.Ws5IxCIpCEc

what do you think? One issue is that my boobs have grown like two sizes since I got pregnant so I wonder if it’s going to look inappropriate now! They unfortunately have a policy against changing or canceling since it’s a special order dress

the-lo · April 2018

@vrj0522 Yeah, I know baby is still pretty far back there, but it definitely is pushing some stuff forward. I'm still going to count it!

ginny_203 · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom I think you lucked out - that is the perfect dress for a pregnant bridesmaid! You definitely might have more cleavage than you otherwise might have had, perhaps a seamstress can work with you on that to put a piece of lace or some of the extra fabric if you're self-conscious. The bottom of the dress has a lot of volume, I think you can definitely fit a bump under there!

Jessie42613 · April 2018

So, with Babies R Us going out of business any minute, where is everyone getting baby supplies?

I feel like Target and Walmart have very limited selections and I’m not a huge fan of buying lots of stuff on Amazon (which I know is bizarre but #1 I like to touch and feel things before purchasing and #2 I work for a small retail business so I prefer to support brick and mortar stores)

kbrown2385 · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom I think that’s a perfect dress to wear while pregnant. Like Ginny_203 said, you lucked out for sure!

tessiesmom26 · April 2018

@Jessie42613 Following along because I am also curious.

pelorunningmama · April 2018

@firsttimespartanmom pretty! This will hide a tummy well. And there is enough material that a seamstress could probably make something work if the zipper was not being as forgiving as needed. Regarding cleavage, you could also do a really fitted cami under it with a bit of a lace trim up top if the bride was ok with that.

goldfishcraker · April 2018

TW**

Has anyone ever had heavy bleeding (pouring blood) with clots, and cramps, and still carried to term? 10 weeks.

I assume this is the beginning of the end. I should stop clinging to hope

middleschoolmommy · April 2018

@babybrain2018 I'm so sorry to hear this. Have you called your OB? Hopefully you can be seen quickly.

kbrown2385 · April 2018

@babybrain2018 oh no! I hope you are going to get checked! Thinking of you!

CopperBoom86 · April 2018

@babybrain2018 One of the girls from my O16 BMB, who is pregnant with twins, had extremely heavy bleeding and it turns out she had total placenta previa (it has now moved to partial) and is still carrying them. I hope you got yourself to the ER! Fingers crossed for you

firsttimespartanmom · April 2018

Thank you SO much for the dress reassurance! Super helpful and I appreciate this group so much.

@babybrain2018 - I had heavy bleeding with clots over the weekend due to a subchorionic hemorrhage. Did you OB see anything unusual at your first ultrasound? Definitely call. Sending lots of good thoughts your way, hoping everything is okay!

lifesabeach85 · April 2018

@babybrain2018 that does sound scary. I hope your doctor can see you as soon as possible to provide guidance and help. Thinking of you!

@Jessie42613 BuyBuyBaby

@firsttimespartanmom I bet a seamstress will be able to let out the bust if your boobs are getting bigger, or dessy could send some extra fabric in the right color and a good seamstress can add a little and no one will be the wiser

mockingjay1 · April 2018

@babybrain2018 - I hope you get seen asap and everything is ok.

blue2mango · April 2018

@cm716 My womens clinic does not do an ultrasound earlier then 20 weeks in a healthy pregnancy. They use the doppler after like 9 weeks but won't always be able to get the heartbeat. They do a vaginal exam and check the uterus size. The only reason I have gotten earlier ultrasounds is because of my MC and all it involved before DS.

pelorunningmama · April 2018

@babybrain2018 oh my goodness, I hope you are able to get checked tonight. Are you going in to emergency? I’m praying it is something like what other ladies have mentioned.